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"Don't have any spelling mistakes, a bit of humour and don't, most importantly, copy and paste the same message to hundreds of others " Cheers, I think most of us have got that bit at least what I meant was some 'actual' examples? | |||
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"All I /we ask is that you address us both, so no "I want to fuck the mrs." & just say a bit about yourself. We don't want war and peace so Hi, my names Fred, I like your profile if you like mine please get in touch Does the job for us. Good luck " Nice one - cheers for the example and actually reading the OP properly | |||
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" Cheers, I think most of us have got that bit at least what I meant was some 'actual' examples? " Basically, look for a "hook" in her profile, ie: a particular item or thing she said in her profile, construct a response around that. It's a double whammy, shows you've read the profile to begin with, but also means you have a better chance if writing something of interest. So as a silly example, she might put something like "cowboy hats turn me on", you might put something like "well, stetsons are all very well, but wait until you clap eyes on my large sombrero" or something lol... A bit of humour, keep ittrelevant where possible, and just enjoy writing them, I don't always get a reply but I'm usually laughing myself while writing em Hope that helps! | |||
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" Cheers, I think most of us have got that bit at least what I meant was some 'actual' examples? Basically, look for a "hook" in her profile, ie: a particular item or thing she said in her profile, construct a response around that. It's a double whammy, shows you've read the profile to begin with, but also means you have a better chance if writing something of interest. So as a silly example, she might put something like "cowboy hats turn me on", you might put something like "well, stetsons are all very well, but wait until you clap eyes on my large sombrero" or something lol... A bit of humour, keep ittrelevant where possible, and just enjoy writing them, I don't always get a reply but I'm usually laughing myself while writing em Hope that helps! " It does friend. Thanks for that | |||
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" Cheers, I think most of us have got that bit at least what I meant was some 'actual' examples? Basically, look for a "hook" in her profile, ie: a particular item or thing she said in her profile, construct a response around that. It's a double whammy, shows you've read the profile to begin with, but also means you have a better chance if writing something of interest. So as a silly example, she might put something like "cowboy hats turn me on", you might put something like "well, stetsons are all very well, but wait until you clap eyes on my large sombrero" or something lol... A bit of humour, keep ittrelevant where possible, and just enjoy writing them, I don't always get a reply but I'm usually laughing myself while writing em Hope that helps! " | |||
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"I don't mind admitting that I find writing the first approach message difficult. First messages on here are obviously like CV covering letters ...the content is very important to the reader and helps them make a decision as to whether you're a decent possible applicant or not lol So come on girls provide us with some exapmples of these 'chatty, witty, funny' first 'covering letter' messages that you like to receive ...and of course that you send out yourselves. I'd just be interested really as I'm sure other men on here would be too. " Surprised you are having trouble catching anyone's attention | |||
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"I don't mind admitting that I find writing the first approach message difficult. First messages on here are obviously like CV covering letters ...the content is very important to the reader and helps them make a decision as to whether you're a decent possible applicant or not lol So come on girls provide us with some exapmples of these 'chatty, witty, funny' first 'covering letter' messages that you like to receive ...and of course that you send out yourselves. I'd just be interested really as I'm sure other men on here would be too. Surprised you are having trouble catching anyone's attention " Thanks for the compliment still like most men, I think, I rarely get a reply from women... This thread is helpful - I don't think I was way off to be honest - there's lots of advice on here anyway and most of it is a matter of luck I suspect. | |||
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"I don't mind admitting that I find writing the first approach message difficult. First messages on here are obviously like CV covering letters ...the content is very important to the reader and helps them make a decision as to whether you're a decent possible applicant or not lol So come on girls provide us with some exapmples of these 'chatty, witty, funny' first 'covering letter' messages that you like to receive ...and of course that you send out yourselves. I'd just be interested really as I'm sure other men on here would be too. Surprised you are having trouble catching anyone's attention Thanks for the compliment still like most men, I think, I rarely get a reply from women... This thread is helpful - I don't think I was way off to be honest - there's lots of advice on here anyway and most of it is a matter of luck I suspect." Your gorgeous you won't have any trouble Mmmmmm those pics have certainly brightened up my Sunday morning xxx thank you | |||
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"Ok perfect message for me is Fancy a fuck bareback you slut Gets a response every time That's my Sunday morning sarcasm " Pmsl... x | |||
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"All I /we ask is that you address us both, so no "I want to fuck the mrs." & just say a bit about yourself. We don't want war and peace so Hi, my names Fred, I like your profile if you like mine please get in touch Does the job for us. Good luck Nice one - cheers for the example and actually reading the OP properly " lmao , u want examples of how to approach people , i am sure u would normally not ask ur mates in a pub how to approach a lady who took yer fancy , be yourself , be spontaneous , do ur own thing , originality is one thing that makes me want to answer a mail. Good luck though | |||
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"Ok perfect message for me is Fancy a fuck bareback you slut Gets a response every time That's my Sunday morning sarcasm Pmsl... x" It happens | |||
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"Why should we give you examples? What works for me, really isn't going to work for someone else. " Whoa there! ...you don't have to at all lol Just asking is all. It actually might be good for women in the long run as it might improve the messages you receive. Relax lol | |||
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"All I /we ask is that you address us both, so no "I want to fuck the mrs." & just say a bit about yourself. We don't want war and peace so Hi, my names Fred, I like your profile if you like mine please get in touch Does the job for us. Good luck Nice one - cheers for the example and actually reading the OP properly lmao , u want examples of how to approach people , i am sure u would normally not ask ur mates in a pub how to approach a lady who took yer fancy , be yourself , be spontaneous , do ur own thing , originality is one thing that makes me want to answer a mail. Good luck though" To be honest I'm just interested really. I don't need examples but thought it might make some interesting Sunday morning reading... | |||
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"You do realise one size won't fit all right? What I find hilarious will leave another woman offended etc. All you can be is yourself and realise you won't appeal to everyone so don't try to. " Yes I realise that and I wouldn't expect to appeal to everyone or want to really. Again I was just interested in hearing some ideas | |||
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"Why should we give you examples? What works for me, really isn't going to work for someone else. Whoa there! ...you don't have to at all lol Just asking is all. It actually might be good for women in the long run as it might improve the messages you receive. Relax lol " You're wrong! As I've said one size does not fit all, and if you think you're offering some kind of service by getting us to tell men how to approach us you are deluded. | |||
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"I don't mind admitting that I find writing the first approach message difficult. First messages on here are obviously like CV covering letters ...the content is very important to the reader and helps them make a decision as to whether you're a decent possible applicant or not lol So come on girls provide us with some exapmples of these 'chatty, witty, funny' first 'covering letter' messages that you like to receive ...and of course that you send out yourselves. I'd just be interested really as I'm sure other men on here would be too. " I can t offer you an example as such as There isn t a one size fits all, the magic ingredient that works for every suitor,, Its an introduction, so introduce yourself, , be polite, what you found interesting about their profile, its basic social skills, if you met a girl in a bar you d smile, , might sound silly, try and smile in a written format, subtle word changes can have a big change, face picture is useful s well, | |||
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"You do realise one size won't fit all right? What I find hilarious will leave another woman offended etc. All you can be is yourself and realise you won't appeal to everyone so don't try to. Yes I realise that and I wouldn't expect to appeal to everyone or want to really. Again I was just interested in hearing some ideas " I think your lovely and very very hot | |||
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"All I /we ask is that you address us both, so no "I want to fuck the mrs." & just say a bit about yourself. We don't want war and peace so Hi, my names Fred, I like your profile if you like mine please get in touch Does the job for us. Good luck " | |||
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"Why should we give you examples? What works for me, really isn't going to work for someone else. Whoa there! ...you don't have to at all lol Just asking is all. It actually might be good for women in the long run as it might improve the messages you receive. Relax lol You're wrong! As I've said one size does not fit all, and if you think you're offering some kind of service by getting us to tell men how to approach us you are deluded." Wow sorry if I offended - not my intention at all - was just saying you don't have to provide examples if you don't want to. I also said it MIGHT reduce the number of awful messages women receive, i didn't say I was offering a service just trying to engage in some relaxed Sunday afternoon chit chat ...this was just something I was thinking about ... | |||
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"Why should we give you examples? What works for me, really isn't going to work for someone else. Whoa there! ...you don't have to at all lol Just asking is all. It actually might be good for women in the long run as it might improve the messages you receive. Relax lol You're wrong! As I've said one size does not fit all, and if you think you're offering some kind of service by getting us to tell men how to approach us you are deluded. Wow sorry if I offended - not my intention at all - was just saying you don't have to provide examples if you don't want to. I also said it MIGHT reduce the number of awful messages women receive, i didn't say I was offering a service just trying to engage in some relaxed Sunday afternoon chit chat ...this was just something I was thinking about ..." Unfortunately the proportion of people who read the forums compared to the membership is teeny, so although your offer is made with good intentions, it won't work. Four messages in my inbox right now saying variations of 'wanna fuck?' I don't even need to open them cos that's all they've written. Hardly Shakespeare is it? | |||
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"If I messaged you, I'd probably say something about there'd definately be a chemical connection for us cos I always have my rohypnol with me...shows I've read your profile - oh and nice pics by the way " Now that's what I'm talking about - finally someone who actually understood the OP - points winner for sure | |||
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"Don't think there is any secret, just a few correctly spelled lines that says who you are and what you want. If you include a facepic, people will either like the look of you or not. To be honest, if people like your facepic they will probably overlook a badly written message, as long as it's not at the level of 'u free 2 fuck 2nite lol?!?'" Well since you asked so nicely... | |||
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"I don't mind admitting that I find writing the first approach message difficult. First messages on here are obviously like CV covering letters ...the content is very important to the reader and helps them make a decision as to whether you're a decent possible applicant or not lol So come on girls provide us with some exapmples of these 'chatty, witty, funny' first 'covering letter' messages that you like to receive ...and of course that you send out yourselves. I'd just be interested really as I'm sure other men on here would be too. " I think the most important thing is to taylor your message to the person you are messaging. Read their profile, mention something you liked about their profile, don't be pushy, make sure you have nice photos for them to peruse and ask a leading question so your message doesn't read as just a statement, it requires a response. For an example if I was messaging you I would say: "Did you know you can fly from Bristol direct to Inverness for less than the cost of a night out? Check it out, I'm sure there's a seat just waiting for that cute bum of yours!" | |||
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"I don't mind admitting that I find writing the first approach message difficult. First messages on here are obviously like CV covering letters ...the content is very important to the reader and helps them make a decision as to whether you're a decent possible applicant or not lol So come on girls provide us with some exapmples of these 'chatty, witty, funny' first 'covering letter' messages that you like to receive ...and of course that you send out yourselves. I'd just be interested really as I'm sure other men on here would be too. I think the most important thing is to taylor your message to the person you are messaging. Read their profile, mention something you liked about their profile, don't be pushy, make sure you have nice photos for them to peruse and ask a leading question so your message doesn't read as just a statement, it requires a response. For an example if I was messaging you I would say: "Did you know you can fly from Bristol direct to Inverness for less than the cost of a night out? Check it out, I'm sure there's a seat just waiting for that cute bum of yours!"" I likie ...well in | |||
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" Four messages in my inbox right now saying variations of 'wanna fuck?' I don't even need to open them cos that's all they've written. Hardly Shakespeare is it?" Shall I compare thee to a summer's day? Thou art more lovely and more fuckable. Rough hands do shake the darling boobs of May, And summer's lease hath all too short a date. Sometime too hot the jap's eye of heaven shines, And often is his gold complexion dimmed; And every fair from fair sometime declines, By chance, or nature's changing course, untrimmed bush; But thy eternal summer shall not fade, Nor lose possession of that fair thou ow'st, Nor shall death brag thou wand'rest in his shade, When in eternal lines to Time thou grow'st. So long as men can breathe through their ears, or eyes can see, So long lives this, and this gives sex to thee Dost thou fancy a fuck perchance? | |||
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"Don't fake a personality by reading examples, put across your own " Definitely agree with this but the examples definitely make for good reading One of things I was getting at here was whether women actually sent witty, chatty, funny messages themselves ... There appears mounting evidence that some do or are at least capable of doing so | |||
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" Cheers, I think most of us have got that bit at least what I meant was some 'actual' examples? Basically, look for a "hook" in her profile, ie: a particular item or thing she said in her profile, construct a response around that. It's a double whammy, shows you've read the profile to begin with, but also means you have a better chance if writing something of interest. So as a silly example, she might put something like "cowboy hats turn me on", you might put something like "well, stetsons are all very well, but wait until you clap eyes on my large sombrero" or something lol... A bit of humour, keep ittrelevant where possible, and just enjoy writing them, I don't always get a reply but I'm usually laughing myself while writing em Hope that helps! " Very good advice. You need to give the recipient a reason to reply. Utterly unimaginative messages like "how are you?" won't do that, but the sort of message above potentially will. And don't forget the importance of a good profile, many people read the profile before the message. And make sure your message and profile are consistant with each other. | |||
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"One I got that made me smile was a brief introduction saying name, age and that on paper he matched what I was looking for, he's attached a face pic and said get back to me if you think we could meet for a coffee. P.s hope I'm not too hairy. Showed he'd read my profile, wasn't sleazy or pushy and friendly. 2 weeks later we met and have done a few times since. We are quite good friends now! " I'd expect that from you MHB given that I know you're friendly and likeable woman | |||
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" Four messages in my inbox right now saying variations of 'wanna fuck?' I don't even need to open them cos that's all they've written. Hardly Shakespeare is it? Shall I compare thee to a summer's day? Thou art more lovely and more fuckable. Rough hands do shake the darling boobs of May, And summer's lease hath all too short a date. Sometime too hot the jap's eye of heaven shines, And often is his gold complexion dimmed; And every fair from fair sometime declines, By chance, or nature's changing course, untrimmed bush; But thy eternal summer shall not fade, Nor lose possession of that fair thou ow'st, Nor shall death brag thou wand'rest in his shade, When in eternal lines to Time thou grow'st. So long as men can breathe through their ears, or eyes can see, So long lives this, and this gives sex to thee Dost thou fancy a fuck perchance? " I can only dream of a message so entertaining. | |||
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" Four messages in my inbox right now saying variations of 'wanna fuck?' I don't even need to open them cos that's all they've written. Hardly Shakespeare is it? Shall I compare thee to a summer's day? Thou art more lovely and more fuckable. Rough hands do shake the darling boobs of May, And summer's lease hath all too short a date. Sometime too hot the jap's eye of heaven shines, And often is his gold complexion dimmed; And every fair from fair sometime declines, By chance, or nature's changing course, untrimmed bush; But thy eternal summer shall not fade, Nor lose possession of that fair thou ow'st, Nor shall death brag thou wand'rest in his shade, When in eternal lines to Time thou grow'st. So long as men can breathe through their ears, or eyes can see, So long lives this, and this gives sex to thee Dost thou fancy a fuck perchance? I can only dream of a message so entertaining. " You'll probably get it copied and pasted by some idiot lol | |||
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" Surprised you are having trouble catching anyone's attention " He could write me the alphabet and I'd drop on all fours for a taste of him. Yummy indeed ! | |||
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"One I got that made me smile was a brief introduction saying name, age and that on paper he matched what I was looking for, he's attached a face pic and said get back to me if you think we could meet for a coffee. P.s hope I'm not too hairy. Showed he'd read my profile, wasn't sleazy or pushy and friendly. 2 weeks later we met and have done a few times since. We are quite good friends now! I'd expect that from you MHB given that I know you're friendly and likeable woman " Aw thanks! You know I'd meet up if you weren't so bloody far away x | |||
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"Don't fake a personality by reading examples, put across your own" Couldn't have said it better myself originality is the key along with reflecting your personality. | |||
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"One I got that made me smile was a brief introduction saying name, age and that on paper he matched what I was looking for, he's attached a face pic and said get back to me if you think we could meet for a coffee. P.s hope I'm not too hairy. Showed he'd read my profile, wasn't sleazy or pushy and friendly. 2 weeks later we met and have done a few times since. We are quite good friends now! I'd expect that from you MHB given that I know you're friendly and likeable woman Aw thanks! You know I'd meet up if you weren't so bloody far away x " | |||
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"All I /we ask is that you address us both, so no "I want to fuck the mrs." & just say a bit about yourself. We don't want war and peace so Hi, my names Fred, I like your profile if you like mine please get in touch Does the job for us. Good luck " damn that's me out , my names not fred ? | |||
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"One I got that made me smile was a brief introduction saying name, age and that on paper he matched what I was looking for, he's attached a face pic and said get back to me if you think we could meet for a coffee. P.s hope I'm not too hairy. Showed he'd read my profile, wasn't sleazy or pushy and friendly. 2 weeks later we met and have done a few times since. We are quite good friends now! " What a great reply , and insightful example that I've found very thought provoking , certainly for me . Thankyou , your clearly quite a " smart arse" as well as a hot bottie ......LOL | |||
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" Four messages in my inbox right now saying variations of 'wanna fuck?' I don't even need to open them cos that's all they've written. Hardly Shakespeare is it? Shall I compare thee to a summer's day? Thou art more lovely and more fuckable. Rough hands do shake the darling boobs of May, And summer's lease hath all too short a date. Sometime too hot the jap's eye of heaven shines, And often is his gold complexion dimmed; And every fair from fair sometime declines, By chance, or nature's changing course, untrimmed bush; But thy eternal summer shall not fade, Nor lose possession of that fair thou ow'st, Nor shall death brag thou wand'rest in his shade, When in eternal lines to Time thou grow'st. So long as men can breathe through their ears, or eyes can see, So long lives this, and this gives sex to thee Dost thou fancy a fuck perchance? " That is brilliant and would definitely get a reply! | |||
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"In the case the "fancy a fuck " message may just work " Has anyone sent you a message with a play on your username? | |||
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"In the case the "fancy a fuck " message may just work Has anyone sent you a message with a play on your username? " No messages no but some thing to do with Keith lemon yes | |||
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"I don't mind admitting that I find writing the first approach message difficult. First messages on here are obviously like CV covering letters ...the content is very important to the reader and helps them make a decision as to whether you're a decent possible applicant or not lol So come on girls provide us with some exapmples of these 'chatty, witty, funny' first 'covering letter' messages that you like to receive ...and of course that you send out yourselves. I'd just be interested really as I'm sure other men on here would be too. " Personally, it's not about the first message at all, it's about how the chat flows. I like to exchange a whole train of messages or chat. It's the only way to tell if there can be a meeting of minds, then to the bodies. | |||
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