FabSwingers.com forum: List of Rules

By *icoLatte OP Man
2 weeks ago

Chorley

Anyone else get a massive ick when presented with a list of rules on someone’s profile?

I understand the need for women to do it given we’re overloaded with simple men sending simple messages on this site however it smacks of huge arrogance and it’s likely it will continue regardless of whether you list your Top 10 of “what not to do because I’m so special” vibe

Too may 5’s who think they’re a 10 here!

Peace and love to y’all

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ornycougaWoman
2 weeks ago

Wherever I lay my hat

Yay, another many guy. If you don't like it here, you know where the door is.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *runette n JayCouple
2 weeks ago

bilston

We are all a 10 to someone else.

What's it matter how people use the site?

Just shows incompatibility between yourself and them.... however they well may be compatible with the next person.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ornycougaWoman
2 weeks ago

Wherever I lay my hat

* moany

Of which there are many

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icoLatte OP Man
2 weeks ago

Chorley

Surprise you have a list of rules

Genuine question, do you think they put the simpletons off?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *lowupdollTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

Why do you have an issue with people setting rules about what they will do with their own bodies, and with whom?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aomilatteCouple
2 weeks ago

Midlands

Personally we don't get the "ick" with any profiles on here, we'll just interact with those that appeal to us

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icoLatte OP Man
2 weeks ago

Chorley

"Why do you have an issue with people setting rules about what they will do with their own bodies, and with whom? "

No issue with that whatsoever. The issue is mainly with people setting rules about how other people contact them, which by definition are likely to have zero effect anyway as it’s THEIR choice to do that

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *endalshaggersCouple
2 weeks ago

Kendal

Couples and females inboxes are more often than not overflowing with messages. There has to be some way of sorting the wheat from the chaff. If someone can't A read a profile and B send a message within the parameters laid out then.... if your're complaining about "rules" then maybe look at yourself to a degree: are your messages the sort of messages that people have set up these rules to try and avoid?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ittlemissTinselTitsCouple
2 weeks ago

Southampton

"Surprise you have a list of rules

Genuine question, do you think they put the simpletons off?

Simpletons? 5's who think they're 10's?? Wow....

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *runette n JayCouple
2 weeks ago

bilston

"Why do you have an issue with people setting rules about what they will do with their own bodies, and with whom?

Well ours is a rule... if you're not hung we won't be play.

Seems to work for us, yes hop n catch someone tries their luck but it keeps messages down.

We used to have a fair few... that was for requirements for specific roles, it changes and so do our rules. We have less now and yes we get more Messages as more people meet our criteria ... isn't that the point?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *andb69Couple
2 weeks ago

leeds

Nobody here has to do anything they don't want to do: Isn't better that they're upfront about their limits and boundaries?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *assion8Man
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

Anyone want to share my 🍿??

This one should be good!!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *isterowlMan
2 weeks ago

Warwickshire

"Surprise you have a list of rules

Genuine question, do you think they put the simpletons off?

It looks like it does put them off, especially when they start complaining about it in the forum.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icoLatte OP Man
2 weeks ago

Chorley

It looks like it does put them off, especially when they start complaining about it in the forum. "

LOL

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ny1localMan
2 weeks ago

READING

I agree with the 5s that think they're 10s,but that's just my opinion. I'm not bothered by long rules, as it's unlikely I'd want to meet anyway (some I'm likely to fall asleep reading them).but this is the wonderful world of fab and everyone is entitled to their own thoughts and expectations.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eeliciouschaosWoman
2 weeks ago

Wherever

What do you think makes you so special to call other men “simple”, apart from your arrogance? Well let me tell you, you’re just another man in a sea of many, welcome to Fab.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *runette n JayCouple
2 weeks ago

bilston

"I agree with the 5s that think they're 10s,but that's just my opinion. I'm not bothered by long rules, as it's unlikely I'd want to meet anyway (some I'm likely to fall asleep reading them).but this is the wonderful world of fab and everyone is entitled to their own thoughts and expectations. "

Who is to say who is a 5 or 10?

We should all love ourselves.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inky MelissaTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Rather than seeing them as rules you fall foul of, how about looking forward to finding a user's list where you tick every box?

Surely that would be the best experience for both parties.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ad NannaWoman
2 weeks ago

East London

Although it's rare a man reads my profile text (unless it has sexual overtones), I like to be clear about what I'm not looking for and am looking for.

If they ignore it and still message I feel better about ignoring and deleting their messages. I used to reply to all messages, but now I don't.

If it icks someone out, then they aren't the one for me.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ornycougaWoman
2 weeks ago

Wherever I lay my hat

If you don't like what I post you are fully entitled both to your view and to challenge me, but have the balls to do it on here rather than send abuse to my inbox.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *artfordBlokeMan
2 weeks ago

Dartford

I just don't interact with profiles that don't appeal to me, for whatever reason. Life's too short to be bothered about crap like this. Just move on

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *on_departCouple
2 weeks ago

West Midlands

Having boundaries is important. If people aren’t prepared to respect your boundaries then that’s a massive red flag.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
2 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

" it’s THEIR choice to do that"

You've answered your own rather strange question already.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *runette n JayCouple
2 weeks ago

bilston

"If you don't like what I post you are fully entitled both to your view and to challenge me, but have the balls to do it on here rather than send abuse to my inbox."

Same applies!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ad NannaWoman
2 weeks ago

East London

I don't have a list because I think I'm special.

I'm being clear about my requirements and preferences, to save people time.

If I said I love sex and am looking for someone who is a 7-10 to have it with then I'd be inundated. I'd then have to ask many questions to see If they fit my requirements.

I'm a 5, by the way, but that doesn't deter the 7-10s.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *pslad99Man
2 weeks ago

colchester

Don’t bother me rules are there for a reason simply as that

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *carlettxWoman
2 weeks ago

Essex

"Anyone else get a massive ick when presented with a list of rules on someone’s profile?

Too may 5’s who think they’re a 10 here!

Peace and love to y’all

Woah ! Are you too good for ‘5’s’ then ?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ny1localMan
2 weeks ago

READING

"Who is to say who is a 5 or 10?

We should all love ourselves. "
I agree, but you've heard the expression 'beauty,is in the eye of the beholder '

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *lue Eyed JokerMan
2 weeks ago

Always on the move

I'm barely a 3, maybe a 2! Any 5s want to send me their list of rules? I'd be thrilled!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ad NannaWoman
2 weeks ago

East London

"Who is to say who is a 5 or 10?

We should all love ourselves. I agree, but you've heard the expression 'beauty,is in the eye of the beholder '"

That's very true. You'd probably behold me as 5. My 10 buddy thinks I'm a 10. Works for us.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eeliciouschaosWoman
2 weeks ago

Wherever

"If you don't like what I post you are fully entitled both to your view and to challenge me, but have the balls to do it on here rather than send abuse to my inbox.

Same applies!

Sorry to hear! I’m not surprised though.

That’s why pre blocking the suspected offenders is always a good idea.

Unless they have multiple accounts to send abuse from, those are the worst.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ad NannaWoman
2 weeks ago

East London

"I'm barely a 3, maybe a 2! Any 5s want to send me their list of rules? I'd be thrilled!"

You go up a notch for being funny

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *elly and daveCouple
2 weeks ago

gateshead

Doesn't really matter what you put in your profile,most people don't really bother to read it. They just look at the pics,then wink at you or worse still,try to add you as a friend,without even chatting first. 99% of all we receive gets deleted at a quick glance.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ny1localMan
2 weeks ago

READING

"Who is to say who is a 5 or 10?

We should all love ourselves. I agree, but you've heard the expression 'beauty,is in the eye of the beholder '

That's very true. You'd probably behold me as 5. My 10 buddy thinks I'm a 10. Works for us."
I wouldn't know, as your profile is hidden, but I know I'd be surprised if I got as far as a 5.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *runette n JayCouple
2 weeks ago

bilston

"Who is to say who is a 5 or 10?

We should all love ourselves. I agree, but you've heard the expression 'beauty,is in the eye of the beholder '"

Exactly!

So no one is 1 single number. They are every number between 1 - 10 inclusive.

To brunette I'm a 10, to the next I am may be a 1... so which am I?

It's whatever I want it to be, who is it for anyone but myself to put myself down?

You are all 10s in your own rights and don't let anyone ever tell you otherwise!

Jay

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *assion8Man
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

Personally I'd give myself a 4 on a good day, some may say higher, some lower.

Either way I've chatted to and met some amazing people on here.

Don't think being a 1 or a 10 makes much of a difference, I'd like to think my attitude and personality definitely helps, might even bump me up to a 6!!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *adeiteWoman
2 weeks ago

Stafford

Nah, if a profile isn't for me, it's not ick, it's just not for me. I move on and carry on about my day.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ny1localMan
2 weeks ago

READING

If anyone wants to know what a 10 looks to blokes,stand outside a maternity hospital..all shapes,sizes and ages are going in.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oxy jWoman
2 weeks ago

taunton somerset

the whole point of preference and rule is to turn those away that your not interested in its that plain and simple no couple or women are her to sdhag anything nobody are the same or hjave the same likes and dislikes ..

ive had messages in the past like '' im not jumping thru hoops to meet you'' im like thank god for that as i would not meet ypoou any way ...far to many men forget what this site is for yes its a sex site i get it thats the goal but its a sex site for swingers yep ''FOR SWINGERS''

people know what they want and dont want so i dont see nothing wrong with that at all select or reject simple's if i read a guys profile and hes all for bbw with me being a size 8 ill avoid not cry or moan just politely move on..

it seems alot of guys just dont like confident couples and women they want all women to drop knickers on command and be weak and not say no....

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ondoner27Man
2 weeks ago

london

I quite like it to be honest. Means I don’t waste time messaging people who would never be interested in me

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *_murphWoman
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

I don't have rules on my profile as such, more guidelines like no unsolicited cock pics or friend requests, no one word messages and show a bit of respect.

The fact I have to actually specify that speaks volumes.

Like manufacturers putting a label on a hairdryer to say don't use in the shower!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oxy jWoman
2 weeks ago

taunton somerset

also to add who gets to say someones a five or a 10 ????

the problem is guys tend to fuck anything with a wet hole ie into anything with anyone at anytime mentality ..

also with so many men to chose from the so few couples and women can just take their pick and that sure does piss the entitled crew off

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *runette n JayCouple
2 weeks ago

bilston

Just had the perfect example of why I hate this judgey line of thinking people have...

When a really respectful nice guy messages us and apologises in advance if he causes any offense by contacting us!

People are getting slated all the time for doing things their own way so much so they are apologising in advance! How ridiculous is that?!

It's not OK to shame people, in any shape or form! It can be devastating on people's mental health!

Why can't people just let people do their own things without making a huge damn drama out of it?

Thank God the real swinging world is nothing like fab!

Rant over

Jay

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aughtyGFcoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

Devon

I'm not a 10 but had a few give me 1.rules boundaries are a must

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *usty kayWoman
2 weeks ago

Burnham

I actually prefer a man's profile to have some preferences or rules. Actually gives me some information about whether we would be compatible and shows some personality.

I may only be a '5' but I have standards and don't want a guy that will literally fuck anything with a hole.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *enelope2UWoman
2 weeks ago

Fife

My profile is long but specific and to the point. My lists of likes is checked and my interests and pictures and verifications are there.

If someone can't read or doesn't have the time.. then I'm definitely not their type.. they like minimum standards and basic desperation..im not her...

there's ZERO REASON and zero chance I will waste my time giving them any opportunity or response other than an instant block.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *haring_couple2024Couple
2 weeks ago

warwick

5s who think they are 10s haha

To us we wouldn't even rate you a 5 from the pics on your profile but to others you may be an 7 or an 8. We have a few rules on who we will reply to but as you are a male you will never know the amount of rubbish us couples and females get in our inboxes sometimes you have to set boundaries

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *heshireChappyMan
2 weeks ago

Prestbury

I'm a big believe in "live and let live" so it's not for me to say whether people should or shouldn't. I have no idea what their experience is and hopefully it works for them.

However, I don't have rules and switch off as soon as I see a list of rules. I have a real issue with living in someone else's boxes so don't even try.

My kinda people are like me... They take as they find; they don't judge; they like to get to know the person under the persona; they find the fun in any situation; they say "fuck it, let's do" more than their parents would probably like.

If that's you, you lot fucking rock!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ad NannaWoman
2 weeks ago

East London

"Who is to say who is a 5 or 10?

We should all love ourselves. I agree, but you've heard the expression 'beauty,is in the eye of the beholder '

That's very true. You'd probably behold me as 5. My 10 buddy thinks I'm a 10. Works for us.I wouldn't know, as your profile is hidden, but I know I'd be surprised if I got as far as a 5."

Why is that? What do you base your points system on?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ny1localMan
2 weeks ago

READING

"Who is to say who is a 5 or 10?

We should all love ourselves. I agree, but you've heard the expression 'beauty,is in the eye of the beholder '

That's very true. You'd probably behold me as 5. My 10 buddy thinks I'm a 10. Works for us.I wouldn't know, as your profile is hidden, but I know I'd be surprised if I got as far as a 5.

Why is that? What do you base your points system on? "
my intuition, then pics and profile..being an old git, automatically puts me in the under 5s for most.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icoLatte OP Man
2 weeks ago

Chorley

Woah ! Are you too good for ‘5’s’ then ?

Woah there horsey! I’m at least a 6.5…so yes

But I’d definitely fuck a 5 with a great personality and without a ling list of arrogant rules of engagement

Just my opinion but everyone is entitled to theirs.

Ps you look like a perfect 10 to me

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

East Sussex

What is it recently? I've seen quite a few posts knocking people who display signs of confidence in their physical appearance

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *layfullsamMan
2 weeks ago

Solihull

Not at all, it’s their profile and their preferences

Life’s to short to worry about what others like and don’t like

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *layfullsamMan
2 weeks ago

Solihull

"What is it recently? I've seen quite a few posts knocking people who display signs of confidence in their physical appearance"

haters gonna hate,

Poor reflection on the person doing the knocking

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

East Sussex

"What is it recently? I've seen quite a few posts knocking people who display signs of confidence in their physical appearance

haters gonna hate,

Poor reflection on the person doing the knocking "

There's a lot of it about Sam.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ister_EMan
2 weeks ago

Hayling Island

I actually quite like it. To me it indicates that they are either experienced, or have at least put a lot of thought into this. It shows me that they know exactly what they want and where I stand with them. It means I won't be wasting my time or theirs.

I find an empty profile far more off putting!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *layfullsamMan
2 weeks ago

Solihull

"What is it recently? I've seen quite a few posts knocking people who display signs of confidence in their physical appearance

haters gonna hate,

Poor reflection on the person doing the knocking

There's a lot of it about Sam. "

On fab and life in general sadly

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *r-Mrs BackagainCouple
2 weeks ago

scotland

Read it and like it or dislike it, that’s up to you but it saves a lot of wasted time and on fab there is a lot of time wasters for sure . People have their own rules because they like things that way they like it, if you don’t like it then keep scrolling .

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *tickler2000Man
2 weeks ago

St Agnes

Is not liking a list for preferences (rules) a rule?

Everyone is here for their own enjoyment.

If your preferences aline, happy days. If not. Move on.

Surely

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *runette n JayCouple
2 weeks ago

bilston

"What is it recently? I've seen quite a few posts knocking people who display signs of confidence in their physical appearance

haters gonna hate,

Poor reflection on the person doing the knocking

There's a lot of it about Sam. "

It's awful!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oodmessMan
2 weeks ago

yumsville

Some rules can go on and on, so much you don't know how to approach things. What I find worse is the check list of dares, challenges almost notches like; would like to do mmf, mmmf, stranger blind fold, pick up in a bar, coming home with no knickers, find a guy to xyz with in public. If you want to do something horny, just chat about it and get on with it.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Anyone else get a massive ick when presented with a list of rules on someone’s profile?"

Nø. I prefer them. It's a perfect filter for me to decide whether I wish to engage with them, or not.

"I understand the need for women to do it given we’re overloaded with simple men sending simple messages on this site..."

Only simpletons refer to other men as "simple men". Simple messages are also sent by other women. I have experience of this.

"Too may 5’s who think they’re a 10 here!"

Don't let it concern you. Just bypass these folk.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *isstinseltoesWoman
2 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Nope, I'd much prefer I know what they are and aren't looking for, rather than a 2 line bio that tells me nothing.

Mine is pretty clear, if it puts people off then it's worked.

People can ask for whatever they choose to, on their profiles, others don't have to like it or get in touch if it's not for them.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eyeYCouple
2 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

Appreciate a clear description of what people are looking for but a prescribed, statutory list does leave us touch turned off x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *tarcrossed_SwingersCouple
2 weeks ago

Leicester/Ipswich

[Removed by poster at 11/12/24 18:23:00]

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *tarcrossed_SwingersCouple
2 weeks ago

Leicester/Ipswich

Yeah we're not a fan of 'you can do this but you can't do that' with a real extensive list! Kissing is a strange one we can't get our head around but we respect people's decisions and move on.

However, we do find it funny to think people have to state no anal! As if people think that's on the cards immediately

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *carlettxWoman
2 weeks ago

Essex

Woah ! Are you too good for ‘5’s’ then ?

Woah there horsey! I’m at least a 6.5…so yes

But I’d definitely fuck a 5 with a great personality and without a ling list of arrogant rules of engagement

Just my opinion but everyone is entitled to theirs.

Ps you look like a perfect 10 to me

So what are these rules that you don’t like ?

A list of their preferences ? What they are attracted to ?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *partharmonyCouple
2 weeks ago

Ruislip

So we only 10s get to say how they want to be treated? Smooth.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ig_belly_grrrlWoman
2 weeks ago

Finchley

A man complaining about women giving them boundaries rather than looking at the men who make them write them.

Who else had this on their bingo card?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icoLatte OP Man
2 weeks ago

Chorley

Woah ! Are you too good for ‘5’s’ then ?

Woah there horsey! I’m at least a 6.5…so yes

But I’d definitely fuck a 5 with a great personality and without a ling list of arrogant rules of engagement

Just my opinion but everyone is entitled to theirs.

Ps you look like a perfect 10 to me

So what are these rules that you don’t like ?

A list of their preferences ? What they are attracted to ? "

Preferences and what they’re attracted to is ok, that’s normal. It’s the rules of how to contact them for example “you must have done a backwards somersault and said rainbow 5 times” or “don’t just say how are you I am so much more special than that and worth so much more”

Shit like that

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *herrybakewellCouple
2 weeks ago

Staffordshire

There's lots of things on here we find frustrating.

But if its someone's profile, they get blocked and that's the end of it.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread