FabSwingers.com forum: Finding single men

By *ou and Jay OP Couple
13 weeks ago

STRATFORD-UPON-AVON

My wife has shown an interest in having another man join us or me watch whilst she's with another man. Obviously the site is full of single men. So what are people's approach to narrowing down such a large pool? The last thing I want is being inundated with an million dick pics.

Thanks for advice in advanced it's appreciated x

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By *layfullsamMan
13 weeks ago

Solihull

"My wife has shown an interest in having another man join us or me watch whilst she's with another man. Obviously the site is full of single men. So what are people's approach to narrowing down such a large pool? The last thing I want is being inundated with an million dick pics.

Thanks for advice in advanced it's appreciated x"

Message me and delete this post, it will save you a lot of trauma and grief

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to mourn the passing of our brother Jay who was tragically killed by a landslide of dick pics after posting on FAB that he beautiful wife Lou was interested in a single man...

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By *ayxWoman
13 weeks ago

brentwood

I block all men from messaging me and use the search to look through a localish area and hotlist who catches my eye.

I'll then go through verifications and their bio properly then message the ones that tick my boxes xx

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By *issmorganWoman
13 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

As said above, use your filters to block men and have a look for ones that catch your eye.

Then approach the ones you like the look of yourselves. Maybe set a social meet up so you can both meet him and see where it goes.

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By *ensualtongue2023Man
13 weeks ago

furnace

Don’t limit to just local tho

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By *TRAY-CATMan
13 weeks ago

dundee

To many women have an age criteria. .limiting their chances of a good meet..guys can be 1 year out and the opportunity has gone .

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By *outhernexport83Couple
13 weeks ago

Cornwall

We went for the more open approach. Pretty much anyone can message and I filter the good/bad and hotlist so we can review together.

Pros: lots of variety, makes us approachable, allows open dialogue from the get go

Cons: *lots* of dick pics, stealth bulls, fake profiles.

I think we initially left it open ended so we could see who was out there. I’m pretty quick at sorting the wheat from the chaff and neither of us really wanted to have to go looking.

I suppose farming vs hunting.

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By *ayxWoman
13 weeks ago

brentwood

"We went for the more open approach. Pretty much anyone can message and I filter the good/bad and hotlist so we can review together.

Pros: lots of variety, makes us approachable, allows open dialogue from the get go

Cons: *lots* of dick pics, stealth bulls, fake profiles.

I think we initially left it open ended so we could see who was out there. I’m pretty quick at sorting the wheat from the chaff and neither of us really wanted to have to go looking.

I suppose farming vs hunting. "

I used to do this but it became so boring deleting hey babes, nice boobs and I have also blocked the same block several times because he has several accounts lol

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By *outhernexport83Couple
13 weeks ago

Cornwall

"We went for the more open approach. Pretty much anyone can message and I filter the good/bad and hotlist so we can review together.

Pros: lots of variety, makes us approachable, allows open dialogue from the get go

Cons: *lots* of dick pics, stealth bulls, fake profiles.

I think we initially left it open ended so we could see who was out there. I’m pretty quick at sorting the wheat from the chaff and neither of us really wanted to have to go looking.

I suppose farming vs hunting.

I used to do this but it became so boring deleting hey babes, nice boobs and I have also blocked the same block several times because he has several accounts lol "

Yeesh. Blocking issue doesn’t sound fun.

Agree with the pitfalls. Can be tedious can be fun. Some people are lovely, some people are dickheads. Not actively searching plays to my lazy though.

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By *outhernexport83Couple
13 weeks ago

Cornwall

Sorry realised I’ve been commenting without stating who’s typing - Mr of the couple here.

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By *xxLandNxxxCouple
13 weeks ago

Nuneaton

We usually advertise a meet and see who gets in touch, a well written message with a face pic tends to sort out who’s serious. Set your own standards and criteria and you will find the right people

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By *jonesMan
12 weeks ago

Plymouth

"I block all men from messaging me and use the search to look through a localish area and hotlist who catches my eye.

I'll then go through verifications and their bio properly then message the ones that tick my boxes xx"

It's nice to see you making an effort , I never understand why people complain about receiving loads of crap messages when they could switch their filters on..

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By *eardAndBoobs69Couple
12 weeks ago

South Yorkshire

We're looking for the same,it's harder than you would imagine

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By *wolf91Man
12 weeks ago

Rowley

Definitely depends on what your looking for, making sure there genuinely an respectful and will give you what your looking for.

Like others have said, filters, or meet posts for a social so you can see how they are beforehand.

Hope it's going well so far.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
12 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

Thanks for advice in advanced it's appreciated x"

One way to do it is to look at the men who appear in the verifications of club events, couples and women that you like, identify / relate with. It’s a good ‘quality’ filter and you can always message the verifiers and ask about the guys - I’ve had meets which have been the result of referrals from couples and women I’ve met previously or have been at parties with.

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By *ustj4fMan
12 weeks ago

North cotswolds

I guess it's filters and verifications for a more direct search of what you're looking for, club visits to filter in real time or open it up and see who impresses you the most from messages and pictures.

In all situations if it's not right for you then it's not right for all involved.

Have a bit of fun with it maybe? To see who tickles your fancy.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
12 weeks ago

Club meets or follow the Verifications from fellow users, Once you find your type of single Man who's had or left verifications you should come across loads of similar looks that come with good reviews, Go from there

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By *PMGMan
12 weeks ago

Surrey

Thanks for advice in advanced it's appreciated x"

I have never actually thought of this from a couples perspective. I would recommend to NOT open your profile up to single men (talk about cut off your nose to spite your face

) but I would a respectful polite non pushy professional Gent that understands a couples desire and boundaries and is emotionally intelligent to understand how this dynamic works.....That cuts your search down a little to only about a thousand

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By *oxy jWoman
12 weeks ago

somerset

selection for me starts with what i see ie sexual attraction and then compatibility as people and sex / kink..its that str8 forward and it means 99.99% i wont be interested in but leaves plenty left to seek ..

i dont block/filter all men out as i dont need to i make heavy use of the block button meaning those im not interested in are simply blocked

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
12 weeks ago

north of lincoln

Thanks for advice in advanced it's appreciated x

I have never actually thought of this from a couples perspective. I would recommend to NOT open your profile up to single men (talk about cut off your nose to spite your face

This sounds good on paper , but a polite non pushy guy that’s “professional “ (what ever that means) doesn’t usually tick the “fuck I fancy him” box .

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By *oxy jWoman
12 weeks ago

somerset

we also have a fantastic group of friends whom off fab share info of those who abuse / let down / ..ist and it works word of mouth is great when you know so many .. simple screen shot as proof and its not done onsites its amazing how many so called nice people are not and by far its not just men

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By *PMGMan
12 weeks ago

Surrey

Thanks for advice in advanced it's appreciated x

I have never actually thought of this from a couples perspective. I would recommend to NOT open your profile up to single men (talk about cut off your nose to spite your face

This sounds good on paper , but a polite non pushy guy that’s “professional “ (what ever that means) doesn’t usually tick the “fuck I fancy him” box .

Sorry I will rephase then as it was just polite banter from a man belonging to a profession.

'I'm free'

I agree 100% there has to be physical attraction or it's becomes a 'Challenging Wank' as the late Sean Lock stated which is one of the funniest one liners I have ever heard.

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