FabSwingers.com forum: Mr invisible? Show yourself

By *rdere Opus OP Couple
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

We've noticed a recurring trend of couples profiles with pictures of the Mrs in abundance, but the male half entirely absent, reduced to a cock in a picture or two, or at best present in one or two unflattering shots.

It is a bit frustrating, as we won't develop interest in a profile if the male half is mostly MIA. This holds true even if the Mrs is attractive and the profile is well written.

Surely, there are others that share our frustration?

This is the place for you couples who may feel similar to post and make yourselves know

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By *is and hers 2024Couple
2 weeks ago

york

Definitely understand your frustration. I am straight so have no interest in the female of the couple so when you can't see anything of the male half it is frustrating. Even been messaging with people and asked for pics and they still only send pics of the female half.

Makes you feel like you are supposed to be up for blind date or will just be happy with what you can get.

Mrs

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By *endalshaggersCouple
2 weeks ago

Kendal

I get the frustration but it's all part for the course unfortunately. There's no rules about what you should or have to include on a profile.

We have pictures of both of us. If anyone wants more we can send more if needed?

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By *andPextraCouple
2 weeks ago

North West

Never once been asked for extra pics of Mr

He's very rarely not on the camera side of the lens, so we don't have many of him.

If anyone was insistent I suppose we could oblige, but they never have

Obviously, we don't know if the lack has put people off messaging full stop.

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By *rdere Opus OP Couple
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Definitely understand your frustration. I am straight so have no interest in the female of the couple so when you can't see anything of the male half it is frustrating. Even been messaging with people and asked for pics and they still only send pics of the female half.

Makes you feel like you are supposed to be up for blind date or will just be happy with what you can get.

Mrs"

We get that. Far too often the male half is MIA. People can do what they want, and as mentioned, there are no rules of conduct or how a profile should be set up. We just feel a couples profile should showcase both to a decent degree.

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By *hatsWhatCoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

Northampton

Mr not quite MIA but biased towards Mrs WW

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By *usurrusCouple
2 weeks ago

North West.

We always ask, if we get to that point.

It's awkward and needn't be. But, yes, it's a couples game and being straight it matters to us.

We have been blocked for asking mind you.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
2 weeks ago

kent

Ailsa is just as interested in gentlemen as she is ladies. Profiles with a few good quality pictures of both will stand out (obviously, the text needs to be engaging too).

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By *rdere Opus OP Couple
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

"I get the frustration but it's all part for the course unfortunately. There's no rules about what you should or have to include on a profile.

We have pictures of both of us. If anyone wants more we can send more if needed? "

It certainly seems that way. You both have a fair amount of pictures on your profile which is helpful for other couples to better determine their potential interest.

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By *rdere Opus OP Couple
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Mr not quite MIA but biased towards Mrs WW

You still have more pics of the mister on your profile than many we've come across.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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2 weeks ago

East Sussex

It's just another filter for us.

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By *hole Nuts n ChillCouple
2 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Major red flag for us … our assumption rightly or wrongly is that such profile has been set up by male half who enjoys hot wifing , does most of the fabmin , and wife has lost interest.

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By *rdere Opus OP Couple
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

"We always ask, if we get to that point.

It's awkward and needn't be. But, yes, it's a couples game and being straight it matters to us.

We have been blocked for asking mind you.

Did it make you wonder if they were a genuine couple to begin with?

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By *herrybakewellCouple
2 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We've found that there is often a reason why.

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By *onnynclaireCouple
2 weeks ago

Reading

I think the one pic of me is enough to put most couples off. Why would I want to post more of me

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By *ay W. BeauWoman
2 weeks ago

Wolvo

Even as a single lady its a problem. Its usually the chap doing all the messaging, the pics are mainly of the lady. Then you meet and find you’re not attracted to him and the lady isn't keen on you. Bummerrrrr.

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By *rdere Opus OP Couple
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Ailsa is just as interested in gentlemen as she is ladies. Profiles with a few good quality pictures of both will stand out (obviously, the text needs to be engaging too). "

Exactly this for us as well.

L is interested in both the ladies and gentlemen, with profiles showing off both being preferable.

You've great photos by the way

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By *rdere Opus OP Couple
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Even as a single lady its a problem. Its usually the chap doing all the messaging, the pics are mainly of the lady. Then you meet and find you’re not attracted to him and the lady isn't keen on you. Bummerrrrr. "

As a long time single woman on the scene, I hear this!

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By *a1970Man
2 weeks ago

East cork

Great topic, great view points... Thank you. Op

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Central

The frequency of men's near absence in pics is almost as if they're not hoping to attract many discerning women

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By *vonne5exMan
2 weeks ago

Doncaster

How many times after a meet has been arranged is the wife called out to work minutes before the meet was due to start

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
2 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Yep, I'm half a couple & we use it as a filter.

We don't respond to these profiles if they wink or message,as getting a pic of the man had proved too much like hard work.

I'm straight, so couple profiles full of just the lady, don't appeal at all.

If only the lady plays I can see why they just show her, if they're both looking to play with a woman or couple, they should at least show one or two of him.

Of course people can choose how they run their profile, but they're often the ones moaning that they can't get meets with woman or couples.

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By *rdere Opus OP Couple
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Major red flag for us … our assumption rightly or wrongly is that such profile has been set up by male half who enjoys hot wifing , does most of the fabmin , and wife has lost interest. "

Interesting take. Not something we'd considered.

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By *hole Nuts n ChillCouple
2 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Interesting take. Not something we'd considered."

I kid you not. Often when we made statements like why is the M not in any pics or why so shy ; we have been immediately blocked.

One of them is in this thread 🤣

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
2 weeks ago

Gloucester

Totally agree with you on this. Yes we have more pics of me than the Mr but at least we have pics of both.

Do guys really expect me to say yes to meetings with another couple without knowing if I’m interested in the male half?

Kink (Mrs)

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By *rdere Opus OP Couple
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

"We've found that there is often a reason why. "

We're sure there is. The conclusion we frequently come to (perhaps wrongly) is that the male half doesn't consider himself attractive enough and therefore avoids appearing in pictures. Otherwise, why not present yourself?

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By *onnynclaireCouple
2 weeks ago

Reading

But then you get profiles like ours with only one pic of the male that have actually been verified by meets as a real couple.

Yeah some of us males do the fabmin for the profile and we do get accused of being fake. Doesn’t mean we are.

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By *runette n JayCouple
2 weeks ago

bilston

Depends who is on offer shall we say and who they are looking for.

I mean MF couples looking for straight guys.. what would be the point of Mr being in pics?

Jay

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By *equilaLimeCouple
2 weeks ago

south wales

What would you say should be the correct ratio of photos for male/female?

As mentioned earlier, im biasied...I'm very lucky to have a gorgeous wife and like to show her off...there's one or two of me set to public but more set to private.

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By *usurrusCouple
2 weeks ago

North West.

"What would you say should be the correct ratio of photos for male/female?

As mentioned earlier, im biasied...I'm very lucky to have a gorgeous wife and like to show her off...there's one or two of me set to public but more set to private.

One recent, decent torso photo. That's enough!

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By *BWmetalcouple666Couple
2 weeks ago

houghton

We are always happy to send face pics of both

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By *onnynclaireCouple
2 weeks ago

Reading

"What would you say should be the correct ratio of photos for male/female?

As mentioned earlier, im biasied...I'm very lucky to have a gorgeous wife and like to show her off...there's one or two of me set to public but more set to private.

One recent, decent torso photo. That's enough!

And if one doesn’t have a decent torso? Don’t bother?

We always send a face pic of us both together when we’ve found people we’d like to meet.

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By *lwaysMuffCouple
2 weeks ago

Bristol

A bit of a red flag for us, we like to see both

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By *usurrusCouple
2 weeks ago

North West.

"What would you say should be the correct ratio of photos for male/female?

As mentioned earlier, im biasied...I'm very lucky to have a gorgeous wife and like to show her off...there's one or two of me set to public but more set to private.

One recent, decent torso photo. That's enough!

And if one doesn’t have a decent torso? Don’t bother?

We always send a face pic of us both together when we’ve found people we’d like to meet.

Ah, the many interpretations of English words and phrases......

Decent meaning - straightforward, honest, warts and all.

If that means that someone decides that they don't want to meet, then at least they have had an opportunity to say no politely. If they do decide to meet, then you know that they think you are hot. It's a win win.

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By *rdere Opus OP Couple
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Depends who is on offer shall we say and who they are looking for.

I mean MF couples looking for straight guys.. what would be the point of Mr being in pics?

Jay"

Little point if indeed the aim is to meet simgle men for MMF or some other arrangement.

If an objective is to meet couples, to us it makes sense that both are clearly displayed for others to see.

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By *onnynclaireCouple
2 weeks ago

Reading

We will attempt to make some new pics of us both together. Better get some good lighting lol

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By *rdere Opus OP Couple
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Totally agree with you on this. Yes we have more pics of me than the Mr but at least we have pics of both.

Do guys really expect me to say yes to meetings with another couple without knowing if I’m interested in the male half?

Kink (Mrs) "

Very much our sentiment. We feel we shouldn't have to ask for pictures of the male half if they're not present for L to determine if there's attraction.

To begin with, it's awkward and judging by some feedback seen on this thread, not taken well.

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

Ryde

On our profile, there are LOTS of pics and videos of me, but you can count on the hands of a twice-convicted Saudi shoplifter the amount of photos containing my husband.

This is because we are mainly advertising for guys to give me the business, with hubby just watching/safeguarding. If spanking is involved, he's happy to get stuck in with both the girls and the guys, but nothing more than that.

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By *rdere Opus OP Couple
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

"What would you say should be the correct ratio of photos for male/female?

As mentioned earlier, im biasied...I'm very lucky to have a gorgeous wife and like to show her off...there's one or two of me set to public but more set to private.

There isn't a set ratio. For us, 2 to 3 pictures of the male half that shows to a large extent what they're like physically is enough.

The one picture on your profile works well as its a full body shot. Disembodied cock shots alone are low effort and add little to no value in our view.

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By *rdere Opus OP Couple
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

"We are always happy to send face pics of both "

Face pics for us is the next step if physical attraction has been established and some messaging reciprocating an interest has been done.

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By *ff_to_button_moonCouple
2 weeks ago

Button Moon (S.Central Hampshire)

Mrs Spoon is far more photogenic than I am. Never really been an issue for us. We have plenty of veris by meet and to be honest, we mainly post photos for fun rather than anything else as we meet mostly in clubs or spas.

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By *rdere Opus OP Couple
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

"A bit of a red flag for us, we like to see both

We don't consider it a red flag. The lack of male pictures just doesn't spark interest, even if the lady is attractive and the text reads well.

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