FabSwingers.com forum: Instant fab turn offs -what's yours ?

By *andPextra OP Couple
8 weeks ago

North West

From a contact I had this morning

Got me thinking about my pet peeves on here

Seems I have quite a list.

Anyone describing themselves as a "viking"

Anyone referencing Christian Grey (exceptions will be made for bona fide billionaires with a red room, I'm interested....)

Pussy in the same sentence as smashed, ruined, destroyed, etc

Excessive use of the word "slut"

The Sydney university bollocks

Extra brownie points for "legal action will be taken" (I'm guessing most don't have a solicitor, barrister, and endless litigation budget to hand....)

Plus the general poor grammar, poor photos, one line profiles.

Rant over.

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

It's just a swingers site lol

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By *dswingersCouple
8 weeks ago

chelmsford

one liners

i’m so going to smash your pussy to bits on opening message without a hello 😂

no profile pics

friend requests without even a message

you ain’t had the best cock in town yet…

k x

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By *andPextra OP Couple
8 weeks ago

North West

"It's just a swingers site lol"

That it is. With very, very, very many unsuccessful individuals on it. Possibly due to annoying people to the point they wont engage with them?

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By *aughtyloversCouple
8 weeks ago

Hull

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

OP - I’m intrigued by your comment “excessive use of the word slut” in my opinion, there’s no room for the word slut in opening messages or any unless the lady indicates she likes that.

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

"It's just a swingers site lol

That it is. With very, very, very many unsuccessful individuals on it. Possibly due to annoying people to the point they wont engage with them?

Hahahahaha your sassy to say your 50s

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By *inks_n_GigglesMan
8 weeks ago

Basingstoke

BLOCK CAPITAL RANTS

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By *eyeYCouple
8 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

OP, we feel you have been very restrained in your rant.. We'd add but don't have enough time this month 🤔😉😘

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By *heWanderer100Man
8 weeks ago

benfleet

Personally, I don’t have many apart from people describing themselves as owned. As far as I’m aware, it isn’t legal to own another person. I understand that some people sub themselves to others, but owned?? Not for me thanks.

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By *ositiveVibesWoman
8 weeks ago

here there and everywhere

“Hey, I just saw you guys…” copy and pastes… if you can take time to message, take time to actually write a message for ME, not a random shit c+p

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

Insert the word ‘(insert word here’) in your message

Seriously?

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By *rdere OpusCouple
8 weeks ago

Brum - ish

"It's just a swingers site lol"

Absolutely. Just a site allowing people to develop friendships and join communities of likeminded people, some of whom they may go on to have sex with.

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By *inks_n_GigglesMan
8 weeks ago

Basingstoke

"Insert the word ‘(insert word here’) in your message

Seriously? "

To be fair it's the only insertion alot of guys get on fab!

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By *enelope2UWoman
8 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

I've always wanted to try a black chick...as if I'm a carnival ride handing out iced lollies..

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By *rdere OpusCouple
8 weeks ago

Brum - ish

Anything very graphic e.g. cum oozing out of orifices.

Messy, dirty backgrounds in photos.

Graphic requests from the off of the type ‘can I fuck the Mr up the arse with a whisk while dressed as Buzz Lightyear and singing the Greek national anthem’ (not an actual example).

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By *hoice-DuoCouple
8 weeks ago

Bristol

Three biggies:

Guys with Straight profiles insisting they’re bisexual, but too afraid to put it on their profile cos, I dunno, biphobic people won’t shag them, huh..?! That’s a good thing!

Alpha shit (misogynistic language, etc.)

Not reading profile

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By *hoice-DuoCouple
8 weeks ago

Bristol

Oh, of course, casual racism & race-fetishism or essentialism dresses up as ‘preference’

General biphobia.

There’s good stuff too, of course hahahaha

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By *andPextra OP Couple
8 weeks ago

North West

"OP - I’m intrigued by your comment “excessive use of the word slut” in my opinion, there’s no room for the word slut in opening messages or any unless the lady indicates she likes that. "

What i meant. Some people are fine with the word, so if someone is responding to a profile that uses it each to their own.

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By *andPextra OP Couple
8 weeks ago

North West

"It's just a swingers site lol

That it is. With very, very, very many unsuccessful individuals on it. Possibly due to annoying people to the point they wont engage with them?

Hahahahaha your sassy to say your 50s"

Maths clearly not your forte

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By *eckard25Man
8 weeks ago

North West Durham

"Nice cock mate" although I do appreciate the compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

"It's just a swingers site lol

Absolutely. Just a site allowing people to develop friendships and join communities of likeminded people, some of whom they may go on to have sex with. "

Each to there own

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By *andPextra OP Couple
8 weeks ago

North West

"OP, we feel you have been very restrained in your rant.. We'd add but don't have enough time this month 🤔😉😘"

I was only miffed this morning,I didn’t get to peeved, never mind murderous. Hence the modicum of restraint in my list….

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

"It's just a swingers site lol

That it is. With very, very, very many unsuccessful individuals on it. Possibly due to annoying people to the point they wont engage with them?

Hahahahaha your sassy to say your 50s

Maths clearly not your forte

Wow hahahahaha I'm 36 not 15 lol

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By *rdere OpusCouple
8 weeks ago

Brum - ish

"It's just a swingers site lol

Absolutely. Just a site allowing people to develop friendships and join communities of likeminded people, some of whom they may go on to have sex with.

Each to there own

Exactly. Kind of negates your original point, right?

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By *ue and robCouple
8 weeks ago

ware

Messages that clearly show they haven't read our profile

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

BBC only

Rules me out I watch Sky and ITV Be some afternoons

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

"It's just a swingers site lol

Absolutely. Just a site allowing people to develop friendships and join communities of likeminded people, some of whom they may go on to have sex with.

Each to there own

Exactly. Kind of negates your original point, right? "

Does it??? Is it still on a swingers fone app???

I get that fab is people's life's the way you act!!! But to some its just passes time!!!

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By *ustus5555Woman
8 weeks ago

Mansfield

Inane useless messages.

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By *orflondonerMan
8 weeks ago

Wood Green

" Will fill in later",written on the profile, 2 years on,still the same

Professionals only,not sure what that even means unless they are looking for sex workers.

People sending a message requiring info,then don't even read your reply.

People on the "ask in private,answer in public" threads that join,but don't answer your questions

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By *orflondonerMan
8 weeks ago

Wood Green

"" Will fill in later",written on the profile, 2 years on,still the same

Professionals only,not sure what that even means unless they are looking for sex workers.

People sending a message requiring info,then don't even read your reply.

People on the "ask in private,answer in public" threads that join,but don't answer your questions

Probably more of piss offs ,than turn offs.

Maybe I should start my own thread

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

Long ranting profiles

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By *andPextra OP Couple
8 weeks ago

North West

"" Will fill in later",written on the profile, 2 years on,still the same

Professionals only,not sure what that even means unless they are looking for sex workers.

People sending a message requiring info,then don't even read your reply.

People on the "ask in private,answer in public" threads that join,but don't answer your questions

Probably more of piss offs ,than turn offs.

Maybe I should start my own thread

Don't ask me a question on it if you do, I won't be arsed replying

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By *orflondonerMan
8 weeks ago

Wood Green

"" Will fill in later",written on the profile, 2 years on,still the same

Professionals only,not sure what that even means unless they are looking for sex workers.

People sending a message requiring info,then don't even read your reply.

People on the "ask in private,answer in public" threads that join,but don't answer your questions

Probably more of piss offs ,than turn offs.

Maybe I should start my own thread

Don't ask me a question on it if you do, I won't be arsed replying

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By *uffsandkinkCouple
8 weeks ago

leeds

The Background of pics that make it look like they live in a crack den.

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By *oughty boyMan
8 weeks ago

Consett

Good rant. Everything you say is valid.

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By *rdere OpusCouple
8 weeks ago

Brum - ish

"It's just a swingers site lol

Absolutely. Just a site allowing people to develop friendships and join communities of likeminded people, some of whom they may go on to have sex with.

Each to there own

Exactly. Kind of negates your original point, right?

Does it??? Is it still on a swingers fone app???

I get that fab is people's life's the way you act!!! But to some its just passes time!!!"

Odd response.

You were ridiculing the OP’s listed turn offs on a swinging site. I was saying some people choose to use it for more than hook ups. You said each to their own - I agreed and I’m pointing out the irony of laughing at someone having turn offs on a swinging site then saying each to their own.

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By *IRTYPERVEMan
8 weeks ago

NEWTON ABBOT

Root vegetables

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By *lue Eyed JokerMan
8 weeks ago

Always on the move

"Will fill in later" when they've been here for 7 years

Or "looking for the exceptional only"

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By *rKC92Man
8 weeks ago

St Helens

Anytime a woman says they're looking for big "willys" I physically recoil in disgust. We're adults, don't use something so childish! Use cock, dick, penis, anything but willy!

Also profiles looking for "a true Dom/alpha, I'll know if you are", they usually belong to people who can barely carry a conversation and then complain they have their time wasted.

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

"It's just a swingers site lol

Absolutely. Just a site allowing people to develop friendships and join communities of likeminded people, some of whom they may go on to have sex with.

Each to there own

Exactly. Kind of negates your original point, right?

Does it??? Is it still on a swingers fone app???

I get that fab is people's life's the way you act!!! But to some its just passes time!!!

Odd response.

Like I just stated I use this for fun to pass time!!!

the day I need to make a forum pointing out everything I hate is the day I need to leave!!

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By *andPextra OP Couple
8 weeks ago

North West

"The Background of pics that make it look like they live in a crack den."

Definitely this. Whilst I have never been in a crack den (nearest I’ve got is probably my teenage godsons bedroom) I have no desire to imagine if a photo is an accurate representation of one. How hard is it to angle a camera to avoid the mess????

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By *andPextra OP Couple
8 weeks ago

North West

""Will fill in later" when they've been here for 7 years

Or "looking for the exceptional only" "

Agreed re “fill in later.”

I’ll reciprocate.

And respond later.

Very much later.

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By *rorangeukMan
8 weeks ago

Southport

"Not my hubby", once you've seen it a 100 times, it seems to lose effect.

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By *xstaceyxxTV/TS
8 weeks ago

longeaton,ng10

Hairy willy's massive turn off for me.

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By *etitehotwife4uCouple
8 weeks ago

wirral

Hard on pictures over the toilet after the guy has obviously just been for a number 2 first. Urggghhh

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By *etsbenaughty69Couple
8 weeks ago

somewhere

Friends request straight away or even after a few messages.. so annoying..

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By *herrybakewellCouple
8 weeks ago

Staffordshire

One word messages. If that's all you can manage, don't bother.

Graphic profile pictures.....we know what a dick looks like.

I will leave you ruined and words to that effect.

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
8 weeks ago

Around the Midlands

Sky remote/lynx can

"We won't reply if you don't have face pics on your profile" (yet they have none)

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By *issmorganWoman
8 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Wuu2?

You free now?

What size?

Those profiles that have no public pics, but ask me for more pics.

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By *ympho6969Woman
8 weeks ago

glasgow

Poor grammar or short text speech. I can live with the odd typo cos autocorrect can be hell.

Those who clearly copy and paste messages to the masses.

Asking for photos and videos or friends requests. There are plenty publicly available and you likely only have 2. I also don't cam or take videos, which is clearly on my profile but some think they'll be the exception.

Dick pics in first messages.

Scenario dumping in first messages

The usual, I love giving oral, want nothing in return yada yada.

Spamming message after message when you politely bow out or when they've never even had a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

"From a contact I had this morning

Got me thinking about my pet peeves on here

Seems I have quite a list.

Anyone describing themselves as a "viking"

Anyone referencing Christian Grey (exceptions will be made for bona fide billionaires with a red room, I'm interested....)

Pussy in the same sentence as smashed, ruined, destroyed, etc

Excessive use of the word "slut"

The Sydney university bollocks

Extra brownie points for "legal action will be taken" (I'm guessing most don't have a solicitor, barrister, and endless litigation budget to hand....)

Plus the general poor grammar, poor photos, one line profiles.

Rant over.

Can I add

Free now?

Near you.

What I would do to you

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

"Wuu2?

You free now?

What size?

Those profiles that have no public pics, but ask me for more pics. "

Oh my god yes. I had a well verified couple demand pics. They had 2 we had 30 on our couples profile 🤣

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By *endalshaggersCouple
8 weeks ago

Lake District

Oof, there's a hugely long list, we'll be here all night.

Our current "favourite" is the profiles where every photo and or public videos is blurred beyond belief to hide faces - which we get, some just go so overboard it actually is overkill - and their profile is the usual "no face pics till we see yours" yadda yadda.

Had three of these type of profiles message today, and one had the cheek to say that we don't have enough content on here to see what our bodies look like! Aye, and that silhouette is you is it!?!?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
8 weeks ago

Central

Asking for an endless supply of intimate pics and videos

Posting antivax shite

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

One that I actually find the worst is men's profiles with only random women in the pic. You can maybe see guys pinky in one picture

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By *utterflyandArtificeCouple
8 weeks ago

Trowbridge

BLOCK CAPITAL RANTS "

Deaf now!

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By *olliecolcolMan
8 weeks ago

Portsmouth/New Milton

Pushy men I'm bi not yours ...

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By *oupleLookingToExploreCouple
8 weeks ago

Liverpool

"Anything very graphic e.g. cum oozing out of orifices.

Messy, dirty backgrounds in photos.

Graphic requests from the off of the type ‘can I fuck the Mr up the arse with a whisk while dressed as Buzz Lightyear and singing the Greek national anthem’ (not an actual example). "

Always check out the surrounding in pics. Messy and dirty- defo off putting! Feel like it shows character x

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By *J_OuizziCouple
8 weeks ago

Nottingham

Can agree with so many of these.

For us the following raise a (red) flag:

Reference to alpha or viking

Profile consisting purely of dick pics

Dick pics with a toilet in the background

Couples profiles where there are no pictures of him

No (insert ethnic minority), not racist, just our preference.

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By *issmorganWoman
8 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Just to add, any creepy messages off the back of a forum post, that they've not taken part in.

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By *tarcrossed_SwingersCouple
8 weeks ago

Loughborough

Where to start!

With guys, a profile with dick pics as the main photos! Also not a fan of verifications shared that are like a written novel describing the act!

And anything unneededly stretched open so you can see organs!

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By *iss KinkWoman
8 weeks ago

North West

Telling me what they are going to do to me

Assuming I’m sub

Asking what I’m doing

Not reading my profile

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By *ergus1622Man
8 weeks ago

Dundee

Not even getting a no thanks back after a message.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
8 weeks ago

Home

The term daddy

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By *ubslut36FWoman
8 weeks ago

Woodley

Friend requests without even a message.

Saying "I'm local, wanna fcuk?"

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By *kus2Couple
8 weeks ago

west malling

"From a contact I had this morning

Got me thinking about my pet peeves on here

Seems I have quite a list.

Anyone describing themselves as a "viking"

Anyone referencing Christian Grey (exceptions will be made for bona fide billionaires with a red room, I'm interested....)

Pussy in the same sentence as smashed, ruined, destroyed, etc

Excessive use of the word "slut"

The Sydney university bollocks

Extra brownie points for "legal action will be taken" (I'm guessing most don't have a solicitor, barrister, and endless litigation budget to hand....)

Plus the general poor grammar, poor photos, one line profiles.

Rant over.

More of a saxon myself.... bugger, just got something in my eye....

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