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By *he_perfect_lover OP   Man
10 weeks ago

London

I'm new to this website, but not new to the swinging game. 😂 Any advice, please? 😁

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By *ucka39Man
10 weeks ago

Newcastle

Hiya op

Similar to meeting someone in the real world whether in a pub or night club, besides the opportunity to offer a drink

Read there bio and take the information on board and use it as something to go on

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By *eroLondonMan
10 weeks ago

Mayfair

Copying/pasting this verbatim from an almost identical thread from the other day...

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OP, you read their profile, glean whatever you find genuinely interesting from their descriptions and perhaps from their photos (not just photos of the person but anything in the backdrop which may give an insight to them).

Look for whatever piques your interest - it could be a reference to something that they are interested in or they have written, or something witty and humourous perhaps.

Be lighthearted, add a little humour, make your opening gambit stand out, refer to something from their profile and create a focus of discussion from it. Ensure your message isn't passive and 'closed' otherwise it may not warrant a response, instead make it open-ended. If however you don't want to ask a general question then give them an impetus to acknowledge something you've inferred: for example, something like - "I noticed the Carnations in your photo. They rarely thrive in the shade, wouldn't you agree?". Or something like that anyway.

And then...be ready for disappointment. No matter how handcrafted your message is it will linger amongst the 100s in their inboxes. As it's often said it's a numbers game on here; the imbalance of men versus women. 🩶

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By *eniandMikeCouple
10 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Just say hi! If we like the look of you will message back, if we don’t we won’t!!

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

No idea.

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By *he_perfect_lover OP   Man
10 weeks ago

London

Yes but in real life is different, I'm confident and face to face the body language helps)

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By *oreAgainForeverCouple
10 weeks ago

doncaster

A nice message gets our attention and normally a reply even if it’s just to say no thank you if your what we are looking for we ll carry on the conversation…you shouldn’t have any problems if you word things correctly your a decent looking guy

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I would love to know how you start. I’ve been looking through threads like this one to get tips but it still not happening for me.

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By *itygamesMan
10 weeks ago

UK

Hi

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By *itygamesMan
10 weeks ago

UK

How would you try and start a conversation with a stranger in a pub............it will be very similar..and if they kinda ignore you/dont answer you........leave em alone

#rocketscience

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By *abonWoman
10 weeks ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham

What does TS mean on your profile status?

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By *tephanie63Woman
10 weeks ago

BRIDGWATER

I just say "Hi", which is a bit stupid of me because if a bloke messages me and just says "Hi" I get annoyed...

One thing to avoid saying is "are you okay", that's super annoying...

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By *eekendVixenCouple
10 weeks ago

Leicester

We get a lot of messages and it struck me today how few guys even ask a question for us to respond to.

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By *ointer69Man
10 weeks ago

Doncaster

Hi how are you? Message back if interested

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By *eekendVixenCouple
10 weeks ago

Leicester

Introduce yourself.

Pay a compliment.

Ask a question.

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By *parkle1974Woman
10 weeks ago

Leeds

FAF??

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By *mpressionable12Man
10 weeks ago

Leeds

I'm always polite and respectful and send a face pic.

I don't often get a reply though.

Either Women/Couples don't like polite and respectful or my face is putting them off

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By *he_perfect_lover OP   Man
10 weeks ago

London

Trans sexual

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By *he_perfect_lover OP   Man
10 weeks ago

London

So is like a tinder without match?

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By *he_perfect_lover OP   Man
10 weeks ago

London

What does FaF mean? I don't know much, but for those tits, I will learn the ABCs. 😂

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By *parkle1974Woman
10 weeks ago

Leeds


"What does FaF mean? I don't know much, but for those tits, I will learn the ABCs. 😂"

Fancy a fuck

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By *he_perfect_lover OP   Man
10 weeks ago

London

Come on let's see if you can handle

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By *ucka39Man
10 weeks ago

Newcastle


"What does FaF mean? I don't know much, but for those tits, I will learn the ABCs. 😂

Fancy a fuck "

Thought you'd never ask 👻x

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By *parkle1974Woman
10 weeks ago

Leeds


"What does FaF mean? I don't know much, but for those tits, I will learn the ABCs. 😂

Fancy a fuck

Thought you'd never ask 👻x"

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By *he_perfect_lover OP   Man
10 weeks ago

London

I've messaged you, check your inbox

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By *ucka39Man
10 weeks ago

Newcastle


"What does FaF mean? I don't know much, but for those tits, I will learn the ABCs. 😂

Fancy a fuck

Thought you'd never ask 👻x

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You looking for trouble you found me 😝

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By *arley QuimWoman
10 weeks ago

Somewhere


"I'm new to this website, but not new to the swinging game. 😂 Any advice, please? 😁"

As you're asking...

Just be yourself, try and engage with others. Sort out the info on your profile - for a non smoker/non drinker, you seem to like wine and cigarettes? Not so much it's an issue... But I'd instantly think what else are you not being upfront about

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By *obandruthCouple
10 weeks ago

wolverhampton

Hi.

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By *ositiveVibesJBxMan
10 weeks ago

Birmingham/Wigan

Read their profile find common ground and write about who you are and how you have common interests. Always good to mention what you are looking for too. Genuine compliments and manners are a must. If it’s a couples profile then address them both.

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By *usurrusCouple
10 weeks ago

North West.

Our start to many conversations includes.....

...pointing that we are 100's of miles away. Straight, sorry about that - believe us, it would clearly be more fun if we were not. Oh and please can we see a picture of Mr Sexy pants, or is he shy?

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By *usurrusCouple
10 weeks ago

North West.


"Our start to many conversations includes.....

...pointing that we are 100's of miles away. Straight, sorry about that - believe us, it would clearly be more fun if we were not. Oh and please can we see a picture of Mr Sexy pants, or is he shy? "

Hah! Just realised that I have read the thread wrong....idiot! The above is a common reply we have to send.

Our opener is much more glorious!

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By *ositiveVibesJBxMan
10 weeks ago

Birmingham/Wigan


"Our start to many conversations includes.....

...pointing that we are 100's of miles away. Straight, sorry about that - believe us, it would clearly be more fun if we were not. Oh and please can we see a picture of Mr Sexy pants, or is he shy?

Hah! Just realised that I have read the thread wrong....idiot! The above is a common reply we have to send.

Our opener is much more glorious! "

But still brilliant responses

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By *tsJustKateWoman
10 weeks ago

London


"I'm new to this website, but not new to the swinging game. 😂 Any advice, please? 😁"

I've never started a conversation on here.

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
10 weeks ago

Stoke


"I'm new to this website, but not new to the swinging game. 😂 Any advice, please? 😁"

Just send a message saying 'How's you' and then attach 7 pics of your dick at different angles, works most of the time.

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By *nomeo_and_julietCouple
10 weeks ago

Near Glasgow

I find something like this works:

Please allow me to introduce myself

I'm a man of wealth and taste

I've been around for a long, long year......

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By *he_perfect_lover OP   Man
10 weeks ago

London

I don't smoke week

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By *he_perfect_lover OP   Man
10 weeks ago

London

I don't smoke (I've stoped)and drinks are social, thankeyou for pointing that, I've changed on my profile :ad

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Spread em bitch.

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By *he_perfect_lover OP   Man
10 weeks ago

London

Is a beginning for everything, right?

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By *he_perfect_lover OP   Man
10 weeks ago

London

Yeah, sure 😂😂😂

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By *eroLondonMan
10 weeks ago

Mayfair

He's talking to himself... ... ... ... ⬆️

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By *he return of meMan
10 weeks ago

Leeds


"He's talking to himself... ... ... ... ⬆️"

Literally is

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

A few suggestions (cause I’m the queen of suggestions)

Message:

I’m not gay. You’re not gay. Someone’s gotta bend over. Coin toss?

Or:

I can see you through your phone. I have that gift. You look lovely when you’re not picking your nose.

Or:

I talk to myself but you are also me. Me too. Let’s be me. Are you in? I guess that’s are you in me? I’m confused.

That’s all I got.

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By *mpressionable12Man
9 weeks ago

Leeds


"Spread em bitch."

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