FabSwingers.com forum: Bi m's not liked by Bi f's

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, I am an experienced bi guy, as some friends on here will agree, but i find it quite hypercritical of bi ladies that say bi men are a turn off.. Is it unfair of me to think like that?

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By *utecontradictionMan
over a year ago

Malvern

Try not to let it bother you. I feel on a site such as this there would be more open minded views.....but apparently not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe for some its just not there thing...same as straight women or men and a long shot but the thought of two women may be a turn off to some bi guys.

Its all about preference and going for what turns you on....and if 2 bi blokes don't do it for a bi woman find someone it does do it for.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Hi, I am an experienced bi guy, as some friends on here will agree, but i find it quite hypercritical of bi ladies that say bi men are a turn off.. Is it unfair of me to think like that? "

Yes, because its not always true.

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By *wingerdelightCouple
over a year ago

eastliegh

Most ladies love it in our experience

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi, I am an experienced bi guy, as some friends on here will agree, but i find it quite hypercritical of bi ladies that say bi men are a turn off.. Is it unfair of me to think like that?

Yes, because its not always true."

how so?

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By *adkatWoman
over a year ago

Alfreton

I'm a bit female and I like bi men I've had some fab mmf's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's like saying cos I'm large I should like large men.. But I don't.

Never question peoples preferences.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

"Hi, I am an experienced bi guy, as some friends on here will agree, but i find it quite hypercritical of bi ladies that say bi men are a turn off.. Is it unfair of me to think like that?

Yes, because its not always true.

how so?"

Well I'm a bi female, and I love playing with bi males, so it's not always true!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's like saying cos I'm large I should like large men.. But I don't.

Never question peoples preferences."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi, I am an experienced bi guy, as some friends on here will agree, but i find it quite hypercritical of bi ladies that say bi men are a turn off.. Is it unfair of me to think like that?

Yes, because its not always true.

how so?

Well I'm a bi female, and I love playing with bi males, so it's not always true!! "

Yeah i know my love, but what i meant was in the cases where i see the point of the original post, is it wrong of me to find it hypercritical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its personal preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its personal preference "

Absolutely. My partner is bi, but she won't play with bi-guys - and that's her preference. Simple as that. Other bi women love playing with bi guys - that's their preference.

I have a customer who is gay. He HATES (!!) lesbians with a passion! Well, to listen to him I think it's bordering on a campaign not far short of the Final Solution... that's his preference.

Plus ca change...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im just greedy and will meet with all lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its personal preference

Absolutely. My partner is bi, but she won't play with bi-guys - and that's her preference. Simple as that. Other bi women love playing with bi guys - that's their preference.

I have a customer who is gay. He HATES (!!) lesbians with a passion! Well, to listen to him I think it's bordering on a campaign not far short of the Final Solution... that's his preference.

Plus ca change...

Im not saying it isnt personal preference, i just find it a tad hypercritical to include in the profile. each to their own and that, but i was asking if its wrong of me to view it this way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer bi men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's like saying cos I'm large I should like large men.. But I don't.

Never question peoples preferences."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its personal preference

Absolutely. My partner is bi, but she won't play with bi-guys - and that's her preference. Simple as that. Other bi women love playing with bi guys - that's their preference.

I have a customer who is gay. He HATES (!!) lesbians with a passion! Well, to listen to him I think it's bordering on a campaign not far short of the Final Solution... that's his preference.

Plus ca change...

Im not saying it isnt personal preference, i just find it a tad hypercritical to include in the profile. each to their own and that, but i was asking if its wrong of me to view it this way"

Understand that, but would you prefer the alternative, which would be for you to possibly spend a lot of time chatting to someone who you are never going to meet in reality as they haven't made it clear in their profile that they don't meet a particular type/orientation of person.. and you happen to be that person..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its personal preference

Absolutely. My partner is bi, but she won't play with bi-guys - and that's her preference. Simple as that. Other bi women love playing with bi guys - that's their preference.

I have a customer who is gay. He HATES (!!) lesbians with a passion! Well, to listen to him I think it's bordering on a campaign not far short of the Final Solution... that's his preference.

Plus ca change...

Im not saying it isnt personal preference, i just find it a tad hypercritical to include in the profile. each to their own and that, but i was asking if its wrong of me to view it this way"

Yes its like saying a blonde who has a preference for brunettes is hypocritical people can prefer to meet with whom and im sure just because they prefer not to play with bi men does not mean they don't like them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer bi men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's like saying cos I'm large I should like large men.. But I don't.

Never question peoples preferences."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, I am an experienced bi guy, as some friends on here will agree, but i find it quite hypercritical of bi ladies that say bi men are a turn off.. Is it unfair of me to think like that? "

This is prob the wrong answer but if I was having a mmf with 2 guys id want ALL the attention and both cocks lol.....so wouldn't wanna watch them sucking ans fucking when they should be sucking and fucking me lol ....I'm geedy sorry

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I am bisexual....bisexual men do not interest me in the slightest, I don't find sexual acts between men a turn on.

Does that make me a hypocrite or someone who is exercising their rights of personal preference?

Do I care?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There seems to be plenty of women on here who specifically request bi men.

And why is it hypocritical? Just because they want a same sex experience of one sort, does not mean they should indulge in that of another sort. Each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am bisexual....bisexual men do not interest me in the slightest, I don't find sexual acts between men a turn on.

Does that make me a hypocrite or someone who is exercising their rights of personal preference?

Do I care?"

Spot on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most ladies love it in our experience

Lol we are with you Jayne gets very over excited

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its personal preference

Absolutely. My partner is bi, but she won't play with bi-guys - and that's her preference. Simple as that. Other bi women love playing with bi guys - that's their preference.

I have a customer who is gay. He HATES (!!) lesbians with a passion! Well, to listen to him I think it's bordering on a campaign not far short of the Final Solution... that's his preference.

Plus ca change...

Im not saying it isnt personal preference, i just find it a tad hypercritical to include in the profile. each to their own and that, but i was asking if its wrong of me to view it this way"

But isn't it a tad hypercritical to pick on people for putting what their preference is in THEIR profile? Especially just after saying its their personal preference!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bi men dont do anything for me sexually, but I think you dont like it, because it directly affects (negatively impacts)you.

Is it hypercritical? That's up to you.

Within our sexual preferences we are allowed to be selfish and take what we want, so it can be 'off putting' to others, however as was mentioned further up. If it wasn't stated in the profile, would you feel disappointed to find after some conversation, that you were 'barking up the wrong tree?'

I don't meet with couples on here, and have heard over and over that I've a 'thing against couples, however they are just 2 individuals' If I publish my friends list, there are couples in it; however, that's not what my profile is trying to attract so I don't advertise it. I would not show veri's from couples as again I dont want to 'give out the wrong signals' Is it hypercritical of me? Or is it just how I use the site, to my advantage and my preference?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im straight and dont do bi men. Find it a big turn off. I put in on my profile to save any bi guys wasting their time messaging me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do u like watching bi females , Iv only discovered my bi side rescently .... But my male preference is straight ! Just because I like both ... And don't get turned on by bi men, I don't think I'm a hypocrite !

Just the same as I luv a lady dressed in my sexy under wear .... But if bri turned up in them ..... I think I'd laugh so much a little wee might come out .. Xxlol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a sexual preference for the Minogue sisters and all I ever got from them was a restraining order

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Metaphorically speaking of course, fuck 'em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, I am an experienced bi guy, as some friends on here will agree, but i find it quite hypercritical of bi ladies that say bi men are a turn off.. Is it unfair of me to think like that? "

In a word - yes.

Preferences will never be hypocritical - even 'exclusive' ones rather than inclusive.

Unless the profile owner is doing something themselves but advocating that others don't/can't/shouldn't.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I really can't comment. I wouldn't know. It's all a bit bizarre.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, I am an experienced bi guy, as some friends on here will agree, but i find it quite hypercritical of bi ladies that say bi men are a turn off.. Is it unfair of me to think like that?

Yes, because its not always true.

how so?

Well I'm a bi female, and I love playing with bi males, so it's not always true!!

Yeah i know my love, but what i meant was in the cases where i see the point of the original post, is it wrong of me to find it hypercritical"

YES!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah i know my love, but what i meant was in the cases where i see the point of the original post, is it wrong of me to find it hypercritical"

In that case yes you are wrong, it's only hypercritical if they insist you are turned on by watching them.

Each of us has a list of turn on's and turn off's with a large bit of don't mind's in the middle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this an equality thing?

So it's hypercritical that bi women are seen as a turn on and bi men a turn off?

Or as a peeved at other's preferences?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this an equality thing?

So it's hypercritical that bi women are seen as a turn on and bi men a turn off?

Or as a peeved at other's preferences?"

Or a bi guy getting a knockback from a bi gal?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this an equality thing?

So it's hypercritical that bi women are seen as a turn on and bi men a turn off?

Or as a peeved at other's preferences?

Or a bi guy getting a knockback from a bi gal?"

Wasnt me

(This time)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's hypocritical at all.. maybe like me they just don't enjoy guy on guy action.. just because they enjoy ladies.. doesn't mean they should enjoy guys together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this an equality thing?

So it's hypercritical that bi women are seen as a turn on and bi men a turn off?

Or as a peeved at other's preferences?

Or a bi guy getting a knockback from a bi gal?

Wasnt me

(This time)"

Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give me a bi man anyday

Rich you just need to move closer

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By *uxtapositionMan
over a year ago

CARDIFF

"I am bisexual....bisexual men do not interest me in the slightest, I don't find sexual acts between men a turn on.

Does that make me a hypocrite or someone who is exercising their rights of personal preference?

Do I care?"

It makes you someone who is exercising her personal preferences, and No, you shouldn't care !!

( From a bi-chap )

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Bi men.....o my dream mmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *amdenfunMan
over a year ago

London

You won't get many interesting answers to this question, because most people will just repeat the mantra that it's all personal preferences - which is certainly true, but doesn't mean we can't have an interesting discussion about those preferences; same way people may have an interesting discussion about art, perhaps from a critical perspective.

That said, I'm not sure what you mean by hypercritical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not worth worrying about

There's plenty interested so concentrate on them

Ya cant have everything you'd like in life and sadly some bi fems will fall into that category.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You won't get many interesting answers to this question, because most people will just repeat the mantra that it's all personal preferences - which is certainly true, but doesn't mean we can't have an interesting discussion about those preferences; same way people may have an interesting discussion about art, perhaps from a critical perspective.

That said, I'm not sure what you mean by hypercritical. "

Hypocritical would only be saying one thing and doing another - or vice versa!

Whether its prejudicial - or the old 'double standards' - which has been discussed many times before I'd another question.

Personally the preferences of others only bother me in the respect that I'll either fit them - or not! I do however quietly snigger at the 'shouty block capital' brigade of couples who feel the need to state (sometimes several times in their text!) that under no circumstances should bi/curious males do much as peek at them - closely followed by endless gushing remarks about the wonder that is the single bi fem! I sometimes wonder if they forget that 'bi' by definition means that the guys in question still enjoy plenty of 'lady love' - and are not going to pounce on straight guys in couples simply because they're there!!

But that's another argument altogether!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a bi female and had my first bi mmf recently it was amazing

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

It's not like discussing art at all. Art has themes and ideas - it's meant to provoke thought and emotions. Art is made specifically for other people to engage with.

People's sexual preferences are not meant to be anything other than what they like.

Individuals can certainly discuss what they themselves like/don't like, but the endless questioning on these forums of other people's preferences is really boring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two guys and 2 girls are totally different things, so I don't see how it can be hypocritical?!?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Two guys and 2 girls are totally different things, so I don't see how it can be hypocritical?!?!"

Sounds like a good night in

Are you buying the pringles ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not like discussing art at all. Art has themes and ideas - it's meant to provoke thought and emotions. Art is made specifically for other people to engage with.

People's sexual preferences are not meant to be anything other than what they like.

Individuals can certainly discuss what they themselves like/don't like, but the endless questioning on these forums of other people's preferences is really boring."

I could not possibly agree more!!

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian

Your opinion is your own + therefor think me hypocritical.

Fact is:watching (or beeing part of)FF play gets my juices flowing whilst MM play has the opposite effect.

(susie)

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"Your opinion is your own + therefor think me hypocritical.

Fact is:watching (or beeing part of)FF play gets my juices flowing whilst MM play has the opposite effect.

(susie)"

I'm the same - seeing 2 men together is just not a turn on for me - just because I'm bi doesn't mean that i HAVE to find bi guys sexually attractive, Z

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By *amdenfunMan
over a year ago

London

It's not like discussing art at all. Art has themes and ideas - it's meant to provoke thought and emotions. Art is made specifically for other people to engage with.

People's sexual preferences are not meant to be anything other than what they like.

Individuals can certainly discuss what they themselves like/don't like, but the endless questioning on these forums of other people's preferences is really boring."

Philosophers have written a lot about the philosophy of sexual preferences. Take Plato's Symposium (though perhaps that's about love), or Foucault's three volume history of sexuality. Or look here http://shaunmiller.wordpress.com/2011/08/16/various-philosophers-on-sex/.

But does hypercritical here mean hypocritical?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not saying it isnt personal preference, i just find it a tad hypercritical to include in the profile. each to their own and that, but i was asking if its wrong of me to view it this way"

Bi men are more at risk of stis. Woman on woman action is much, much safer. For some it could purely be about limiting risk. So no it's not hypocritical imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just realised you sai hypercritical, not hypocritical. Saying sorry don't meet bi-guys is not hypercritical at all!

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bi men are the most likely to carry stds apparently ..perhaps that has something to do with it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a sexual preference for the Minogue sisters and all I ever got from them was a restraining order

pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bi men are the most likely to carry stds apparently ..perhaps that has something to do with it? "

I'm so glad you inserted the word 'apparently' into that statement or I would just have had to have taken my frustration on that issue out on your bottom.

And of course, being a bi man, I am riddled with STDs (infact, I have the full set, collectors edition)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Bi men are the most likely to carry stds apparently ..perhaps that has something to do with it?

I'm so glad you inserted the word 'apparently' into that statement or I would just have had to have taken my frustration on that issue out on your bottom.

And of course, being a bi man, I am riddled with STDs (infact, I have the full set, collectors edition)

Yeah clearly we have no sexual awareness or play safe and get checks, we must be riddled 'apparently'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's practically mandatory to be a Bi female as a couple here, even though they may not actually be one...

Of course, the male is straight and they only want to meet single women...

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By *erebothbiCouple
over a year ago

howden

We make it quite clear on our profile we dont want to meet straight people but everyday we get mail and winks from straight males and couples with straight males usually telling us they are bi but put straight on their profile as not to put off thoes who dont meet bi males.

To all who dont/wont meet bi males how do you know the straight males you meet are straight ?

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian

"We make it quite clear on our profile we dont want to meet straight people but everyday we get mail and winks from straight males and couples with straight males usually telling us they are bi but put straight on their profile as not to put off thoes who dont meet bi males.

To all who dont/wont meet bi males how do you know the straight males you meet are straight ?

we know they bi when they're straight on fab but bi on the fetish site

.....they put MM meets up.....out themselfes in forums......they honest whilst exchanging messages.....friends tell us....

(susie)

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By *erebothbiCouple
over a year ago

howden

To all who dont/wont meet bi males how do you know the straight males you meet are straight ?

we know they bi when they're straight on fab but bi on the fetish site

.....they put MM meets up.....out themselfes in forums......they honest whilst exchanging messages.....friends tell us....

(susie)"

That clears that up then, no chance of one slipping through that safty net.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, I am an experienced bi guy, as some friends on here will agree, but i find it quite hypercritical of bi ladies that say bi men are a turn off.. Is it unfair of me to think like that? "

not really no

you like what you like and you cant help what turns you on and off, all because a woman likes other women don't mean she wants to see two men at it

I suppose if a bi woman says two men together is wrong that's hypercritical but if she says its just not for her that's fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nice bi men this way please

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

"Hi, I am an experienced bi guy, as some friends on here will agree, but i find it quite hypercritical of bi ladies that say bi men are a turn off.. Is it unfair of me to think like that?

not really no

you like what you like and you cant help what turns you on and off, all because a woman likes other women don't mean she wants to see two men at it

I suppose if a bi woman says two men together is wrong that's hypercritical but if she says its just not for her that's fine"

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

In a swingers club a while back, in full view in a public area two females got down and dirty. Fully naked and buried in a 69 position, a few people gathered and watched, some of them got physical too.

I've since wondered what would have happened if it was two guys? I think we all know the answer... everyone would have walked away, a few would be complaining to the club owner. They at best would have been asked to stop by the club or perhaps escorted to the car park by the straight guys.Now that wouldn't be about STI risk, that's about finding male-on-male repulsive.

That aside a couple friends of ours the hubby is bisexual and his wife is straight. She is not 'just' straight, she finds lesbian sex a turn off, doesn't even want to see it! While on the other hand she finds bi-guy on bi-guy a great turn on.

Angie loves guy-on-guy and would say she is straight, unless a bi-fem chooses to seduce her.

It's not hypercritical... it's just the way it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, I am an experienced bi guy, as some friends on here will agree, but i find it quite hypercritical of bi ladies that say bi men are a turn off.. Is it unfair of me to think like that? "

It's individual preference, I love love love seeing / being with guys together , just keep hunting and enjoy who you find xxx

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