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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have always enjoyed anal in all my previous relationships and never experienced any pain. However I was with someone about a year and a half ago and he took me roughly when I was not ready and it was EXTREMELY painful. Ever since then anal has caused me pain to the point where I can't do it most of the time. I'm guessing this is probably because I can't relax properly anymore but I'm not quite sure how to overcome this. I was thinking of trying a desensitising lube, but I've read some things suggesting they are bad to use. Does anyone have any suggestions? It's something I use to enjoy and really hit that kink spot for me. Thanks for any help x

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

With ordinary lube, you can stop play if it feels too uncomfortable this preventing any tearing and subsequent pain. Desensitising lube may prevent that which is why people say it's not good to use - especially in your case where you might be tensing up so further risking small tears.

How about buying a very small 'finger' type vibe then, lubing it up, use it yourself just to reintroduce the idea of being penetrated? Then maybe let a partner do it.

Perhaps some finger play may help relax you and then when you're horny, relaxed and ready, a very gentle reintroduction of anal with a well lubed cock.

With the right, sensitive approach, you'll soon be enjoying full-on anal again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the reply, and yes, I kinda thought that myself however I can take a finger or two just fine, but when it comes to cock I just get extreme pain. I'm guessing maybe I need someone who will go a bit slow and really take his time to help me with this. Any other suggestions?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

go to sex shop they got stuff u can smell it makes u relax n enjoy it more x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

plenty of lube and open yourself up with a vibrator or butt plug easing it in gently a bit at a time until you can take it then work it in and out until it feels comfortable,always works for me before a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the reply, and yes, I kinda thought that myself however I can take a finger or two just fine, but when it comes to cock I just get extreme pain. I'm guessing maybe I need someone who will go a bit slow and really take his time to help me with this. Any other suggestions?"

Try smaller cocks too

Not joking I can't take anything bigger than 5 inches in my ass or anything too wide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yea if u want anal u should enjoy it if its to big for u theres no point x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the reply, and yes, I kinda thought that myself however I can take a finger or two just fine, but when it comes to cock I just get extreme pain. I'm guessing maybe I need someone who will go a bit slow and really take his time to help me with this. Any other suggestions?"

Its always best to begin with a good douche, not only for hygiene but also to clean off the inner anus and reduce friction. Always being sure to use plenty of lube, you can start with your fingers or use a dildo, the key is to take it easy and let yourself relax - hammering away immediately is a sure fire way to hurt yourself, so start off with gentle, shallow thrusts, stopping completely if you need to, and eventually you should find that you can slide in and out with very little discomfort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also try different positions as we find spoons is best and other positions can hurt at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly, have you been to the doctors since that incident and checked that he didn't do you some permanent damage? Just a thought.

Then tbh I'd make sure you're doing it with someone you're really comfortable with, and you can relax totally with. plenty of lube, start with fingers or small toys and take time to build up to it. You can always try poppers too for the moment of penetration which will relax you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firstly, have you been to the doctors since that incident and checked that he didn't do you some permanent damage? Just a thought."

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"Firstly, have you been to the doctors since that incident and checked that he didn't do you some permanent damage? Just a thought.

Then tbh I'd make sure you're doing it with someone you're really comfortable with, and you can relax totally with. plenty of lube, start with fingers or small toys and take time to build up to it. You can always try poppers too for the moment of penetration which will relax you.

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Checked then someone you tust...

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By *xonswingersCouple
over a year ago

Close to Oxford

Treat yourself to an Anal Dilator set. They are a set of different sized Butt Plugs that you use to exercise your bottom to take things. The good thing about them is that you can pop in a small plug (using lots of good quality lube (not ones with smells or flavours) and just sit in front of the telly with it. After a few days you can move up to the next one and so on until you are feeling at a comfortable point. Then you can go back to anal play all relaxed and ready to go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"go to sex shop they got stuff u can smell it makes u relax n enjoy it more x"

Chloroform ???

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had the same as u ..... It put off completely , but with gentle fingers , lots if lube , and using butt plugs regularly ... A very gentle partner has eased me bck to lovibg without pain ! I my ass belongs to him for his efforts 'lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a friend who's ex husband used forced anal sex as a punishment.

As you'd expect, she has no interest in it now despite being very sexually adventurous.

Her ex needed dry-holing with a pineapple!

XXXX

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