FabSwingers.com forum: Hypocrisy

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People claiming they only meet for social drinks first… but get railed same day these men/women fitting their type messages them… site’s turning into a real silly game now

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
2 weeks ago

There and Here

Surely what individual people do is totally up to them?

Perhaps as a general rule they do prefer to meet people socially first.

Regardless, what others do, with whom, and why, really isn't anyone's business except those directly involved

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

I think the initial hurdle of meeting someone from here is easier to overcome if you do it in a social setting first. That way you can tell if there is that in person attraction (and can tell if you have been catfished or not).

I see a lot of verifications on profiles that say they met for a social and then things progressed and they had some fun which I think is fine, and I am happy to do that myself. But equally if someone is in the mood for some fun and they wanted to meet someone, they should be able to do that. It’s kind of what this site is for anyway. You’ve just got to play the game and find the right people for you.

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By *oveToPlay.Couple
2 weeks ago

Yorkshire

Some people like to say they are only meeting for socials first as that is their intention but then chemistry and sparks fly and they realise they are a perfect match - yay 🥳

I think the biggest question here is - why are you so bothered OP ?

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By *ustAnotherMan
2 weeks ago

Mids

Ego?

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By *eekySweetheartWoman
2 weeks ago

Hampshire

I have this on my profile as its a easy get out if the vibe isn't right or they aren't lime their profile... if all is good after a drink I'm more than happy to move it on to something more fun😈 I abandoned my drink midway through the other day as he was so hot!

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By *eekySweetheartWoman
2 weeks ago

Hampshire

"I have this on my profile as its a easy get out if the vibe isn't right or they aren't lime their profile... if all is good after a drink I'm more than happy to move it on to something more fun😈 I abandoned my drink midway through the other day as he was so hot!

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By * and T xCouple
2 weeks ago

Cannock

Manage expectations. Why build it up when it might not happen for a myriad of reasons?

Youve got a cold? Ah well, it's a social. I can push through.

Woke up and just not feeling it? Good job I only promised a social and don't need to cancel.

Childcare arrangements have changed? Phew, at least I only promised a social and I can get back in time.

If anything else happens, then it's a bonus. Sometimes you wake up really horny and the stars align. Why restrict yourself if everything is perfect?

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By *ife NinjaMan
2 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Expect nothing, celebrate success

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By *issmorganWoman
2 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Maybe they say a social only, so people don't expect a shag first meet.

Maybe they're open to more if there's attraction and the right vibe.

I wouldn't know if I wanted to get naked with someone till we'd met for a social and so I could gauge the attraction etc.

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By *ea monkeyMan
2 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

I think it’s about managing the expectations of thirsty entitled people. There’s nothing worse than someone turning up and expecting sex, just because you’re there. It’s far easier to filter out people and then make a choice in the moment or if the chemistry is right.

Ultimately it’s not hypocrisy, it’s people managing others and then exercising their own choice. I’m not sure why it bothers you OP, unless you feel that you’ve been hard done by by not being chosen, which probably makes you one of the people they’re trying to manage away

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By *endalshaggersCouple
2 weeks ago

Kendal

Recently we've seen a few couples profiles who are at pains to point out "no single men, we won't meet single guys etc" and similar to what you've described in your original post, there's then very recent/same day public videos or pictures of the female engaging in shenanigans that are captioned "not Mr/not Hubby" etc. Ok, could it be a full swap meet? Well there's then never any of the same involving the male with a different female.

We've learned never to take what anyone's profile says at face value and do a little bit of digging via messages if there's someone we like but they may not necessarily want what we do.

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By *rdere OpusCouple
2 weeks ago

Brum - ish

"Some people like to say they are only meeting for socials first as that is their intention but then chemistry and sparks fly and they realise they are a perfect match - yay 🥳

I think the biggest question here is - why are you so bothered OP ? "

That was my thought as well!

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By *rdere OpusCouple
2 weeks ago

Brum - ish

First off - it’s their own rule to break. Second - maybe they mean don’t expect to pop over and have sex without a social interaction beforehand, as opposed to the social being an entirely separate arrangement to a later play meet.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
2 weeks ago

Leeds

It's probably to stop the desperados from thinking they'll automatically get sex just because they've turned up.

No one is entitled to sex, everyone can change their mind and it's a great way to put off the idiots who believe otherwise.

Socials can turn into sex they can also turn into a no thanks not for me.

Believe it or not some people actually want to know who's dick is going in them and that attraction may not be there in person.

So social 1st.

Mrs

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By *oreAgainForeverCouple
2 weeks ago

doncaster

We do meet socially first however if that social goes well I’m more than happy “getting railed on the same day”

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By *ealitybitesMan
2 weeks ago

Belfast

As it says clearly on my profile I don't play without at least one social and even then there will be no same day play.

I understand that I don't do fab the way some think it should be done but if you want my attention you're going to have to make the effort.

If others are open to bending their own rules then why shouldn't they if they are comfortable doing so but I don't and that should also be respected.

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By *eally_RosieWoman
2 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

I’m pretty clear on my profile that it’s always a social first with no guarantees, but that doesn’t mean it’s off the table.

It’s pretty simple… I genuinely don’t know if I’d fuck somebody until I’ve physically met them and been in their presence, and I’d rather they’d seen me in person before committing too.

I’ve had socials with guys who were hot as hell that have fallen completely flat in person… and others where I was on the fence initially, turn into really hot sex immediately.

I don’t really see how it’s anyone else’s business OP

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By *_new_memberMan
2 weeks ago

Tewkesbury

Strange thing to complain about?!

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

How is this hypocrisy?

Whatever someone says on their profile isn’t a rule they have to abide by, it’s up to them.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
2 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

Me: I only meet for a social first

Her/Them: Right that’s the drink out of the way. FAF?

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By *tevenTellyCouple
2 weeks ago

Newmarket

So if my wife wants to eliminate the expectation on here but then the relationship and connection is right for her she should say "I'm really enjoying you and would love to fuck you but we agreed to only a social"?

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By *ndypandy69Man
2 weeks ago

Telford

Under promise, over delivery ..saying social first meet draws a line in the sand, but that line may get scrubbed...but if not, guest cannot complain that they were misled. I remember years ago in Chams, a frustrated male saying that the rules should be changed to make it compulsory for women/couples to play because single men fees kept the place going!! Hero!!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
2 weeks ago

Leeds

"Under promise, over delivery ..saying social first meet draws a line in the sand, but that line may get scrubbed...but if not, guest cannot complain that they were misled. I remember years ago in Chams, a frustrated male saying that the rules should be changed to make it compulsory for women/couples to play because single men fees kept the place going!! Hero!!"

So people should be forced to have sex with someone they don't want to because he paid more.... And that makes him a hero?!

Men 🤢

Mrs

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By *idnightMischiefMan
2 weeks ago

London

I've met women socially and had sex with them later on the same day. It does happen!

But, you don't know if they've known the other person for a long time, or just changed their mind for a while.

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By *WANDTGCouple
2 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

We've had a social drink with everyone we've ever met, it gives you a feel for the situation. Only once did we go with the expectation of something occurring as we had agreed to all play if everyone was happy. All other times it's been a trip to wetherspoons or costas to get to know each other.

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By *ooneyCouple
2 weeks ago

Chester

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By *ancelot1633Man
2 weeks ago

weybridge

"So if my wife wants to eliminate the expectation on here but then the relationship and connection is right for her she should say "I'm really enjoying you and would love to fuck you but we agreed to only a social"?"

Totally up to her, no compulsion, no prohibition

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By *ndypandy69Man
2 weeks ago

Telford

So people should be forced to have sex with someone they don't want to because he paid more.... And that makes him a hero?!

Men 🤢

I was being sarcastic! He clearly thought he was a h\ero, I thought he was a dick!!

Mrs "

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By *avid 50Man
2 weeks ago

kendal

profiles are only as accurate as a person wants them to be, highlighting things that may not be accurate is perhaps a way of attracting more people or perhaps refining their field down to only interest a relative few . But the truth is often seen in their verifications, only looking for couples and yet the verifications are from single men meetings.

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By *tsJustKateWoman
2 weeks ago

London

"People claiming they only meet for social drinks first… but get railed same day these men/women fitting their type messages them… site’s turning into a real silly game now"

It's not Hypocritical, it's deciding to take things further.

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
2 weeks ago

Telford

I don't think I'm a hypocrite but a mere photo is not enough to know if I'm going to like someone in person.

Mannerisms, tone how they conduct themselves generally etc are all things that will either draw you into someone or not. I wouldn't want someone to meet with the expectation of it definitely happening when for whatever reason I might not want to or they might not either for that matter.

If I'm interested though and they're too then why not.

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By *ooneyCouple
2 weeks ago

Chester

"People claiming they only meet for social drinks first… but get railed same day these men/women fitting their type messages them… site’s turning into a real silly game now"

Hypocrisy, massive head shake moment, so your did not get your leg over on a date, can you pick up your toys as you leave.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
1 week ago

Leeds

So people should be forced to have sex with someone they don't want to because he paid more.... And that makes him a hero?!

Men 🤢

I was being sarcastic! He clearly thought he was a h\ero, I thought he was a dick!!

Mrs "

Thank goodness - I also agree he's a dick.

Mrs

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By *aryportmeatMan
1 week ago

Whitehaven

Find a lot of blank profiles that say “face pictures on first contact “or no picture no reply” but they don’t?

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
1 week ago

Behind the bike shed!

"People claiming they only meet for social drinks first… but get railed same day these men/women fitting their type messages them… site’s turning into a real silly game now"

I’m sure someone’s already said it, but you can’t police how others use the site.

And in doing so you’ll probably just annoy yourself. Use the site your way and don’t engage with people that you’re not interested in. This can be looks, meet type or swinging ‘style’.

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
1 week ago

There and Here

" Find a lot of blank profiles that say “face pictures on first contact “or no picture no reply” but they don’t?"

Then don't engage with them 🤷‍♀️

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By *iss KinkWoman
1 week ago

North West

Not sure why you think it’s silly. What people do is up to them

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By *teveanddebsCouple
1 week ago

Norwich

"People claiming they only meet for social drinks first… but get railed same day these men/women fitting their type messages them… site’s turning into a real silly game now"

Doesn't it just mean they fancied the ones they did fuck more than the ones they didn't?

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
1 week ago

There and Here

"People claiming they only meet for social drinks first… but get railed same day these men/women fitting their type messages them… site’s turning into a real silly game now

Doesn't it just mean they fancied the ones they did fuck more than the ones they didn't? "

Not necessarily. Time and opportunity might come into play, as well as many other factors.

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By *otwifeandcuckCouple
1 week ago

Blackpool

"People claiming they only meet for social drinks first… but get railed same day these men/women fitting their type messages them… site’s turning into a real silly game now"

What are you crying about? Did you meet someone for a social and that's all you got then the next day same person met someone else for a social and got laid... maybe they just didn't like you.

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