FabSwingers.com forum: How to make the first move at a meet

By *iamond couple two OP Couple
2 weeks ago

Wakefield

When ever we meet someone new we usually invite them to ours. The chatting and proverbial coffee starts and then the nervous chit chat. but how do you get the fun started? How do you make the first move? Any suggestions would be gratefully received x

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By *runette n JayCouple
2 weeks ago

bilston

"Who's getting in hot tub?"

"No clothes allowed!"

Sorted haha

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By *iamond couple two OP Couple
2 weeks ago

Wakefield

That’s fine but we don’t have a hot tub

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By *orny salesmanMan
2 weeks ago

Preston

With a body like that I'm surprised that's a problem ld be making the first move lol x

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By *iamond couple two OP Couple
2 weeks ago

Wakefield

There is always that awkwardness when it’s someone new

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By *WB couple400Couple
2 weeks ago

Newcastle

Well shall we play normally works well x

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By *iamond couple two OP Couple
2 weeks ago

Wakefield

That’s good, straight to the point

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By *erkshire BenMan
2 weeks ago

Reading

Flirty moves or straight into a kiss

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By *tormchasingCouple
2 weeks ago

Billericay

Get yourself Game of Lifestyle. Suggest playing a round. Its fun and an excellent ice breaker

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By *ngelLordCouple
2 weeks ago

Newport

Strip games or any suggesting games to play

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By *anonfire96Man
2 weeks ago

Mansfield

Definitely massive smile on my face,big hugs and kiss on first meeting. Works every time for me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Strip games or any suggesting games to play"

Yeah we used to play a game, it breaks the ice

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By *aomilatteCouple
2 weeks ago

Midlands

Say "Do you want to go and play?". Make sure you know their do's and dont's first.

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By *orks funMan
2 weeks ago

Sheffield

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By *aughty Hubby n Sexy WifeCouple
2 weeks ago

Scarborogh

"When ever we meet someone new we usually invite them to ours. The chatting and proverbial coffee starts and then the nervous chit chat. but how do you get the fun started? How do you make the first move? Any suggestions would be gratefully received x"

Some great suggestions on this thread. For us this was the trickiest part of our first few meets, something we didn’t expect and nobody had spoken about. Thank you for posting and asking, think many people will benefit.

We’ve used:

Shall we move things upstairs?

Are you keen to play tonight?

Shall we move this beyond a social meet tonight?

Phrases that say we’d like to move things on but giving a way for others to politely decline if it doesn’t feel right at that time.

Mrs SW

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By *r-Mrs BackagainCouple
2 weeks ago

scotland

Say I’m just going to freshen up , grab a quick shower and walk back through naked 😈

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By *r-Mrs BackagainCouple
2 weeks ago

scotland

""Who's getting in hot tub?"

"No clothes allowed!"

Sorted haha"

Yep , that’s worked for us too x

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By *aughty Hubby n Sexy WifeCouple
2 weeks ago

Scarborogh

We’ve used:

Shall we move things upstairs?

Are you keen to play tonight?

Shall we move this beyond a social meet tonight?

Phrases that say we’d like to move things on but giving a way for others to politely decline if it doesn’t feel right at that time.

Mrs SW"

Hang on Mrs SW we have also used.

“Are we getting naked!”

And it works 😉

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By *rumcouple2013Couple
2 weeks ago

Tamworth

Mrs Brum normally starts getting a little flirty with the other female. Then they disappear upstairs alone for about 10/15 mins. Then myself and the other gentleman join them.

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By *iamond couple two OP Couple
6 days ago

Wakefield

It’s the breaking the ice on the first meet and how to progress from conversation to fun that’s the hardest

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By *ave1976XXXMan
6 days ago

newmarket

If it’s at home or at there place I’ve found coming back from the loo bottom half naked works

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By *iamond couple two OP Couple
6 days ago

Wakefield

Yes that definatley shows you Intentions

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By *ave1976XXXMan
6 days ago

newmarket

Defo breaks the ice

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By *he return of meMan
6 days ago

Leeds

I probably wouldn't suggest going away and coming back naked unless you were absolutely sure they were feeling the same. Would be a bit more than awkward if they weren't feeling up to doing anything that night

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By *iamond couple two OP Couple
6 days ago

Wakefield

Agreed

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By *iamond couple two OP Couple
2 days ago

Wakefield

Bump

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By *andD300Couple
2 days ago

london

We met up with a couple in Rhodes last year but we were lucky because they were members here. It meant we could have a flirty text session before the meet.

We all knew what was going to happen so it was simply a case of shall we go back to the hotel after we were all happy. C

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By *usyBusyElfWoman
2 days ago

Brum

""Who's getting in hot tub?"

"No clothes allowed!"

Sorted haha"

On my way

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By *inks_n_GigglesMan
2 days ago

Basingstoke

I leave the room then return wearing nothing but snorkel and flippers!

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By *entlemanFoxMan
2 days ago

North East / London

A low pressure approach is for one of the ladies to ask:

“May I kiss you”?

Thins can flow quite naturally from there.

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By *T2022Man
2 days ago

Manchester

A touch of the leg and a touch in. return from the guy .

if you do kissing a snog / if not maybe then lady feels up leg .touch dick , which give guy invite to grab boob.

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By *aster N NaughtyCouple
2 days ago

southeast

Like others say just be honest we usually say shall we go to the bedroom or who's getting naked first not had any issues with it

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By *iamond couple two OP Couple
2 days ago

Wakefield

A lot of good advice. Thank you xx

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By *un guy300Man
2 days ago

Carmarthen

"That’s fine but we don’t have a hot tub"
can you guy's swap knickers

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By *un guy300Man
2 days ago

Carmarthen

Shall we watch porn

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By *ant...stay...awayCouple
2 days ago

South Wales

When our gorgeous friends broke the ice with us on our first ever meet, the F put it perfectly in a lull in conversation with 'Can I just put it out there, I'd love to kiss you. Is that ok?'

Just right - gave us the choice and we never looked back x

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By *otwife2002Couple
2 days ago

West Midlands

We only use hotels and invite guys to join us so the wife opens the room door dressed to impress and that sort of breaks the ice shall we say.

Not fir everyone obviously but works for us

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By *oupleLookingToExploreCouple
2 days ago

Liverpool

Truth or dare 👏♥️😋

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By *abbithole24Couple
2 days ago

durham

Probably my husbands biggest fear that I really want him to overcome as private meets appear so much better for me over clubs

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By *ayTVTV/TS
2 days ago

North Yorkshire

Frequent crossing and uncrossing of your legs, normally lets your skirt ride up and exposing your stocking tops, flirty maybe but should certainly have the desired effect......

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By *hewestswingMan
2 days ago

Ballydeknob

"That’s fine but we don’t have a hot tub"

Yeah, but they don't know that!

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By *kbloke_11Man
2 days ago

Hockley

"Get yourself Game of Lifestyle. Suggest playing a round. Its fun and an excellent ice breaker

I have done exactly this

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By *exytimeCoolMan
2 days ago

swadlincote

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By *eroLondonMan
2 days ago

Mayfair

You invite them upstairs to show them your collection of fine scents and colognes that take pride of place on the bedroom dresser.

You suggest that they try a scent, perhaps behind the ear lobe or along the neckline, making them feel relaxed and decadent.

You polite ask to smell the fragrance, inhaling the scent, moving from the ear to the cheek, given them an improvised kiss before seductive kissing their lips with a gentle persuasion. Once you've broken the ice...things will take their natural course.

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By *TWboyMan
10 hours ago

Norwich

We’ve used:

Shall we move things upstairs?

Are you keen to play tonight?

Shall we move this beyond a social meet tonight?

Phrases that say we’d like to move things on but giving a way for others to politely decline if it doesn’t feel right at that time.

Mrs SW"

I’ve had all of these. It’s a perfect way to move things on in a polite way…..

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By *TWboyMan
10 hours ago

Norwich

"We only use hotels and invite guys to join us so the wife opens the room door dressed to impress and that sort of breaks the ice shall we say.

Not fir everyone obviously but works for us "

I have had this approach used on me and it works perfectly-usually followed by a session of intense kissing….. and off we go….

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By *TWboyMan
10 hours ago

Norwich

"When our gorgeous friends broke the ice with us on our first ever meet, the F put it perfectly in a lull in conversation with 'Can I just put it out there, I'd love to kiss you. Is that ok?'

Just right - gave us the choice and we never looked back x"

Absolutely the best way…….. works well for me.

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
10 hours ago

Leeds

Awkwardly smile, while chatting utter nonsense, then sit in silent awkwardness for a while before declaring you'd like the sex.

Works for me 😂

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By *umagain58Man
10 hours ago

London

I have been swinging for many years and can still be nervous with new people on who starts. I actually find it horny sometimes not knowing who is going to start. The anticipation is what does it. My only advice is try and relax and chat nicely.

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By *eyeYCouple
10 hours ago

Nr Leicester

For the most part Y will get the urge and ask if it's ok to kiss them.

Ladies first is the usual pattern, not had a refusal yet 👍😈

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