FabSwingers.com forum: Why can’t we find a female to join us?

By *anttohavefunnow69 OP Couple
9 weeks ago

somewhwere in wales

We have been on this site about 10 years, we have chatted to some single females, but have never managed to get them to meet us?

What are we doing wrong?

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By *carlettxWoman
9 weeks ago

Essex

"We have been on this site about 10 years, we have chatted to some single females, but have never managed to get them to meet us?

What are we doing wrong?

Xx"

I go to clubs to meet people. It’s less pressure

Go to some couples and single ladies nights and you will probably meet some

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By *avenjane7Couple
9 weeks ago

colne

"We have been on this site about 10 years, we have chatted to some single females, but have never managed to get them to meet us?

What are we doing wrong?

Xx"
same for us realy, we think it because not many about and to many time wasters.

Jane xx

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By *anttohavefunnow69 OP Couple
9 weeks ago

somewhwere in wales

We’ve been to lots of clubs. Generally met couples there. It’s a tricky game

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By *anttohavefunnow69 OP Couple
9 weeks ago

somewhwere in wales

90% of the women who we have chatted to on here are fake we reckon!!

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By *avenjane7Couple
9 weeks ago

colne

"90% of the women who we have chatted to on here are fake we reckon!! "
agree with that one

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By *ambridgezwingerMan
9 weeks ago

Cambridge

"90% of the women who we have chatted to on here are fake we reckon!! "

Try not to overthink the reality; what shall be shall be.

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By *ambridgezwingerMan
9 weeks ago

Cambridge

"90% of the women who we have chatted to on here are fake we reckon!! agree with that one "

Perhaps best to take a step back and let those interested make the first step...

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By *asha86Couple
9 weeks ago

walsall

It is hard work to get through the fakes but there are genuine single females out there. Going to socials is another good way how we've met single females before

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By *anttohavefunnow69 OP Couple
9 weeks ago

somewhwere in wales

They never do 🙈

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By *illow and FionnCouple
9 weeks ago

Cork

"We have been on this site about 10 years, we have chatted to some single females, but have never managed to get them to meet us?

What are we doing wrong?

Xx"

We have the same problem

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By *oupleSeducedCouple
9 weeks ago

Canterbury/Greenwich

"90% of the women who we have chatted to on here are fake we reckon!! "

Or maybe just not interested in you!

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By *anttohavefunnow69 OP Couple
9 weeks ago

somewhwere in wales

"90% of the women who we have chatted to on here are fake we reckon!!

Or maybe just not interested in you! "

More than likely 😂

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By *ondonbifunMan
9 weeks ago

Enfield

"90% of the women who we have chatted to on here are fake we reckon!! "

Only 90%??

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By *asycouple1971Couple
9 weeks ago

midlands

Not many about on fab.

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By *ina777Woman
9 weeks ago

Cumbria

I find that it’s difficult to meet a mf couple that both want a bi lady it’s usually male driven

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By *ina777Woman
9 weeks ago

Cumbria

I would meet I’m genuine and once had a video call prior to a meet then I would be there for sure x

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By *tarryeyes500Couple
9 weeks ago

norwich

We struggle to get even a reply back to messages from ladies or couples!! 🤣 Think your doing well op for chatting to people

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By *ay W. BeauWoman
9 weeks ago

Wolvo

"I find that it’s difficult to meet a mf couple that both want a bi lady it’s usually male driven "

When i was more focused on meeting couples this was my experience. It can feel like you're just there to provide a service and leave. That being said i’ve met some amazing couples who have kept it balanced between all 3 people. As others have said OP socials or clubs are a great start (less fakes) xxx

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By *m3232Man
9 weeks ago

maidenhead

"We have been on this site about 10 years, we have chatted to some single females, but have never managed to get them to meet us?

What are we doing wrong?

Xx"

You are looking for a unicorn. Most will be guys having a wank talking to you.

Sadly lots on here are mainly for kinks and not much interest in meeting.

As a single guy on here it is even harder to meet.

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By *r SensualMan
9 weeks ago

London

"We have been on this site about 10 years, we have chatted to some single females, but have never managed to get them to meet us?

What are we doing wrong?

I go to clubs to meet people. It’s less pressure

Go to some couples and single ladies nights and you will probably meet some

Agree with you on the going to clubs to meet people… couples and single ladies only nights however, tend to be majority couples though.

You’ll be lucky if you find one or two solo ladies in attendance. I know this as I’ve attended these nights with both my gf and FWB’s I’ve had.

The single women are the club events where there are single guys because that’s who most of the ladies are after.

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By *carlettxWoman
9 weeks ago

Essex

"90% of the women who we have chatted to on here are fake we reckon!! "

I would agree with that

I’m yet to find a true bi fem too

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By *he Silver FuxMan
9 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

Lordy, a few of my lady friends would like a bit of that action… 😈

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By *nya NeesWoman
9 weeks ago

Brum

"90% of the women who we have chatted to on here are fake we reckon!!

I would agree with that

I’m yet to find a true bi fem too"

Where are you casting your net? 😊😉

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By *lack beauty 35Woman
9 weeks ago

West midlands

I find it rare that I fancy both in a couple. But would suggest attend couples and single female nights at a club. Wish you luck

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By *arried West End CoupleCouple
9 weeks ago

Glasgow

We’ve been on here nearly 10 years too and find it hard to find a single female to play with us

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
9 weeks ago

Reading

I find this thread strange. I don't often speak to other women so can't vouch for the percentages of fakes. Or time wasters?

But I can say that most of the time I delete messages from couples it is because they've sent me their stock copy/paste message. That doesn't make me feel very special, like I could be one of hundreds that you've sent the same message to. What is about me that makes couples want me to join them? If it's just that I'm a woman, I'll pass.

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By *aomilatteCouple
9 weeks ago

Midlands

"We have been on this site about 10 years, we have chatted to some single females, but have never managed to get them to meet us?

What are we doing wrong?

Xx"

Most single women prefer to meet in clubs. Many are open to playing with couples but want to see the vibe from both of a couple. What they don't want is to meet a couple with a jealous Wife and be involved in drama. You're one of many who don't get success meeting single Women on Fab. You may not get regular opportunities at clubs but you will get them occasionally. We find the club nights that allow single Men attract far more single Women and many are open to playing with couples.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
9 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

What do you think you're doing right OP?

What do you want or expect the female to do for you? What do you want or expect to do for them?

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By *hat.coupleCouple
9 weeks ago

Dartford

We only play with single bi females so we know the struggle, but I decided that I didn't want to compromise and stuck to our guns. We seem to have been lucky and seem to find the elusive unicorns. We mostly meet them spontaneously at clubs, but also do find them on here. But it's a lot of hard work on fab, and I mean A Lot!!!!

I don't know what else to say, our veris speak volumes.

Mrs x

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By *issmorganWoman
9 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

You're looking for the same as most couples, men and some women too op, so it's not gonna be easy.

They have to be attracted to both of you, so that makes it even harder.

As others have said, people seem to do better meeting bi ladies at clubs and socials , they can be inundated on here.

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
9 weeks ago

Chester

I’d agree with the post above - most messages I get from couples are boring one liners. I even had one the other day which was just ‘oi’. We give single guys a hard time for terrible messaging, but in my experience they’re not the only ones….

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By *iss DevilWoman
9 weeks ago

Bedford

I used to meet couples but then most of the meets, the lady seemed to be there just to please her man. And I want a proper three-way fun, not just me being the performing monkey, giving but not receiving. As a lot of the time, I was not allowed to play with the man as that was "their dynamics".

I agree with one of the previous posters, it's very difficult to get a three-way attraction. If I'm attracted to the guy, the lady doesn't do anything for me and the other way round. So nowadays, I only meet in clubs, when I'm already going there anyway, with either my partner or my FWB.

However, if I was looking for couples and got a message from yourselves, OP, I would be questioning what my role would be in your dynamics. Your profile seem to concentrate on men only.

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By *na_Luv_4PlayCouple
9 weeks ago

Bridlington

"We have been on this site about 10 years, we have chatted to some single females, but have never managed to get them to meet us?

What are we doing wrong?

Xx"

Definitely clubs are the best way to meet single females.. Chameleons being our personal favourite xx

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By *eggieMarshmallowWoman
9 weeks ago

Cardiff

I wouldn't meet anyone with the line 'white people only' in their bio

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
9 weeks ago

Kent

Most clubs on Saturday nights are for couples and single females

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
9 weeks ago

Newcastle

We rarely play together these days and found couples quite difficult to find when we did and I have to say playing on my own I have found it just as tough.

I’d love to find a couple to play with but it’s about finding the right couple. I’ve had plenty of chats with couples but it’s never progressed to a meet. Time is often an issue as getting 3 diaries to align can be quite a task and then it just seems to fizzle out.

I want a couple who I can be friends with though and get on well with them both equally and I think that’s where the issue probably is for me as most aren’t looking for this. I need to feel a connection and attraction to both of them too.

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By *lack beauty 35Woman
9 weeks ago

West midlands

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By *anttohavefunnow69 OP Couple
9 weeks ago

somewhwere in wales

"We have been on this site about 10 years, we have chatted to some single females, but have never managed to get them to meet us?

What are we doing wrong?

Interesting concept. We’ve stayed away from single guy nights, but maybe we should try one?

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By *andPextraCouple
9 weeks ago

North West

Its simply a numbers game really. There are more far more couples chasing single women than there are actual single women, hence the genuine ones can be uber choosy.

I’d agree about fakes. Id say 80% of single women who contact me are nothing of the sort.

Then add in I want genuinely bisexual, not “I’ll ham it up” on here and then casually drop in about the fella who’s not mentioned on my “single” profile and wants to tag along…..

When we joined fab we thought it would be relatively easy for me to find ladies to play with; it has proven to be anything but.

Still, it can be done. Just takes time, patience and effort.

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By *anttohavefunnow69 OP Couple
9 weeks ago

somewhwere in wales

"90% of the women who we have chatted to on here are fake we reckon!!

I would agree with that

I’m yet to find a true bi fem too"

If only you were closer

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By *anttohavefunnow69 OP Couple
9 weeks ago

somewhwere in wales

"Its simply a numbers game really. There are more far more couples chasing single women than there are actual single women, hence the genuine ones can be uber choosy.

I’d agree about fakes. Id say 80% of single women who contact me are nothing of the sort.

Then add in I want genuinely bisexual, not “I’ll ham it up” on here and then casually drop in about the fella who’s not mentioned on my “single” profile and wants to tag along…..

When we joined fab we thought it would be relatively easy for me to find ladies to play with; it has proven to be anything but.

Still, it can be done. Just takes time, patience and effort.

Yes we have had the “I’ll only meet with my boyfriend “. What’s that about

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By *J coupleCouple
9 weeks ago

stone

Most single female profiles on here are fake. Many couple profiles are a married man wishing his wife would participate. Clubs are really the best place to out the dross so you don’t waste your time. There’s quite a few couples where the male doesn’t participate but is quite happy to watch his wife with a couple.

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By *eltic connectionCouple
9 weeks ago

Manningtree

It is difficult to meet single ladies on fab, we are lucky that we've found a few but since starting the Ipswich and Suffolk Socials we meet as many as we want. The last social event we had 20 ladies turn up! Try the social events in your are as they tend to get many more ladies than the clubs do.

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By *aomilatteCouple
9 weeks ago

Midlands

"Its simply a numbers game really. There are more far more couples chasing single women than there are actual single women, hence the genuine ones can be uber choosy.

I’d agree about fakes. Id say 80% of single women who contact me are nothing of the sort.

Then add in I want genuinely bisexual, not “I’ll ham it up” on here and then casually drop in about the fella who’s not mentioned on my “single” profile and wants to tag along…..

When we joined fab we thought it would be relatively easy for me to find ladies to play with; it has proven to be anything but.

Still, it can be done. Just takes time, patience and effort.

Yes we have had the “I’ll only meet with my boyfriend “. What’s that about

It's the Man running a single woman profile, it's fairly common. We've met couples that also have a single woman profile and the Man actually runs it.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
9 weeks ago

Leeds

On a couples profile I like to see some pics of them both together.

I don't respond to messages looking for "a female". I prefer to be called a woman.

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By *r SensualMan
9 weeks ago

London

Also to add… asking another couple (from their profile) if the lady plays alone is NOT the way to find yourself a single lady.

Not saying this is your approach OP but there are a few who do this and quite frankly it’s a blatant disrespect towards the lady and her fella.

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By *carlettxWoman
9 weeks ago

Essex

"We have been on this site about 10 years, we have chatted to some single females, but have never managed to get them to meet us?

What are we doing wrong?

I agree

I used to host cougars and cubs nights aimed at couples and rings women wanting to meet guys

The enough of single fems that ended up getting it on with couples on those nights was more than I anticipated

The hardest thing for couples wanting that bi single fem is they are competing with other couples and single men on here. Unless that single fem is purely looking for couples it’s not easy

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By *ings Road GentlemanMan
9 weeks ago

Kings Road, Chelsea.

"We have been on this site about 10 years, we have chatted to some single females, but have never managed to get them to meet us?

What are we doing wrong?

I go to clubs to meet people. It’s less pressure

Go to some couples and single ladies nights and you will probably meet some

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By *woamigosCouple
9 weeks ago

harrow

think there are a lots of fakes but it is a bit daunting for a woman to meet an already successful couple x

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By *ensualdesiresCouple
9 weeks ago

Benfleet

You are doing nothing wrong it is just reality of wanting what you can't have lol

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By *p for fun2019Couple
9 weeks ago

Bournemouth j

Salls got her own profile looking for ladies or couples. Surprisingly she gets very few genuine messages.

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By *adeiteWoman
9 weeks ago

Stafford

On the flip side I feel similar. I was chatting to what I thought was a legit couple, getting along well. Exchanged photos, talking about meeting etc. Then blocked out of nowhere. Guess it was a single guy having a wank

It's silly

But I will be going to clubs. Meeting off here is alot harder than it used to be in general, playing dodge the fakes continually.

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By *ABflirtyWoman
9 weeks ago

Norwich

Clubs are the way of meeting bi woman . And there are some clubs better then others for that. Liberty Elite is lovely have fun bi nights .

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
9 weeks ago

Coventry

"90% of the women who we have chatted to on here are fake we reckon!! "

I mean that's the beauty of clubs. People you meet face to face are definitely real (unless AI and robotics have advanced faster than I've realised on the club scene). Also don't forget other organised swingers events such as socials or festivals.

We can't really give any tips about meeting single ladies online as we don't really message people online. However in the real world we know it works for us. And not necessarily in the swinging world either. We've picked up ladies just on normal nights outs. Just be yourselves and socialise. If the chemistry is there it's there. If it's not there that just one of those things.

It's also fair to say we don't go out with a goal of finding single ladies. We just go out, meet people and take them as we find them. Sometimes it's couples, groups, guys or single ladies. I think when you go out just to find a good time and see what happens without pressure the magic just works. People just like to be with chilled people and just let things flow naturally.

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By *ABflirtyWoman
9 weeks ago

Norwich

I am single bi woman now and i get more fun at clubs then on fab . Some say bi and not really only doing it to turn there men on ... I can be very bi and have been for years. X

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By *anttohavefunnow69 OP Couple
8 weeks ago

somewhwere in wales

Thank you for all the advice. Very much appreciated. Xxx

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