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"We often come across couples and out of no disrespect we 7/10 only like 1 side of the couple. We aren’t a couple that will take one for the team! We both have to find them attractive. We know it’s not all about looks but you can’t find a personality attractive. What do other couples do?" ___ Agree with the bit about not taking one for the team. We've never done it. But I (Mr) totally disagree with "you can't find a personality attractive". Maybe you two cannot. And that's fine. And it's not shallow, it's very normal. But many people out there only get aroused after meeting people and getting a connection with them. I know a couple of women that do not care much about looks, but personality, and how the other people made them feel sexy and desired for real (not just saying so to fuck them). And if they feel that way they get aroused. We are not all the same. | |||
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"It’s pretty impossible to find other couples that all four suit, so there is sometimes no choice about taking one for the team "There’s always a choice, you’ve got to be desperate for there not to be. | |||
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"We often come across couples and out of no disrespect we 7/10 only like 1 side of the couple. We aren’t a couple that will take one for the team! We both have to find them attractive. We know it’s not all about looks but you can’t find a personality attractive. What do other couples do?" And dont forget, they both have to find both of you attractive too. I once had a profile on here as a couple and it was so difficult to get all four opinions aligned when looking for other couples. Head to a club and see who you can meet there, thats always an option. | |||
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"We often come across couples and out of no disrespect we 7/10 only like 1 side of the couple. We aren’t a couple that will take one for the team! We both have to find them attractive. We know it’s not all about looks but you can’t find a personality attractive. What do other couples do?" Think you're being a bit harsh. Personalities are far more attractive than looks, the looks are just a bonus. Give us stunners with poor personalies and we're out of there, give us an average looking couple with a fantastic personality and we're all over them. | |||
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"We often come across couples and out of no disrespect we 7/10 only like 1 side of the couple. We aren’t a couple that will take one for the team! We both have to find them attractive. We know it’s not all about looks but you can’t find a personality attractive. What do other couples do?" it depends.. sometimes we just say we don't want to..sometimes we have got to know them and perhaps the gent that wasn't to my liking initially has grown on me. ( I'll admit it's often me that isn't to keen on the guy) Other times we have basically done a 3 sum.. with either me watching Mr or him watching me with the couple. I won't take one for the team. I'm actually likely to say no completely if the woman isn't right for us.. and this can be a variety of reasons that can have nothing to do with looks. Cali | |||
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"We find it easier to meet single men. " This, as me hubby doesn't have to find them attractive, just ok to get on with and vice versa | |||
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"There’s got to be that initial attraction to both for me, whilst afterwards a lot is about personality there has to be that first reason for messaging. I’d that makes it harder to meet then that’s fine. "this is why we don't arrange meets via here.. just go to clubs.. as we have met ans had fabulous times with people I know had they messaged us for a meet, I'd have probably said no. X | |||
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"It’s pretty impossible to find other couples that all four suit, so there is sometimes no choice about taking one for the team " | |||
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"We often come across couples and out of no disrespect we 7/10 only like 1 side of the couple. We aren’t a couple that will take one for the team! We both have to find them attractive. We know it’s not all about looks but you can’t find a personality attractive. What do other couples do?" Exactly the same... you need to want to rip someone's clothes off! | |||
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"We often come across couples and out of no disrespect we 7/10 only like 1 side of the couple. We aren’t a couple that will take one for the team! We both have to find them attractive. We know it’s not all about looks but you can’t find a personality attractive. What do other couples do? Think you're being a bit harsh. Personalities are far more attractive than looks, the looks are just a bonus. Give us stunners with poor personalies and we're out of there, give us an average looking couple with a fantastic personality and we're all over them." Exactly this ⬆️ 👏 | |||
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"And dont forget, they both have to find both of you attractive too." Absolutely, just cause you fancy someone doesn’t mean they fancy you. | |||
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 for full disclosure we aren’t dazzling in the looks department so can only hope to wow people with words… scary I know | |||
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"We agree with the sentiment that a great personality is far more attractive than just looks.. however, does judging personalities not becomes infinitely harder than just good by looks? Terrible example but Like choosing a packet of biscuits with an attractive wrapper than the taste for full disclosure we aren’t dazzling in the looks department so can only hope to wow people with words… scary I know "You can't really tell personality from pictures or messages. It's not possible to know someone well from brief socials. I don't know how people decide to meet on personality alone really. Looks to me are very important but of course 9 don't discount personality. Just be attractive to me and hide your worst personality traits for the time we're together | |||
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"Men do it all the time "One reason I don't do men 😂 Mrs | |||
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"We have completely different tastes which unfortunately rarely come together in another couple, so we often end up taking one for the team to be totally honest. Neither of us minds mainly because we're interested in each other being fulfilled and we're not that picky about looks and age, we can have fun with all kinds of people " Exactly this | |||
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"We often come across couples and out of no disrespect we 7/10 only like 1 side of the couple. We aren’t a couple that will take one for the team! We both have to find them attractive. We know it’s not all about looks but you can’t find a personality attractive. What do other couples do?" Exactly this. Attraction needs to go all 4 ways. It’s one of the things that makes finding couples harder work than people realise. | |||
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"We often come across couples and out of no disrespect we 7/10 only like 1 side of the couple. We aren’t a couple that will take one for the team! We both have to find them attractive. We know it’s not all about looks but you can’t find a personality attractive. What do other couples do? Think you're being a bit harsh. Personalities are far more attractive than looks, the looks are just a bonus. Give us stunners with poor personalies and we're out of there, give us an average looking couple with a fantastic personality and we're all over them." Sorry I meant at first sight you can’t find personalities attractive. You’ve gotta find them attractive and then get to know them that’s when it’s the decider. We’ve met couples who we have found attractive and then their personalities have been not what we want they’ve done from 7-8/10 to a 3-4/10 | |||
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"Have you ever thought the other couple might be taking one for the team with you as they may not find you attractive? " Absolutely, we aren’t saying we are everyone’s cup of tea at all. We are just saying we find it hard to find a couples that all four of us are attracted to | |||
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"We agree with the sentiment that a great personality is far more attractive than just looks.. however, does judging personalities not becomes infinitely harder than just good by looks? Terrible example but Like choosing a packet of biscuits with an attractive wrapper than the taste for full disclosure we aren’t dazzling in the looks department so can only hope to wow people with words… scary I know "Agreed, we have been lucky enough to make some good friends from this lifestyle but to be honest we generally go to a club for a night out and to get to know new people in the lifestyle. If we don't click sexualy with anyone on the night, we still find it hot to have sex whilst being watched and watching others anyway
What I think I'm trying to say is no we never take one for the team lol | |||
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Means I’m very happy to engage with anyone, you never know what you are going to think and what’s the downside, a nice chat or quick rebuff, what have you lost, nuffing | |||
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"It’s pretty impossible to find other couples that all four suit, so there is sometimes no choice about taking one for the team "There is always the option of not choosing to fuck someone you don't want to fuck. I'd rather have no sex than pity sex, or sex where I'm just a gateway to get to my partner. They're both shitty. I'd hate to make a partner feel like they had to do that. I'd hate to be either the tolerable pig or let my partner be treated that way. When meeting either alone or with a partner I'm not going to engage physically with someone who doesn't excite me. And I don't want to be touched by someone who doesn't actually want me 💜 | |||
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"We often come across couples and out of no disrespect we 7/10 only like 1 side of the couple. We aren’t a couple that will take one for the team! We both have to find them attractive. We know it’s not all about looks but you can’t find a personality attractive. What do other couples do? ___ Agree with the bit about not taking one for the team. We've never done it. But I (Mr) totally disagree with "you can't find a personality attractive". Maybe you two cannot. And that's fine. And it's not shallow, it's very normal. But many people out there only get aroused after meeting people and getting a connection with them. I know a couple of women that do not care much about looks, but personality, and how the other people made them feel sexy and desired for real (not just saying so to fuck them). And if they feel that way they get aroused. We are not all the same." Totally agree with this comment. A great personality and a connection will, for us, turn a 6/10 in looks into a 9/10 we'd like to play with. | |||
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"We agree with the sentiment that a great personality is far more attractive than just looks.. however, does judging personalities not becomes infinitely harder than just good by looks? Terrible example but Like choosing a packet of biscuits with an attractive wrapper than the taste for full disclosure we aren’t dazzling in the looks department so can only hope to wow people with words… scary I know
Agreed, we have been lucky enough to make some good friends from this lifestyle but to be honest we generally go to a club for a night out and to get to know new people in the lifestyle. If we don't click sexualy with anyone on the night, we still find it hot to have sex whilst being watched and watching others anyway
What I think I'm trying to say is no we never take one for the team lol"We totally agree we go to clubs to get to know people as well! It’s always great to get to know like minded people and that’s where the personalities shine through and that’s when we know we would play with a couple that we don’t normally go with. Hope that doesn’t sound awful how we’ve worded it. | |||
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"I agree that there has to be a physical attraction but on so many occasions I have found that someone/couple that I wasn’t initially physically attracted to, have become borderline irresistable once we have chatted for a while, go figure.Personality? Maybe, attitude ? for sure,behaviour ?beyond doubt. Has also worked the other way round, physically amazing, just my idea type, but no connection
Means I’m very happy to engage with anyone, you never know what you are going to think and what’s the downside, a nice chat or quick rebuff, what have you lost, nuffing"a perfect perspective that we share - never say never from first glance ... and also you might enjoy that "chance" xx Anne & George | |||
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"We totally agree we go to clubs to get to know people as well! It’s always great to get to know like minded people and that’s where the personalities shine through and that’s when we know we would play with a couple that we don’t normally go with. Hope that doesn’t sound awful how we’ve worded it." Oh. I thought taking one for the team was doing something you didn't particularly want to for the sake of your partner. If it's just having sex with someone you want to have sex with then isn't that just normal? | |||
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"We often come across couples and out of no disrespect we 7/10 only like 1 side of the couple. We aren’t a couple that will take one for the team! We both have to find them attractive. We know it’s not all about looks but you can’t find a personality attractive. What do other couples do? ___ Agree with the bit about not taking one for the team. We've never done it. But I (Mr) totally disagree with "you can't find a personality attractive". Maybe you two cannot. And that's fine. And it's not shallow, it's very normal. But many people out there only get aroused after meeting people and getting a connection with them. I know a couple of women that do not care much about looks, but personality, and how the other people made them feel sexy and desired for real (not just saying so to fuck them). And if they feel that way they get aroused. We are not all the same." For me, personality is key. Looks are mainly down to genetics which we have no control over. Personality is who we are and that’s where the connection comes from. I find we can get a vibe from profiles but until we meet, judging any attraction is tricky. Doesn’t make it easy but we are who we are and like what we like. Mrs SW | |||
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"We agree with the sentiment that a great personality is far more attractive than just looks.. however, does judging personalities not becomes infinitely harder than just good by looks? Terrible example but Like choosing a packet of biscuits with an attractive wrapper than the taste for full disclosure we aren’t dazzling in the looks department so can only hope to wow people with words… scary I know
You can't really tell personality from pictures or messages. It's not possible to know someone well from brief socials.
I don't know how people decide to meet on personality alone really. Looks to me are very important but of course 9 don't discount personality.
Just be attractive to me and hide your worst personality traits for the time we're together "SW is personality driven, looks are not involved, even to the extent show her 30 pics of guys and ask which she prefers and she’ll say it’s their personality that counts. If you think it’s a compliment nightmare, well let me tell you it’s beyond that. Mr | |||
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