FabSwingers.com forum: Wink vs Message

By *eally OP Man
24 weeks ago

Bristol

Out of the two which is your method of approaching someone and which is the method you’d prefer someone approaching you?

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
24 weeks ago

Home

Doesn't really matter because both of them rarely work for me

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By *ibbleValleyFullSwapCouple
24 weeks ago

Your Hotlist

We usually wink, wait to see if we get a wink back and if so message. Sometimes we may message first if something seems like a good fit

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By *eally OP Man
24 weeks ago

Bristol

"Doesn't really matter because both of them rarely work for me "

I feel you brother, don’t lose hope though it’ll work one day

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By *eally OP Man
24 weeks ago

Bristol

"We usually wink, wait to see if we get a wink back and if so message. Sometimes we may message first if something seems like a good fit "

Yeah I used to message first but then I started winking because if they like my profile they’ll like me and it’s just quicker for both sides

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By *aul DeUther-OneMan
24 weeks ago

Sussex

If I see a profile that I like but the owner is a long way away, age range is out, they don't want a bi guy or single guy. Then I send a wink.

If it looks like I tick all of their boxes then I send a proper tailored message

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

Don’t get either so don’t bother me lol

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By *ut4fun6969Man
24 weeks ago

Folkestone

If I get a wink I will respond and I will message if someone's profile catches my eye or to complement nice pictures or video.

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By *eally OP Man
24 weeks ago

Bristol

"If I see a profile that I like but the owner is a long way away, age range is out, they don't want a bi guy or single guy. Then I send a wink.

If it looks like I tick all of their boxes then I send a proper tailored message "

Ooo do you have a go to line though? Like is there one sentence you always end up using

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By *eally OP Man
24 weeks ago

Bristol

"Don’t get either so don’t bother me lol"

Lmaoo I know the struggle but which out of the two would you want to get?

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

"Don’t get either so don’t bother me lol

Lmaoo I know the struggle but which out of the two would you want to get?"

Message probs

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By *eally OP Man
24 weeks ago

Bristol

"If I get a wink I will respond and I will message if someone's profile catches my eye or to complement nice pictures or video. "

Seeing a compliment in my inbox genuinely makes me happy

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By *SCouple81Couple
24 weeks ago

Between Edinburgh and Scottish Borders

We are using winks. If we send one and get a wink back, we are sending a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

Dont use or respond to winks at all. I just bulk delete them.

Just send a message. Its far easier.

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By *anonfire96Man
24 weeks ago

Mansfield

Use both, they both get ignored to the same extent. But I try to return winks and messages when I can.

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By *eally OP Man
24 weeks ago

Bristol

"Dont use or respond to winks at all. I just bulk delete them.

Just send a message. Its far easier."

Really? I thought winks would be quicker and more efficient. Is there a reason why you don’t bother with them?

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By *eally OP Man
24 weeks ago

Bristol

"Use both, they both get ignored to the same extent. But I try to return winks and messages when I can."

That is so real, I think there’s just too many ppl on here so messages and winks just get lost

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By *parkle1974Woman
24 weeks ago

Leeds

I never look at winks, find them pointless x

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By *rpeggioCouple
24 weeks ago

Baughurst

Both. Use a hammer for nails, a screwdriver for screws. Same principle applies.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

I will always return a wink but have stopped using them - my experience here suggests that for most women here they are just so much fluff in already overloaded inboxes. If I've reaching out to somebody it will be a message. It gives a chance to give a sense of who I am, and shows I have given some thought to my communication.

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By *JB1954Man
24 weeks ago

Reading

I use either wink , message or both at same time. Do realise some profiles ignore winks. Same with messages get too many . So only look at profile photo ?. Yes sometimes get message or wink back. A bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

We like to use both, if a profile is complete with both partners visible, we'll send a message, if its a half arsed profile probably just wink

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By *each needs some creamWoman
24 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

Waste of time winking me I never look at them and bulk delete them on a regular basis.

Same for friends request.

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By *r SensualMan
24 weeks ago

London

Finding that both seem to be just as futile… you wink someone, they wink back and leads to nothing. Or you wink, follow up their wink back with a message only for it to be left unread or opened and ignored.

Some also see a wink as an invitation to send an unsolicited friend request with chatting first which grinds my gears.

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By *end1Man
24 weeks ago

southend on sea

What I do find strange is when ive received a wink I always reply back with a thank you for the wink and then something about there profile etc. Then see they have read message and don't hear anything else from them.

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By *eo BillsMan
24 weeks ago

Westcliff On Sea

Some people say sending a wink is lazy? I think it’s okay to send a wink! That way you’re saying I fancy you or I like what I see.

That way you’re not bomb barding people? I sent winks and messages it’s up to them how they respond positive I hope

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By *ympho6969Woman
24 weeks ago

glasgow

I have never winked and don't look at mine. Short of forum replies I don't think I have directly messaged a guy first either. There is usually enough options in my inbox

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By *un and kinky.Man
24 weeks ago

Blackburn

Same as most guys message but never get any replies, shame.If only my message box was inundated like most of the ladies on here. Ha ha.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

Both or either xx

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
24 weeks ago

Next Door

I don't look at winks much or respond to them.

I feel men wink at most female or couples profiles so they aren't genuine.

I would rather have a message than a wink

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By *eekyTattsCoupleCouple
24 weeks ago

Tyne and Wear

9/10 we receive a wink we don't follow up.

If you're what we're interested in, then send a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

"Dont use or respond to winks at all. I just bulk delete them.

Just send a message. Its far easier.

Really? I thought winks would be quicker and more efficient. Is there a reason why you don’t bother with them?"

It may be quicker, but its not efficient. Why are they winking? Want to chat? Compliment a photo? Agree with something on the profile?

At least a message could provide a clue, providing they aren't from the “hi” brigade.

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By *alsam1Couple
24 weeks ago

Caister

We like a wink then if we wink back or vise versa we massage

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By *YDB75Man
24 weeks ago

Beverley

I send a wink and see what happens. I always respond with a thanks for a return wink

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By *agicroundabout3100Couple
24 weeks ago

Camberley

We send a wink initially as a way of expressing an interest.... if we receive a wink back we will follow up with a message..... xx

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By *handlerMonicaCouple
24 weeks ago

Leicester

A wink is always nice, but I suspect that like most people, we'd much prefer to receive a message

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By *Tall.Dorky.HandsomishMan
24 weeks ago

Halesowen

Wink gauges interest. If I get one back I can follow up with the message. If I’m certain I have something to offer I’ll do both!

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By *ittyNCremeCouple
24 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire

We much prefer a message, if on the odd occasion we look and like the person who’s winking we will wink back

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By *annibal_LickedherMan
24 weeks ago

north

I use and respond to both. If I wink somebody and they wink back I’ll message.

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By *rdere OpusCouple
24 weeks ago

Brum - ish

We use a mix. If someone we like the look of outright states they don’t use winks, we will message but if there’s nothing adverse, we’ll occasionally wink a profile that’s caught our eye.

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By *llshaun88Man
24 weeks ago

Newcastle

Mix of both for me

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By *antricSeeker60Man
24 weeks ago

Durham

Either, gives an opportunity to take look at their profile see if you’d be comfortable chatting.

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By *outhstaffscoupleCouple
24 weeks ago

cannock

We use a mix of both,we don't mind getting either

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By *tarcrossed_SwingersCouple
24 weeks ago

Loughborough

Definitely prefer a message. If you want to get into bed with us, a message wouldn't hurt if you can clearly see you match our preferences!

If we get a wink, we sometimes wink back and still don't receive a message. Sometimes we wink, but if it's reciprocated, we'll immediately respond!

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By *r K and Mrs LCouple
24 weeks ago

Leicester

We love a wink and if we wink back then you know we’re interested.x

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By *rdere OpusCouple
24 weeks ago

Brum - ish

"Definitely prefer a message. If you want to get into bed with us, a message wouldn't hurt if you can clearly see you match our preferences!

If we get a wink, we sometimes wink back and still don't receive a message. Sometimes we wink, but if it's reciprocated, we'll immediately respond! "

That always confuses us - get a wink, wink back, nothing. If we get a reciprocated wink we’ll always message.

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By *tarcrossed_SwingersCouple
24 weeks ago

Loughborough

"Definitely prefer a message. If you want to get into bed with us, a message wouldn't hurt if you can clearly see you match our preferences!

If we get a wink, we sometimes wink back and still don't receive a message. Sometimes we wink, but if it's reciprocated, we'll immediately respond!

That always confuses us - get a wink, wink back, nothing. If we get a reciprocated wink we’ll always message. "

We thought that was the etiquette at least. It's not like they can go 'we don't check our winks' if they actively use them! We know the first message can be difficult but we rather it wasn't avoided!

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By *d4funtimesMan
24 weeks ago

Cambridge

I would much rather receive a message than just a simple wink. It is great to see that people are putting in some effort, and I really hope they take the time to read my profile too.

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By *rdere OpusCouple
24 weeks ago

Brum - ish

"Definitely prefer a message. If you want to get into bed with us, a message wouldn't hurt if you can clearly see you match our preferences!

If we get a wink, we sometimes wink back and still don't receive a message. Sometimes we wink, but if it's reciprocated, we'll immediately respond!

That always confuses us - get a wink, wink back, nothing. If we get a reciprocated wink we’ll always message.

We thought that was the etiquette at least. It's not like they can go 'we don't check our winks' if they actively use them! We know the first message can be difficult but we rather it wasn't avoided! "

Totally agree! We stand stubbornly firm on not messaging first if we didn’t send the first wink 😂 But we always do if we made the first move.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

"Doesn't really matter because both of them rarely work for me "

Same here

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By *ucka39Man
24 weeks ago

Newcastle

Cheeky wink is fine,

A message followed is a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

I mainly send Messages and only Wink if it's owing to a Forum Thread..

Have only had a couple of People message me First and I think that's my Favourite

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By *lowercandyWoman
24 weeks ago

Lancashire

I delete winks straight off so that's pointless

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By *ewbootsandpanties99Man
24 weeks ago

Darkest South East Surrey

I mainly wink because I rarely get a reply from either a wink or a message so winking is less time consuming to be ignored! I love to receive either and will always reply to a wink if it's of interest to me.

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By *atte Lover 82Man
24 weeks ago

BERWICK-UPON-TWEED

I would say I tend to wink more than message not that I do a massive amount of either. As for recieving I'm happy with either one and will respond if I think we could have potential to go further be it chatting social etc

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By *eroLondonMan
24 weeks ago

Mayfair

Winks, I rarely look at them and never send them; they are pointless and superfluous (to me/for me).

I much prefer to •receive• messages. 💌

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By *emptme1993Man
24 weeks ago

Manchester

I like to wink to show I’m interested in more, if I get one back I’ll happily send the first message. Other times, especially if the profile says winks ignored etc I’ll just jump in with a message

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

Both. Just let me know you're interested

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

Wink then message if wink is reciprocated

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By *haringisCaring1208Couple
24 weeks ago

Lurgan

Either works for us, prefer well written messages but winks aren’t bad either

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