FabSwingers.com forum: Sub or dom

By *damjamie00 OP Man
4 weeks ago

Haslemere

Are you more of a sub or a dom

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By *oldAndBoundlessMan
4 weeks ago

Bradford

"Are you more of a sub or a dom"

I’m not sure at all I love to mix it up and I’m clearly not one or the other

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By *ltraVixenWoman
4 weeks ago

South Essex

Sub xx

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By *ave1976XXXMan
4 weeks ago

newmarket

I’m sub with guys, dom with women

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By *unishment CoupleCouple
4 weeks ago

West Berks/Oxford

"Sub xx"

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By *r_Midnight2000Man
4 weeks ago

home

Switch

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By *ifesforliving84Man
4 weeks ago

Telford

Naturally submissive

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By *ori69Man
4 weeks ago

Castlewellan

Sub probably

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By *ightinchguyMan
4 weeks ago

bse

Oh deff a Dom

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By *aura-pTV/TS
4 weeks ago

dorset

Sub as they come xx

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By *eglegMan
4 weeks ago

Coventry

Definitely dom but I do like to switch

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By *ympho6969Woman
4 weeks ago

glasgow

Right in the middle. I can go either way, but takes a serious dom to make me sub, otherwise I try to flip mid way through

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By *llaBelle1Woman
4 weeks ago

Worsley, Manchester

"Right in the middle. I can go either way, but takes a serious dom to make me sub, otherwise I try to flip mid way through "

Ditto!

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By *eniseStockingsTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Salisbury

Depends on my playmate. Largely sub experience. Nothing like serving someone and pleasuring them.

But I do love putting in the effort for the right person or people. Learning what makes them tick and creating a scene that excites and stretches them

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By *ower Couple - NorfolkCouple
4 weeks ago

Watton

We are both very experienced dominants. Absolutely love dominating a submissive woman.

The submissive women we have been with always say how much more intense it is being dominated by a couple!

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
4 weeks ago

Bristol

More on the sub end, which is a shame for Mr as he'd like a woman to be dominant with him.

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By *urvyBunnyWoman
4 weeks ago

Suffolk

Sub

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By *lutty_FetgeekWoman
4 weeks ago

Wallasey

Very sub

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By *tuvyMan
4 weeks ago

bedford

"Depends on my playmate. Largely sub experience. Nothing like serving someone and pleasuring them.

But I do love putting in the effort for the right person or people. Learning what makes them tick and creating a scene that excites and stretches them

Same for me

Depends on who it’s with and the chemistry

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By *avexxMan
4 weeks ago

cheshire

im such a dom

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By *azzler2Man
4 weeks ago

halifax

Dom

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By *harbiMan
4 weeks ago

london/Reading

Sub

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By *ub slut PennyTV/TS
4 weeks ago

St Austell

Sub

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By *eaSlutsCouple
4 weeks ago

Glasgow

Both total switches

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By *uacksplat.Woman
4 weeks ago

Star Trekking Across The Universe

subby little cunt 🙂 Px

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By *wabathMan
4 weeks ago

Bath

Subby

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By *aldBeardy36Man
4 weeks ago

Manchester

I like to think of myself as a pleasure dom. really turns me on when a my partners eyes roll back into their heads with pleasure

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By *r M Gray88Man
4 weeks ago

Morecambe

Dominant 100% 💦👄

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By *orthern StarsCouple
4 weeks ago

Durham

Switch.

Ruby

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By *rishjailerMan
4 weeks ago

Dublin

Dom. Love to be in control

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By *ylonlickMan
4 weeks ago

Liverpool

Very sub

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By *bcplCouple
4 weeks ago

Aberdeenshire

Sub here Mrs

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By *eroLondonMan
4 weeks ago

Mayfair

I am dominant but I wouldn't say I'm a "Dom".

Most certainly •not• a sub. 🩶

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By *iss DevilWoman
4 weeks ago

Bedford

I'm a switch, can be either depending on circumstances. Though nowadays I prefer a more equal play.

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By *nthehillscouple2024Couple
4 weeks ago

hants

Very sub

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By *obbiKentMan
4 weeks ago

maidstone

Switch, relate to the pleasure of both

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Dont really know I just what I`m told

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By *ickedtiesWoman
4 weeks ago

limerick

Switch...but love being his sub

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By *oupleSeducedCouple
4 weeks ago

Canterbury/Greenwich

Sub Mrs

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By *ouwithusCouple
4 weeks ago

Newton stewart

Mr is definitely Dom, Mrs is technically a switch but definitely leaning sub recently

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
4 weeks ago

Norwichish

Think our pictures answer this.

But M sub and R is Dom.

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By *ravelling ChappieMan
4 weeks ago

Stroud

Dom leaning......

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By *ot so needyMan
4 weeks ago

Galway

More dom.

But love giving her control also.

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By *bitofaslutWoman
4 weeks ago

Cannock

Switch, heavily leaning sub.

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By *parkle1974Woman
4 weeks ago

Leeds

Middle of the road for me. I could never fully let any man dominate me.

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By *inks_n_GigglesMan
4 weeks ago

Basingstoke

100% Experienced Dom with my own playroom and tools of the trade.

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By *otsossieMan
4 weeks ago

Chesterfield

No, I don’t think am.

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By *ast_jjMan
4 weeks ago

Dublin and London

Definitely more dom.

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Bit of both

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By *pstanding CitizenMan
4 weeks ago

Nottingham

"Bit of both

Same

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By *couseTravisMan
4 weeks ago

liverpool L4

Definitely more dom.

But occasionally like to be a bit sub too.

Luckily most people i meet tend to be subs so I get to bring out my dom side!

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By *vaRose43Woman
4 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Domme

It takes a lot for me to switch, I’ll top from the bottom and take over if I can

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By *ora777Woman
4 weeks ago

Daventry

Dom ...but I honestly think of myself as just really bossy as opposed to Dom ...I've always taken the lead with girls , like every time ...with guys I'm the same really , but I do like a guy who's just not having it

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By *ondiego85Man
4 weeks ago

nottingham

Dom

I took a fancy on a domme here on fabs. But no way I could be her sub, even for a meet. So ended up telling her off. She didn’t like it

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By *ony MannMan
4 weeks ago

Lagos, Portugal// Andover

I'm easy going, but if someone trys to dominate be I'm walking.

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By *napppaMan
4 weeks ago

London

DOM.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
4 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Service top for work, prey end of the primal dynamic in my usual life. Never sub 💜

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By *BWHunterMan
4 weeks ago

Liverpool Street, London

Maybe this is the right place to be educated. When a woman says she is a switch I understand that’s switching between sub and dom but what does being a dom involve if you are woman?

Might sound like a stupid question but other then pegging and being spanked I can’t quite think of anything else?

I’m happy for a woman to dom over me, but wouldn’t feel comfortable being pegged. Surely there’s other things?

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By *bitofaslutWoman
4 weeks ago

Cannock

"Maybe this is the right place to be educated. When a woman says she is a switch I understand that’s switching between sub and dom but what does being a dom involve if you are woman?

Might sound like a stupid question but other then pegging and being spanked I can’t quite think of anything else?

I’m happy for a woman to dom over me, but wouldn’t feel comfortable being pegged. Surely there’s other things? "

I was Dom for 20 years before transitioning. Now I prefer to sub. Chatting to a Domme over the weekend and it seems our styles are similar. Nurturing and lifting up, preferring sensual play - pleasurable pain and good aftercare....

I know domming as a woman is going to be very different and I'm hoping to pick up some hints and learn from her.

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By *ubmissive guyMan
4 weeks ago

Liverpool

sub

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By *BWHunterMan
4 weeks ago

Liverpool Street, London

Thank you. These are interesting ways to dom. I’m going to looking them

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By *oughmanMan
4 weeks ago

Sunderland

Probably a bit of both.

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By *reg45Man
4 weeks ago

durham

Can be either

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By *dam21122024Man
4 weeks ago

southall

I'm dom

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By *ominant46Man
4 weeks ago

Burnley

I'm dominant

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
4 weeks ago

Bristol

"Domme

It takes a lot for me to switch, I’ll top from the bottom and take over if I can "

Well, that's an addition to the hotlist...

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By *emptme1993Man
4 weeks ago

manchester

Dom however I want to try being a sub at some point

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By *mfao88Man
4 weeks ago

north yorkshire

Sub

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
4 weeks ago

Glasgow

Definitely more sub

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By *pentoall555Man
4 weeks ago

benfleet

Sub

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By *etitesaraTV/TS
4 weeks ago

rochdale

Oh, definitely sub!

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By *ammy696969Woman
4 weeks ago

Stockport

Sub

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By *ot so needyMan
4 weeks ago

Galway

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

We both sub

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By *mmacdheelsTV/TS
4 weeks ago

France, And sometimes in

Naturally sub every time. Have never wanted to or tried to be a dom.

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By *nsaneronMan
4 weeks ago

Plymouth

Definitely Dom

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By *epheusMan
4 weeks ago

Aylesbury

Definitely sub, the biggest turn on for me is getting to please and satisfy whoever I’m with

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By *owandthenfunMan
4 weeks ago

Berkshire

Sub :/

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By *ucka39Man
4 weeks ago

Newcastle

Dommy

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By *owandthenfunMan
4 weeks ago

Berkshire

"Sub :/"
straight sub tho

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By *underlandfellaMan
4 weeks ago

sunderland

Bi sub

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By *igMunch420Man
4 weeks ago

kent

Both

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By *ustforfun456Couple
4 weeks ago

Devon, south West

Dominant

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By *1newfunWoman
4 weeks ago

Eastleigh

Sub with a side dish of bratty.

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By *orth_London_Guy100Man
4 weeks ago

London

Probably more dom with guys but sub with women.

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By *ilthygorgeous1Couple
4 weeks ago

Oxford

Her leans towards Dom with most playmates but sub with hubby

Him Gently Dominant x

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By *elish DeviantsCouple
4 weeks ago

Preston

Both. I'm a switch.

Mostly and usually dom but I do love to be tied up and used on occasion

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By *ittleJohn5Man
4 weeks ago

Wickham Market

Now more sub

As i getting older

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By *idNHSMan
4 weeks ago

Walsall

"Right in the middle. I can go either way, but takes a serious dom to make me sub, otherwise I try to flip mid way through "

Flipping midway through is often some of the times I've had with my ex.

She'll start of as the dom, but halfway through I 'escape' and show her who the real dom is.

Best of both worlds.

Saying that, at least 90% of the time I'm dom.

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By *ynamicnatureMan
4 weeks ago

Doncaster

I might come across as sweet and innocent, once behind closed doors though, I'm anything but.

Naturally dominant, I always find my pleasure in her pleasure.

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By *arriedminxCouple
4 weeks ago

leeds

I’m definitely much more domme, occasionally tentatively submissive but only with Mr Minx…even then I struggle with obedience

I love taking control of pleasure..

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By *all me missWoman
4 weeks ago

South Wales

Dom

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
4 weeks ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I'm definitely 100% sub

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By *penmindedmascMan
4 weeks ago

essex

Love dom when with a woman or sub with men

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By *omRachCouple
4 weeks ago

Wirral

Definitely sub tendancies for the 2 of us

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By *punk n gushCouple
4 weeks ago

deal

Sub for Mrs

Dom for mr

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By *adeiteWoman
4 weeks ago

Stafford

Domme, as that's where all my experience is, but I'm a switch

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By *hastityPleasureGiverMan
4 weeks ago

Rotherham

Sub in chastity so all my attention willbe on your pleasure

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
4 weeks ago

Bedford

60 dom 40 sub, may vary depending on cloud cover.

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By *midnight-Woman
4 weeks ago

...

I am sub.. actively looking for a Dom

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By *d4funtimesMan
4 weeks ago

Cambridge

Hi beautiful 😍 Subs

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

We both submissive, that's the problem lol

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By *oppet22TV/TS
4 weeks ago

huddersfield

Sub here for use

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By *h86Man
4 weeks ago

Nearby

Switch, but very heavy lean to sub

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Switch

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

No question about it - sub!

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By *hogun300Man
4 weeks ago

Dundee

Both fun

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By *ecker30Man
4 weeks ago

Northwich

Over my life I've become more dominant in general life but I'd love to play sub!

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
4 weeks ago

Norwichish

"Maybe this is the right place to be educated. When a woman says she is a switch I understand that’s switching between sub and dom but what does being a dom involve if you are woman?

Might sound like a stupid question but other then pegging and being spanked I can’t quite think of anything else?

I’m happy for a woman to dom over me, but wouldn’t feel comfortable being pegged. Surely there’s other things? "

All of the following have a possibility to be dom(me) or sub……

Wax play

Shibari

Impact (floggers, canes, hands…..)

Orgasm denial/control

Nipple torture

Needle play

…..to be honest the list is endless…

You are very much thinking vanilla in your understanding of Dom/sub

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By *uynextdoorxMan
3 weeks ago

West Midland

Bottom for older men

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By *pontaneous_coupleCouple
3 weeks ago

Hoddesdon

He’s dom I’m submissive with men but switch with women x

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By *tacie-JaneTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Birmingham

Submissive…trained and past my exams with distinction!

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By *ensualMan
3 weeks ago

Sutton

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By *ensualMan
3 weeks ago

Sutton

"Maybe this is the right place to be educated. When a woman says she is a switch I understand that’s switching between sub and dom but what does being a dom involve if you are woman?

Might sound like a stupid question but other then pegging and being spanked I can’t quite think of anything else?

I’m happy for a woman to dom over me, but wouldn’t feel comfortable being pegged. Surely there’s other things? "

I used to Top someone who was a masochist. I was her midway point as she also played with her sadist, who was brutal. She then discovered her Domme side. She realised although she was not sadist she enjoyed submission of the bottom /submissive. The sadist and I counselled her through avoiding subs looking for kink dispensing Dommes. In other words put all the porn ideas of a Domme in the bin i.e pegging, and being a sexual pleaser of the male submissive and take on board the concept that the submissive is there to serve. So as an example this could be feminisation. It could be just being attentive and making the tea and being there to serve. It could be more sensual (but not sexual) body control play. Think in terms of female led relationships rather than porn stars with strap-ons. Although there some Dommes into that.

Additionally, there are some seriously hard-core sadistic Dommes out there, who are into the stuff the CIA did with pales of water. Those who love needlework on bodies. Those who like sadistic rope. A little known fact in the West that in Japan the main users of shibari are men who attend professional women who tie as part of their professional services.

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