FabSwingers.com forum: How to ask other half

By *hatsJustMe OP Man
3 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Hi all. I'm wondering how you asked your other half if interested in swinging. I would like to ask mine if interested in same room fun no sharing but don't know how to go about it... Any sensible ideas. She is self conscious as 44 boobs and size 22. Cheers

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By *litlicker77Man
3 weeks ago

dirty old town

She sounds amazing

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By *uxurycollectionCouple
3 weeks ago

Port Talbot

You could play it really subtle and just say you watched a documentary on channel 5 about swinging couples and if she’s interested then you’re onto a winner.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
3 weeks ago

Leeds

Why do you think she would be more interested in same room fun than switching partners or a BBW club event ?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

It sounds like you really need to have a chat with her about what you both want in life

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By *hatsJustMe OP Man
3 weeks ago

Basingstoke

I have dropped the odd comment like the pineapple is a sign of swinging and seen her watching naked attraction

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By *hatsJustMe OP Man
3 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Hi. Just my feeling that she is so self conscious she wouldn't want to?

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By *rystalsswingCouple
3 weeks ago

Galway / Midlands / West

Hubby mentioned it to me one night after a nice dinner and a couple of drinks! I was horrified at first!

Soon came round 😁

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By *uxurycollectionCouple
3 weeks ago

Port Talbot

Well you need to ask her then

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By *allySlinkyWoman
3 weeks ago

Leeds

Maybe to get the conversation started you could show her your profile

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By *hatsJustMe OP Man
3 weeks ago

Basingstoke

"It sounds like you really need to have a chat with her about what you both want in life

I know but scared I will upset her.

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By *iscombobulated1523Couple
3 weeks ago

Worcestershire

We met through fab so it saved that conversation

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By *hatsJustMe OP Man
3 weeks ago

Basingstoke

"Maybe to get the conversation started you could show her your profile "

I get the feeling she kinda knows but never asked to see.

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By *rX2024123Man
3 weeks ago

Rotherfield

I got my ex into it by starting to talk about fantasies during sex, I had no idea she fancied girls until then. Go for it & say they're just fantasies, worked for me!

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By *hatsJustMe OP Man
3 weeks ago

Basingstoke

"Hubby mentioned it to me one night after a nice dinner and a couple of drinks! I was horrified at first!

Soon came round 😁"

Really, how did you react? Just passed it off and brought subject up after a day or so?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
3 weeks ago

Leeds

"Maybe to get the conversation started you could show her your profile

I get the feeling she kinda knows but never asked to see. "

Maybe that's why she has no body confidence if she knows you are looking for other women

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By *hatsJustMe OP Man
3 weeks ago

Basingstoke

"I got my ex into it by starting to talk about fantasies during sex, I had no idea she fancied girls until then. Go for it & say they're just fantasies, worked for me!

Thanks for reply

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By *hatsJustMe OP Man
3 weeks ago

Basingstoke

"Maybe to get the conversation started you could show her your profile

I get the feeling she kinda knows but never asked to see.

Maybe that's why she has no body confidence if she knows you are looking for other women"

Don't get me wrong I'm not looking to find women. I'm here as interested in the way of swinging and don't know how to ask her if she would be interested. Thanks for your reply.

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By *nesCouple
3 weeks ago

Milton Keynes, city of dreams

She’s got 44 boobs?

Show her your profile and verifications, I’m sure it will open up the conversation.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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3 weeks ago

East Sussex

How's your emotional communication, does she feel safe and loved, do you talk and listen to each other? If so expand on one of those type of chats.

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By *rystalsswingCouple
3 weeks ago

Galway / Midlands / West

"Hubby mentioned it to me one night after a nice dinner and a couple of drinks! I was horrified at first!

Soon came round 😁

Really, how did you react? Just passed it off and brought subject up after a day or so? "

We joked about it for a few days after. The following week he presented _rystalsswing profile to me..I've warmed to it since.

Like a duck to water, some might say 😜

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By *hatsJustMe OP Man
3 weeks ago

Basingstoke

"She’s got 44 boobs?

Show her your profile and verifications, I’m sure it will open up the conversation. "

Correction just double checked and she has 42 bra size.

Thanks for reply

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By *hatsJustMe OP Man
3 weeks ago

Basingstoke

"Hubby mentioned it to me one night after a nice dinner and a couple of drinks! I was horrified at first!

Soon came round 😁

Really, how did you react? Just passed it off and brought subject up after a day or so?

We joked about it for a few days after. The following week he presented _rystalsswing profile to me..I've warmed to it since.

Like a duck to water, some might say 😜"

Excellent. Thanks for sharing your thoughts

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By *hatsJustMe OP Man
3 weeks ago

Basingstoke

"How's your emotional communication, does she feel safe and loved, do you talk and listen to each other? If so expand on one of those type of chats."

We do it's probably me over thinking it. Thanks for replying

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By *allySlinkyWoman
3 weeks ago

Leeds

" She is self conscious as 44 boobs and size 22. "

Whether she wants to swing or not you need to help boost her body confidence

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By *ympho6969Woman
3 weeks ago

glasgow

"Maybe to get the conversation started you could show her your profile "

That made me laugh

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By *rX2024123Man
3 weeks ago

Rotherfield

"I got my ex into it by starting to talk about fantasies during sex, I had no idea she fancied girls until then. Go for it & say they're just fantasies, worked for me!

Thanks for reply

I would add to tread very carefully, good luck

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By *eekendVixenCouple
3 weeks ago

Leicester

"You could play it really subtle and just say you watched a documentary on channel 5 about swinging couples and if she’s interested then you’re onto a winner. "

That is exactly what we did.

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple
3 weeks ago

Cheshire

If she is already low in confidence and finds out you have a profile (and verifications!) on here I don’t think it’ll help much.

On a serious note, as others said, maybe watch swingers documentary together. There are lots on Sky TV, although I’d recommend one that isn’t just glamorous/slim/young people if she is body conscious!

Failing that, get a bit of Johnny Vaughn on.

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
3 weeks ago

Middle England

It's not easy to approach. But you need to be preapred to ask and accept the answer. Being on here on your own isn't ideal.

As others have said maybe watch a documentary and guage her response. Ask her if it's something she would be interested in. At some point if you genuinely want to swing with her you'll need to bite the bullet.

That said if she decides to try it with you there's no deciet and with you both enjoying the lifestyle it will be so much better than being on here on your own.

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By *ony MannMan
3 weeks ago

Lagos, Portugal// Andover

How affectionate are you in public, if she objects to a passionate kiss in public the chance is she will not want to fuck while another couple are on the next bed.

We had friends we stopped over at, my partner was fucking the husband. Once I thought we would end up in a 4sum, but it ended with loud sex with a wall between us. What followed was an understanding. We did put on a show a few times for strangers, never planned and never very close. We never had a 3sum or anything like hat.

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By *eeshellsCouple
3 weeks ago

Reading

"Hubby mentioned it to me one night after a nice dinner and a couple of drinks! I was horrified at first!

Soon came round 😁"

That's the spirit! Quite similar to us.

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By *uvs2watchherCouple
3 weeks ago

newcastle

My husband asked me directly because he knew i fancied someone, he had been an steroids for years and is huge but no sex drive at all (thats what they do) The guy was anxious cause of hubby but he left us and it lasted years so its not always bad and he had a godd d*** xxx

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By *utterflyandArtificeCouple
3 weeks ago

Trowbridge

Simples really, open and honest conversation.

Speak to her, openly and honestly. Think about it from her perspective, ask here what she would want from it and be open to her wants. You might be surprised and it might put you on the back foot.

I was stunned whe we had the chat that she wanted sex with other people. My ego was hurt for about 3 nanoseconds, when she then said and she wanted to watch me have fun too.

It's our thing, we love watching each other play and have fun with others.

Just be honest,kind and tell her that it's all about fun and you don't want anyone else but her.

Reassure her throughout

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By *ickandHilaryCouple
3 weeks ago

Barnstaple

I got into the scene before meeting Hilary. When I met Hilary, we talked about it and I could tell, (from her immediate wide-on) that she had a passing interest lol !

We went to a club the next week and loved it x

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By *elly72Woman
3 weeks ago

glasgow

"Hi all. I'm wondering how you asked your other half if interested in swinging. I would like to ask mine if interested in same room fun no sharing but don't know how to go about it... Any sensible ideas. She is self conscious as 44 boobs and size 22. Cheers

Sounds like you want permission to play but don’t actually want anyone touching her

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By *hatsJustMe OP Man
3 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Well we just had nookie and I brought the subject up while in foreplay and it was a flat nope. But hay have set a seed so never know. Thanks all. Have a great evening

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By *ounmacCouple
3 weeks ago

Market Harborough

I found Lou’s porn she had been watching and the conversation started from there

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By *ill Hill FunseekersCouple
3 weeks ago

london

Book a nice holiday where there’s a nearby nude beach and go from there. C

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By *allySlinkyWoman
3 weeks ago

Leeds

"Book a nice holiday where there’s a nearby nude beach and go from there. C"

I think a nudist beach is the last place a body conscious woman would want to be.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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3 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Well we just had nookie and I brought the subject up while in foreplay and it was a flat nope. But hay have set a seed so never know. Thanks all. Have a great evening

Do you think she'd be ok with you having this conversation with us?

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By *coutDWoman
3 weeks ago

Pontypridd

"I have dropped the odd comment like the pineapple is a sign of swinging and seen her watching naked attraction "

Sit down and watch it with her. Let it lead to communication and fun

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By *host63Man
3 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

Mu advice e is dont

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By *ill Hill FunseekersCouple
3 weeks ago

london

"Book a nice holiday where there’s a nearby nude beach and go from there. C

I think a nudist beach is the last place a body conscious woman would want to be."

Easy does it.

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By *igad999Man
3 weeks ago

wolverhampton

Understand about the self conscious thing as that’s what I think is one of the things that puts my wife off from playing again (played many years ago with mate and his gf but nothing since). She is 16/18 BBW but amazing and I love curves and bigger women

We’ve discussed it and it’s a fantasy for her to have another man but obv wouldn’t pressure her.

But been times inc Valentine’s Day where have been I. Presence of others fucking and she’s happy to fuck me while that happens and seems to turn her on they bit more.

Maybe one day a situation will occur when she is already turned on and she might want to explore rather than trying to set something up ?

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