FabSwingers.com forum: Some manners on here are disgusting

By (user no longer on site) OP
8 weeks ago

Had a single male message me 5 times in a row from a couples account, days between each mail

Profile said they are looking to meet separately so I replied and told them they seem nice and cool but I'm not looking to meet single guys at the moment as it's not what I'm here for.

He replied with "ok someone's jealous !😂"

I relied with "jealous ? Of what ? How would that work ? I'm just not interested in single guys at the moment"

if this is how you speak to people who politely tell you they aren't interested then I feel pretty bad for your partner"

They called me a weirdo and blocked me ?

Is that just standard behaviour for the site ? I'm new to this site and thought people would be abit kinder ?

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By *igfun911Man
8 weeks ago

East Lancashire

Unfortunately the site is full of deluded and rude folk nowadays a lot of who seem to get upset and offensive with a polite no thanks.

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
8 weeks ago

Norwichish

Yep sounds fairly standard.

You’ll soon recognise the kind of profile pics that these messages come from and soon enough you’ll be able to filter most of your inbox just on the basis of the picture.

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By *all69Man
8 weeks ago

chelmsford

I have found most people are polite, just the odd one, all groups and clubs have a bad apple

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By (user no longer on site) OP
8 weeks ago

"Yep sounds fairly standard.

You’ll soon recognise the kind of profile pics that these messages come from and soon enough you’ll be able to filter most of your inbox just on the basis of the picture. "

I thought I had it figured out but this one took me by suprise, they had some glowing reviews too !

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By *erald 1999Man
8 weeks ago

carmarthen

Wished men on here , cos I guess it's nearly always men , would learn some manners and stop being nasty to people , it spoils it for everyone , we are not all rude throwing the toys out the pram members ....keep it real keep it polite

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By *ustus5555Woman
8 weeks ago

Mansfield

"Had a single male message me 5 times in a row from a couples account, days between each mail

Profile said they are looking to meet separately so I replied and told them they seem nice and cool but I'm not looking to meet single guys at the moment as it's not what I'm here for.

He replied with "ok someone's jealous !😂"

I relied with "jealous ? Of what ? How would that work ? I'm just not interested in single guys at the moment"

if this is how you speak to people who politely tell you they aren't interested then I feel pretty bad for your partner"

They called me a weirdo and blocked me ?

Is that just standard behaviour for the site ? I'm new to this site and thought people would be abit kinder ?"

Afraid it is. My guess would be that they also said they were none pushy aswell. Just a guess tho. 🙌

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By *mmaleiaWoman
8 weeks ago

Trowbridge

Oh there’s lots of pushy guys on here, it’s best to not reply or be polite, be brutal & delete or block

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By *ustus5555Woman
8 weeks ago

Mansfield

⬆️ this. X

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

Some guys just can't take no for an answer we have multiple guys we have said sorry not interested and it even states on our profile that no reply is a polite no. Constantly messaging normally starts polite but as soon as you state not interested they get really shitty then a week later are sending back to back to back messages crazy how hungry some people are haha

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By *oughmanMan
8 weeks ago

Sunderland

That's actually quite sad to think there are delusional and just damn right rude people here. They should just except their L's and walk away and if they can't leave the site.

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By *end1Man
8 weeks ago

southend on sea

"Yep sounds fairly standard.

You’ll soon recognise the kind of profile pics that these messages come from and soon enough you’ll be able to filter most of your inbox just on the basis of the picture. Sadly OP this is fairly common and really annoying as there are respectful single guy's on here. it's one of the reasons I no longer message people Now.

I thought I had it figured out but this one took me by suprise, they had some glowing reviews too ! "

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By *reudian_slipsMan
8 weeks ago

Bristol

Some of us are super polite and always fully excepting that we’re not for everyone and lots of guys out there too!

I also get strange or rude messages from men at times sadly…

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

To be fair some of the profiles on here get so many messages they can’t cope and a couple of times I’ve later had an apology saying I should have tried again because they were snowed under. I think though that blokes have to 7nderstand that there are a lot of us on here and it’s just like life in the real World, not everyone is going to like you, indeed the majority won’t fancy you. So guys, suck it up and move on! Politely of course or you’ll ruin it for all of us.

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By *otlovefun42Couple
8 weeks ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

There are a few but from our experience not that many.

Best one we had was a good few years ago. A guy messaged us and we were about to reply when he massaged us again with a full rant about how rude and ignorant we were.

The two messages were a full 5 minutes apart.

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By *essaMayWoman
8 weeks ago

Fairytale Wood

Unfortunately it is endemic of these sites. But most will recount abuse and event threats for a simple no thankyou. Can't point fingers at single guys as they have always been filtered, even as a couple but used to get this a lot from guys of couples. Just over the years get thick skinned, think "whatever" and if they block you "bonus" saves you the effort - best of all they tell you they are blocking you like its some kind punishment for saying no -

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By *andPextraCouple
8 weeks ago

North West

"Unfortunately it is endemic of these sites. But most will recount abuse and event threats for a simple no thankyou. Can't point fingers at single guys as they have always been filtered, even as a couple but used to get this a lot from guys of couples. Just over the years get thick skinned, think "whatever" and if they block you "bonus" saves you the effort - best of all they tell you they are blocking you like its some kind punishment for saying no -

Pretty similar. Had one couple message us like we had won the lottery. They had "selected " us to play with them. I wasn't site if I needed to bow.....

This was despite being outside our age range, smokers and miles away, all easily apparent as a bar if they'd read the profile. When I said a polite no, they went batshit.

Too many people on here think of it like dominos.

Hungry (horny)

Like pizza (like women)

Order pizza (send a message)

Pizza is delivered (of course they will fawn over me)

Eat Pizza (2 second pump and squirt- here you go)

If it doesn't follow that narrative they spit their dummy out.

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By *neeyedwillieMan
8 weeks ago

Darlington

And this is all why I go to the club.

No messaging. Just face to face interactions playing by club rules. No means no. No harassing people. No following them about.

If im wanted..great. if im not, I'll go where I am wanted. Most are polite about it ergo: No fuss. No bother. No ones upset....for the most part.

I'll never understand why some people will go out of their way to try and convince others to change their mind.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
8 weeks ago

Staffordshire

I'm sure we all get replies I've this to try and entice a conversation in a hope that they get what they want.

Our advice.....don't take the bait.

If they aren't what you're looking for, as harsh as it sounds....block.

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By *econdtimelucky101Man
8 weeks ago

Oldbury

It's a shame but some people struggle with a simple no thank you.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
8 weeks ago

Cheshire

Over the years I have been ‘told off’ for not meeting some guy. I’d get a message and tell them I’m not meeting currently only to receive a reply demanding to know why I’m on the site then ? I used to reply to them but now I don’t bother and just block.

The other types are when they ask to meet, generally I’ll be polite and refuse nicely. Only to be asked why ? I think some guys just assume all the Tgirls on the site will meet anyone, as if we have absolutely no standards.

It takes me over 2 hours to get ready for a meet but it appears I should meet a guy for a 5 minute BJ at midnight when his wife’s asleep.

#nothappening

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By *usty kayCouple
8 weeks ago

Burnham

I got blocked today.

First message asked if I'm still not meeting. I replied no sorry. He replied with something but I had already logged off. An hour later he messaged again with 'lol'. When I logged back in 2 hours later I went to reply to find myself blocked.

I can only assume he took offence to me not being at his beck and call and decided to not waste his time. He saved me the trouble of wasting mine.

Years ago something like that would have quite upset me and I would have taken personally/thought I should have done something differently. Now I know it's just natural selection doing it's work.

A few years on here and you will be so used to this behaviour you'll forget to even think about it

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By *ire_thornMan
8 weeks ago

no comment

If I don't get a response I take the hint and move on.. how hard is that

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

I posted on the forum just now "chaps let's try harder" I got so much grief!

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By *eturn of curiouscpleCouple
8 weeks ago

Guildford

Wide range of personality types goes with this type of site.

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By *piritualBlackBWW1979Woman
8 weeks ago

Medway

Pretty similar. Had one couple message us like we had won the lottery. They had "selected " us to play with them. I wasn't site if I needed to bow.....

This was despite being outside our age range, smokers and miles away, all easily apparent as a bar if they'd read the profile. When I said a polite no, they went batshit.

Too many people on here think of it like dominos.

Hungry (horny)

Like pizza (like women)

Order pizza (send a message)

Pizza is delivered (of course they will fawn over me)

Eat Pizza (2 second pump and squirt- here you go)

If it doesn't follow that narrative they spit their dummy out. "

This is brilliant!

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By *piritualBlackBWW1979Woman
8 weeks ago

Medway

"Over the years I have been ‘told off’ for not meeting some guy. I’d get a message and tell them I’m not meeting currently only to receive a reply demanding to know why I’m on the site then ? I used to reply to them but now I don’t bother and just block.

It takes me over 2 hours to get ready for a meet but it appears I should meet a guy for a 5 minute BJ at midnight when his wife’s asleep.

#nothappening

It's so insulting, isn't it?

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By *eo BillsMan
8 weeks ago

Westcliff On Sea

Manners cost nothing!

If you can’t hold a conversation with someone how the hell do you think you will be having sex with them?

If people can’t handle rejection then they are on the wrong site!

If someone says No thanks! Then just move on….

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By *eyond PurityCouple
8 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

We are the hottest profile ever until we say no

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
8 weeks ago

Bolton

"Oh there’s lots of pushy guys on here, it’s best to not reply or be polite, be brutal & delete or block"

I like your style x

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By *uri00620Woman
8 weeks ago

Croydon

"Yep sounds fairly standard.

You’ll soon recognise the kind of profile pics that these messages come from and soon enough you’ll be able to filter most of your inbox just on the basis of the picture.

I thought I had it figured out but this one took me by suprise, they had some glowing reviews too ! "

Glowing reviews unfortunately don't necessarily mean much. There's many a fake verification. I've had people verify me and I've never even spoken to them!

I can't delete so just hide them.

Then there's the people who actively ask for verifications in DMs...

However, the good people outweigh the not so good!

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By *pinningfasterWoman
8 weeks ago

Birmingham

The amount of people I have blocked on here for just being weird and rude is unbelievable. If you wouldn't talk to someone like it irl, why on earth would you on here?!

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