FabSwingers.com forum: Working on profile

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was reading the perfect email thread and it gives some really good advice. However, now i've got the old who looked at my profile thingy, i can see that most of the people have emailed have been nice enough to have a look at my profile, but haven't responded to my email. Not even a no thanks.

Now i'm sure my profile isn't that offensive, but i'd love to get some suggestions on what people think makes a good profile, or even some suggestions on the one i've got at the moment. Cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best suggestion I can give is no reply = no thanks, so try to get your head round that and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes. I get that. But what i want to work out is why i get so many no replys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your messages are basically unsolicited mail. If you were to conduct a job search you would be punting out your CV to as many potential employers as possible. If 5% replied it would be a good result. Your swing search is no different. No it doesn't take long to say no thanks but it does take time and when you have to do it 10 times over it becomes a significant amount of time.

Any good salesman will tell you that the key is to keep positive for the one real prospect in a sea of rejection. Dont take it personally and move on. If your ego is that fragile though maybe swinging as a single isnt for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I appreciate your points, but i am very careful about who i send messages to. I never message couples unless they are looking for single males or are within an hours travelling time.

Secondly this is not a winge about people not replying. If i got inundated with messages by messages every day, i would just not reply to the ones i wasn't interested in. What this post was meant for was to help me and hopefully others promote themselves effectively, by making profiles as good as possible.

And just because i'm new to this site, doesn't mean i'm new to swinging. So i think i know if it's for me or not by now

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Secondrow Have a little look at others profiles to see if theres any that have really good ideas that you could adapt to your own

You know what you like to see on a profile that attracts you and you know what puts you off lol

I just think it can be really hard work for a single guy on here and as you're not new to this I bet you know exactly whats its like!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. I get that. But what i want to work out is why i get so many no replys"

The answer to that is you are a single male.

I personally think that single males get a rough deal.

Thing is though in this case many spoil it for the few.

What i mean by that is the amount of e mail we get off single males is amazing, and the trouble with most is they are one liners, ie "you look good want a fuck etc". Now i know you are not all the same, as I myself swung as a single for years before I met Les(seven years ago). But please realise that a lot of single males on all sites are not pleasant people, and the couples get pissed off.

We always reply to well written, well thought out e mails even though its a maybe or sorry.(Also helps sometimes if we like the guy, and he can accommodate or meet at clubs, because we cant accommodate at the moment)And he is local, not From the other side of the planet lol!

We know quite a few single males we have met over the years on sites and at clubs, and our phones are full of their numbers lol

So as you can imagine fitting everyone in is difficult, we do have lives outside swinging too.

We as a couple swing perhaps eight to ten times a month and some of those are at clubs or private parties which as you can imagine leaves little time to meet everyone lol.

As for your profile its fine, unlike some i have read ie "will fill in later"

And you have photos, not just of your cock lol (les often says to me we have had a mail off a single guy, and guess what he has a cock pmsl) Remember there are couples joining all the time so keep on trying.

Be nice in your emails and most of all be honest ie if you are married then say so etc.

If you can make it to clubs this is also a good way to meet,dont expect a shag just mingle and be yourself get yourself noticed and then things will start to happen.

Good luck in your search and dont be put off, after all a lot of couples want and like single males there is just not enough time sometimes lol

Craig x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your a single guy and there are squillions of them to choose from, no offence, but a single guy needs to try 1000 time harder than a single fem or a couple

It's just the way things are, one of those annoying facts of life just like toast always falls to the ground with the sticky side down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We looked and your straight and dont smoke nothing wrong with that just not for us and thats how it is. Nothing wrong with your profile. Just be patient

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

To be able to please everyone that looks at your profile we would all have to be the same person.

You just have to hope that someone you mail will like the impression you are giving out.

For us, we don't need an essay on a profile, a brief outline of what you are after is a good start. A bit of humour always makes a good impression with us too.

Now to your profile, hopefully you taking it as just our opinion....but some of it sounds like a whinge, and that is the biggest turn off for us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks to all of you who have offered some advice. I'll be making a few minor changes. Thanks also to all the people who sent me some suggestions in private. I genuinely appreciate the feedback.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I've just overhauled my description and it's honest and (I think) to the point. I'd really welcome any critique from men, women or couples.

I am not putting a face pic on my profile only because I'm a single dad and if my ex got to know about this then I'd probably get my access yanked and can't risk that (but always send a face pic with a message).

My question is really to the ladies and couples; when you get a message from a guy, do you read the message and decide on that... or do you click to look at his profile?

I only message folks I think are sexy and within realistic distance (unless it's for another reason like a compliment or to share some information). So I hope that my messages are treated as genuine... but you never know, do you?

Thanks for letting me butt in, interesting topic from the OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. I get that. But what i want to work out is why i get so many no replys"

Can't understand why you don't get replies, but then I am biased because I think you are gorgeous. Probably not to everyone's taste, like all of us, or maybe you wrote to people who don't meet single guys but didn't notice that part of their profile preferences.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

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Thanks for being honest as to why you have not put your face pic on ..its one reason i have never thought of ..a lot of posters criticise singles who do not have pics and yours is a really good reason ,it might be useful to put that in your profile .

all the best and good luck

MR X

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Well I've just overhauled my description and it's honest and (I think) to the point. I'd really welcome any critique from men, women or couples.

My question is really to the ladies and couples; when you get a message from a guy, do you read the message and decide on that... or do you click to look at his profile?

Thanks for letting me butt in, interesting topic from the OP.

For us ( I am guessing most people would )we read the message and always read the profile, then decide from there wether to add to MSN for a chat to see if we all match.

The advice of putting a reason why you only want to show pictures in private is a good one, and I see you have already done it on your profile.

I think you can tell by the way people take on board advice when asked for how that person will fit in.

The two men who have asked on this thread seem to be doing it the right way to me , good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Helpful stuff guys, thanks for taking the time to comment... and apologies for thread hijack to OP

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By *teve_SoleilCouple
over a year ago

Malaysia

Single guys profile really have to appeal to the general swinging society...to get more replies...So for us...we really like to see their flesh...:D...and in the profile part...show that you have something different to offer (if you have any)...and some essential info ( we would consider) like if you are cut or uncut...and if you have any experiences or zero experiences....

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