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By *randMrsNorthern OP   Couple
2 weeks ago

Cheshire

How many of you guys read the bios before making contact?

Would like to think our profile is to the point. Nor a dissertation but enough detail and clear in terms of our intent.

Just uploaded a video and have already had a dozen winks, friend requests and private messages off people we strictly ask not to contact us (ie men!)

We don’t have them blocked as when you do it doesn’t show who’s looking at you and we like to see who’s looking so we can block a stalker who keeps coming back on new profiles.

We always read the bios

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By *ouplewithKinks23Couple
2 weeks ago

Walsall

We always read bios first, no point is composing a message and then missing a vital point like "no bi guys" or similar. Plus you find points to engage a person with in their bio. Hate when it simply says "fill this in later"

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By *randMrsNorthern OP   Couple
2 weeks ago

Cheshire

Fill in later (joined Fab three years ago!) haha.

I don’t know what’s worse, the “u ok?@ first message or the enormous copy and paste waffle saying how much they enjoyed reading the profile (had they don’t they’d know they’re gonna get blocked haha!)

It’s just a pet hate. We don’t mind chatting to blokes on the forum but not by inbox. Also it would be great if Fab had a function whereby you could block single men from messaging you but it would still show if they looked at you.

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By *iss Boot LoverTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Tetbury

Always read before messaging. Wish everyone else did. Would save a lot of time.

The " fill in later" is a pass for me as is the Sidney uni and Facebook bollox

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By *randMrsNorthern OP   Couple
2 weeks ago

Cheshire


"Always read before messaging. Wish everyone else did. Would save a lot of time.

The " fill in later" is a pass for me as is the Sidney uni and Facebook bollox

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True!

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By *ouplewithKinks23Couple
2 weeks ago

Walsall


"Always read before messaging. Wish everyone else did. Would save a lot of time.

The " fill in later" is a pass for me as is the Sidney uni and Facebook bollox

"

Yeah those are both deal breakers as to whether or not we message them. Pointless, meaningless waffle

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By *ixenandStag69Couple
2 weeks ago

Derbyshire

Our block list is massive, anyone that messages us without reading our profile gets immediately blocked,

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By *hoenix_1Man
2 weeks ago

richmond

I always read Bios, need to see if we might be matched

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
2 weeks ago

Norwichish

Don’t knock guys as we say we are happy to hear compliments etc. but does surprise how many say they read our profile and think we could have fun.

Er….you didn’t read it then

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
2 weeks ago

Norwichish

Block not knock. Bloody auto correct

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By *anilla-sinCouple
2 weeks ago

lancs

Always read them.. ours is very long, but it works as a filter in and of itself

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By *xXGemQosXxXCouple
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

I agree the amount of guys that message us that have clearly not read or even glanced at our profile text is astounding

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By *r99mr99Man
2 weeks ago

Ealing

I almost always read before messaging, but I may not before winking.

If you're messaging with the point of meeting or chatting how do you know anything about them without reading what they feel is important,

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By *eaSlutsCouple
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

There's a large number of profiles on here that simply don't pay attention to anything south of the photos/vids galleries... couples and single women included with the single guys!

We always have a read of a profile, especially if it's one that has winked/messaged us. It can be a really quick way to tell if there may/may not be a connection.

The shorter and less informative the bio, the more likely we are to not respond.

C x

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By *oredyorkieMan
2 weeks ago

Barnsley

I know i am probably a rarity among the guys on here but I always read the profile before winking or sending a message. Might fab pics without reading though if they are on the latest or hottest pics pages, but thats it

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By *ikeC81Man
2 weeks ago

harrow


"How many of you guys read the bios before making contact?

Would like to think our profile is to the point. Nor a dissertation but enough detail and clear in terms of our intent.

Just uploaded a video and have already had a dozen winks, friend requests and private messages off people we strictly ask not to contact us (ie men!)

We don’t have them blocked as when you do it doesn’t show who’s looking at you and we like to see who’s looking so we can block a stalker who keeps coming back on new profiles.

We always read the bios"

Tbh I always look for no single men in profiles. Easy to people out then location, and bareback play. Then if they are only looking for black guys rule them out as wel. If they don’t go to clubs, or accommodate them rule them out as well

Then realise ah shit I hope there profile photos catch my eye

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By *airybobMan
2 weeks ago

Telford

Always take time to read the bio check the age limits and make sure I am within the expectations

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair


"How many of you guys read the bios..."

I always read the bio. I enjoy reading long narratives — perhaps that's a quirk exclusive to me. Much can be gleaned from a wondrously written profile, good or bad.


"...before making contact?"

I rarely make contact. They often do though. It's clear that they've read my bio.

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

I always read a profile fully

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By *issmorganWoman
2 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I always read a profile to the end, I've almost been caught out in the past, when they've put they're attached right towards the very bottom.

If I didn't read bios, how would I have any idea if we'd be looking for the same thing or compatible.

It's not just men who don't read them though, I'm not looking for couples and used to get messaged from them.

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By *tevieobMan
2 weeks ago

Dublin

I would usually see a pic, fab it if I like it, then read the bio? Maybe I have it backwards though!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Generally I'll read a bio before looking at photos.

Pictures don't tell me if we might be in the least bit compatible. 🤷‍♂️

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By *ene FairfaxMan
2 weeks ago

Dover

I generally read the bio and wont make contact if I dont match their requirements. May pass a polite nice on new content or status update. If I dont get a reply I wont send again. If they block me then it is what it is lol

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By *ouple 31Couple
2 weeks ago

south England


"How many of you guys read the bios before making contact?

Would like to think our profile is to the point. Nor a dissertation but enough detail and clear in terms of our intent.

Just uploaded a video and have already had a dozen winks, friend requests and private messages off people we strictly ask not to contact us (ie men!)

We don’t have them blocked as when you do it doesn’t show who’s looking at you and we like to see who’s looking so we can block a stalker who keeps coming back on new profiles.

We always read the bios"

We always have a read of the bio as it says more than pictures do, it's obvious not many people read our before messaging.

The cut and paste jobs are the ones we hate the most, although these are normaly always from men just fishing and messaging as many peopme as possible, but's so easy to spot

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By *iscotti32Woman
2 weeks ago

choomah island

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By *iscotti32Woman
2 weeks ago

choomah island

Not many.

Some do and don’t get the references.

It’s my w.eeding out process.

I read them sometimes if I like the pics first.

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By *urvaceousVioletWoman
2 weeks ago

RCT/South Wales

I always read bios otherwise I'd not know if I'm/they are what each other is looking for 🙂

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By *randMrsNorthern OP   Couple
2 weeks ago

Cheshire

Some reassuring comments in this thread.

Like I say it’s just a shame many don’t and it’s an even bigger shame Fab don’t have the settings.

X

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By *pgroupsexMan
2 weeks ago

Kingston


"How many of you guys read the bios before making contact?"

I always read the bio. Yours is pretty clear (I'm not sure how anyone could misinterpret that!) and I'd certainly not contact you, in respect of your wishes. What's the point, I'll just get blocked anyway.

The only time I 'might' deviate from a bio request, is if a profile that I consider a good match (so clearly not one like yours - i.e. NO MEN!), insists on me sending a face picture on first contact. Call me over cautious, but I'd rather get something back first.

On your 'stalker' point, I think it can feel like that with anyone; I hate that every time you look (even a few minutes apart) it logs as a separate view. Personally, I might want to remind myself of what you said, your interests etc, but it can then look like I'm over fixated. I also might look (as I did here) to see who is behind a forum post - again, more than once over time, particularly if you are an active contributor in these parts.

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By *randMrsNorthern OP   Couple
2 weeks ago

Cheshire


"How many of you guys read the bios before making contact?

I always read the bio. Yours is pretty clear (I'm not sure how anyone could misinterpret that!) and I'd certainly not contact you, in respect of your wishes. What's the point, I'll just get blocked anyway.

The only time I 'might' deviate from a bio request, is if a profile that I consider a good match (so clearly not one like yours - i.e. NO MEN!), insists on me sending a face picture on first contact. Call me over cautious, but I'd rather get something back first.

On your 'stalker' point, I think it can feel like that with anyone; I hate that every time you look (even a few minutes apart) it logs as a separate view. Personally, I might want to remind myself of what you said, your interests etc, but it can then look like I'm over fixated. I also might look (as I did here) to see who is behind a forum post - again, more than once over time, particularly if you are an active contributor in these parts.

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The stalker is someone who inboxed us saying our REAL names and then saying how they wanted to do stuff with us BOTH. When asked who it was they got all creepy and were clearly enjoying the power trip. It was verging on intimidating.

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By *pgroupsexMan
2 weeks ago

Kingston


"When asked who it was they got all creepy and were clearly enjoying the power trip. It was verging on intimidating. "

That's clearly awful and totally unacceptable behaviour of course.

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By *randMrsNorthern OP   Couple
2 weeks ago

Cheshire


"When asked who it was they got all creepy and were clearly enjoying the power trip. It was verging on intimidating.

That's clearly awful and totally unacceptable behaviour of course. "

They keep signing back up after we block them so we are forced to keep the setting to allow guys to message us because if we opt not to we can’t see when this weirdo has signed back up and looked at us.

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By *pgroupsexMan
2 weeks ago

Kingston


"we are forced to keep the setting to allow guys to message us because if we opt not to we can’t see when this weirdo has signed back up and looked at us. "

You could block unverified people and report any previous profiles (explaining your predicament) to the mods maybe. Then he'd at least need a picture of himself (approved by the mods) to actually contact you.

I think the only block that physically stops 'looks' from showing is for single men (M). I certainly get, for example, MM and F in my looks, even if I block them. I actually reported that as a 'bug', but you might be able to use it to your advantage re the verified thing (so block unless verified, but allow men).

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By *enelope2UWoman
2 weeks ago

Fife

I always read them and I do block based on those who dont read them or if we aren't compatible.

If they can't be bothered on compatibility they aren't a match personality or sex wise.

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