FabSwingers.com forum: Red flags on fab

By *uayside Glory Hole OP Man
6 weeks ago

Gateshead Quayside

Interacting with strangers on any platform comes with its own set of challenges and risks and we all have to trust our gut and make sensible decisions about interacting with others.

What red flags are you aware of on Fab that put you on alert, steer you to not engage in the first place or disengage from interacting pretty fucking swiftly.

I’ll start with the obvious one. Friends requests from people you’ve had no interaction with. Immediate red flag and I’m unlikely to engage with them at all.

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By *ony MannMan
6 weeks ago

Las Gaviotos, Fuerteventura

'Let's chat on another platform.'

'We can get her d*unk.'

Both a worry for different reasons.

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By *pslad99Man
6 weeks ago

colchester

I think sometimes you get a feel for someone when chatting but I always meet for social first cos you never know.

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By *evonrobMan
6 weeks ago

Kingsbridge

For me it’s chatting to someone with a female or couple’s profile and gradually getting a nagging feeling that it’s a guy. I don’t mind, as it’s just chatting, but it’s a weird thing to be doing.

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By *aughtyloversCouple
6 weeks ago

Hull

When someone fabs ALL your photos

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By *achel SmythTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Farnborough

"When someone fabs ALL your photos

Ok then … just a few 😍

R xx

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By *ryton 123TV/TS
6 weeks ago

Chatham

Wana fuck. Instant no no.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
6 weeks ago

East Sussex

Too many to mention them all. The main ones for me as a woman are single profiles that ask other people to 'surprise' their partner. This is mostly but not exclusively men.

Another huge red flag for me was a thread some time ago talking about 'hate fucks', it made my blood run cold and made me see every contributor who commented positively in a very different light.

Apart from that if I just get a 'feeling' that's enough for me to walk away

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By *lik and PaulCouple
6 weeks ago

cahoots

Cannot accommodate is the biggest one on a single profile....there are very occasional good reasons if they are to be believed but it's a red flag.

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By *artfordBlokeMan
6 weeks ago

Dartford

Profiles and status updates that spend an inordinate amount of their content to complain about things or people on here, it just makes me think the people behind them are as miserable as sin and not worth interacting with.

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By *parkle1974Woman
6 weeks ago

Leeds

People who have their age range set at 18-99...

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
6 weeks ago

Norwichish

All the pictures are taken in the bathroom.

But the main one is use of language and tone. From some guys you can just tell that they believe every woman they encounter is interested in them sexually or their 6 pack guarantees them a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

When been on here for yrs no pictures or pic 2 yr old.

Have you got Kik on first message

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
6 weeks ago

Cheshire

Its a bit of everything you can come across a profile that will tick all the checks, but then you find out it was a couple that spilt up an now it's just the guy using the profile. A good variety of pics a few veris and a bit of a bio is normally a good indication they are genuine.

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By *lex CoxMan
6 weeks ago

Porth

Learned that a few people on here especially guys in particular that have no member verifications, no pictures and limited profile info.

Makes me leave the convo prompt especially if they are vague and quite secretive I just block now.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
6 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

"Cannot accommodate is the biggest one on a single profile....there are very occasional good reasons if they are to be believed but it's a red flag."

A good reason can be they simply don’t want strangers in their home… nosey neighbours, whatever. It’s not a red flag for most.

I will choose a hotel for most meets even if my kids aren’t around because a high heel that accidentally went through my leather sofa cost me more than 5 years of hotel room bookings to repair.

I like the very expensive mattress I have and cleaning a duvet is an absolute ball-ache. Also… hotel meets feel more exciting.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
6 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

My red flag is their profile has that stupid meaningless legal word soup on it and refers to an antipodean university.

Also 🚩the ones that are obviously being kept running by the husband 5 years after the wife quickly had enough of the swinging experiment he was so fascinated by.

🚩 Obvious spelling mistakes in a profile - no care and attention - not interested.

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By *oxy jWoman
6 weeks ago

somerset

i dont share my red flags as they are part of my filter and the only reason most guys ask is to try and get around them..

yes i said guys as i only meet guys via fab

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By *elightful 2Couple
6 weeks ago

Not living in the UK

No pictures and when someone starts sexting for wank material after about two messages plus many more.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
6 weeks ago

SW Scotland

Use of the following terms.

BBC

Daddy

Little

Mention of genitals in username

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By *eyeYCouple
6 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

Too many to list, D is bloody fantastic at gauging tone and intentions..

I know now to trust his feelings on how people interact with us, I vetoed him on numerous occasions initially saying he was reading too much into things said and done and how I was sure it wasn't the case..

Hand's up he was right every fucking time!! 🤷😘

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By *eyeYCouple
6 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

"i dont share my red flags as they are part of my filter and the only reason most guys ask is to try and get around them..

yes i said guys as i only meet guys via fab"

Very good point! A little like those asking for pointers and advice on how to make their profiles better/more appealing..

We feel a crap profile is a fair indicator..

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By *issmorganWoman
6 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Profiles with no pics & /or one line of text. I always think they have something to hide.

Anyone who writes that they like to push boundaries, that makes me think they wouldn't respect mine.

Any mention of swapping wife's pics /underwear when it's a single male profile, with no mention of a wife.

Couple profiles full of just the lady, when they say they're looking for other couples.

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By *lthomasMan
6 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Couples profile, been on over a year with no verifications and pictures of the "wife" taken from behind (unknowingly) or down the dress cleavage shots.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Many and varied but go with your gut... If something doesn't quite add up, there's probably a reason for it.

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By *iss KinkWoman
6 weeks ago

North West

Not photo verified, naughty chats from ladies in first message, dodgy photos (reverse image search proves I’m mostly right) no veries after a year on here

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By *tarcrossed_SwingersCouple
6 weeks ago

Loughborough

Instant friend requests, strange behaviour that. And then when you initiate a conversation, radio silence!

Photo verifications mean nothing nowadays, but it's a one minute task. Get it done.

No verifications in a prolonged period of time with no reasonable explanation.

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By *tarcrossed_SwingersCouple
6 weeks ago

Loughborough

And also 'Will update later'

For those who know!

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By *urAlterEgosCouple
6 weeks ago

Barnsley

"i dont share my red flags as they are part of my filter and the only reason most guys ask is to try and get around them..

yes i said guys as i only meet guys via fab"

This. But for us it includes couples!

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
6 weeks ago

Gloucester

“Will fill in later”

No pics or bio when been here for over a month,

Not willing to send face pics of both people in the couple

Only one person is ever available from the couple.

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By *imply_SensualMan
6 weeks ago

Widnes

Age range 18-99

Single Females with all verifications via webcam - give me the impression they are promoting their socials more than anything, and then OF.

Lists of rules, do's, dont's etc - especially on couples profiles. I want a meet to bring mutual pleasure, not to be someone's puppet.

Been on a year but not verified through meeting - women could meet anyone they want, there is so much choice. So not verified through meeting after so long gives me the impression they are not here to meet.

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By *iredhandMan
6 weeks ago

Manchester

Any mention of ‘snow’ or ‘sesh’ or bleating about not being a site supporter (hint,hint)…….NEXT!!!!

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By *ant...stay...awayCouple
6 weeks ago

South Wales

"Any mention of ‘snow’ or ‘sesh’ or bleating about not being a site supporter (hint,hint)…….NEXT!!!!

This

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By *amster1210Man
6 weeks ago

Haslingden

No verifications and been on over 6 months

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Is it a red flag if you have been talking to someone for a while but they wont share a face photo? X

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By *WB85Man
6 weeks ago

Staffordshire

When someone replies to a message......hugeee red flag.

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By *heffguy48Man
6 weeks ago

Sheffield

I'm getting good at smelling a rat out now

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

Any mention of 420, snow etc.

Signs of being bad tempered or impatient/entitied.

Lying about age to a significant degree (what else are they lying about?)

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By *oupleExeter30Couple
6 weeks ago

Exeter

"I can't add pictures on here but can elsewhere"

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By *issBlackedCouple
6 weeks ago

Glasgow

Verified by multiple people, none of which are remotely close to the area on their profile. That or all of their veris are from "profile unavailable".

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Thats most people on here then

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By *eckard2019Man
6 weeks ago

North West Durham

"Is it a red flag if you have been talking to someone for a while but they wont share a face photo? X"

It is if they are wanting to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Any mention of doing lines or smoke or anything like that, no chance. And those who offer money, instant block. Been on over a year, no pics or even a profile pic, no veris or photo verified, and "will fill in later" profile

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By *a1970Man
6 weeks ago

East cork

"When someone fabs ALL your photos

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you have 60 odd.... Yep that's spooky if all are fabed

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By *a1970Man
6 weeks ago

East cork

420....big no no

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By *tsJustKateWoman
6 weeks ago

London

Guys who won't take a deleted message as a hint and keep messaging.

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By *wingerjay1987Man
6 weeks ago

Cumbria

Couple profiles where all the pictures are just of one half

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By *oubleDesireCouple
6 weeks ago

Somewhere

The bog standard.. ‘Hey’ or ‘Hey, how are yous?’ Stupid, boring and what’s the point?

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By *achray93Woman
6 weeks ago

Newcastle

When they start talking about netflix

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By *entlemanFoxMan
6 weeks ago

North East / London

I did see a twenty somethings couples profile with a photo which had a date stamp from 1993

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Bristol

"The bog standard.. ‘Hey’ or ‘Hey, how are yous?’ Stupid, boring and what’s the point?

Yes. This.

And also for me... 'straight'

'cause if you fancy me... you aren't.

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By *rpeggioCouple
6 weeks ago

Baughurst

"When someone fabs ALL your photos

Not surprised, you have 68!!

By the way... Won't you make it a round 69?

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By *eroLondonMan
6 weeks ago

Mayfair

"I did see a twenty somethings couples profile with a photo which had a date stamp from 1993"

It must have been a heritage photo. 🚩

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By *tacie-JaneTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Birmingham

Again….Hey or 420?

and my personal favourite….WUU2?

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By *woguyswantingfunCouple (MM)
6 weeks ago

worksop

I once fell for some very old photos, this was when I was first on a long time ago. I guess that's classed as catfish behaviour now?

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By *enatton2Couple
6 weeks ago

West Midlands

Over a year on site, no veris

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By *LiamMan
6 weeks ago

Midlands

People who label everything as a coloured flag

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By *ony MannMan
6 weeks ago

Las Gaviotos, Fuerteventura

"Over a year on site, no veris

Two months if is a single woman.

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By *rgoodnbadMan
6 weeks ago

greenock

Single females been on the site for more than a couple of months, with no veris.

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By *rgoodnbadMan
6 weeks ago

greenock

"Over a year on site, no veris

Two months if is a single woman."

Avh, you beat me to it

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By *ony MannMan
6 weeks ago

Las Gaviotos, Fuerteventura

"Over a year on site, no veris

Two months if is a single woman.

Avh, you beat me to it

I am jealous, ladies have their pick.

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By *umagain58Man
6 weeks ago

London

"Single females been on the site for more than a couple of months, with no veris.

Sometimes not the case. It’s a very big step to take for some and takes a long time before they take the plunge. A year in one case I had. Agree though lots fakes

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By *osey WalesMan
6 weeks ago

They message me out of the blue.

Must be wrong 'uns

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By *otsossieMan
6 weeks ago

Chesterfield

Pics are all Snapchat screenshots.

Pics that are very obviously not the same woman.

Always “male half here” and underwear/candid shots. Does she REALLY know, mate? Really?

As above but wanting to chat about wives.

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By *he Dadbod ParadoxMan
6 weeks ago

Norwich

I have so many red flags

I won’t message anyone if:

No veri’s and been on over a year.

As a female not willing to share pics or none on profile.

All Webcam veri’s

All social veri’s.

Very limited profile or nothing. (Make an effort)

If you have a pic of you bending over and I see genital warts on your hoop.

Anyone with a million and one demands or just ‘no’s’

Not exhaustive.

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By *unnyandthebookkeeperCouple
6 weeks ago

bristol

Asking for a face pic then saying they are worried about privacy so don't have any themselves.

Repeatedly asking for more pics.

The classic "I'm trying to persuade the wife"

And a few messages.

"You're so close it needs to happen, oh by the way I lied about my age I'm 9 years younger!"

"Fancy a gangbang?"

"I bet your Mrs would love to be slept open by my 10.5 inches."

Read a profile guys

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By *wingerjay1987Man
6 weeks ago

Cumbria

Instantly asking for your WhatsApp

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By *ersona101Man
6 weeks ago

Letchworth

Any profile that says "Like to party"

When what they are actually saying is I want you to buy me drugs.

A massive no for me!

And couples profiles where it's only the man talking and all he wants to here from you is what you'd do to his missus! Just after wanking fodder!

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