FabSwingers.com forum: Can or Can't Accommodate?

By *ntrigued888 OP Woman
26 weeks ago

Herts, Beds & Bucks

Why do people put down they can accommodate when actually they can't.

I appreciate hotel meet for first time, just in case there's no connection.

But this happens time & time again.

I clearly state in my bio I can't, not that many people bother to read it.

Don't get me wrong. Fwb I've known for a while do get invited, but it's very rare I have a free house.

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By *ympho6969Woman
26 weeks ago

glasgow

It's the first thing I check. I don't accom. If they can't, then regular meets means that gets expensive real fast.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
26 weeks ago

Reading

Sometimes it's to hide the fact that they have a partner.

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By *uri00620Woman
26 weeks ago

Croydon

Often a partner/married. You get talking more perhaps if you can accommodate with no partner assumed. Then once in conversation you can't accommodate for various reasons which by that point seem reasonable.

I know of a married got here who successfully meets with this approach. Not actually being able to accommodate whilst saying he can has never been an issue.

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By *arryandhedgehogCouple
26 weeks ago

Essex

A lot of it is to do with filters. If you’re looking for a guy most know that women will want someone who can accom so they list that they can and hope they can work around it if meets are arranged.

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By *ustcallMan
26 weeks ago

Glasgow

I was err on the side of caution. You don’t know what these people are like until you actually meet them. That’s why our social is so important.

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By *ntrigued888 OP Woman
26 weeks ago

Herts, Beds & Bucks

"It's the first thing I check. I don't accom. If they can't, then regular meets means that gets expensive real fast."

Exactly. I meet with the hope it will be regular, so like you say it gets expensive with hotels. Unfortunately my daughter's work from home so I've not much choice 🙄

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By *end1Man
26 weeks ago

southend on sea

Being a single guy n not hiding a wife or gf I can both accommodate n travel 😊

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By *unshadecoupleCouple
26 weeks ago

Norwich

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By *eroLondonMan
26 weeks ago

Mayfair

Dear OP, I have stated in my profile that I "Can Accommodate", and which I do...in hotels.

'Accommodate' doesn't necessarily mean in one's abode or living quarters.

Personally, I always accommodate in hotels. AirB&B™ is also an option or anywhere similar, but never in my house.

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By *ecky and justCouple
26 weeks ago

Godalming

We can accommodate, profile states that.

No kids and no dramas but we may choose to meet somewhere else for the first time.

We really only let people we know in the house..

Sometimes, that can be on the first night.

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By *nlyessexCouple
26 weeks ago

Hornchurch

"Why do people put down they can accommodate when actually they can't.

I appreciate hotel meet for first time, just in case there's no connection.

But this happens time & time again.

I clearly state in my bio I can't, not that many people bother to read it.

Don't get me wrong. Fwb I've known for a while do get invited, but it's very rare I have a free house."

It’s a constant thing with us we don’t do hotels and like to meet for a social first to see if there’s a connection

Fully agree don’t put can accommodate when clearly you can’t

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

I would rather accommodate as I know my bed sheets are clean then. But you live and learn

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By *he Old School RockersCouple
26 weeks ago

Gloucester

See this is a difficult one for us. We can host yes. But if people want to spend the night unfortunately we don’t have a spare room.

Kink

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

We can’t accommodate at home but any of our meets would be at a hotel that we arrange but we’ve always loved hotel nights away once a month

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By *nlyessexCouple
26 weeks ago

Hornchurch

"Dear OP, I have stated in my profile that I "Can Accommodate", and which I do...in hotels.

'Accommodate' doesn't necessarily mean in one's abode or living quarters.

Personally, I always accommodate in hotels. AirB&B™ is also an option or anywhere similar, but never in my house."

Perhaps you should say hotel meets we are uncomfortable with hotels I’m sure there are others who are but at the same time there are those who are happy with hotels

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By *eroLondonMan
26 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Dear OP, I have stated in my profile that I "Can Accommodate", and which I do...in hotels.

'Accommodate' doesn't necessarily mean in one's abode or living quarters.

Personally, I always accommodate in hotels. AirB&B™ is also an option or anywhere similar, but never in my house.

Perhaps you should say hotel meets we are uncomfortable with hotels I’m sure there are others who are but at the same time there are those who are happy with hotels "

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It's a lovely suggestion but I'm content with the status quo. 💙

It doesn't hinder my Fab journey with my current incumbent profile.

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By *angOnBunnyCouple
26 weeks ago

Ipswich

We accommodate, but you'll never get invited around until we've met in a social or club first. Rather not have potential stalkers knocking on the door

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By *xxLandNxxxCouple
26 weeks ago

Nuneaton

We can occasionally but find it’s easier not too, we have two big dogs that can’t stand to be in another room and share the sofa at costs.

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By *iss DevilWoman
26 weeks ago

Bedford

I can accommodate, but only within reason. I'm not going to put anyone up overnight, as night for me is for sleeping, not shagging. And that's one of the reasons I am not interested in anyone coming from miles and miles away.

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By *ony MannMan
26 weeks ago

South Newton

Much better to say can't, then when you trust someone surprise then and ask them around, but impress on the they must always ask to come around.

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By *etitehotwife4uCouple
26 weeks ago

wirral

"Sometimes it's to hide the fact that they have a partner."

Correct. So annoying we cant due to kids living with us but when single blokes say or have listed they can accommodate then Get chatting, then Claim they can’t.

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By *ertcoupleCouple
26 weeks ago

Hatfield

We can't accomodate but are happy to book a hotel room

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By *uzzieboyMan
26 weeks ago

taunton

"Sometimes it's to hide the fact that they have a partner."

Agreed 👍

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By *alsaman15Man
26 weeks ago

Market Drayton

Some of us that do say we can accommodate actually can because we are really single

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By *herrybakewellCouple
26 weeks ago

Staffordshire

To be honest, even if someone did say they could accommodate we would decline.

We both much prefer the mutual ground of a hotel.

It just doesn't feel right to invite someone to our family home.

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By *ellhungvweMan
26 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I can accom but I very rarely do. In my experience people overwhelmingly prefer to meet at theirs, a hotel or a club. I think it is a security thing for many ladies.

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