FabSwingers.com forum: One for the ladies

By *adam Padam OP Woman
4 weeks ago

leeds

I'm just airing my view about my treatment on here. People think single women have it so good because the % on here against men is lower.

This is probably my 4th or 5th profile.

The things I read from strangers.

Fancy a fuck

Do you do bareback

Can I make you pregnant

Sexual scenarios,

I'll come round and you can suck my cock

I'll come lick your pussy

You get the point.

I'm not sure why anyone past the age of 14 speaks like that to a women they've never met and when I call it out I'm told

`I was only joking'. EVERY DAMN TIME.

You see us woman have to filter these profiles to be safe, is this person gonna be sound, polite, not pushy, safe etc

When comments like that are thrown like I'm being asked to make a cup of tea no. That's why I'm not meeting.

Then..... After vetting you get to meeting and what I was seeking is diminished at the first social.

I don't want this that other, I don't text often

As if by some grace I should be grateful.

My profile is direct, I don't get so many messages. I'm sure I'll be told to filter single males. I don't see why that's the resolution.

Could people just not start with simple non sexually aggressive messages

I'm posting this for an insight as to the daily crap women get.

The idiocy, the pain and the damn right dumb

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By *icecouple561Couple
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4 weeks ago

East Sussex

Without being confrontational in any way filtering out single men and doing your own searches is a resolution. It might not be the one you want but it would cut down on the messages you dislike recieving.

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By *uger n Spice78Couple
4 weeks ago

South East Coast

We get it as a couple. Single men seem to think if you are on fab, you can be spoken to in a degrading way, you're obviously fuk anything. You can see the messages before you read them so we just delete them and block them.

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By *ene FairfaxMan
4 weeks ago

Dover

As someone who reads profiles and respects what is said in them, what is sent by others it makes me wonder how they get anywhere in life

Mind you polite messages often get you know where either lol

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By *adam Padam OP Woman
4 weeks ago

leeds

"We get it as a couple. Single men seem to think if you are on fab, you can be spoken to in a degrading way, you're obviously fuk anything. You can see the messages before you read them so we just delete them and block them. "

This is my point. It is almost like because people partake in swinging, we are dehumanized.

It's no different to having an interest in anything else. I delete without being read, that is a small sense of achievement.

Then they wonder why there messages get deleted that way thinking I have 300 messages to read.

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By *adam Padam OP Woman
4 weeks ago

leeds

"As someone who reads profiles and respects what is said in them, what is sent by others it makes me wonder how they get anywhere in life

Mind you polite messages often get you know where either lol

I always reply to polite messages. More often is the case it's down to compatibility, location etc.

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By *andPextraCouple
4 weeks ago

North West

I repeatedly said a polite no thank you to someone, in response to uninteresting and unappealing messages (hi, wot you up too, fancy DP etc)

When I bit back slightly and asked which part of no thank you was proving to be a struggle to grasp the response was illuminating of sadly too may people in here

Basically:

You are on a sex site

Therefore i’m entitled to activity to with you

When you say no I’ll call you ugly/unattractive/slag etc

And then suggest I wasn't interested in the first place

Thick skin a must on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

I know plenty of women who are proactive and block single men just messaging the ones they are interested in , setting the ball rolling. Others wait to be messaged and never get the kind of message that they are looking for.

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By *viatrixWoman
4 weeks ago

Redhill

Someone messaged me recently. Some very blurry photos on his profile BUT impressive verifications- several from female, well-known forumites! So I trusted that and tried to start a conversation. Big mistake.

All convo revolved around arranging to meet for a fuck and go, when I repeatedly said I didn’t want that. He wanted me to drive 2 hrs to where he was and I clearly said I was not doing that. Eventually I stopped responding and he was just sending a barrage of messages which descended on threats later on which made me block him. What an absolute nutter.

Based on those veris, I stupidly gave him my phone number and he kept sending lots of messages there. Blocked too. I used to trust verifications but not anymore- wow, what a basket case! Hadn’t come across one like that for years.

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By *enelope2UWoman
4 weeks ago

Fife

"I'm just airing my view about my treatment on here. People think single women have it so good because the % on here against men is lower.

This is probably my 4th or 5th profile.

The things I read from strangers.

Fancy a fuck

Do you do bareback

Can I make you pregnant

Sexual scenarios,

I'll come round and you can suck my cock

I'll come lick your pussy

You get the point.

I'm not sure why anyone past the age of 14 speaks like that to a women they've never met and when I call it out I'm told

`I was only joking'. EVERY DAMN TIME.

You see us woman have to filter these profiles to be safe, is this person gonna be sound, polite, not pushy, safe etc

When comments like that are thrown like I'm being asked to make a cup of tea no. That's why I'm not meeting.

Then..... After vetting you get to meeting and what I was seeking is diminished at the first social.

I don't want this that other, I don't text often

As if by some grace I should be grateful.

My profile is direct, I don't get so many messages. I'm sure I'll be told to filter single males. I don't see why that's the resolution.

Could people just not start with simple non sexually aggressive messages

I'm posting this for an insight as to the daily crap women get.

The idiocy, the pain and the damn right dumb "

You are not alone... It's vile and add I've always wanted to try a black chic.

I like coloured pussy

Can I breed my white spunk in you

And from black guys... Why aren't you taking black cock etc .

It's vile

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By *iss DevilWoman
4 weeks ago

Bedford

I don't get many messages as most men do get the message when the "this person is not looking for your category", or however it is worded, I guess. But still, occasionally, someone would message out of the blue. Some messages are very clearly copy and paste, particularly the ones mentioning they read/liked my profile. Have you really? Lol.

Others are chancers, see me online and just try it on. Hardly any messages lead to more as I prefer to meet people offline.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
4 weeks ago

kent

We’ve rarely, if ever, encountered these kinds of problems. We don’t receive many messages, and while those we do receive are mostly bland, they are nearly always polite and respectful. Xx

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By *onnie 90Woman
4 weeks ago

Leeds

"I'm just airing my view about my treatment on here. People think single women have it so good because the % on here against men is lower.

This is probably my 4th or 5th profile.

The things I read from strangers.

Fancy a fuck

Do you do bareback

Can I make you pregnant

Sexual scenarios,

I'll come round and you can suck my cock

I'll come lick your pussy

You get the point.

I'm not sure why anyone past the age of 14 speaks like that to a women they've never met and when I call it out I'm told

`I was only joking'. EVERY DAMN TIME.

You see us woman have to filter these profiles to be safe, is this person gonna be sound, polite, not pushy, safe etc

When comments like that are thrown like I'm being asked to make a cup of tea no. That's why I'm not meeting.

Then..... After vetting you get to meeting and what I was seeking is diminished at the first social.

I don't want this that other, I don't text often

As if by some grace I should be grateful.

My profile is direct, I don't get so many messages. I'm sure I'll be told to filter single males. I don't see why that's the resolution.

Could people just not start with simple non sexually aggressive messages

I'm posting this for an insight as to the daily crap women get.

The idiocy, the pain and the damn right dumb "

I can relate to this. The total ignorance gets me. I make it clear that I'm not into guys with beards. Yet I get messages from guys with beards expecting me to make an exception just for them because "it will be worth it". Superiority complex or what?

"Do you want to use me as a toilet"

"Please let me worship you".

And (still) my all time favourite "U FK NW". Translated into English I believe it says "you fuck now". More of a order than anything else.

Sometimes just a cock pic and nothing else (more often than not it's an image they've nicked off a porn site).

So, you have to ask, what's better? Receiving no messages at all? Or receiving countless self entitled, ridiculous and downright weird crap day in day out?

I'm certain there are some lovely genuine guys on here. But it's the higher percentage of neanderthals that make them harder to find.

Rant over

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By *oulou22Woman
4 weeks ago

Sutton

In my long experience on here I've learned that sadly there's nothing you can do to stop these kinds of messages. The best thing is to block people as soon as they indicate that they're not what you're looking for. If it gets too much then take a break from the site and regroup. Keep to your boundaries and protect your energy.

It's a real shame that some men don't realise that they need to go at the speed women want rather than expecting us to go at their speed. It would make everyone here a lot happier if they did.

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By *onnie 90Woman
4 weeks ago

Leeds

You have to ask yourself if the guys on here would treat women the same way if they were in a pub, club, store etc. 100% the answer is no. In fact a lot of the stuff that's asked/suggested by the entitled males on here would likely get them arrested if they did it in person. "Police hunting for a man after making lewd suggestions to woman in Lidl" would be on the news.

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By *adam Padam OP Woman
4 weeks ago

leeds

"Someone messaged me recently. Some very blurry photos on his profile BUT impressive verifications- several from female, well-known forumites! So I trusted that and tried to start a conversation. Big mistake.

That's awful.

I hope you reported him to site. I think from previous they are active.

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By *adam Padam OP Woman
4 weeks ago

leeds

"I repeatedly said a polite no thank you to someone, in response to uninteresting and unappealing messages (hi, wot you up too, fancy DP etc)

When I bit back slightly and asked which part of no thank you was proving to be a struggle to grasp the response was illuminating of sadly too may people in here

Basically:

You are on a sex site

Therefore i’m entitled to activity to with you

When you say no I’ll call you ugly/unattractive/slag etc

And then suggest I wasn't interested in the first place

Thick skin a must on here.

Yup

You are on a sex site has been thrust upon me often.

No. That's free prostitution. This is swinging. I like minded consensual agreement between adults who want more than the vanilla life.

I've been told you're on the wrong site often.

Really, according to who?

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By *ittlemissTinselTitsCouple
4 weeks ago

Southampton

Jesus, hope you're OK xx

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By *oulou22Woman
4 weeks ago

Sutton

"I repeatedly said a polite no thank you to someone, in response to uninteresting and unappealing messages (hi, wot you up too, fancy DP etc)

When I bit back slightly and asked which part of no thank you was proving to be a struggle to grasp the response was illuminating of sadly too may people in here

Basically:

You are on a sex site

Therefore i’m entitled to activity to with you

When you say no I’ll call you ugly/unattractive/slag etc

And then suggest I wasn't interested in the first place

Thick skin a must on here.

Yup

You are on a sex site has been thrust upon me often.

No. That's free prostitution. This is swinging. I like minded consensual agreement between adults who want more than the vanilla life.

I've been told you're on the wrong site often.

Really, according to who?"

I get this all the time too. Like, I don't want to receive a video of a man wanking, therefore I must be looking for a monogamous vanilla husband to settle down with

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By *adam Padam OP Woman
4 weeks ago

leeds

This made me chuckle

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