FabSwingers.com forum: How to convince wife

By *orny salesman OP Man
10 weeks ago

Preston

We have discussed it several times she sometimes seems keen when we are in the moment but then gets cold feet about it l would love to see another guy fuck her how do l convince her to do it

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By *ookingforfun73Man
10 weeks ago

Crewe

Me and my wife would chat about it, she would tell me about guys who had fucked her before we met I liked that but that's about as far as it got, she would wank me off while telling me

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By *etro1940sCouple
10 weeks ago

Kingston upon Thames

You never "convince" a wife .. you entice, inform, advise, encourage and invite her to join this scene xxx Anne

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
10 weeks ago

Middle England

In honesty this is about you. Reading between the lines I'd say your wife is not interested.

But if you still think it's a good idea; why not give her a gentle introduction to the lifestyle. Show her your profile. You've been on here a year had meets etc.

Be honest, upfront with her and take it from there.

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By *llGoodFun76Couple
10 weeks ago

Angus

It took me ages to eventually commit to it, don't rush her just be patient and support each other, it's a big step xx

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Get her involved and set a couples profile up

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By *ickedwillyCouple
10 weeks ago

Bangor

Good commutation and take your time.

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By *uzanne and RickyCouple
10 weeks ago

Midlothian

It’s not for everyone and I’m sure you’d respect that. I shared a gf more than 30 years ago and since tried to get every gf to do the same. Some jumped at the chance. Some seemed interested but couldn’t actually commit to taking two cocks. Some absolutely loved it, and that was amazing when it happened. I always started with MFM porn then getting her to suck me as I used a toy on her and ask if she’d like that. Over time ask what she’d like or even who. Maybe a guy at work or an ex. This is where the jealousy comes in and if you’re not 100% comfortable then the cracks in your relationship will show. Be careful what you wish for too. Some things are best left as fantasies. Good luck.

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By *ony 529Man
10 weeks ago

coventry

"We have discussed it several times she sometimes seems keen when we are in the moment but then gets cold feet about it l would love to see another guy fuck her how do l convince her to do it "
. I know that feeling. … and I am reading all the good advice on here with interest. .. And this isn’t about me I am who I am. I just want my wife to enjoy something I can’t give her so that would be my pleasure seeing her pleasured.

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By *orny salesman OP Man
10 weeks ago

Preston

"It took me ages to eventually commit to it, don't rush her just be patient and support each other, it's a big step xx"

She has appeared interested a few times when we are saving Dex chatted on holiday after a few drinks etc but never keen in cold light of day

What was your first meet like

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
10 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

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By *uzanne and RickyCouple
10 weeks ago

Midlothian

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By *uzanne and RickyCouple
10 weeks ago

Midlothian

Probably best eh!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
10 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"Probably best eh! "

What is probably best ?

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
10 weeks ago

Wherever

If she’s ill health she’s having probably different priorities and so should you.

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By *orny salesman OP Man
10 weeks ago

Preston

"If she’s ill health she’s having probably different priorities and so should you."

Health not as much of an issue now she suffers with arthritis but thankfully change of meds she in less pain now battling menopause as well though which is probably worse

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By *ake and BeckyCouple
10 weeks ago

Gravesend

"It’s not for everyone and I’m sure you’d respect that. I shared a gf more than 30 years ago and since tried to get every gf to do the same. Some jumped at the chance. Some seemed interested but couldn’t actually commit to taking two cocks. Some absolutely loved it, and that was amazing when it happened. I always started with MFM porn then getting her to suck me as I used a toy on her and ask if she’d like that. Over time ask what she’d like or even who. Maybe a guy at work or an ex. This is where the jealousy comes in and if you’re not 100% comfortable then the cracks in your relationship will show. Be careful what you wish for too. Some things are best left as fantasies. Good luck. "

I wish we could 'like' or 'up-vote' comments!

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By *ony MannMan
10 weeks ago

Lagos, Portugal// Andover

There is a lot in the head of men and women when a partner suggests swinging.

Why does my partner want that

Does it devalue our relationship

Do I want to fuck just anyone

Do I want my partner to fuck anyone

What will others think of me

That's just a few. There are many more. The most anyone should to is say, "This is what I would like, but it's up to you." You could then give opportunities, suggest they chat to other swingers, I'm not sure joining here as a couple is a good idea for those thinking about it. Far to many treating it as a sex shop fantasy.

There are those out there who would love to help on the journey, I have helped a few couples, it can be rewarding.

I was lucky I met at a club.

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
10 weeks ago

Leeds

Don't.

Swinging requires trust and communication, you don't have either, you are trying to get her to do this for your own gratification not hers.

You clearly think little of her, so leave her be.

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By *ouple4voyeurCouple
10 weeks ago

Birmingham

Sounds like she likes the fantasy. Sometimes fantasies are best left as fantasies.

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By *eeshellsCouple
10 weeks ago

Reading

Heshells put the podcast "We've gotta thing" on in the car. The first few episodes took Sheshells over the final line...

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By *ancs married coupleCouple
10 weeks ago

Silverdale

We role played many times her being with another man. She wasn't keen on having another man in reality but liked the idea of the role play.

She started to get really into it and eventually it was her that said she wanted to fuck another man in real life. She did a few weeks ago and we loved it!

Having said that, if she didn't like the idea or didn't want to full stop then I wouldn't have pushed it and would have left it as a fantasy. Role playing is a safe way to see if she/ you like the idea...

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By *rpeggioCouple
10 weeks ago

Baughurst

"You never "convince" a wife .. you entice, inform, advise, encourage and invite her to join this scene xxx Anne "

Very well said.

The way I see it, it's her consent, so it's ok for you to keep raising it, but she must be the one feeling in control of saying yes or no, at all times.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
10 weeks ago

East Sussex

She doesn't want to do it. Talk to her and try to find ways to spice up your sex life you'll both enjoy

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