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By *inglenotts OP   Man
4 days ago

derby

Hey,

So lately I’ve been having fun in clubs.

Conversation great

Foreplay great

Ending… doesn’t happen.

Do any other gents have this?

I’m being serious after 20-30mins of pennetrative sex and not finishing, it feels like a let down for me and the lady.

Normally ends in both of us exhausted, and making appologies.

Any advice?

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By *inglenotts OP   Man
4 days ago

derby

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By *inglenotts OP   Man
4 days ago

derby


"Hey,

So lately I’ve been having fun in clubs.

Conversation great

Foreplay great

Ending… doesn’t happen.

Do any other gents have this?

I’m being serious after 20-30mins of pennetrative sex and not finishing, it feels like a let down for me and the lady.

Normally ends in both of us exhausted, and making appologies.

Any advice?"

To clarify its happened 6 times in a tow now

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By *illie fitMan
4 days ago

Bournemouth

Do you take any medication

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By *eWillMakeYouSquirtCouple
4 days ago

leicester

I feel like I myself have to last at least 30 to 40 mins but is that to long to short lol

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By *outhstaffscoupleCouple
4 days ago

Cannock

When we meet a single guy, we make a point of telling them not to worry about how long they last, if it's 10 mins that's fine, we both love to see the guy cum so wouldn't put any pressure on lasting for ages

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By *inglenotts OP   Man
4 days ago

derby


"Do you take any medication "

No

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By *inglenotts OP   Man
4 days ago

derby


"I feel like I myself have to last at least 30 to 40 mins but is that to long to short lol "

That’s the thing I’m not actively holding back, it’s just not finishing anymore

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By *empest2KMan
4 days ago

Derby


"Hey,

So lately I’ve been having fun in clubs.

Conversation great

Foreplay great

Ending… doesn’t happen.

Do any other gents have this?

I’m being serious after 20-30mins of pennetrative sex and not finishing, it feels like a let down for me and the lady.

Normally ends in both of us exhausted, and making appologies.

Any advice?"

Don't worry, you're not the only one. I have similar issues at clubs/parties, mainly due to performance anxiety, age, and excessive heat, the last of which has been the main contender for me.

Regarding advice, I've not really figured out a solution other than somewhere well ventilated and/or not too warm.

My apologies for not being of much help with regards to your struggles.

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By *tag and CelesteCouple
4 days ago

Liverpool

Stag here, I’m exactly the same and I think it’s all mental, like performance anxiety.

I find I’m spinning a lot of plates, wanting to put on a decent show for those who are watching, putting actual effort in with who I’m with and making sure I last a decent time

I still enjoy it for what it is though and luckily Celeste will finish me off if needs be.

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By *anonfire96Man
4 days ago

Mansfield

Well that's very thoughtful of you, there's so much pressure on guys sometimes to perform and last as long as they can it can cause a sort of mental blockage and prevent you cumming at all. I've had it a couple of times.

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By *dz69247Man
4 days ago

Manchester

I’m on ADHD medication, and a side issue is the inability to cum sometimes. It is what it is, takes a while, but eventually gets there, you need to just enjoy the play, the more anxious you get, the worse it is. If you don’t cum, you don’t cum, you had sex and hopefully left the lady pleased.

This is one of the reasons why I love gangbangs, because if I don’t cum, I can take a break and let someone else have fun, and join back in later. Also a positive is I don’t have much of a refectory period, so ready for round two not long after.

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
4 days ago

Norwichish

Can you ever complete?

If you can with your own hand then potentially it’s a mental block when with someone else?

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By *inglenotts OP   Man
4 days ago

derby


"Can you ever complete?

If you can with your own hand then potentially it’s a mental block when with someone else?"

Yes, but even that seems to be a lot of effort, at least 15-20 mins

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