FabSwingers.com forum: Being blown off (rejected, not literally ) in a club

By *uzie_jennifer_2 OP TV/TS
8 weeks ago

London

I consider myself pretty experienced with clubs (tgirl/admirers) but had a shit time tonight that Ive never had before.

Met a cute blonde xd who was shy and nervous, her first time dressing at a club.

Spent half an hour chatting with her and gently seducing her. Eventually she says she fancies me too, wants to play with me, and is just going off for a drink and a smoke..I should stay where I am and she'll be back soon

I wait for her maybe 45 mins eventually she reappears.....with another cd hand in hand. I follow them upstairs to the play cubicles, slightly peeved that me and her wouldn't be alone but still thinking that a 3some could still work, altho I wasn't consulted.

(To make matters worse I knew the second cd as have met her before in this same club and she has told me in the past she doesn't play. Hmmm)

Anyway we get to the cubicles and there's an old average looking cd in that cubicle already..... who lets the two of them in and then locks the door in my face.

So I basically wasted over an hour waiting for play with someone who promised but couldn't deliver

I can't blame the newbie cd as she was nervous and her first time, but the other two should have known better.

Shitty behaviour in my book. If everyone did this in clubs then it just makes it hard for everyone to have fun

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
8 weeks ago

Bedford

Sounds a bit of hard work for an evening out. Bet if you go again you might have better luck.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
8 weeks ago

chichester

First mistake is expecting people to do what you want / think they will especially in clubs with so much distraction .

Secondly why bother waiting 45 min. I would just say to them come find me later on if you are longer than 10 min or go out to smoking area with them and carry on chatting unless they expressed they wanted to go alone

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By *uzie_jennifer_2 OP TV/TS
8 weeks ago

London

"First mistake is expecting people to do what you want / think they will especially in clubs with so much distraction .

Secondly why bother waiting 45 min.

She told me quite clearly to wait for her for play ,...

When I go to a club I'm very direct and if I tell a girl or guy I will play then I will follow through, likewise I'm happy to say No if I don't,

For me the worst part is being strung along like an idiot

As to why I waited so long, She was a newbie so I wanted to give her space and not pester her and put her off

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
8 weeks ago

north of lincoln

Maybe she said what she did to give herself a chance to get away from you and find someone else. Perhaps she felt obliged to say yes to play but then needed some time to think about it .

She clearly left you for a reason. If you get to that point and then the other person leaves the moment to wander off then it’s clear they weren’t interested.

Maybe she had a few drinks and wasn’t thinking clearly.

Maybe she was interested but the other person she spoke to put her off you.

We’ve been to clubs as newbies and been pounced on by the regulars who then try and dominate the evening. And expect something because they have shown us round or had a drink with us.

The above may sound harsh and could be wildly off the mark but we only have one side of the situation.

To say you wasted an hour is also quite disrespectful. This person was new and maybe getting a feel of how things work. She was never obligated to give you any sex.

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By *ABflirtyWoman
8 weeks ago

Norwich

"First mistake is expecting people to do what you want / think they will especially in clubs with so much distraction .

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Stop on xx

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By *ake and BeckyCouple
8 weeks ago

Gravesend

"Maybe she said what she did to give herself a chance to get away from you and find someone else. Perhaps she felt obliged to say yes to play but then needed some time to think about it .

She clearly left you for a reason. If you get to that point and then the other person leaves the moment to wander off then it’s clear they weren’t interested.

Maybe she had a few drinks and wasn’t thinking clearly.

Maybe she was interested but the other person she spoke to put her off you.

We’ve been to clubs as newbies and been pounced on by the regulars who then try and dominate the evening. And expect something because they have shown us round or had a drink with us.

The above may sound harsh and could be wildly off the mark but we only have one side of the situation.

To say you wasted an hour is also quite disrespectful. This person was new and maybe getting a feel of how things work. She was never obligated to give you any sex. "

I very rarely pile on, but I agree with this completely.

OP, hope you feel a bit better to have vented. X

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By *ohnjones3210Man
8 weeks ago

Chester

It's a weird situation and people are weird. I'm one of them. I went to a club on Thursday, and I "rejected" a woman. A single male rejecting a woman?!?! Does that really happen? Yes it does. I did it.

I just wasn't feeling the vibes. I felt under pressure. She asked the wrong questions at the wrong time.

I didn't dislike her, it was nothing personal either, it's just that something felt off.

Don't worry about it. People are weird.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
8 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

Any reason you feel the need to describe someone as an ‘old average looking cd’?

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By *oiluvfunMan
8 weeks ago

Penrith

"I consider myself pretty experienced with clubs (tgirl/admirers) but had a shit time tonight that Ive never had before.

Met a cute blonde xd who was shy and nervous, her first time dressing at a club.

(To make matters worse I knew the second cd as have met her before in this same club and she has told me in the past she doesn't play. Hmmm)

Anyway we get to the cubicles and there's an old average looking cd in that cubicle already..... who lets the two of them in and then locks the door in my face.

So I basically wasted over an hour waiting for play with someone who promised but couldn't deliver

I can't blame the newbie cd as she was nervous and her first time, but the other two should have known better.

Shitty behaviour in my book. If everyone did this in clubs then it just makes it hard for everyone to have fun "

Don't get mad, get even. If these were profiles in Fab, I would just block them and move on. But you have the opportunity to blow them off (not literally) another time, when your paths cross in the club again, which they will. Be polite, smile, chat, but let them (all three of them) bring the conversation round to finding a room to play in, at which point, tell them to go fuck themselves after how they treated you last night

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
8 weeks ago

1127 walnut avenue

"Any reason you feel the need to describe someone as an ‘old average looking cd’?

Yeah.. that amused me.. especially as it was them that got the prize..😹

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By *pacecowboy99Man
8 weeks ago

Near You

If you act in person how you come across in this post, I'm not surprised in the slightest you got pied

You were let down gently, it's clear to see. Sucks, but happens!

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By *uzie_jennifer_2 OP TV/TS
8 weeks ago

London

To say you wasted an hour is also quite disrespectful. This person was new and maybe getting a feel of how things work. She was never obligated to give you any sex. "

I did write that I can't blame the new girl as she was new.

Its the others I'm annoyed with.

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By *uzie_jennifer_2 OP TV/TS
8 weeks ago

London

"Any reason you feel the need to describe someone as an ‘old average looking cd’?

Yeah.

It's like: seriously, you turned me down for THIS!?!

Nb. Ive spoken to the second cd since. She apologised for the way things went and said it was the older one who decided to lock the cubicle.

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By *uzie_jennifer_2 OP TV/TS
8 weeks ago

London

"Maybe she said what she did to give herself a chance to get away from you and find someone else. Perhaps she felt obliged to say yes to play but then needed some time to think about it .

I told her straight out that I'm easygoing and she's welcome to say no if she wants.

Maybe you're right, and she still felt slightly intimidated

I guess I'll never know

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
8 weeks ago

chichester

"First mistake is expecting people to do what you want / think they will especially in clubs with so much distraction .

Secondly why bother waiting 45 min.

She told me quite clearly to wait for her for play ,...

When I go to a club I'm very direct and if I tell a girl or guy I will play then I will follow through, likewise I'm happy to say No if I don't,

For me the worst part is being strung along like an idiot

As to why I waited so long, She was a newbie so I wanted to give her space and not pester her and put her off

I wouldn’t give anyone 45min in a club waiting. I’d just get on with other stuff and let them find me later. Time is too precious to waste on random what ifs. In my view anyway

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