FabSwingers.com forum: Nervous - never been to a club

By *llie Ass OP Man
19 weeks ago

South Yorkshire

Though I've had a fair bit of experience with men, women, and couples, I have never been to a club. As a single man, I have no idea of how they work, or if I'd find it all very depressing as I sit in a corner; a wallflower.

(I probably need someone to take me, even if just as a platonic "guide", lol).

Happy to accept advice via DM if you prefer that to here.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *luebell888Woman
19 weeks ago

Glasgowish

My advice would be not to sit in that corner. Maybe stand around the bar area and chat to people. You will find everyone is very friendly at clubs.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *udandBryanCouple
19 weeks ago

Boston

Put your big boy pants on, dress well, go alone - with no expectations - talk to people and have a great night.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
19 weeks ago

Leeds

I went to my 1st club alone recently & I'm super anxious, just go, be respectful, don't expect anything and all will be good.

Mrs

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *avidberksMan
19 weeks ago

Wokingham

I go on my own. First time is daunting or when you go to a new club where you don't know the layout. But it all sorts itself out. As others have said be polite and mix ... its the same as any other social occasion really. Being smart casual helps I think. Shirt trousers and shoes can help you stand out. JFDI

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *wingAway79Couple
19 weeks ago

Surrey

just relax and enjoy

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *end1Man
19 weeks ago

southend on sea

Stick a dildo to your forehead your definitely stand out😂

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inks_apeyCouple
19 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Relax be natural, and have a chat and flirt. If something comes of it then all good, if not don't try push it.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inglepringlebedsukMan
19 weeks ago

Arlesey

I'm in the same boat as you... I really want to attend either as just a visitor or to play as well but im held back by my nerves if I go by myself. Would love to actually find someone to go with even if we don't actually play together, only arrive and leave with each other

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *lowupdollTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

Personally it makes my head wobble when I hear of straight men nervous about going to a club.

Put your best big boy pants on, a smile, and go. Once you’ve walked through the door you’ll dispel the myths and know if it’s for you or not.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
19 weeks ago

Stoke

You'll be fine. You need to be confident in a club as a single guy, time for big boy pants

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ike_looking_forMan
19 weeks ago

Cumbria

it's certainly way easier (and sometimes cheaper) with a FWB then you can choose to watch, do your own thing or join in, firt one for me was a huge place overseas, easy to wander and find where we were comfortable and get it on.

On your own just have to be prepared to chat

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *onynhannahMan
19 weeks ago

WHITBY

Clubs not for me. A lot of men stood around wanking

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ivelaughlove16Couple
19 weeks ago

norfolk/Suffolk border

We made the mistake of taking a single guy to a club , followed us around all evening and made no effort to interact with anyone .People at clubs are nice and friendly as are the people who run them , we have recently struck up great friendships with single guys we have met at clubs and that was their first times as well , lots of clubs run " newbie events " as well which are a great way of people trying them out .As people have said put the big boy pants on and go and meet lots of new people .

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
19 weeks ago

wonderland.

"You'll be fine. You need to be confident in a club as a single guy, time for big boy pants

"
This... find people to talk to.. don't follow people around wanking... and give people a bit of space.

Also go with no play expectations but just that it will be a nice time with like minded people x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

Be confident... give prep talk. Don't overthink it. You'll do great at your age.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *RcoupleCouple
14 weeks ago

Manchester

Remember it’s more like a bar than a brothel. And if you’re talking to couples, talk to them both equally.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread