FabSwingers.com forum: How Many Verifications Are Too Many?

By *hirstyGinger OP Man
7 weeks ago

Cardiff

Here’s a question to spark some conversation:

How many verifications is too many?

Let me share a scenario to put things into perspective: I’ve had my account for 7 years, and over that time, I’ve accumulated 41 verifications. Recently, I encountered a couple and a single female with a brand-new account (just 9 weeks old and only 2 verifications) who commented that I had “a lot” of verifications.

I found this a bit odd, as I see verifications as proof that someone is real, genuine, and active within the community. To me, it adds credibility rather than raising questions.

I’m curious—what are your thoughts? Do you see a large number of verifications as a positive, or could it be perceived differently? Let’s hear what the community thinks!

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By *eeper ThanMan
7 weeks ago

Dartford

Lots of verifications is a good thing really , you know your talking to genuine people, and normally the ones with loads 40+ say are the people who visit clubs from the people they have meet at them not all just on a been intermit level

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By *eri24Woman
7 weeks ago

Bridgend

I'm not bothered by the number.

I know some people are very active at socials and so will have many.

The graphic detail in some meet veris, I'm not fond of. I don't need to know that.

Just that they turned up and were who they claimed to be is enough

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By *izandpaulCouple
7 weeks ago

merseyside

"I'm not bothered by the number.

I know some people are very active at socials and so will have many.

The graphic detail in some meet veris, I'm not fond of. I don't need to know that.

Just that they turned up and were who they claimed to be is enough"

That's about it.

Just shows they actually attend a real meet.

Not interested in web cam verifications.

We also scan down to see if anyone we have met are on someone else's verification.

Also sometimes shows private party hosts.

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By *hirstyGinger OP Man
7 weeks ago

Cardiff

"I'm not bothered by the number.

I know some people are very active at socials and so will have many.

The graphic detail in some meet veris, I'm not fond of. I don't need to know that.

Just that they turned up and were who they claimed to be is enough"

Could not agree more.....

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By *hirstyGinger OP Man
7 weeks ago

Cardiff

I also only normally veri after 3 meets.... which some people are fine with others question why....

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By *aughty Hubby n Sexy WifeCouple
7 weeks ago

Scarborogh

Here’s a question to spark some conversation:

How many verifications is too many?

I found this a bit odd, as I see verifications as proof that someone is real, genuine, and active within the community. To me, it adds credibility rather than raising questions.

I’m curious—what are your thoughts? Do you see a large number of verifications as a positive, or could it be perceived differently? Let’s hear what the community thinks!

We have over 100, bit to be fare we do like the socials and clubs. We visit GC once a year too and you. A rack up a fair few then. We like to see them it shows genuine people. Much better than been on years and never met anyone.

Only my opinion.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
7 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I have 51 verifications. Of those, I've fucked 8 of them, over a period of several years. Most are from socials or hosts.

I get told I have too many verifications.

Anyone who thinks that the amount of people I've slept with is an issue isn't my people anyway. So if it helps put them off, huzzah 💜

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By *eroLondonMan
7 weeks ago

Mayfair

It's about the context and if people aren't cognisant about the context then they are not worth bothering with, otherwise they would appreciate your longevity and the subsequent reasoning behind 'so many' verifications. They would (should) also be mindful the provenance also lies with Fab-organised groups socials (non play events often held in a cocktail bar), or coffee meets, platonic socials, cam chats, friends who left Fab and then came back and re-verified you/each other...and so forth.

Is it bad having too many? Yes.

Is it bad having too few? Yes.

Is it bad having none at all. Yes.

Is it bad being verified? Yes.

Can you satisfy everyone? Nø.

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By *atentHeelsCouple
7 weeks ago

Salford

I think it depends so always read them. For example we’re not bothered if someone got verified from a cam session. Anyone can do that to doesn’t mean you’re a swinger. So only really interested in meet veri’s from being at swinger clubs or elsewhere

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By *D40Couple
7 weeks ago

Durham

It’s a really good question, ultimately it’s what others think isn’t it, opinions.

Personally, loads of veri’s are a sign people are real and it’s nice to see what people put as well, can potentially gauge if they are compatible to what your looking for.

If it puts people off, that’s their prerogative.

All personal preference, we used to get hung up about what other peoples perceptions are of us, completely past caring these days, we don’t take anything personally, like us … great, don’t …. Not arsed 😊

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

We had over 100 on our previous account and found it would put people off meeting. Even though 98 where from social events/parties and we'd only played with 2 lol

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By *layfull pairingCouple
7 weeks ago

Bristol

More than three means your a bit of a slut

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By *ature SpiceCouple
7 weeks ago

Ramsbottom

If they are all from social only meets then we dismiss them or look to see if they have been followed up.

On another point how many are given out of politeness?

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By *ice_couple2012Couple
7 weeks ago

Leicester

"It’s a really good question, ultimately it’s what others think isn’t it, opinions.

Personally, loads of veri’s are a sign people are real and it’s nice to see what people put as well, can potentially gauge if they are compatible to what your looking for.

If it puts people off, that’s their prerogative.

This

Apart feom anything else, the number of veris is a function of how long someone's been on the site. If you've had the same profile for years and you're reasonably active they will easily rack up

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By *ewbootsandpanties99Man
7 weeks ago

Darkest South East Surrey

I suppose it depends what you are looking for. If you are into the 'lifestyle' then many verifications show that you are genuine and can give a good idea about you. However if you are just looking for maybe one set of friends with maybe exclusivity then no or few verifications are better. However there's a much bigger risk of time wasters.

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
7 weeks ago

"We had over 100 on our previous account and found it would put people off meeting. Even though 98 where from social events/parties and we'd only played with 2 lol "
really that’s strange! When people can read your verifications for themselves

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By *uffolkStagMan
7 weeks ago

Suffolk

If your someone who judges others based on how active they are, you really need to give your head a wobble and evaluate why your really on here and whether it’s actually for you.

IMO if your worried about numbers your more likely to just be interested in getting a bit of attention, having your ego stroked and some easy sex as you clearly don’t have the understanding of the lifestyle.

You don’t need to fuck anyone and everyone but essentially meeting likeminded other is what the lifestyle is about.

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By *hirstyGinger OP Man
7 weeks ago

Cardiff

"If they are all from social only meets then we dismiss them or look to see if they have been followed up.

On another point how many are given out of politeness? "

This is a valid point. It seems like some people hand out verifications too easily after casual interactions at social events. Sharing the same air at an event doesn’t necessarily warrant a verification. Verifications should carry more weight and be given for genuine connections or meaningful interactions.

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By *umagain58Man
7 weeks ago

London

I think it works both ways. I have a decent number of verifications and that does seem to have helped getting further interest. It was very slow when first joined fab but get messages now and winks from others. That does help to start a chat if got common desire for fun by all. In a few other cases some have told me puts them off. To be honest the main thing is wether get on with people and that is what like to think

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By *ope and fire guyMan
7 weeks ago

MACCLESFIELD

I suppose any veris is better than none. I struggle to even get chatting with women on here because they must see that I don't have any and just delete the message or whatever. I've even put messages out there to go for a social and no one gets back to me haha.

I do get put off by women who have loads though

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By *eyond PurityCouple
7 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Veris are just another tool to see if there’ll be any common ground.

I think if they were meeting regular in car parks then we’d likely not be compatible.

The question about too many is for the person viewing to decide. A lot of ours are socials and always makes us laugh when newer profiles think we are at boss level experts at swinging 😋

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Unless the total looks suspicious, like they've been on here for a day with their first ever profile and have a dozen meets, I'd say the more the better.

It shows they know what they're doing and won't either be a let down, or do something radical

I'm on 384 meet verifications, but a lot are from socials.

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By *egre-princeMan
7 weeks ago

Glasgow

I meet on Feeld and also when travelling so verifications are hard to come by. I'm wondering if that's the case for anyone else here?

Not met on fab as I'm not that drawn in by the people I'm seeing unfortunately.

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By *ympho6969Woman
7 weeks ago

glasgow

Personally if I see one with a crazy number and it's not over years, it's a turn off.

Each to their own but I'm looking for regular fun, not volume on here. Doesn't mean I want just 1, but I don't want 30 to 100 per year

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By *ornylargeMan
7 weeks ago

salisbury/anstruther/edinburgh

I’ve had it before as almost 200 but been on the site for 11 years. Had a few judgemental comments in messages about it. I get checker regular and look after my health. Not sure why it’s a problem for some

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By *ony MannMan
7 weeks ago

Lagos, Portugal// Andover

It depends who is reading them.

None, no travelling out of my way

Hidden, stay away

More than two by meet may be

300, ....

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

I don’t get why anyone would think lots is a bad thing? Unless they are slut shaming, which is weird to do on a swingers site

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
7 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"I don’t get why anyone would think lots is a bad thing? Unless they are slut shaming, which is weird to do on a swingers site "

It's incredibly fucking common here for some reason.

People are amazing 💜

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By *hirstyGinger OP Man
7 weeks ago

Cardiff

"I don’t get why anyone would think lots is a bad thing? Unless they are slut shaming, which is weird to do on a swingers site

It's incredibly fucking common here for some reason.

People are amazing 💜"

So this morning checked my messages and have 4 messages from 3 different accounts explaining why high verification can be red flags to them.

But yet they will not write here

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By *icecouple561Couple
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7 weeks ago

East Sussex

It depends on the content of the verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

So this morning checked my messages and have 4 messages from 3 different accounts explaining why high verification can be red flags to them.

But yet they will not write here

What on earth was their reasoning?

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By *xxLandNxxxCouple
7 weeks ago

Nuneaton

A few of ours are from people we only spoken to in clubs but we like to display ours and be honest about who we have interacted with , over a four year period I don’t think we have loads but it’s definitely gone a lot quieter on here, We personally don’t mind how many verifications a profile has x

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By *issmorganWoman
7 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

It's not the amount, but the content that would sway me.

For example if they're all over the top very graphic ones, that would put me off.

Or sometimes it's the people leaving the veri that put me off. As an example, years ago there was a woman on here cheating on her husband and having bareback gangbangs. She even posted she caught an sti one day, if I saw a veri from her on any profile, I wouldn't meet them or be interested at all.

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By *ope and fire guyMan
7 weeks ago

MACCLESFIELD

Yeah that's just disgusting. Some people think that's ok and they are being cool or whatever but it's minging. Hopefully her fella found out and ditched the tramp 🦶🏼

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By *ealitybitesMan
7 weeks ago

Belfast

I don't pay any heed to the content of verifications at all because fab is a world of smoke and mirrors.

I'm more interested in who has written then than what they say and numbers are irrelevant.

The only times I've had nasty or abusive messages on here has been from people with 80-100 verifications so they are no guarantee that someone is a decent human being.

I've had 60-70 verifications over the years on different profiles but 90 percent of those have been from socials or a fab walking group I used to be in so people can read what they want into that.

I'd much prefer people made up their own mind about me rather than rely on someone else's opinion.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
7 weeks ago

Stockport

At the organised manchester social , we could come away with 10 or more veri

So there's no definitive number that's too many

In our defence , we would be more worried about a profile with a very by webcam years ago

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