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By *rSteve6 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton and Pattaya,Thailand

I've found recently that after sending a polite introductory message that my message has been deleted and sometimes that I've been blocked from rechecking the recipients profile without them even looking at my profile.

Would anyone like to comment on this?

I realise that couples/single ladies must get inundated with enquiries,but just to block someone for their interest,I don't understand?????

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

It a way of saving each party from getting frustrated. Nothing personal... mostly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They could have checked your profile in stealth mode? There is a way to look without being seen.

Perhaps you are not what they are looking for and they may get a ton of mail it does wear you down a bit sometimes.

Would not waste any more time worrying about though its mostly not personal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hey Mrsteve, u have a great lotta verifies...why should one or two blockers be an issue???

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By *rSteve6 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton and Pattaya,Thailand


"They could have checked your profile in stealth mode? There is a way to look without being seen.

Perhaps you are not what they are looking for and they may get a ton of mail it does wear you down a bit sometimes.

Would not waste any more time worrying about though its mostly not personal. "

Oh,yeah.Quite understand that it's nothing personal.

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By *rSteve6 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton and Pattaya,Thailand


"hey Mrsteve, u have a great lotta verifies...why should one or two blockers be an issue???"

It's just the time that you lose composing a decent intro just for it to be deleted.I don't copy and paste,as I know how a lot of guys on here do.I always tailor my intro to the profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hey Mrsteve, u have a great lotta verifies...why should one or two blockers be an issue???

It's just the time that you lose composing a decent intro just for it to be deleted.I don't copy and paste,as I know how a lot of guys on here do.I always tailor my intro to the profile."

5minutes of ur life m8 lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a woman on here, if your *not our cup of tea* so to speak. It's far easier to delete and block than having to delete repeated message a week or month or so later.

If you dont meet someones preferences, just move on! It's no big deal!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hey Mrsteve, u have a great lotta verifies...why should one or two blockers be an issue???

It's just the time that you lose composing a decent intro just for it to be deleted.I don't copy and paste,as I know how a lot of guys on here do.I always tailor my intro to the profile."

What do you write? An essay???

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By *rSteve6 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton and Pattaya,Thailand


"hey Mrsteve, u have a great lotta verifies...why should one or two blockers be an issue???

It's just the time that you lose composing a decent intro just for it to be deleted.I don't copy and paste,as I know how a lot of guys on here do.I always tailor my intro to the profile.

What do you write? An essay??? "

No,but it's better being polite than just wading in saying 'Well,fancy a fuck' ,although I know some want the direct approach!!!??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've found recently that after sending a polite introductory message that my message has been deleted and sometimes that I've been blocked from rechecking the recipients profile without them even looking at my profile.

Would anyone like to comment on this?

I realise that couples/single ladies must get inundated with enquiries,but just to block someone for their interest,I don't understand????? "

Your not the only person it happens to mate I get it regular I wouldn't worry about it this swinging lark is very much a woman's world and us poor fellas are just a pawn in there world and they have the pick but what does not help is they have to go through all the time wasters to get to the genuine guys you will get meets even if they are few an far between patients is a virtue

Good luck mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

No matter how many messages are received it takes seconds to send a no thank you message. You can even just copy and paste it, after all you are just saying no.

Everyone responds to messages in their own way. When I send messages I delete them from my sent mail. That way all the matters is - did I get a response or not? In other words are they interested or not? I have no idea what they have done with the message or if they have blocked me.

I know that it is not deemed rude on here to simply block and delete. But I don't see the point, unless they keep sending you messages. I personally do find it rude and treat others as I would like to be treated.

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

We respond to polite messages even if we're not interested. If the writer doesn't take no for an answer, we block. If the messager clearly hasn't read our profile, we block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say stop looking at your sent messages..

Concentrate on the ones you get a reply from and forget those who you don't, afterall they aren't interested so who cares.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, since there is a no ignore button available many resort to block.

I have started to use the block if I have emailed someone twice, the email is deleted,obviously not interested or they have at length mentioned no Bi men, or i'm in the wrong age bracket.

This stops me from sending messages to those who are not interested in me, when I do a search every now and again and find the profile/pictures to my likening.

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By *amdenfunMan
over a year ago

London

I understand not responding to messages if not interested - it means, 'no thanks'. And I don't see why it's more polite to give a reasoned explanation. (Though if the message is particularly well thought out and relevant to our profile, more might be appropriate.)

But I've always been confused by this blocking business. If it's because of repeated emailing, then I understand. As a reminder not to email again, that makes sense too. But it seems to be used as a weapon, which is odd. As if it's saying, "so there! you can't even see me now! all because you emailed!" It's strange behaviour.

We've been blocked once. Admittedly I had sent a slightly sarcastic and insulting email. (Only slightly, and it was kind of deserved.) It was in the heat of the moment and I would have apologised, but then I found I could no longer even view her profile. Communication's a great thing, therefore blocking seems silly.

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By *ilverMedalWinnerMan
over a year ago

North Lakes


"I've found recently that after sending a polite introductory message that my message has been deleted and sometimes that I've been blocked from rechecking the recipients profile without them even looking at my profile."

I block all the time ... it ensures that I don't resend a message to someone who's not interested, and could therefore get ratty if I send a second message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understand not responding to messages if not interested - it means, 'no thanks'. And I don't see why it's more polite to give a reasoned explanation. (Though if the message is particularly well thought out and relevant to our profile, more might be appropriate.)

But I've always been confused by this blocking business. If it's because of repeated emailing, then I understand. As a reminder not to email again, that makes sense too. But it seems to be used as a weapon, which is odd. As if it's saying, "so there! you can't even see me now! all because you emailed!" It's strange behaviour.

We've been blocked once. Admittedly I had sent a slightly sarcastic and insulting email. (Only slightly, and it was kind of deserved.) It was in the heat of the moment and I would have apologised, but then I found I could no longer even view her profile. Communication's a great thing, therefore blocking seems silly. "

If blocking is used as a weapon, then I would agree - that's not on and just does everyone a disservice. On our couples profile, and on Ruby's personal one, blocking is used more to save both parties time in the future as it takes us out of their browse searches, and vice-versa. I know it shows up on someones profile that you have previously mailed them, but we have had an instance where the system must have had a bad hair day, and it didn't show up. We mailed the couple months after the first one and they were 'less than pleased' shall we say, that we had mailed them (mistakenly) again. Hence the block facility gets used. The trouble is the wind-up artists and fakes use it with bad intent and that reflects on everyone else...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're 100% sure that you have no interest in a profile and from what you have seen/read feel it unlikely that even chat would be likely - then why not block?

It's a site tool. It prevents you accidentally contacting someone that's stated you're not for them, prevents those that really aren't from you sending a message that you'd only ignore - and leaves you/them free to browse and contact those that are compatible.

People have the right to use the sites tools as they wish without ever having to justify things. Accept that and life will become far easier!

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire


"We respond to polite messages even if we're not interested. If the writer doesn't take no for an answer, we block. If the messager clearly hasn't read our profile, we block. "

I would say this would be a perfectly polite way of doing things whilst not allowing multiple begging messages which I'm sure must be intensely irritating

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By *ilverMedalWinnerMan
over a year ago

North Lakes


"If you're 100% sure that you have no interest in a profile and from what you have seen/read feel it unlikely that even chat would be likely - then why not block?

It's a site tool. It prevents you accidentally contacting someone that's stated you're not for them, prevents those that really aren't from you sending a message that you'd only ignore - and leaves you/them free to browse and contact those that are compatible.

People have the right to use the sites tools as they wish without ever having to justify things. Accept that and life will become far easier!"

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By *amdenfunMan
over a year ago

London

I see your (multiple) point. We've never had that problem, but I can see how it can be a useful tool. However, I still get the impression many people see it as a weapon of sorts. And being the inquisitive type, I like to be able to view people's profile even if I'm not interested in the slightest. A nicer and more precise tool would be one that allows one to make comments next to people's profiles - which is how some people use their hotlist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see your (multiple) point. We've never had that problem, but I can see how it can be a useful tool. However, I still get the impression many people see it as a weapon of sorts. And being the inquisitive type, I like to be able to view people's profile even if I'm not interested in the slightest. A nicer and more precise tool would be one that allows one to make comments next to people's profiles - which is how some people use their hotlist. "

There's a 'make notes' section to do just that if you're a site supporter!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many of ther foregoing arguments for blocking make some sense - particularly the one it stops u making the error of contacting someone again who has already declined u

I've only once blocked anyone n that was after an e mail I received. i hadn't ever looked at their profile (altho obviously I did after I'd been messaged) . It was from a chap opposite end of the country from me. All it said was 'you sick fuck ' -

I dunno to what it referred. That I am bisexual? That coupla pix show mild restraint? Or he thort at my age I should b perusing brochures for old people's homes?

Whatever - it achieved it's purpose n somewhat 'upset' me that I almost deleted my account altogether

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only block those that I've already sent the 'thanks but no thanks' message too, offensive or nasty ones.

I do check profiles before opening the message, I don't show on looked at me

and if the person sending the message is way outside my profile preferences or sends like 3 or 4 words, I may just delete. Mostly I do reply though.

I actually block more profiles from the forums (comments, attitudes) right now, then incomming messages, but then I take off the 'looking for' for days at a time

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"Many of ther foregoing arguments for blocking make some sense - particularly the one it stops u making the error of contacting someone again who has already declined u

I've only once blocked anyone n that was after an e mail I received. i hadn't ever looked at their profile (altho obviously I did after I'd been messaged) . It was from a chap opposite end of the country from me. All it said was 'you sick fuck ' -

I dunno to what it referred. That I am bisexual? That coupla pix show mild restraint? Or he thort at my age I should b perusing brochures for old people's homes?

Whatever - it achieved it's purpose n somewhat 'upset' me that I almost deleted my account altogether "

Hope you dont let idiots like that upset you now....

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

I only block if they get annoying...

Happy to say most accept the "No thanx" and even the no reply/delete...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many of ther foregoing arguments for blocking make some sense - particularly the one it stops u making the error of contacting someone again who has already declined u

I've only once blocked anyone n that was after an e mail I received. i hadn't ever looked at their profile (altho obviously I did after I'd been messaged) . It was from a chap opposite end of the country from me. All it said was 'you sick fuck ' -

I dunno to what it referred. That I am bisexual? That coupla pix show mild restraint? Or he thort at my age I should b perusing brochures for old people's homes?

Whatever - it achieved it's purpose n somewhat 'upset' me that I almost deleted my account altogether

Hope you dont let idiots like that upset you now...."

Well it has rather tainted the whole fabswingers experience for me at the moment and I'm reluctant to message anyone in case I get a response of that ilk. Hey ho life eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We often do it if we don't see anything coming of it or find no attraction whatsoever its simpler than saying no thanks and getting the "but why not reply" as so many seem to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to do my best to reply to every message no matter what it says - using a bit of wit to reply to the absolutely stupid ones like 'wanna fuck' or 'are you attractive?'!!!

But I have to admit that now I do delete immediately those who dont fit what Ive clearly stated in my profile. Ive found that a simple short no thank you initiates further messages regardless!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will give them the benefit of the doubt and delete if i am not interested, but if they message again asking for a meet after i have said politely no thank you, then i will block !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeh mr Steve just best to let it go I agree it can be annoying but the more it happens the less hassle it becomes.

But blocking is just daft on there part esp if u only sent one message.

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By *aughty-PeepsCouple
over a year ago

teesside


"hey Mrsteve, u have a great lotta verifies...why should one or two blockers be an issue???

It's just the time that you lose composing a decent intro just for it to be deleted.I don't copy and paste,as I know how a lot of guys on here do.I always tailor my intro to the profile."

they probs wernt interested anyways so nowt to get worried about i dont think

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By *arandjasCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

i dont tend to use the block button for people who message, but there was one exception, a guy messaged us and when i replied thanks, but no thanks, his reply was, well your just a coffin dodger anyway,lol so i did block him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because we can delete and block whom we choose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont tend to use the block button for people who message, but there was one exception, a guy messaged us and when i replied thanks, but no thanks, his reply was, well your just a coffin dodger anyway,lol so i did block him

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Would of slapped the b*****rd lol

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By *arandjasCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

t the time i thought "wow, need new pics if mine are making me look like a coffin dodger" lol, but now, i just think, i wasnt to his taste, which suits me cos we dont meet single blokes lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"t the time i thought "wow, need new pics if mine are making me look like a coffin dodger" lol, but now, i just think, i wasnt to his taste, which suits me cos we dont meet single blokes lol"

Well had a look a your far from it your gorgeous

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Why do people feel the need to question how members use the site tools, and why do members feel the need to justify their choices to strangers?!!

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By *arandjasCouple
over a year ago

glasgow


"t the time i thought "wow, need new pics if mine are making me look like a coffin dodger" lol, but now, i just think, i wasnt to his taste, which suits me cos we dont meet single blokes lol

Well had a look a your far from it your gorgeous "

shucks, lol

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By *amdenfunMan
over a year ago

London


"Why do people feel the need to question how members use the site tools, and why do members feel the need to justify their choices to strangers?!! "

Because people like chatting and questioning and discussing things, perhaps? Of course one can do what one likes, but it's often interesting and sometimes useful to discuss things with others. And because one might be trying to work, but find this site addictive therefore sign in and think of pointless comments to make.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a non issue really i have been blocked and deleted and done same saves wondering if someone seens familar saves going through it again.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I've found recently that after sending a polite introductory message that my message has been deleted and sometimes that I've been blocked from rechecking the recipients profile without them even looking at my profile.

Would anyone like to comment on this?

I realise that couples/single ladies must get inundated with enquiries,but just to block someone for their interest,I don't understand????? "

Some block to avoid being messaged again. Since using the notes facility I have kept a track of those I have either not responded to or turned down. And I have found that, often, I will get repeated messages from those same people unless I block them.

It also saves you being bothered as if they block you they cannot message and then decide all over again that you are not what they are looking for.

Some people like to use the notes facility to keep track - others prefer to block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've found recently that after sending a polite introductory message that my message has been deleted and sometimes that I've been blocked from rechecking the recipients profile without them even looking at my profile.

Would anyone like to comment on this?

I realise that couples/single ladies must get inundated with enquiries,but just to block someone for their interest,I don't understand????? "

Happens all the time , don't waste time sending messages

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By *z ThongzWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Probably deleted and blocked because ur not what they are looking for , saves time for both parties and for the long drawn out can u tell me why i aint what u looking for exchange , its par for the course , just go from there and enjoy the friends you have made.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"t the time i thought "wow, need new pics if mine are making me look like a coffin dodger" lol, but now, i just think, i wasnt to his taste, which suits me cos we dont meet single blokes lol"

och!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If my messages get deleted straight away I block just to keep me from bothering them again its nothing personal just saves time so I can concentrate on the ones who do want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If my messages get deleted straight away I block just to keep me from bothering them again its nothing personal just saves time so I can concentrate on the ones who do want to meet. "

bit silly as people can change their minds..but heyho(based on experience)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If my messages get deleted straight away I block just to keep me from bothering them again its nothing personal just saves time so I can concentrate on the ones who do want to meet.

bit silly as people can change their minds..but heyho(based on experience)"

May be but I don't feel like I'm missing out people choose the delete button to save time I use the block button in the same way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If my messages get deleted straight away I block just to keep me from bothering them again its nothing personal just saves time so I can concentrate on the ones who do want to meet.

bit silly as people can change their minds..but heyho(based on experience)

May be but I don't feel like I'm missing out people choose the delete button to save time I use the block button in the same way."

ahh...well I keep notes on who I contact, or remember anyway..lets just say in two months time after Ive had a mail deleted from a hot couple/hot fem..they maybe decide one nite after checking through my updated profile they like the look of me..Oh..wait..they cant..cos I blocked..

sorry I always fail to see the logic in blocking, unless there is absolutely no interest or the person(s) have acted like a dobber

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


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ahh...well I keep notes on who I contact, or remember anyway..lets just say in two months time after Ive had a mail deleted from a hot couple/hot fem..they maybe decide one nite after checking through my updated profile they like the look of me..Oh..wait..they cant..cos I blocked..

sorry I always fail to see the logic in blocking, unless there is absolutely no interest or the person(s) have acted like a dobber"

Yes totally agree, I only put people on the block list if they have been abusive, As a single female, just because I haven't responded to a message it might just be I've too many to deal with, not in the right mood or many other things going on in my life, you could be missing out at times, but hey, everyone does things their own way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

happens to everyone mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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ahh...well I keep notes on who I contact, or remember anyway..lets just say in two months time after Ive had a mail deleted from a hot couple/hot fem..they maybe decide one nite after checking through my updated profile they like the look of me..Oh..wait..they cant..cos I blocked..

sorry I always fail to see the logic in blocking, unless there is absolutely no interest or the person(s) have acted like a dobber

Yes totally agree, I only put people on the block list if they have been abusive, As a single female, just because I haven't responded to a message it might just be I've too many to deal with, not in the right mood or many other things going on in my life, you could be missing out at times, but hey, everyone does things their own way "

I feel I'm not missing out on something I never had and with the amount of messages that can be sent out to redo them a couple of months later then get replys saying I deleted your 1st message what makes you think I want to meet after a 2nd message. Coincidence is I have not had a bad meet yet or played around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've found recently that after sending a polite introductory message that my message has been deleted and sometimes that I've been blocked from rechecking the recipients profile without them even looking at my profile.

Would anyone like to comment on this?

I realise that couples/single ladies must get inundated with enquiries,but just to block someone for their interest,I don't understand????? "

if its a standard message your sending to hundreds and not spending time to write to the person you want to contact then yes understand why you get blocked tou have not mailed me yet

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


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ahh...well I keep notes on who I contact, or remember anyway..lets just say in two months time after Ive had a mail deleted from a hot couple/hot fem..they maybe decide one nite after checking through my updated profile they like the look of me..Oh..wait..they cant..cos I blocked..

sorry I always fail to see the logic in blocking, unless there is absolutely no interest or the person(s) have acted like a dobber

Yes totally agree, I only put people on the block list if they have been abusive, As a single female, just because I haven't responded to a message it might just be I've too many to deal with, not in the right mood or many other things going on in my life, you could be missing out at times, but hey, everyone does things their own way

I feel I'm not missing out on something I never had and with the amount of messages that can be sent out to redo them a couple of months later then get replys saying I deleted your 1st message what makes you think I want to meet after a 2nd message. Coincidence is I have not had a bad meet yet or played around "

I'm with you on this! Personally this is fun, keeping notes, tracking who I've messaged, setting reminders on my calendar, contacting the same people again would seem obsessive to me...too much like hard work!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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ahh...well I keep notes on who I contact, or remember anyway..lets just say in two months time after Ive had a mail deleted from a hot couple/hot fem..they maybe decide one nite after checking through my updated profile they like the look of me..Oh..wait..they cant..cos I blocked..

sorry I always fail to see the logic in blocking, unless there is absolutely no interest or the person(s) have acted like a dobber

Yes totally agree, I only put people on the block list if they have been abusive, As a single female, just because I haven't responded to a message it might just be I've too many to deal with, not in the right mood or many other things going on in my life, you could be missing out at times, but hey, everyone does things their own way

I feel I'm not missing out on something I never had and with the amount of messages that can be sent out to redo them a couple of months later then get replys saying I deleted your 1st message what makes you think I want to meet after a 2nd message. Coincidence is I have not had a bad meet yet or played around

I'm with you on this! Personally this is fun, keeping notes, tracking who I've messaged, setting reminders on my calendar, contacting the same people again would seem obsessive to me...too much like hard work! "

dont know how one can be obsessive when its generally about having more meets, new people(and that means a variety of people), for me its pretty simple..if someone deletes a mail and gives no answer, I'll try again at a later date, nothing compulsive..and the chance is I end up getting blocked...fair enough or the chance is they have a second look and possibly see something they never seen previously

I dont really take the hump when even those on the friendslist delete a mail or dont respond...which happens occasionally.. now if I took it to heart I'd say they should be blocked but I dont and just let it slip...and what do u know later on?- ahh theyve responded, and theres been a meetup.

block buttons very easy..I still dont know whats wrong with no-thanks tc and cheerio

*mails asking for a meet after that deserve the harassing blocking button obviously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If my messages get deleted straight away I block just to keep me from bothering them again its nothing personal just saves time so I can concentrate on the ones who do want to meet. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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ahh...well I keep notes on who I contact, or remember anyway..lets just say in two months time after Ive had a mail deleted from a hot couple/hot fem..they maybe decide one nite after checking through my updated profile they like the look of me..Oh..wait..they cant..cos I blocked..

sorry I always fail to see the logic in blocking, unless there is absolutely no interest or the person(s) have acted like a dobber

Yes totally agree, I only put people on the block list if they have been abusive, As a single female, just because I haven't responded to a message it might just be I've too many to deal with, not in the right mood or many other things going on in my life, you could be missing out at times, but hey, everyone does things their own way

I feel I'm not missing out on something I never had and with the amount of messages that can be sent out to redo them a couple of months later then get replys saying I deleted your 1st message what makes you think I want to meet after a 2nd message. Coincidence is I have not had a bad meet yet or played around

I'm with you on this! Personally this is fun, keeping notes, tracking who I've messaged, setting reminders on my calendar, contacting the same people again would seem obsessive to me...too much like hard work!

dont know how one can be obsessive when its generally about having more meets, new people(and that means a variety of people), for me its pretty simple..if someone deletes a mail and gives no answer, I'll try again at a later date, nothing compulsive..and the chance is I end up getting blocked...fair enough or the chance is they have a second look and possibly see something they never seen previously

I dont really take the hump when even those on the friendslist delete a mail or dont respond...which happens occasionally.. now if I took it to heart I'd say they should be blocked but I dont and just let it slip...and what do u know later on?- ahh theyve responded, and theres been a meetup.

block buttons very easy..I still dont know whats wrong with no-thanks tc and cheerio

*mails asking for a meet after that deserve the harassing blocking button obviously"

It's not a case of getting the hump it's just a simple case of saving time. And I have had replies before from some people after a second message which are quite nasty so I don't bother anymore. Also a lot of people state on their profile if they delete the message then you are not what they are wanting. It just saves me time when looking through profiles. I'm to laid back to bother about it that's why I do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry but why are people even remotely bothered that Someone they don't know and aren't really friends (even if they've friended you) block you? Get a grip even if it's personal and they think you're a complete cock, you'll survive. Anyone who we've blocked and then bursts into tears because no one loves them, is someone we're glad we've blocked!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We block purely because of impatient single guys who continually send reminders if weve not replied in an hour, then when we do reply turning them down, we are then subjuected to abuse by them, so to cut that bit out we block if of no interest, its not personal, just saves aggrovation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just love it when I've put quite a bit of thought and time into a message, and then it gets deleted without it even being read....

Just makes my day!!

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I have recently been blocked by a woman simply for fabbing her pictures. I just thought they looked artistic, did not want to meet her. I only noticed as I saw she had changed her profile pic when on the forums and wondered where she bought her underwear from and was going to ask.

Ah well if people can't take a compliment.

But yes block as you see fit x

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over a year ago


"I just love it when I've put quite a bit of thought and time into a message, and then it gets deleted without it even being read....

Just makes my day!! "

and yet there is no way of telling on this site if a message was read or not before deletion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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and yet there is no way of telling on this site if a message was read or not before deletion "

So you've never seen a status with someone declaring how they've deleted a load of messages, without having read all of them, because they've had sooooo many.....

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