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"Well last night at abfabs I had my first experience of another woman in front of Nic. It was quite nice and knowing Nic was there made it feel very naughty but I think Nic has the mixed after feelings now. I promised myself I would only go as far as oral as I remember how confusing it was the first time I saw a partner with someone else. We had some very hot sex and Nic was turned on by what had happened... But she still feels weird. Yeah... This is where I usually end with a question but I'm to hungover for that." What's your point?? | |||
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"Didn't she have reservations about this before you started swinging as a couple? If so you might find that it's just not for her. Make sure you talk about it properly together about wether it was just weird because it was the first time or weird because she didn't like it. X" 
From your posts on here, you were on as a couple but left as she wasn't happy. You then went from being on here behind her back, to being here alone with her consent, to being here as a couple, to going to clubs and full swap in a matter of weeks. Not surprised she's got mixed feelings as it seems to be a very quick turn around.
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"So did you go further than oral? Why did you only promise yourself hadn't you discussed limits.beforehand? Be very careful with your partners feelings in this you can never undo an action and it can cause damage that takes a long time to repair. Not entirely sure what your point is either." No I stopped at oral. We had discussed it before but she kinda couched for, see what happens if she doesn't like it she can say stop. I didn't want to go further than oral as I knew there could be mixed feelings. You can't undo something and it could have been a different reacting to seeing me having full sex. | |||
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"Didn't she have reservations about this before you started swinging as a couple? If so you might find that it's just not for her. Make sure you talk about it properly together about wether it was just weird because it was the first time or weird because she didn't like it. X
From your posts on here, you were on as a couple but left as she wasn't happy. You then went from being on here behind her back, to being here alone with her consent, to being here as a couple, to going to clubs and full swap in a matter of weeks. Not surprised she's got mixed feelings as it seems to be a very quick turn around.
"I guess I wanted to spice things up for me, I know I love her and wouldn't want to be with another woman but did want to play around. I told her I wanted to play around and was open about it, she thought if I was having my fun why shouldn't she, which is fair so we ended up at a swingers club... But now I'm finding I don't need to sneak around or meet other women alone to have fun, I like being with her at these places, I like seeing her dress up nice for it and the compliments she gets. It's made me rethink about us, I need to spice things up for us not just myself. We love our nights out and don't go out our way to look to play but its something we would try together. Also I know I'm being extra Carefull about how I act at these clubs because I want her trust back, I fucked up big time and regret it. | |||
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"Didn't she have reservations about this before you started swinging as a couple? If so you might find that it's just not for her. Make sure you talk about it properly together about wether it was just weird because it was the first time or weird because she didn't like it. X
From your posts on here, you were on as a couple but left as she wasn't happy. You then went from being on here behind her back, to being here alone with her consent, to being here as a couple, to going to clubs and full swap in a matter of weeks. Not surprised she's got mixed feelings as it seems to be a very quick turn around.
I guess I wanted to spice things up for me, I know I love her and wouldn't want to be with another woman but did want to play around. I told her I wanted to play around and was open about it, she thought if I was having my fun why shouldn't she, which is fair so we ended up at a swingers club... But now I'm finding I don't need to sneak around or meet other women alone to have fun, I like being with her at these places, I like seeing her dress up nice for it and the compliments she gets. It's made me rethink about us, I need to spice things up for us not just myself. We love our nights out and don't go out our way to look to play but its something we would try together. Also I know I'm being extra Carefull about how I act at these clubs because I want her trust back, I fucked up big time and regret it."I'm not getting a dig in here but if you read back thru that there's a lot of 'I like' etc. as far as I'm aware she doesn't post on the forums so can't query her directly but are you 100% sure that she's not just doing this so she doesn't lose you or because she'd rather put herself thru seeing it so then she knows rather than be sat at home wondering what's going on. Because to an outsider it does appear that way. (I could be wrong I'm just saying how I see things) | |||
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"Didn't she have reservations about this before you started swinging as a couple? If so you might find that it's just not for her. Make sure you talk about it properly together about wether it was just weird because it was the first time or weird because she didn't like it. X
From your posts on here, you were on as a couple but left as she wasn't happy. You then went from being on here behind her back, to being here alone with her consent, to being here as a couple, to going to clubs and full swap in a matter of weeks. Not surprised she's got mixed feelings as it seems to be a very quick turn around.
I guess I wanted to spice things up for me, I know I love her and wouldn't want to be with another woman but did want to play around. I told her I wanted to play around and was open about it, she thought if I was having my fun why shouldn't she, which is fair so we ended up at a swingers club... But now I'm finding I don't need to sneak around or meet other women alone to have fun, I like being with her at these places, I like seeing her dress up nice for it and the compliments she gets. It's made me rethink about us, I need to spice things up for us not just myself. We love our nights out and don't go out our way to look to play but its something we would try together. Also I know I'm being extra Carefull about how I act at these clubs because I want her trust back, I fucked up big time and regret it.
I'm not getting a dig in here but if you read back thru that there's a lot of 'I like' etc. as far as I'm aware she doesn't post on the forums so can't query her directly but are you 100% sure that she's not just doing this so she doesn't lose you or because she'd rather put herself thru seeing it so then she knows rather than be sat at home wondering what's going on. Because to an outsider it does appear that way. (I could be wrong I'm just saying how I see things) "I have thought that. I've asked her outright, she says she enjoys our nights out, it beats going to night club. She loves the attention from men, at one point she had a fair amount of guys playing with her body whilst she was restrained.. I asked if she was comfortable, she was but was worried I wasn't. I hadn't even suggested anything like this, it just kinda happened. | |||
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"Didn't she have reservations about this before you started swinging as a couple? If so you might find that it's just not for her. Make sure you talk about it properly together about wether it was just weird because it was the first time or weird because she didn't like it. X
From your posts on here, you were on as a couple but left as she wasn't happy. You then went from being on here behind her back, to being here alone with her consent, to being here as a couple, to going to clubs and full swap in a matter of weeks. Not surprised she's got mixed feelings as it seems to be a very quick turn around.
I guess I wanted to spice things up for me, I know I love her and wouldn't want to be with another woman but did want to play around. I told her I wanted to play around and was open about it, she thought if I was having my fun why shouldn't she, which is fair so we ended up at a swingers club... But now I'm finding I don't need to sneak around or meet other women alone to have fun, I like being with her at these places, I like seeing her dress up nice for it and the compliments she gets. It's made me rethink about us, I need to spice things up for us not just myself. We love our nights out and don't go out our way to look to play but its something we would try together. Also I know I'm being extra Carefull about how I act at these clubs because I want her trust back, I fucked up big time and regret it.
I'm not getting a dig in here but if you read back thru that there's a lot of 'I like' etc. as far as I'm aware she doesn't post on the forums so can't query her directly but are you 100% sure that she's not just doing this so she doesn't lose you or because she'd rather put herself thru seeing it so then she knows rather than be sat at home wondering what's going on. Because to an outsider it does appear that way. (I could be wrong I'm just saying how I see things) "She has said part of seeing me with another woman is the turn on but another part is when I cheated she wasn't there, she doesn't know how I acted and that's what hurt her, the not knowing. To her, if she can see its not all lobster dovey, flowers and candles it might help her get over the hurt. I'm not making a big deal about other women, I'm very happy watching her play and enjoy herself. She will let me know if she wants to take things further. | |||
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