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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Though married since the age of 22, I've known for as long as I can remember that I've been attracted to my own sex.

Burying this until just 18 months or so ago, it was a relief when I came out with it and divulged this to Lola, my second wife and the love of my life! She's been amazingly supportive and the openness we have with each other is a great comfort. We've met and had mutual fun in the intervening months and we've had such great fun.

But, aside from one close friend, we've told no one else. I do have a strong desire to come clean as it were. I guess what stops me is hurting those closest to me with the information.

If you have tussled with this in your life, what was the outcome? One bit of me says it's no big deal, then I look at my 22 yr old son and think would he ever understand.

Over to you!

Joe x

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Wow...That can be difficult....I doff my hat to you as it can't be easy. At least you have a loving supportive partner that can help you through.xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least being on a site such as this, and having such a supportive and understanding partner, you are able to be yourself and explore your sexuality with like minded people who will not judge or condemn you.

Whatever you decide to do, wish you all the best. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you and your wife are happy with it and its going to cause upset I don't see the point in telling anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you and your wife are happy with it and its going to cause upset I don't see the point in telling anyone else. "
.Good point.xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Though married since the age of 22, I've known for as long as I can remember that I've been attracted to my own sex.

Burying this until just 18 months or so ago, it was a relief when I came out with it and divulged this to Lola, my second wife and the love of my life! She's been amazingly supportive and the openness we have with each other is a great comfort. We've met and had mutual fun in the intervening months and we've had such great fun.

But, aside from one close friend, we've told no one else. I do have a strong desire to come clean as it were. I guess what stops me is hurting those closest to me with the information.

If you have tussled with this in your life, what was the outcome? One bit of me says it's no big deal, then I look at my 22 yr old son and think would he ever understand.

Over to you!

Joe x "

I wish you lots of luck and we are all here for you xxx

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

At least by keeping your sexuality open on here, no one will mind or care. It might be different in 'real life'....if it ain't broke....what would you achieve if you told people or your son? I'd hopethat these days, no one would care anyway.

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By *er himWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Dont see the point of upsetting anyone, almost certainly you both still love each other just that you both get pleasure from different sexes. Why shouldnt you both enjoy pleasure, there are almost certainly couple on here that would like to indulge and play both bi and straight so you could all get what you desire

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I honestly don't understand the need to divulge all the minutiae of our lives with all and sundry.

There really is nothing wrong in keeping our "private life" private. Sharing with ones partner is one thing, and personally, it would have been something I'd have been honest with from the get go, but that aside, what purpose will it serve, apart from being cathartic to the individual?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I honestly don't understand the need to divulge all the minutiae of our lives with all and sundry.

There really is nothing wrong in keeping our "private life" private. Sharing with ones partner is one thing, and personally, it would have been something I'd have been honest with from the get go, but that aside, what purpose will it serve, apart from being cathartic to the individual?

"

I wasn't asking whether you approved or not. I was asking those that had been through this what their experience had been. I don't need a lecture on my conduct. Christ alone knows I've wrestled with it for years and I am aware of my shortcomings. That was uncalled for and unkind.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Though married since the age of 22, I've known for as long as I can remember that I've been attracted to my own sex.

Burying this until just 18 months or so ago, it was a relief when I came out with it and divulged this to Lola, my second wife and the love of my life! She's been amazingly supportive and the openness we have with each other is a great comfort. We've met and had mutual fun in the intervening months and we've had such great fun.

But, aside from one close friend, we've told no one else. I do have a strong desire to come clean as it were. I guess what stops me is hurting those closest to me with the information.

If you have tussled with this in your life, what was the outcome? One bit of me says it's no big deal, then I look at my 22 yr old son and think would he ever understand.

Over to you!

Joe x

I wish you lots of luck and we are all here for you xxx"

Thanks Choccy xx (great user name btw)

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"I honestly don't understand the need to divulge all the minutiae of our lives with all and sundry.

There really is nothing wrong in keeping our "private life" private. Sharing with ones partner is one thing, and personally, it would have been something I'd have been honest with from the get go, but that aside, what purpose will it serve, apart from being cathartic to the individual?

I wasn't asking whether you approved or not. I was asking those that had been through this what their experience had been. I don't need a lecture on my conduct. Christ alone knows I've wrestled with it for years and I am aware of my shortcomings. That was uncalled for and unkind. "

I think you completely misunderstood the point she was making. Or maybe you didn't. In any case, congrats on your new circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I honestly don't understand the need to divulge all the minutiae of our lives with all and sundry.

There really is nothing wrong in keeping our "private life" private. Sharing with ones partner is one thing, and personally, it would have been something I'd have been honest with from the get go, but that aside, what purpose will it serve, apart from being cathartic to the individual?

I wasn't asking whether you approved or not. I was asking those that had been through this what their experience had been. I don't need a lecture on my conduct. Christ alone knows I've wrestled with it for years and I am aware of my shortcomings. That was uncalled for and unkind.

I think you completely misunderstood the point she was making. Or maybe you didn't. In any case, congrats on your new circumstances."

I understood very well.

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