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By *bonyIvory21 OP   Couple
2 weeks ago

harlow

hello everyone. we was chatting away the other night post a naughty weekend away and found ourselves asking the question "are we different as our go to is to play separately". we have been in the lifestyle in one respect or another for the best part of a decade now and have found some absolutely incredible friends in this world. we're so lucky to find our little group but.....always feel like our preference of dynamic is a bit of a stumbling block.

I think as time has gone on and we have felt more comfortable in this naughty world, it just feels more real and intense when it's one-on-one. That doesn't mean we don't enjoy group play, far from it in fact. we have both always just found out truly best experiences in the lifestyle have been where we aren't watching over the other directly. for the record this isn't a "wow, it's hard finding people who want us post" more a sort of, do others look for this and how do they go about searching it out? and just to be clear, we know that just because this is what we look for in a perfect experience, our way isn't best. each to their own and all that, just interested in a bit of a chat about it.

I suppose the question I'm trying to ask is "is there other people/couples who not only play separately but also prefer it,why and most importantly how do you go about finding it?".

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
2 weeks ago

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You're right, Most people are voyeuristic to a point and like to watch but I recon you will still find thousands of couples who play that way more then they play mfmf group play, some people get off on their partner telling them what they got up to, Its just finding the ones you like,

Maybe start a new thread along the lines of Couples who play in separate rooms and see if any of you make a connection as opposed to this thread were a lot of posts will be people giving their reasons of why they do or don't paly like that, Be a interesting read anyway

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By *herrybakewellCouple
2 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We always play separately.....we find it far more sexual.

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By *itty N CremeCouple
2 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire

Hi never tried but that comes with trust with all involved. Not saying it’s something we won’t consider in the future…..

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By *itty N CremeCouple
2 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire

Although it might be fun ‘reclaiming’ one another afterwards

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By *ony MannMan
2 weeks ago

Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Anoover

I have played with couples who must play together and couples who perfer to play in separate rooms.

I met one woman who always played with her man without him. She was a completely different person. For a start she kissed, and that was just the start of her wildness.

It's about the partnership, sometimes they don't trust each other, sometimes they want to be free from each other.

Don't we all change depending who is in the room.

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By *bonyIvory21 OP   Couple
2 weeks ago

harlow

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By *bonyIvory21 OP   Couple
2 weeks ago

harlow


"You're right, Most people are voyeuristic to a point and like to watch but I recon you will still find thousands of couples who play that way more then they play mfmf group play, some people get off on their partner telling them what they got up to, Its just finding the ones you like,

Maybe start a new thread along the lines of Couples who play in separate rooms and see if any of you make a connection as opposed to this thread were a lot of posts will be people giving their reasons of why they do or don't paly like that, Be a interesting read anyway "

thank you for replying. I totally agree in that there is probably lots of other people like us. I think we was more interested in people's thought processes around it as much as just making connections. that being said, your suggestion is definitely something we'll consider

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By *ony MannMan
2 weeks ago

Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Anoover


"Although it might be fun ‘reclaiming’ one another afterwards "

My gf loves me taking her back, and i never leave her with only a memory of other men.

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By *bonyIvory21 OP   Couple
2 weeks ago

harlow


"We always play separately.....we find it far more sexual.

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ohhh this is totally us as well. it hard to describe but I totally get it

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By *itty N CremeCouple
2 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire


"Although it might be fun ‘reclaiming’ one another afterwards

My gf loves me taking her back, and i never leave her with only a memory of other men."

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By *bonyIvory21 OP   Couple
2 weeks ago

harlow


"Although it might be fun ‘reclaiming’ one another afterwards "

honestly that's where the best is.....omg the "your mine" sex when you get back together again is unreal

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By *bonyIvory21 OP   Couple
2 weeks ago

harlow


"I have played with couples who must play together and couples who perfer to play in separate rooms.

I met one woman who always played with her man without him. She was a completely different person. For a start she kissed, and that was just the start of her wildness.

It's about the partnership, sometimes they don't trust each other, sometimes they want to be free from each other.

Don't we all change depending who is in the room."

I guess everyone has there reasons and fantasies. I'm not sure its necessarily about trust all the time but there could be a element of it. I think for most people, they just don't consider it a option when they enter the lifestyle maybe.

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By *itty N CremeCouple
2 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire


"Although it might be fun ‘reclaiming’ one another afterwards

honestly that's where the best is.....omg the "your mine" sex when you get back together again is unreal "

Oooh now this is something we might have to explore in the near future

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By *bonyIvory21 OP   Couple
2 weeks ago

harlow


"Although it might be fun ‘reclaiming’ one another afterwards

honestly that's where the best is.....omg the "your mine" sex when you get back together again is unreal

Oooh now this is something we might have to explore in the near future "

once you step into the dark side..... there's no going back. hehe you will be converted to separate roomers

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By *itty N CremeCouple
2 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire

Thank you for sharing it’s something to definitely consider

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair

This is quite an interesting thread. It's enlightening how, over time, dynamics and interests between couples evolve and change. 🩶

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By *bonyIvory21 OP   Couple
2 weeks ago

harlow


"This is quite an interesting thread. It's enlightening how, over time, dynamics and interests between couples evolve and change. 🩶 "

I definitely agree. our journey has been a lonnnggg series of baby steps. figuring it all out as we go along and making sommany mistakes it's unreal. if our newbie selves could see us now, they wouldn't believe how far we have pushed in terms of boundaries hehe

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By *itty N CremeCouple
2 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire

Well it’s certainly given us another new scenario, hopefully our paths cross at a venue one day x

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