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By *ustmehorny1976 OP   Man
22 weeks ago

Birmingham/Lowestoft

What are people looking for….i get I’m probably not it for many people, but I’m interested what is ‘it’ anyone got any thoughts?

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By *hil most chillMan
22 weeks ago

London, South East & Europe

Everyone's looking for different things and most of them won't align with you and want you're looking for unfortunately.

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By *iveshowcouple2Couple
22 weeks ago

Manchester


"What are people looking for….i get I’m probably not it for many people, but I’m interested what is ‘it’ anyone got any thoughts?"

It’s a numbers game. I would estimate that out of every hundred messages we get perhaps 99 are from

That’s the competition you are up against. Just one of a host of thousands.

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By *lusherCouple
22 weeks ago

bodmin


"What are people looking for….i get I’m probably not it for many people, but I’m interested what is ‘it’ anyone got any thoughts?"

"It" is the mystery. Meeting online is even harder than meeting face to face. There should be a speed dating meet for swingers!

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

Get used to it here men out number women probably 15/1 you can write the nicest message dont make no difference,and if you do get an answer its usually 'not for me' women have many choices here so that's how I see it

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By *ustmehorny1976 OP   Man
22 weeks ago

Birmingham/Lowestoft

Thanks for replies everyone 👍

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By *issmorganWoman
22 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

You being married means you'll be a no for many women op, but you've been upfront so people can make their own minds up about meeting you.

Also your availability of only daytime, will reduce your meets, as many ladies and couples still work office hours.

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By *ustmehorny1976 OP   Man
22 weeks ago

Birmingham/Lowestoft


"You being married means you'll be a no for many women op, but you've been upfront so people can make their own minds up about meeting you.

Also your availability of only daytime, will reduce your meets, as many ladies and couples still work office hours. "

Thank you so much for your thoughts, much appreciated 😊

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By *igad999Man
22 weeks ago

wolverhampton


"You being married means you'll be a no for many women op, but you've been upfront so people can make their own minds up about meeting you.

Also your availability of only daytime, will reduce your meets, as many ladies and couples still work office hours.

Thank you so much for your thoughts, much appreciated 😊"

Tbf people saying about the married bit and yes know lot don’t want to get involved because of complications.

I’m married too me and wife played many years ago but she doesn’t want to now which is fine and I respect that and always be a fantastic for her to have another man again

We still have amazing sex life but I’m on here mainly for forums chats etc and occasional fun

I find most evenings reading chatting etc gets me going that bit more and also pick up things new things and share experiences

As people said they are on here for many different things and I’m sure you will meet who you want soon

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By *ustmehorny1976 OP   Man
22 weeks ago

Birmingham/Lowestoft


"You being married means you'll be a no for many women op, but you've been upfront so people can make their own minds up about meeting you.

Also your availability of only daytime, will reduce your meets, as many ladies and couples still work office hours.

Thank you so much for your thoughts, much appreciated 😊

Tbf people saying about the married bit and yes know lot don’t want to get involved because of complications.

I’m married too me and wife played many years ago but she doesn’t want to now which is fine and I respect that and always be a fantastic for her to have another man again

We still have amazing sex life but I’m on here mainly for forums chats etc and occasional fun

I find most evenings reading chatting etc gets me going that bit more and also pick up things new things and share experiences

As people said they are on here for many different things and I’m sure you will meet who you want soon "

It’s great to hear how you benefit from the site, fantastic! Thanks for your comment, it’s really interesting to hear your thoughts, take care!

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By *ndyn50000Man
22 weeks ago

Birmingham

Being married puts some off, some ladies don't mind and some like it.

Just find someone you like, read profile and send a message that makes them smile and off you go.

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By *hoenix CoupleCouple
22 weeks ago

Northallerton

For us, it is all in the messages. If a guy gets in touch, the initial chat has to be imaginative and careful wrote and are articulate. Really don't like "cut and paste" messages or "how are yous" messages. Happy to receive messages from anyone though and always like to reply.

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By *tleystagMan
22 weeks ago

ilkley


"For us, it is all in the messages. If a guy gets in touch, the initial chat has to be imaginative and careful wrote and are articulate. Really don't like "cut and paste" messages or "how are yous" messages. Happy to receive messages from anyone though and always like to reply."

I think you need to look "articulate" in the dictionary.

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By *MCMan
22 weeks ago

London/EA

You’ve managed to have 10 meets OP, I’d say you’re doing considering well as most people moan about not getting one!

Unfortunately can’t be everyone’s cup of tea but just take the rejection/no reply as a blessing to no longer waste anytime on pursing them.

Have fun!

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By *exxyyDy11Man
22 weeks ago

North West

You've got 9 verifications and all of them are couples, women and men you've met. I don't understand what the issue is OP. You're doing better than most on here.

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By *oughmanMan
22 weeks ago

Sunderland

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By *adbod11Man
21 weeks ago

wantage

Meb out number women by a huge margin. So the odds are against you.

Factor in the couples profiles where in reality it's just a guy in his own.

Then factor in the single women who are only here to chat and fulfill their needs online and you realise that you are fishing with thousands of guys for a handful of couples and singles who actually meet. Then you need to look at the filters for preference, age ethnicity,perversions. Be glad that you have had the success that you have had.

On a positive note, I find going to an organised social greatly improves chances.

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By *teve261970Man
21 weeks ago

Gateshead


"What are people looking for….i get I’m probably not it for many people, but I’m interested what is ‘it’ anyone got any thoughts?"

Get yourself to a club, honestly it's the best way of starting out. Get some solid contacts, just don't go in expecting to play. It may not happen 1st visit.

Steve

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