FabSwingers.com forum: How do I get my gf into swinging

Cheshire

I would love to get my girl into the scene, nothing too heavy just a bit of casual chatting and showing her off she is stunning and I would love to enjoy her with others

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4 weeks ago

What the background? Has she shown or said anything to suggest it’s a scenario she’d be into?

I assume you’re discussed sexual history and fantasies?

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By *ocktailSausage- OP Man
4 weeks ago

Cheshire

"What the background? Has she shown or said anything to suggest it’s a scenario she’d be into?

I assume you’re discussed sexual history and fantasies? "

Yeah she’s said she would go to a club and have a look, but it’s not really her thing to have multiple people or others

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4 weeks ago

"What the background? Has she shown or said anything to suggest it’s a scenario she’d be into?

I assume you’re discussed sexual history and fantasies?

Yeah she’s said she would go to a club and have a look, but it’s not really her thing to have multiple people or others "

Then the answer is to go to a club… that’s something she’s said she’d do… it’s a start point. Go along with no expectations and just see how she feels. The key is it has to be her choice. If it’s not for her then you have to accept that.

But being in the club she may well realise she wants more

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Sounds more like voyeurism than swinging. Go to a club, you'll find other voyeurs there too. Plus there's never any obligation to play, though we'd recommend avoiding single bloke and greedy girls nights.

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By *aomilatteCouple
4 weeks ago

Midlands

"What the background? Has she shown or said anything to suggest it’s a scenario she’d be into?

I assume you’re discussed sexual history and fantasies?

Yeah she’s said she would go to a club and have a look, but it’s not really her thing to have multiple people or others "

Go to a club and see what they're about. Many couples just play with each other on their first visit but become more adventurous on future visits.

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By *oroMale41Man
4 weeks ago

Stockton on tees

I'm In the same situation, so far IV took her to a few strip clubs and also visited a club once but as the club asked her to dress down, we kind of left the club as she did t want to on her out first visit to a club.. this was 2 years ago and haven't been to a club since. When we entered the club there was many men (mainly Indians) who kept bumping I to her deliberately which also put her off

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By *andb69Couple
4 weeks ago

leeds

"I would love to get my girl into the scene, nothing too heavy just a bit of casual chatting and showing her off she is stunning and I would love to enjoy her with others "

The simple answer is "you don't". It is something she has to come to, and feel comfortable with, herself. Anything else is coercion, and coercion has no place in swinging.

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4 weeks ago

The simple answer is "you don't". It is something she has to come to, and feel comfortable with, herself. Anything else is coercion, and coercion has no place in swinging.

Exactly this? What would she like? What is she interested in sexually? What are her sexual fantasies? Is your relationship solid and committed? How does she feel about you being on fab?

At the end of the day if a GF or wife doesn't want to swing there is nothing you can or should to to make her. You can't change someone and you absolutely should not pressurise them to do anything they don't really want to.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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4 weeks ago

East Sussex

Why aren't you happy with her how she is?

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By *eckard2019Man
4 weeks ago

North West Durham

Talk about it with her. If she wants to try it, try it. If she doesn't want to, don't. If you value your relationship then don't pressurise her to do anything she isn't happy with.

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By *andy CanesWoman
4 weeks ago

candy cane lane

"I would love to get my girl into the scene, nothing too heavy just a bit of casual chatting and showing her off she is stunning and I would love to enjoy her with others "
you could tell her that you’re on here a swinging site & she what her reaction is

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By *ailor75Man
4 weeks ago

Brigg, near scunthorpe

Same as above, best to get it out there early though

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By *lowercandyWoman
4 weeks ago

Lancashire

"I'm In the same situation, so far IV took her to a few strip clubs and also visited a club once but as the club asked her to dress down, we kind of left the club as she did t want to on her out first visit to a club.. this was 2 years ago and haven't been to a club since. When we entered the club there was many men (mainly Indians) who kept bumping I to her deliberately which also put her off"

You need to pick the right club and night

Read the website to see if you can stay dressed longer (in the lounge) or if it's a straight dress down place.

Also pick a night when it's couples only as that's likely to be less intimidating

Homework is the key

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By *ritishIndianMan
4 weeks ago

London

I have some ideas to see if she’s interested and ease her in if you’d like to chat about them

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By *ML49Man
4 weeks ago

Burnley

"I would love to get my girl into the scene, nothing too heavy just a bit of casual chatting and showing her off she is stunning and I would love to enjoy her with others "

Ask her what she thinks about it and don't use her as a toy. Or you won't get anywhere with her.

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By *nesCouple
4 weeks ago

Milton Keynes, city of dreams

Show her your profile and verifications.

I reckon that would be a good start.

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By *ootyfruityCouple
4 weeks ago

andover

Well if she doesn’t know you already have a profile on here, I would definitely start by deleting it 😂

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

“Nothing too heavy”

“I want to enjoy her with others”

First question-Does she know you are on here?

Second question -Does she know you see other women?

Third question- Is this something that has come up in conversation or something you have pushed?

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