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Do's & Don't's in first message

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By *ybersausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Wakefield

Hi everyone been on here a few months now and sent a fair few messages but only had a few replys!! So i thought i would ask what you like/don't like to see in first messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well for a start, everyone is different on here, so what works for one, doesn't for another.

I guess what would work is if you read their profile and just be yourself.

Dont try too hard as that comes across as desperate, even though you are not..

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the biggest DO if you're mailing a femme or couple is to enclose a face pic.

Biggest DON'T is probably no textspeak.

Good luck mate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be as honest as you can as well. We've had lot's of chats with guys who say they accomodate and then when we feel happy enough to arrange a meet, suddenly they can't or only on a certain day in the week.

Personally, I like it when a message makes me smile/laugh, that stands out for me and I want to find out more about the person, but like someone else said, everyone is different.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Don't use a generic copy and paste message for couples and single females, or if you do, please remember to edit it. I don't like being called 'you guys' or by the wrong name.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Do make sure you profile is well written. A lot of us go straight to the profile before we read the message x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with all the above add a face pic and make the message stand out from others we get so many ... ( hi how are you ... Or fancy a chat) with just a small pic in profile or silhouette they get passed by .. Another tip is read the profile properly ... Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with all the above add a face pic and make the message stand out from others we get so many ... ( hi how are you ... Or fancy a chat) with just a small pic in profile or silhouette they get passed by .. Another tip is read the profile properly ... Good luck x"

All of that

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By *aveandSue1Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

Well we are all different so what suits one etc etc

For us, not overly long, no or very little text speak, no f...ing or lots of swearing, show you can construct a sentence !

Sure to get deleted are ones with cock pics and morons who just say "wanna stick my cock in her" "love to stag yous darlin" etc etc

Best of luck but be patient.

Dave and Sue

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of the above count - plus honesty

Even for a guy like me who will also meet a Bi man; believe me when I say; you be surprised at how many times someone will just lie through their back teeth just to get you in bed...so

Honesty - because truth will catch you out eventually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read the profile. A lot of people request a particular piece of text be put into the subject heading, just to see that you've read their bio

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just dont say "hey babe, wanna come for a ride in my sports car"...yes i had one like that last night....instant block!

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Be yourself, if you can display the h factor

Honesty,

humour

and

hung like a horse,,*

,

,

,

,

,

* the latter isn t required the other two arr

Have fun fella,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just dont say "hey babe, wanna come for a ride in my sports car"...yes i had one like that last night....instant block!"

Ha ha never! Little do they realise by saying that the impression they are giving is that the car is their only redeeming feature....

See I once spent a couple of weeks chatting increasingly smuttily with a charming lady from the lower east mids and we discussed our love of outdoor fun and arranged to meet as the weather was sunny and we had built up a delicious head of steam....

She was pleasantly surprised when I picked her up in a soft top 370z, but knowing her naughtiness probably more for exhibitionist possibilities than the sleek design of the car itself.

Sell yourself, not possessions, showing any signs of wealth is often more of a put off than turn on, unless as a surprising little aside....

Tbh the car wasn't even mine, I can just get my hands on them (legally lol!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone been on here a few months now and sent a fair few messages but only had a few replys!! So i thought i would ask what you like/don't like to see in first messages."

Sell yourself, but BE yourself.

ALWAYS make sure each message is personal to the recipient, and always leave a question about them open to allow them to reply with the answer...

Amazing how many intro messages I have been asked for advice on which completely shut the door on any possibility of a reply...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when messaging a couple dont start with,

hey babe,

hey darling,

hey sexy,

and dont send how are you only messages, also address both of the couple not just the female.

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

I always find I'm a couple but the other half is out shopping so can't be seen on cam or spoken to is guaranteed to get a response

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"Just dont say "hey babe, wanna come for a ride in my sports car"...yes i had one like that last night....instant block!

Ha ha never! Little do they realise by saying that the impression they are giving is that the car is their only redeeming feature....

See I once spent a couple of weeks chatting increasingly smuttily with a charming lady from the lower east mids and we discussed our love of outdoor fun and arranged to meet as the weather was sunny and we had built up a delicious head of steam....

She was pleasantly surprised when I picked her up in a soft top 370z, but knowing her naughtiness probably more for exhibitionist possibilities than the sleek design of the car itself.

Sell yourself, not possessions, showing any signs of wealth is often more of a put off than turn on, unless as a surprising little aside....

Tbh the car wasn't even mine, I can just get my hands on them (legally lol!)

"

Smooth

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