FabSwingers.com forum: Should SE introduce our friend into swinging?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok so we have a male friend. Who effectively started is the whole reason we are on here in the first place we are debating weather or not to introduce him to the scene and let him know what we are getting up to.

This guy the first guy we played with he always a friend of ours coming round often for drinks nearly every weekend. One random night the subject of threesomes come up and we all joked about but at the same time everyone was game. Anyway nothing happens we went to be bed and thought that was the end of it. However next morning after he had gone we chatted about and it got mrs very excited. So we thought next weekend he's round we will go for it. It was fun all loved it and we kept having regular threesomes nearly every weekend with him. However it got to regular and couldn't tell anymore weather he was coming round to be friends or for the fun. It started getting getting a little awkward so we cut him off the fun. Surprisingly we didn't see him for a while.

However mrs was dissapionted as she was enjoying it a lot so we went to the websites to find contacts and that's how basically we got into swinging.

Recantly with have been socialising again with him and its been good rebuilding the old friendship

We been talking about the idea of bringing him to clubs with us and also setting him up on here offering him to couples and ladies who are after reliable single males. We think for the friendship to keep him from having sex with mrs but as the mr doesn't have sex with other ladies only soft swap it might help with meets with full swap couples as well.

What does everythink has anyone else ever introduced a friend to what they get up to on here.

We're are fairly confident we can trust him as know one in a friends group knows what we got up to with him and its been nearly a year.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Really frustrating we can't edit a post after posting apologies for the sloppy tittle error

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really frustrating we can't edit a post after posting apologies for the sloppy tittle error"

I think you answered your own question when you said you had to stop meeting him , we don't mind friends know we swing , but I certainly wouldn't want Paula's or my friends joining in,. How would you feel if he took your wife from you ? And you had to go through the family courts and all the parental alienation crap

As you said when you ended it with you didn't see him for a while and don't want him with her just other people .

Obviously a trust issue has occurred even consciously or sub consciously , for you to be mentioning it here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There's no trust issue with him at all it's the friendship was kinda over shadowed by the fun because it was so regular we were all enjoying it too much.

We are both extremely happy with that fact is was just a sex thing with him and it was fun. But when we were having fun with him all the time we couldn't decide weather it was just that he was after now. Recantly his been come round drinking with us like he was before and he we have simply told him straight it's not going to happan woth her again and he is cool with it.

We know tho there are a few ladies who would eat him alive on here and would be fun to see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We know tho there are a few ladies who would eat him alive on here and would be fun to see

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It's not that easy for single guys to get anywhere here, there's a a lot of competition

If you think he will be successful advise him to join and make his own way .

Just say you arranged to meet us and then said you were bringing your single guy mate but he doesnt play with your mrs and only plays with other peoples mrs along we would cancel , if he turned up with you, we would go for a fag and then just go home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask if he's heard of the site, and what his views are before admitting everything.

He should decide whether its for him or not.

If he knows you swing with other blokes but won't with him he may wonder why. Not a huge confidence booster that one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh of course he will have his own profile. It would be an option offerd we would never just turn up with him. All it is is just an extra option to others of guy we know would be reliable.

He would extremely reliable and get a kick up the ass from us if he wass to ever mess anyone around.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Ask if he's heard of the site, and what his views are before admitting everything.

He should decide whether its for him or not."

Give him info and let him make a decision.

I would also explain to him what you've been able to tell us - the reason why you wanted to stop the threesomes with him. No point giving him false hope by telling him what you get up to but not allowing him to join in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ask if he's heard of the site, and what his views are before admitting everything.

He should decide whether its for him or not.

Give him info and let him make a decision.

Oh yeh defiantly and anyone who knows me and has met us knows I don't beat around the bush with things just say it as it is. We always make what we are looking for clear from the start and the wouldn't be any different with him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ask if he's heard of the site, and what his views are before admitting everything.

He should decide whether its for him or not.

Give him info and let him make a decision.

We do the same no point wasting people's time

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