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By *eoMonica OP   Couple
over a year ago

Brigg

I am getting increasingly annoyed by the number of single fems and couples who also have adultworks profiles. It's not hard to check you know. And what's so funny is that their oh so exacting standards on here seem to go out of the window for £90 or so.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't think there's a rule against people having profiles on both sites as long as they don't charge on this one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

was told months ago I had a profile on there...I'd never even heard of the site!!! it's just as easy to make a fake profile on there so it would seem....

I often think I'm too picky to be on here let alone selling it! haha

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I am getting increasingly annoyed by the number of single fems and couples who also have adultworks profiles. It's not hard to check you know. And what's so funny is that their oh so exacting standards on here seem to go out of the window for £90 or so. "

why are you annoyed about it?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"was told months ago I had a profile on there...I'd never even heard of the site!!! it's just as easy to make a fake profile on there so it would seem....

I often think I'm too picky to be on here let alone selling it! haha "

Lol yes us too. I'dbe for ever handing out refunds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am getting increasingly annoyed by the number of single fems and couples who also have adultworks profiles. It's not hard to check you know. And what's so funny is that their oh so exacting standards on here seem to go out of the window for £90 or so. "

What's your point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"was told months ago I had a profile on there...I'd never even heard of the site!!! it's just as easy to make a fake profile on there so it would seem....

I often think I'm too picky to be on here let alone selling it! haha

Lol yes us too. I'dbe for ever handing out refunds "

Me too

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By *eekenderzCouple
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"was told months ago I had a profile on there...I'd never even heard of the site!!! it's just as easy to make a fake profile on there so it would seem....

I often think I'm too picky to be on here let alone selling it! haha

Lol yes us too. I'dbe for ever handing out refunds "

terrible for business!!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

£90!!!!

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By *eoMonica OP   Couple
over a year ago

Brigg

I just read about this tip somewhere (ie check adultwork to make sure you know what your letting yourself in for), had a gander, and by heck there are some familiar faces! And some pretty extreme services on offer in some cases. Wouldn't touch some people on here with someone elses, yuck!

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By *eekenderzCouple
over a year ago

London


"I am getting increasingly annoyed by the number of single fems and couples who also have adultworks profiles. It's not hard to check you know. And what's so funny is that their oh so exacting standards on here seem to go out of the window for £90 or so. "

Hmmm...did someone turn you down?... If someone is having meets for fun, and also having other liaisons for money, then it's quite understandable that they have different criteria...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"£90!!!! "

that's what I thought!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont get your point???

If i was meeting a guy for my own pleasure i would want someone i really clicked with/fancied.

If I was meeting a guy for work/cash then obviously it wouldnt be about what I want/fancy! I'd be catering to their requirements.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just read about this tip somewhere (ie check adultwork to make sure you know what your letting yourself in for), had a gander, and by heck there are some familiar faces! And some pretty extreme services on offer in some cases. Wouldn't touch some people on here with someone elses, yuck!"

not everyone advertises what they like (more taboo things) I've had people admit to all sorts after chatting for a while...my block button came in handy after one story about a lady and her dog...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I just read about this tip somewhere (ie check adultwork to make sure you know what your letting yourself in for), had a gander, and by heck there are some familiar faces! And some pretty extreme services on offer in some cases. Wouldn't touch some people on here with someone elses, yuck!

not everyone advertises what they like (more taboo things) I've had people admit to all sorts after chatting for a while...my block button came in handy after one story about

a lady and her dog... "

Sounds ruff.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I just read about this tip somewhere (ie check adultwork to make sure you know what your letting yourself in for), had a gander, and by heck there are some familiar faces! And some pretty extreme services on offer in some cases. Wouldn't touch some people on here with someone elses, yuck!"

True but you don't know what anyone gets up to really, paid or unpaid. Its a risk you take. There are lots of people on here whose partners are unaware of what they get up to at least we have the luxury of being aware that people we are having sex with are not exclusive in their sexual activity and have the opportunity to protect ourselves.

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By *eoMonica OP   Couple
over a year ago

Brigg

All just seems a bit cynical. We've met some lovely people on here, you just sort of take it for granted everyone is genuine and upfront. Perhaps we're just naive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just read about this tip somewhere (ie check adultwork to make sure you know what your letting yourself in for), had a gander, and by heck there are some familiar faces! And some pretty extreme services on offer in some cases. Wouldn't touch some people on here with someone elses, yuck!

not everyone advertises what they like (more taboo things) I've had people admit to all sorts after chatting for a while...my block button came in handy after one story about

a lady and her dog...

Sounds ruff."

yup, they were barking mad!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am getting increasingly annoyed by the number of single fems and couples who also have adultworks profiles. It's not hard to check you know. And what's so funny is that their oh so exacting standards on here seem to go out of the window for £90 or so. "

£90 quid a go...might have to have a look at that one!

In all seriousness though, if someone has a profile on there then why can they not have higher standards for those that are getting it for free over those that are paying for it? Playing on here is for their sexual satisfaction, not to perform to order. If you don't like it just don't contact them

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By *eekenderzCouple
over a year ago

London


"All just seems a bit cynical. We've met some lovely people on here, you just sort of take it for granted everyone is genuine and upfront. Perhaps we're just naive"

But what difference does it make to you? If the people you meet are not asking you to pay, why do you have a problem with what their terms of engagement are when they meet others? I do not compute.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"All just seems a bit cynical. We've met some lovely people on here, you just sort of take it for granted everyone is genuine and upfront. Perhaps we're just naive"

I think there's such an aversion to people charging for sex and it does have a bad reputation. I don't think you're naïve at all.

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By *eoMonica OP   Couple
over a year ago

Brigg

Thanks nicecouple , that's exactly the point I'm trying to make

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am getting increasingly annoyed by the number of single fems and couples who also have adultworks profiles. It's not hard to check you know. And what's so funny is that their oh so exacting standards on here seem to go out of the window for £90 or so. "

fucking for money is a job, of course you lower your standards for work

Tho I don't have a profile on adult work I do work in sex clubs and some of the guys I shag for money I wouldn't touch with a barge pole on here, because at the clubs its work on here its for my pleasure

Not everyone who shags for money only charges, there are lots who come on here for their own pleasure because meeting someone you like is not the same as sex with a client

I don't understand what part of that your finding hard to grasp lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All just seems a bit cynical. We've met some lovely people on here, you just sort of take it for granted everyone is genuine and upfront. Perhaps we're just naive"

why does going on adult work for work and here for your own pleasure make you any less genuine?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a situation where we only had one wage coming in and money was very very tight. We have been swinging for years and so my gorgeous wife created an adult work profile to get some extra cash. She viewed it simply as work! Fab was fun! And that us all there is to it! Surely fab or swinging is recreational and a way to get away from the crap that life doles out... Is it appalling.. No, most who charge for sex do it for a reason, some good, some bad... But it's important to know all the facts before the tar and feathers come out....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had a situation where we only had one wage coming in and money was very very tight. We have been swinging for years and so my gorgeous wife created an adult work profile to get some extra cash. She viewed it simply as work! Fab was fun! And that us all there is to it! Surely fab or swinging is recreational and a way to get away from the crap that life doles out... Is it appalling.. No, most who charge for sex do it for a reason, some good, some bad... But it's important to know all the facts before the tar and feathers come out...."

Exactly.

Having a profile on AW does not have to mean you are seedy or have low standards.

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By *atalie..Woman
over a year ago

Bolton


"We had a situation where we only had one wage coming in and money was very very tight. We have been swinging for years and so my gorgeous wife created an adult work profile to get some extra cash. She viewed it simply as work! Fab was fun! And that us all there is to it! Surely fab or swinging is recreational and a way to get away from the crap that life doles out... Is it appalling.. No, most who charge for sex do it for a reason, some good, some bad... But it's important to know all the facts before the tar and feathers come out...."

Well said i hate people that judge...and think they are better than everyone else...life is shit without being judged..

And i would be proud of you misses providing for her family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why shouldn't they? Its purely about money whereas this is recreational fun and its something I am considering, lets face it, its got to be better and quicker to pay off the debts I have than shifts in a pub at minimum wage as will still be there at 60 at this rate and I really don't want to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's no different to having sex with a porn star. I fail to see what the problem is, I'm sure many of us have a favourite porn actor/actress we'd like to have sex with...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Don't judge the op either, their opinion along with a lot of other peoples is that they wouldn't want to meet sex workers. It's their opinion and they are entitled to it.

I agree that your job is irrelevant and we have met someone with an AW profile...that we knew about....may have met many others we didn't. We respect the OP opinion though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had a situation where we only had one wage coming in and money was very very tight. We have been swinging for years and so my gorgeous wife created an adult work profile to get some extra cash. She viewed it simply as work! Fab was fun! And that us all there is to it! Surely fab or swinging is recreational and a way to get away from the crap that life doles out... Is it appalling.. No, most who charge for sex do it for a reason, some good, some bad... But it's important to know all the facts before the tar and feathers come out...."

I agree, but I also think 'the facts' are irrelevant. Why someone does whatever they do is their business, no-one elses.

Shagging a load of people on a site like this for free, or shagging some people for money... I can't see the difference!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't judge the op either, their opinion along with a lot of other peoples is that they wouldn't want to meet sex workers. It's their opinion and they are entitled to it.

I agree that your job is irrelevant and we have met someone with an AW profile...that we knew about....may have met many others we didn't. We respect the OP opinion though."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So agree. My experience tells me that those who love sex simply love sex. One lady I know chose to become an AW because she simply loved the work ... Yet she still goes swinging with her partner as she loves that too. Often found in a club doing it for free, ... I think its incredibly sexy and a huge turn on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am getting increasingly annoyed by the number of single fems and couples who also have adultworks profiles. It's not hard to check you know. And what's so funny is that their oh so exacting standards on here seem to go out of the window for £90 or so. "

You mean there is a site where i could get money for what i do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem appears to be the OP was making a judgement on sexworkers by perceiving they are somehow less honorable, clean or human. This is fundamentally wrong. Sexworkers are drawn, by necessity, from all walks of life. For many it is their only option and it shows that they are at least trying to stand on their own and not sponge off society.

It is statistically likely that among the thousands that inhabit this site there are criminals, child abusers, the violent and other undesirables. As the majority of the posts have shown, I believe sexworkers are entitled to recreation on their own terms as much as anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex workers arnt allowed to have sex out of work didn't you know that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as they don't produce a chip and pin machine at the meet it would not bother me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had a situation where we only had one wage coming in and money was very very tight. We have been swinging for years and so my gorgeous wife created an adult work profile to get some extra cash. She viewed it simply as work! Fab was fun! And that us all there is to it! Surely fab or swinging is recreational and a way to get away from the crap that life doles out... Is it appalling.. No, most who charge for sex do it for a reason, some good, some bad... But it's important to know all the facts before the tar and feathers come out....

Well said i hate people that judge...and think they are better than everyone else...life is shit without being judged..

And i would be proud of you misses providing for her family "

Thank you - she is awesome - 21 year anniversary today . Great pics by the way, made us both smile xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't judge the op either, their opinion along with a lot of other peoples is that they wouldn't want to meet sex workers. It's their opinion and they are entitled to it.

I agree that your job is irrelevant and we have met someone with an AW profile...that we knew about....may have met many others we didn't. We respect the OP opinion though."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All just seems a bit cynical. We've met some lovely people on here, you just sort of take it for granted everyone is genuine and upfront. Perhaps we're just naive"

why are those that also happen to do sex work not genuine?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All just seems a bit cynical. We've met some lovely people on here, you just sort of take it for granted everyone is genuine and upfront. Perhaps we're just naive

why are those that also happen to do sex work not genuine? "

Exactly, we have been swingers for over 14 years - My missus was on Adultwork for 3 years out of necessity - we didnt change simply because sometimes she had sex for money...

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton

I have no problem about the separation of sex on adultwork and sex on here, but I am aware of a woman quite local to me who says on her fab profile that she will not, under any circumstances, see a married man who is here without his wife's knowledge (like me) but she is also on adultwork and would happily see any man, married or not, for a suitable payment. I find that odd.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"I have no problem about the separation of sex on adultwork and sex on here, but I am aware of a woman quite local to me who says on her fab profile that she will not, under any circumstances, see a married man who is here without his wife's knowledge (like me) but she is also on adultwork and would happily see any man, married or not, for a suitable payment. I find that odd."

This is also what i took away from the OP.

Then again, doesn't bother me at all. Is it disingenuous? Almost certainly. But as others have mentioned, if they can make the distinction between play and work, more power to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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if they can make the distinction between play and work, more power to them."

This is the answer imo, there is a huge distinction and not all escorts will go around shagging whoever for whatever price!

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

As a swinger, and the lifestyle choice I've made, I accept that, although only ever play safe, we are more at risk of STIs etc.

Now, I get checked, one of the questions they ask is "have you ever been paid for sex?" Presuming STI's aren't caught via a cash transaction I can only presume that "sex workers" are statistically higher risk of contracting a STI?

So, like those who chose to avoid those who play bareback, I don't think someone can be blamed for not wanting to play with someone who may be "statistically" more likely to be carrying something.

So, when people say it shouldn't make any difference what someone does in their own time, no, it shouldn't - but statistically speaking, well, it does.

In reality, the only sane thing you can do is protect yourself to a level that you feel comfortable with. I'm sure we will have played with people who've done things they haven't told us about. That's the risk you take.

In response to the original question, it's simple - it's up to them, if you don't like it walk on by.

In response to does it matter? Then yes, I believe it does, to what level though depends on the individual.

D

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

We know quite a few people off here who are on AW some of them just do cam and some just sell pics. Just because they are on AW it does not mean they will just sleep with anyone, One lady we know is very fussy as to who she meets on AW yet we have seen her Gangbanged at clubs but that is what she enjoys. As long as none of them are asking for a fee on here then so be it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's never been a huge amount of research on sti's and swingers but the little research there is suggests that actually sti rates for swingers are much higher than sti rates for sex workers.

I think it's more a morality issue for most, as long as they aren't charging on this site they aren't breaking any rules and if you feel you don't want to play with someone for what ever reason pass them by.

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By *ittenandthepirateCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"I am getting increasingly annoyed by the number of single fems and couples who also have adultworks profiles. It's not hard to check you know. And what's so funny is that their oh so exacting standards on here seem to go out of the window for £90 or so. "

This site is about meeting people for free, for fun. If people won't meet you for free, you can go on AW and pay for sex or just stick with your partner. Why get annoyed about it? At the end of the day, some people wouldn't want to meet you, but would would do it for money.

You should treat all meets with caution. There are plenty of people on here who I'm sure do bareback and don't advertise the fact and who aren't escorts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's strange how easily people get annoyed about nothing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say more power to those who are able to use their body to get money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I say more power to those who are able to use their body to get money"

Just had a look on that site ( how sad am I never even heard of it before) don't see anything wrong with it myself some are charging for pics some for texts some for meets, what's the difference between doing what we do on here for free and them getting paid ? Am I missing something? ( apart from the money we could be earning lol which I suspect isn't a great deal for most )

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By *ittenandthepirateCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"I say more power to those who are able to use their body to get money

Just had a look on that site ( how sad am I never even heard of it before) don't see anything wrong with it myself some are charging for pics some for texts some for meets, what's the difference between doing what we do on here for free and them getting paid ? Am I missing something? ( apart from the money we could be earning lol which I suspect isn't a great deal for most ) "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at it this way; My own car is in perfect working order, decent poke to it and maintained regularly. Decent room in back too...;)

By contrast though I usually drive flash cars for work, when they can't be driven I load them onto a 12 year old truck that if a road to the moon existed would have driven there and halfway back.Its pissing out oil, needs water topping up every seventy miles or so, the air con is shot to shit and it sounds like a stillsaw when I start the bugger up. In short, its fucked.

See the relevance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to there own in our opinion .. if a lady wants to lay on her back n open her crack .... then good luck to her ))))

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

We have a profile here for meets with single guys and couples for our pleasure - people we fancy. Char has her own profile her for meets with single guys, couples and single women that she fancies.

That she has an AW account for meets with people that she wouldn't normally meet from here makes us no less genuine as Fab users on here.

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So pay the £90 and get over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The assumption that AW is just for sex is daft, and the assumption that an aw person will be high risk for Sti s is just stupid, it’s full of dominatrixes, phone sex, sexting, cam girls and there are very few that take bareback… maybe they suck bare but then again that’s the majority of people on here?

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"The assumption that AW is just for sex is daft, and the assumption that an aw person will be high risk for Sti s is just stupid, it’s full of dominatrixes, phone sex, sexting, cam girls and there are very few that take bareback… maybe they suck bare but then again that’s the majority of people on here?

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I'd say more bareback probably happens via here or in vanilla world than working world. X

There is no rule that says you can't be on both sites.. just that you don't offer services or redirect from this one x

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