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"shes perfectly ok with 3sums with other guys yet Mr A isnt aloud to play with others. Maybe I'm wrong but that line just smacks of bitterness to me. Just because you both agree on her having fun with others, doesn't obligate her to allow him to have fun with others too. You shouldn't want to or even contemplate doing something which would upset your partner. I play and my Mr doesn't. You'll get people on here saying its selfish, whatever. It works for us. Watching others be with me is what turns him on. Cool! That doesn't mean I have to feel the same way vice versa and I don't. The thought of him being with another woman does the very opposite of turn me on and I really hope that in your case she isn't being pressurised by him to be okay with him fucking others as it could ultimately lead to the end of the relationship. Just my 2 cents..." ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I think you need to have a good long think on what you both want... when its done, it can't be undone. And also just to say, your post vs your profile has me puzzled. In your post you say mrs average doesn't want a lady, but in your profile shes looking for a bi-fem for strapon fun? ![]() As for the strapon fun, that was wrote after watching some porn and was well up for it, still is but when it comes to the crunch, shes not to sure ![]() | |||
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"shes perfectly ok with 3sums with other guys yet Mr A isnt aloud to play with others. Maybe I'm wrong but that line just smacks of bitterness to me. Just because you both agree on her having fun with others, doesn't obligate her to allow him to have fun with others too. You shouldn't want to or even contemplate doing something which would upset your partner. I play and my Mr doesn't. You'll get people on here saying its selfish, whatever. It works for us. Watching others be with me is what turns him on. Cool! That doesn't mean I have to feel the same way vice versa and I don't. The thought of him being with another woman does the very opposite of turn me on and I really hope that in your case she isn't being pressurised by him to be okay with him fucking others as it could ultimately lead to the end of the relationship. Just my 2 cents..." Thanks for your 2 cents. I do understand what your saying here but im of the thinking that even tho Mrs a is going to get all the fun in the 3sums(even tho its also a massive turn on for mr a) i think that why not Mra is able to explore what its like to be with other women. We only live once and why not experience all these different pleasures while were on this planet | |||
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"shes perfectly ok with 3sums with other guys yet Mr A isnt aloud to play with others. Maybe I'm wrong but that line just smacks of bitterness to me. Just because you both agree on her having fun with others, doesn't obligate her to allow him to have fun with others too. You shouldn't want to or even contemplate doing something which would upset your partner. I play and my Mr doesn't. You'll get people on here saying its selfish, whatever. It works for us. Watching others be with me is what turns him on. Cool! That doesn't mean I have to feel the same way vice versa and I don't. The thought of him being with another woman does the very opposite of turn me on and I really hope that in your case she isn't being pressurised by him to be okay with him fucking others as it could ultimately lead to the end of the relationship. Just my 2 cents..." Thanks for your 2 cents. I do understand what your saying here but im of the thinking that even tho Mrs a is going to get all the fun in the 3sums(even tho its also a massive turn on for mr a) i think that why not Mra is able to explore what its like to be with other women. We only live once and why not experience all these different pleasures while were on this planet | |||
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"Thanks for your 2 cents. I do understand what your saying here but im of the thinking that even tho Mrs a is going to get all the fun in the 3sums(even tho its also a massive turn on for mr a) i think that why not Mra is able to explore what its like to be with other women. We only live once and why not experience all these different pleasures while were on this planet" Can't help but think that this is the crux of the matter. Ultimately you want to play with other women don't you? Can I guess that although the opening post constantly says We, only one half is aware of this post? The opening post smacks of bitterness and selfishness on the male half and of the female half being constantly pressurised in to pushing her boundaries - and you wonder why she isn't comfortable? Swinging enhances relationships but it rarely, if ever saves struggling ones. | |||
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"shes perfectly ok with 3sums with other guys yet Mr A isnt aloud to play with others. Maybe I'm wrong but that line just smacks of bitterness to me. Just because you both agree on her having fun with others, doesn't obligate her to allow him to have fun with others too. You shouldn't want to or even contemplate doing something which would upset your partner. I play and my Mr doesn't. You'll get people on here saying its selfish, whatever. It works for us. Watching others be with me is what turns him on. Cool! That doesn't mean I have to feel the same way vice versa and I don't. The thought of him being with another woman does the very opposite of turn me on and I really hope that in your case she isn't being pressurised by him to be okay with him fucking others as it could ultimately lead to the end of the relationship. Just my 2 cents... Thanks for your 2 cents. I do understand what your saying here but im of the thinking that even tho Mrs a is going to get all the fun in the 3sums(even tho its also a massive turn on for mr a) i think that why not Mra is able to explore what its like to be with other women. We only live once and why not experience all these different pleasures while were on this planet" If its worth potentially destroying her confidence and the relationship them go for it... Seems very selfish to me but what do I know... If you...err...mr is that much of a free spirit that exploring means more than the relationship then that's another matter I guess... | |||
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"Thanks for your 2 cents. I do understand what your saying here but im of the thinking that even tho Mrs a is going to get all the fun in the 3sums(even tho its also a massive turn on for mr a) i think that why not Mra is able to explore what its like to be with other women. We only live once and why not experience all these different pleasures while were on this planet Can't help but think that this is the crux of the matter. Ultimately you want to play with other women don't you? Can I guess that although the opening post constantly says We, only one half is aware of this post? The opening post smacks of bitterness and selfishness on the male half and of the female half being constantly pressurised in to pushing her boundaries - and you wonder why she isn't comfortable? Swinging enhances relationships but it rarely, if ever saves struggling ones. " Yes i wouldnt mind playing with other women but it wouldnt be pressurised because if it were, we'd be out having our 3sums with guys already. I want this to be an equal thing but if it came to just her wanting the 3sums without me being able to play, id be ok with this but would still be abit frustrated to be honest. | |||
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"Thanks for your 2 cents. I do understand what your saying here but im of the thinking that even tho Mrs a is going to get all the fun in the 3sums(even tho its also a massive turn on for mr a) i think that why not Mra is able to explore what its like to be with other women. We only live once and why not experience all these different pleasures while were on this planet Can't help but think that this is the crux of the matter. Ultimately you want to play with other women don't you? Can I guess that although the opening post constantly says We, only one half is aware of this post? The opening post smacks of bitterness and selfishness on the male half and of the female half being constantly pressurised in to pushing her boundaries - and you wonder why she isn't comfortable? Swinging enhances relationships but it rarely, if ever saves struggling ones. Yes i wouldnt mind playing with other women but it wouldnt be pressurised because if it were, we'd be out having our 3sums with guys already. I want this to be an equal thing but if it came to just her wanting the 3sums without me being able to play, id be ok with this but would still be abit frustrated to be honest." How can you be ok and frustrated? So in short - you want to have a 3sum with a man that will leave you frustrated and that your wife has little if any interest in, in the hope it will lead to you playing with other women which your wife really doesn;t want to happen. Yeah, I can't see anything going wrong with that plan... ![]() | |||
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"You've got to be honest with yourself here, cos frustration can lead to resentment. I personally could not allow my oh to play with other woman and me not be allowed the pleasure of other men........ To me this is big double standards which I couldn't deal with ( no offense meant to any who do play like this) So you need to ask yourself where you stand in this case, and if you don't like it you must either talk her round to your thinking or forget the whole thing, at the end of the day it depends on how important your relationship is to you both. A" Thats why im now questioning the relationship because i now understand that people change as they get older and can easyly go seperate ways. Ive now realised that even thu im well happy with my women sleeping with others and enjoying her sex life to the max(with me there of course) i can not see myself never sleeping with another women all my life. Something my other half isnt to keen on (for now). Id also hate to think that she would eventually just go ahead with it just to please me, something ive already discused with her. Just to put another thing out there in this thread. There has been cheating done in the past in this relationship on both sides, more so on mrs a side but weve put all that behind us. Mrs a has had a few flings on nights out and slept with a few people and Mr a has slept with another women on 1 occasion. | |||
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"There is a lot of sensible comment above. You do not seem ready yet so do not go there. In the heat of sexual excitement many wild things look very exiting but consider this. After you both have cum and the sexual excitement subsides the picture of your partner having sex with another person will still be in your head. If that is not something you are comfortable with on a wet Monday in the office, then do not do it. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Looks like its back to the drawing board . Thanks for all your advice in here folks. " Good Luck with building a future that suits you both. I wish you both happiness ![]() | |||
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