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Cambridge

Evening all,

What's the view of clubs which do not ask for membership or are relaxed about it? Does it make the swinging world a better place (or is it to its detriment). What say you?

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By *asterfulsoulMan
6 weeks ago

Manchester

I've only been to one and most of the time it was a gay sauna. Was quite good.

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By *ink vixenCouple
6 weeks ago

Medway

We’ve been to both kinds and met some lovely people and some dick heads at both.

Member clubs claim to have some control over the people that attend and say they could be identified if needed.

I’m rather dubious of this.

It’s probably a condition of their licence though.

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By *ty31Man
6 weeks ago

NW London

I think it's better as people can "try before they buy"

Even a non-members club should request ID from customers so unless it's a vetted membership (such as Le Boudoir) I don't see what difference it makes.

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By *dc1Man
6 weeks ago

essex and all over the south

I think its ok to ask for membership. What grates on my teeth is when single women is £10. Couples are £25 and single men are £80. Like one club i looked at last week. Thats not eqality. Lol

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By *lik and PaulCouple
6 weeks ago

cahoots

We wouldn't go to a club that didn't require ID. Potentially having a membership means there's something to lose if you cause issues so it's a good deterrent maybe. The only place we've encountered issues was at Rios, which is more of a spa but anyone can walk in off the street.

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By *ig1gaz1Man
6 weeks ago

bradford

ive never had club membership to any clubs.

But ive been in many of them and all over the country via organised socials on these sort of websites.

some are really good places.

whilst from a males point of view i find the higher price unfair when it should be the same price for singles as well as couples.( one price for all )

they already restrict access by single males on the night they dont need unfair prices to deal with as well.

i also agree with membership as it does kinda stop walk ins by the general public.

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By *udandBryanCouple
6 weeks ago

Boston

We prefer clubs with no membership fees, as there are many we've only been to once, so worked out expensive, whereas we go to The Attic whenever we can.

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By *ony MannMan
6 weeks ago

Las Gaviotos, Fuerteventura

It depends if you intend to go back, you never know what they will be like till you are in.

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By *ty31Man
6 weeks ago

NW London

"We wouldn't go to a club that didn't require ID. Potentially having a membership means there's something to lose if you cause issues so it's a good deterrent maybe. The only place we've encountered issues was at Rios, which is more of a spa but anyone can walk in off the street."

I think it's more to do with how management deal with bad behaviour.

Anyone can walk in off the street to Club Play (for example) too but rarely do any issues occur because of the way it's run.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
6 weeks ago

Staffordshire

As a couple that prefer couples events......membership clubs that are strict are our preference.

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By *ambridgezwinger OP Man
6 weeks ago

Cambridge

Membership and ID can be mutually exclusive.

ID seems reasonable and fair 👍🏼😊

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By *ambridgezwinger OP Man
6 weeks ago

Cambridge

Membership and ID can be mutually exclusive.

ID seems reasonable and fair 👍🏼😊

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By *ambridgezwinger OP Man
6 weeks ago

Cambridge

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By *ambridgezwinger OP Man
6 weeks ago

Cambridge

"We prefer clubs with no membership fees, as there are many we've only been to once, so worked out expensive, whereas we go to The Attic whenever we can. "

That makes plenty of sense and succinctly answers my post. Some attendees don't have a regular club at which they repeatedly return, so relaxed membership or clubs that ask for no more than ID seems very practical. 😊

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By *ambridgezwinger OP Man
6 weeks ago

Cambridge

"We’ve been to both kinds and met some lovely people and some dick heads at both.

Member clubs claim to have some control over the people that attend and say they could be identified if needed.

I’m rather dubious of this.

It’s probably a condition of their licence though. "

I share your doubt re who enters the club (membership required or not)

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By *ig1gaz1Man
6 weeks ago

bradford

"We prefer clubs with no membership fees, as there are many we've only been to once, so worked out expensive, whereas we go to The Attic whenever we can. "

Its only been the entrance fee no membership was needed on an organised club meets organised on the forums.

being coupled up to others does help if your a single male.

whilst these organised club meets also gives users chance to see the club itself, without paying membership.

This has been my experience though.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
6 weeks ago

Coventry

"Evening all,

What's the view of clubs which do not ask for membership or are relaxed about it? Does it make the swinging world a better place (or is it to its detriment). What say you?"

As a single guy on the scene my first Club was the Attic. Partly due to location but mainly due to no membership and a reasonable entry fee. Which personally helped me to make the leap into trying clubs. Because why would you want to pay a big entry fee if you didn't know if it would be for you? I'm glad I went. I had a very successful night and never looked back. All thanks to the Attic having no membership.

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By *oiluvfunMan
6 weeks ago

Penrith

I’ve been to 8 clubs as a single guy, some insisted on a membership fee, some didn’t.

I’ve always avoided the clubs who ridiculously overcharged solo male membership fees as a matter of principle (£60 annually for a solo male, £10 lifetime for a couple, £5 lifetime for a single female at one club in particular is a genuine piss-take)…

Overall, from my experiences, whether a club charges you a membership fee or not, does not mean you will feel any more welcome as a single guy. The ‘Penis Pound’ in the club’s coffers is more important than the person making the payment…..

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By *asterfulsoulMan
6 weeks ago

Manchester

"The only place we've encountered issues was at Rios, which is more of a spa but anyone can walk in off the street."

Rio's, like Bristol Gardens, isn't technically a swingers club at all. They just turn a blind eye (sometimes - others they get funny about it), and in my experience both land up being a bit worse for it.

Also I burned my foot really badly in Rio's once so fuck them 😒

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By *ambridgezwinger OP Man
6 weeks ago

Cambridge

"I’ve been to 8 clubs as a single guy, some insisted on a membership fee, some didn’t.

Yes, fun before profit makes more sense - particularly when membership fees are financially steep!

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By *ambridgezwinger OP Man
6 weeks ago

Cambridge

"Evening all,

What's the view of clubs which do not ask for membership or are relaxed about it? Does it make the swinging world a better place (or is it to its detriment). What say you?

Mr"

The Attic is a good choice both for potentially good vibes and being reasonable from a financial angle. 😊

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
6 weeks ago

Birmingham

We've enjoyed both.

I haven't noticed a difference between them honestly. I know some say a members club feels "safer" than a non-members but personally, we haven't experienced anything which would make us agree with that.

I suppose for us, the only difference we've felt is paying extra for a membership.

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By *etmebeinurefantasiesMan
6 weeks ago

witney

I'm looking to go to a club for the first time, are there any in the Oxfordshire or surrounding areas. My biggest stumbling block could be that I'm a single male, can this be a problem or are there any females or couples who would consider a club buddy? At least until I have become a familiar face to the party scene. And any tips or advice on breaking my club virginity would be so much appreciated. TIA justin xx

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By *aul7308Man
6 weeks ago

Derby

A club generally asking for membership isn’t doing it for anything as noble as your safety.

If they serve alcohol most of them are private members clubs, only real way to get a licence, and one of the conditions of their licence is taking your ID.

Clubs you can just walk into won’t sell alcohol.

Of course there’ll be the odd exception, where it’s genuinely for your safety, but not most of the time.

Abfab Kestrel is a great example. The owner and management spend far too much time aggressively policing activity there for it to be for you, it’s all to do with protecting their licence and not getting shut down.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Central

Places that need membership, to satisfy their licensing contractual terms, can do this at a token cost.

The best way to get people returning is by providing a great environment and service, so that people HAVE to come back, as the experience is special.

Certainly, grill single men to ensure that they understand that sex is a bonus and to visit for other reasons. Definitely ban them, if they ever break rules. Expert management cultivates the right ethos and they and guests root out anything that's inappropriate. I like variety and also to visit my favourite places a lot.

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By *enelope2UWoman
6 weeks ago

Fife

Only ever was used to vetted clubs with membership and each single was linked to a couples membership. It made a far better experience and better members.

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
6 weeks ago

Stoke

"I think its ok to ask for membership. What grates on my teeth is when single women is £10. Couples are £25 and single men are £80. Like one club i looked at last week. Thats not eqality. Lol

It's to deter lots of males, and to encourage couples and females to join/attend.

If the pricing structure wasn't set this way it would be a cockfest.

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By *ty31Man
6 weeks ago

NW London

"I think its ok to ask for membership. What grates on my teeth is when single women is £10. Couples are £25 and single men are £80. Like one club i looked at last week. Thats not eqality. Lol

It's to deter lots of males, and to encourage couples and females to join/attend.

If the pricing structure wasn't set this way it would be a cockfest. "

Not necessarily - a responsible club would set limits and ratios to keep things balanced.

The pricing structure only prohibits less financially well off from attending and reinforces a myth that higher cost= better behaved men when often the opposite is true (make it too costly and some guys think they are entitled to something more).

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By *oiluvfunMan
6 weeks ago

Penrith

"I think its ok to ask for membership. What grates on my teeth is when single women is £10. Couples are £25 and single men are £80. Like one club i looked at last week. Thats not eqality. Lol

It's to deter lots of males, and to encourage couples and females to join/attend.

If the pricing structure wasn't set this way it would be a cockfest. "

Absolutely this

You don’t go to a swingers’ club as a single guy looking for equality pmsl! Feeling welcome is a big enough hurdle…..

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
6 weeks ago

Stoke

"I think its ok to ask for membership. What grates on my teeth is when single women is £10. Couples are £25 and single men are £80. Like one club i looked at last week. Thats not eqality. Lol

It's to deter lots of males, and to encourage couples and females to join/attend.

If the pricing structure wasn't set this way it would be a cockfest.

Not necessarily - a responsible club would set limits and ratios to keep things balanced.

We'll agree to disagree

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
6 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

"Evening all,

What's the view of clubs which do not ask for membership or are relaxed about it? Does it make the swinging world a better place (or is it to its detriment). What say you?"

Membership is often a requirement of the licence of the venue. Private members clubs have different licensing rules for both sex and alcohol depending on the council. If you like the club and it has nights you enjoy/might enjoy, stump it up. Consider it just a cost of the hobby and factor it in.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I love the Attic and that's not got any membership.

You get a lovely variety of people coming there from all over, not just the same members every week.

It's not full of cliques as there are plenty of new people.

No one jumps on a rare new face as fresh blood due to the sheer variety in people who go.

Folk who do go regularly can visit other clubs as they've not invested a chunk of money in membership and feel the need to only go there.

The staff are fantastic and ensure that first timers are looked after and also, don't break rules.

No one has to worry about being doxed if the club's database is hacked, as they don't need one.

In addition, as a Tgirl, if I look anything like the photo on my driving licence, then I'd be doing this all very badly. So for me, any membership that required photo ID would be pointless.

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By *aul7308Man
6 weeks ago

Derby

The Attic doesn’t serve alcohol though, if it did it would have to have membership and ID.

And entry cost differences are pure and simple supply and demand. They are here to make money. If there weren’t so many men willing to stump up, couples and single women would pay more to balance the books.

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By *dc1Man
6 weeks ago

essex and all over the south

"I think its ok to ask for membership. What grates on my teeth is when single women is £10. Couples are £25 and single men are £80. Like one club i looked at last week. Thats not eqality. Lol

It's to deter lots of males, and to encourage couples and females to join/attend.

If the pricing structure wasn't set this way it would be a cockfest.

Not necessarily - a responsible club would set limits and ratios to keep things balanced.

We'll agree to disagree

I have seen this when i attended with a friend. Men had payed more money to go and expected more. And pestered us more.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
6 weeks ago

Coventry

I really don't think you can rely on membership as a gauge of the quality and safety of its customers. We've been to many different clubs and not really found a correlation. Some clubs have good safety and vibes (infact the vast majority) some others not so much.

As many have said genrally membership is just a formality of licencing. The only real exception I'd say to this is our experience of Purple Mamba Nottingham. We went a few years ago and the membership there was a bit different. They take a keen intrest in who they're letting in. Instead of fill out the form, pay the fee and here's a card they do a little interview. They have a list of questions about your experience, you attitudes towards the lifestyle, consent and safety etc. Basically to suss you out a bit. It's not an elitism thing or anything like that, just purely to check you're OK and your mindset and understanding toward clubs is healthy. And I have no doubt if the proprietor had any doubts about your attitudes towards respect and safety she'd say this isn't a place for you. So I think this is an example where membership actually does mean a bit more than a formality. I know the club has genrally a very good reputation for the behaviour of its members.

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