FabSwingers.com forum: Arranging our first MMF

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We're currently in the process of going through the dozens of messages from single guys, to work out which we'd like to arrange a MMF with!

It's our first one (we've had a few FFM before) and are both excited.

Has anyone for any tips to help is enjoy the first time as much as we can? Or care to share their experience of their first MMF?

Thanks

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Make sure you have plan B in case ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pick wisely there are a lot out there that are time wasters so talk on the phone 1st and even cam with the guy before meeting, always meet in a neutral place.

Be yourself and remember he will be as nervous as you

Good luck xxx

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"Pick wisely there are a lot out there that are time wasters so talk on the phone 1st and even cam with the guy before meeting, always meet in a neutral place.

Be yourself and remember he will be as nervous as you

Good luck xxx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is not so much a tip but more of a declaration of interest

I would message you but I guess you will have enough to go through, if you would like to see a face pic and chat a little drop me a message x

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"This is not so much a tip but more of a declaration of interest

I would message you but I guess you will have enough to go through, if you would like to see a face pic and chat a little drop me a message x"
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Not missing a chance aren't ya!!!!

You even add a kiss....class

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to take your chances whilst you can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe have some light hearted fun games planned, that involve removing bits of cloaths.Maybe have a blue movie handy, thats a fun way to start things of as well.Dont have to watch it to the end ;0)

Some wine, but not to much.

Good luck with whatever happens and hope you have a great time

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By *evonTallGuyMan
over a year ago

Newton Abbot

"We're currently in the process of going through the dozens of messages from single guys, to work out which we'd like to arrange a MMF with!

It's our first one (we've had a few FFM before) and are both excited.

Has anyone for any tips to help is enjoy the first time as much as we can? Or care to share their experience of their first MMF?

Thanks

I can well imagine you're not short of messages! Some lucky guy is going to be in for some hot fun.

I think the key is good communication beforehand. You can usually tell from the quality of the initial message who is going to be worth persuing. Pinging messages back and forth can be a bit tedious but is does help build up a rapport, and ease some of the nerves when you do meet.

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By *YLINDERCouple
over a year ago

CARDIFF

xxx always chat about sexual likes and dislikes before meet to avoid awkward moments...relax...and have fun xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys. We're going to book a hotel room to keep it neutral, something we both decided.

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By *ornystudMan
over a year ago

Gostosa, by posting it here you've probs just attracted loads more guys to,apply! Good luck sifting through them xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we put something up similar just purely for advice. We were inundated so prepare yourself.

The Hotel idea is a good one and one we are going to pursue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's your first MMF our advice would be to pick a guy who has played with couples before and not just one who "really wants to". Only saying as one of our few bad meets was when a guy couldn't perform, he had happily played with single woman before and said he was embarrased about Andy being there, so all evening was spent nursing his bruised ego!!! Have fun that's the main thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We personally always pick a guy who has been with couples I also normally start with them initially on my own to relax us all really dave normally buggers off to toilet or whatever for 10/15 minutes we find that normally works lol

Also big thing is watch out for time wasters it's a big problem on here on the increase

But having said that if u get a guy who's verified they usually are up for it lol x

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By *ibertyCouple
over a year ago

wrexham

Yeah we found that it's always best to have a guy who has played with couples before. We had one guy come to us who we'd chatted with quite a bit on msn and told him that we liked to film the fun for our own use and also that Chris gets very wet and gushes and he said he was looking forward to meeting and yet when it came down to it, he couldn"t perform in front of me or the camera and when Chris wanted to sitbon his face...which she luvs and gushes loads...he actually said that was a turn off for him. So we had a totally wasted night and let him know in no uncertain terms what a timewaster he was. And he had travelled 60 miles to meet us then couldn't perform. So..I had to look after Chris myself. God..it's a hard life. lol. Good luck guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd echo the advice above about picking a guy experienced with couples especially for your first mmf. We did that for ours and the guy was great! A real gent and put us at ease. Enjoy!

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By *aucy MikeCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I'd agree with all the advice on picking someone who's already verified as having played with a couple. I'd also recommend a social meet first in a pub or somewhere similar. Once they're in your hotel room, if you're at all unsure, it's a bit awkward if they're not for you. Sx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with all the couples advice so far!

If it's your first time - make sure it's not his - makes sense to involve someone with reasonable experience.

As you stated MMF rather than MFM - and having seen your profile - if there's any 'curiousity' being explored here make sure limits are firmly discussed in advance. There's big differences between comfort levels with guys and some will only participate in certain activities!

Don't rush, relax and enjoy it. If you have a great time it's opened up another angle for fun. If you decide it's not for you at least you've tried!

Personally - much prefer MMF to FFM!

Good luck !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cheers all. We'll stick to verified guys, if makes sense

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"We're currently in the process of going through the dozens of messages from single guys, to work out which we'd like to arrange a MMF with!

It's our first one (we've had a few FFM before) and are both excited.

Has anyone for any tips to help is enjoy the first time as much as we can? Or care to share their experience of their first MMF?

Thanks

talk to them....

talk to them some more....

talk to them some more after that....

and keep talking to them until you are 150% sure they are the people you want to play with....

some will try and rush you.... son't ever feel that way, and in fact in the end you can only go at the pace of the slowest person.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely discuss prior on messages their experience with couples and check out their veri's.

Discuss boundaries and what you would like to do as a couple as well as what they would like to do.

Meet yes hotel always worked for me, never had a time waster, relax both of you and try to make him relaxed.

So general chit chat for an hour or so and then decide between all 3 of you if you want to continue and play, obviously you two will need to pre-plan a way to let each other know you are happy to play and not discuss in front of him.

Assume play occurs and make him feel involved and part of it straight away, your hubby or partner maybe instructing him to get you undressed etc

Just have fun, keep laughing and chatting and relaxing and enjoy!

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton

"Thanks guys. We're going to book a hotel room to keep it neutral, something we both decided. "

The very best hotels for this sort of thing are to be found in Hampshire!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is not so much a tip but more of a declaration of interest

I would message you but I guess you will have enough to go through, if you would like to see a face pic and chat a little drop me a message x....

Not missing a chance aren't ya!!!!

You even add a kiss....class

A smart guy. Sure can't blame him as she is hot.

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs

We were away for a weekend and had our who.s near you on. We have only met couples or been to party.s so far and received a couple of messages of a single guy while chilling in the hotel in the morning. I thought i would treat the wife so had a chat about it and invited him up after he sent us a face pic.

We thought he was in the hotel. It turned out he was working on a job round the corner. If we had known that we would not have invited him

but to be honest it was a good meet. Quick bit of fun. The misses got spoilt a little and off he went. Probably bragging to his work buddy s. So might do it again when were away next we'll see

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By *r BrightonMan
over a year ago

brighton

Have to admit love MMF meets I always treat the man to a blow job first get him done and empty lol the concentrate of the lady by which time the man is normally hard again and every one is relaxed xxx

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield

"Make sure you have plan B in case ..."

Do you really think he would help out at short notice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree rules between yourself first, so you know what can and can't happen. Agree rules with the single guy, so he know what is not allowed.

Meet in a hotel bar, or pub, make it a social meeting. No promise of play, it will feel less forced if things are not going well.

Try to relax, and don't feel you can't get up and walk away. Most of us singles would much rather part as friends with no play, then a difficult time in a bedroom where you guys dot want to be there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Insist on the following.

Face pic

Naked body pic

Pic of their erect penis

That they have good verifications

A mobile phone number

And speak to them beforehand

There are loads of time wasters on this site so make sure the guy you choose has not deceived you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Make sure you have plan B in case ...

Do you really think he would help out at short notice?

Yes and used to have a plan c as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do not focus too much on looks. Choose by reputation. It will be a nervous time and you need a calm guy. Check his veris.

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I read the original postings and thought.... 'easy answer just invite me', then I looked at your profile and realised you were way out of my league and i was far too old.

There are some good single guys on here; I am sure you will find someone.

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"Make sure you have plan B in case ...

Do you really think he would help out at short notice?

As long they tell him that he is plan B

I've met someone 4 times now on a plan B notice

My advice to her is " you better make me your plan A"

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