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If you had your time again....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
14 weeks ago

Hi

I have been happily married for over 30 years, but unfortunately, although I raise the conversation from time to time, and at one point, it looked like it was going to happen, my wife isn't into 'swinging, the club scene etc...

So, the question is, if I had my time again and before I had met my wife, would I go for a girl who was much more sexually experimental , or even, look for someone on these types of sites.

Probably - yes ,you ?

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By *abrina59TV/TS
14 weeks ago

moved to cuckold land

When 1st married my wife she wanted a 3sum involving another male.

And if internet had been around then it 100% would have happened.

Tried using contact mags but everything was so slow.

So if was starting married life now I'd make sure happened using online/clubs.

I wish I'd made us persevere with the contact mags & contacting others to give her the 3sum she wished back then

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
14 weeks ago

East Sussex

Do you reckon she'd choose differently op?

I would make the same decision, I can't speak for my other half

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By *ack RusselMan
14 weeks ago

fun

Same here OP

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

No opppsite. 100% I had a few chances to secure a virgin when I was younger. They've mostly picked their 2nd or 3rd and are in secure happy relationships.

I went with swinging and experience. Worse decision I ever made.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
14 weeks ago


"Do you reckon she'd choose differently op?

I would make the same decision, I can't speak for my other half "

Probably not, as, as said, she is very happy with the sex life we have, where as, I have always wanted to experiment

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
14 weeks ago

East Sussex


"No opppsite. 100% I had a few chances to secure a virgin when I was younger. They've mostly picked their 2nd or 3rd and are in secure happy relationships.

I went with swinging and experience. Worse decision I ever made.

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Genuine question, what does 'secure a virgin mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

I guess it depends on what value you place on the swinging over the other aspects of a relationship.

An early gf and I had an open relationship and it was then I got my first taste of swinging. It was fun and have some great memories but for the next 20 years I lived in vanillaville and whilst I liked the idea and prospect of potentially swinging again, it was never an option but wasn't important enough to me to pursue it over what I had.

Now, I have no interest in another monogamous relationship and value the company of sexually liberated and adventurous people.

I'm not sure I'd do things differently on that score if I had my time again, even though there are other relationship based decisions I would do differently.

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By *aleforfun22Man
14 weeks ago

Lancashire

If I had my time again I'd of definitely gone to a swingers club with my ex.and not listen to people who talked us out of going.

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By *enelope2UWoman
14 weeks ago

Fife

I genuinely feel most women aren't sexually liberated due to the trash men/women experiences they have had...

I am sooooo grateful that I ONLY had friends first sex afterwards. so I've never had to ask for any experience or fantasy or desire that I haven't had filled...besides twins lol only because none I know Knew of any twins lol..

There's also nothing that i haven't tried that they took desired or had asked of me.. but they were worth everything and deserved anything I could legally do without hesitation. My friends are that important to me and know every ounce of me and I couldn't downgrade comparability for anything else...

I really cry and cringe that people are in marriages and relationships and don't have that sane amount of joy or respect admiration and appreciation. Thus I will never be in a relationship that lacks that same desire.

If you're not doing everything for them of course they'd never want to do everything for you. It's 100.. 100..,nothing less

Have you asked yourself if you are even worth wanting to share disappointment to 2 women?? Are you fully pleasing her needs?? Do you even know if she's truly happy not just sexually but whole her?

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By *hilliplisa790Couple
14 weeks ago

Paignton

Nope, I fell in love and married her for the person she is not for the person in my fantasies. I can safely say I love her just as much today as I did the day we got married

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By *umandass123Man
14 weeks ago

sutton

I’ve (luckily) had previous partners that I explored with but probably too young (16-18) to appreciate it properly and also understand that it’s something that requires a lot of discussion and understanding before jumping in as it’s not worth ruining a relationship over.

However I believe that sex whilst important in a relationship isn’t something that should be restricted out of jealously or insecurity and the ultimate sign of health if you can be truly open and comfortable exploring desires together and including others.

So ideally my partner I’d spend my life with would be of a similar mindset as I always found it hotter exploring with the one you love and makes your sex life so much better

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By *umandass123Man
14 weeks ago

sutton

Totally agree with this that women are stigmatised into not being free to explore their desires because of how they’d be judged in such a polar opposite to the way a man would.

I respect your approach and understand how it’s occurred with friends as most if not all guys would love 2 girls but wouldn’t be able to handle sharing their lady, which unless she isn’t interested in that is selfish as fuck!

Been lucky enough to have had experiences with previous partners but found that my openness to exploring and lack of jealously about other guys has come across as a lack of interest or love as most aren’t the same.

Freedom to be open and explore with your partner is a huge sign of strength as a couple as love isn’t judged solely on sex and both fully trust each other

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By *lik and PaulCouple
14 weeks ago

cahoots

If I had a happy, non swinging 30 year relationship I wouldn't risk everything by being on here. Our relationship is more important than swinging so if one of us decided it wasn't for us anymore we would stop and not look back.

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