FabSwingers.com forum: Meet for coffee no sex

By *r decorator OP Man
9 weeks ago

Bournemouth

anyone on here not straight into fucking?

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By *ovingittwoCouple
9 weeks ago

Norwich

Yes x

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Me x

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Massively!

Social first always / also gives time to reflect.

Coffee, drinks, dinner.

I live by the mantra - if I wouldn’t want to socialise with you, why would I want to sleep with you.

Also in the words of Q from Bond - always have an escape plan

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By *udie NudieMan
9 weeks ago

Newcastle

Yes

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By *oobaaMan
9 weeks ago

South Shields

Yeah ive done quite a few social meets before.

not a problem

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By *IXEN200Woman
9 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

I love a good social let's you know how you'll get on not just in the bedroom but outside of it

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By *andPextraCouple
9 weeks ago

North West

Will not, nor ever had, played with anyone off this site without at least meeting for a no pressure social meet first. I need to like you as a person first and foremost before considering anything else.

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By *randMrsLPCouple
9 weeks ago

london

We have never done a meet for any type of drink etc - its alwus been, years ago a beach encounter and then at our place and a few times at their place - started with a massage and if guy was as decent as stated then possibly more - sometime first meet went all the way but often seccond - we find the intial encounter really hard, ie shy, unsure wtc then its easy once undressed if guy is as he said he is.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
9 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Never straight into fucking - we are getting to know you first to see whether you’d fit with our dynamics and us yours.

We aren’t pieces of meat - connection is important.

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By *arry monk40Man
9 weeks ago

Telford

Yep

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By *carlettxWoman
9 weeks ago

Essex

I never meet for coffee because of my busy life but choose my social meet be at a club

If there’s no chemistry both parties can still have a fun night out and if there is then can play or meet up properly at a later date

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By *alsaman15Man
9 weeks ago

Market Drayton

Sometimes it just nice to get to know people even if the spark isn't there

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
9 weeks ago

Swansea

We had a social yesterday with a lovely person. We met at a cafe for coffee and cake then walked along the beach front to another cafe for a coffee to warm ourselves up before the return walk.

We have all agreed to plan a meet in the near future, and it was a good way to start building a friendship.

Mrs x

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By *CExeCouple
9 weeks ago

Lincoln/Exeter

I prefer a social and getting to know folks. Especially if there's a few days of flirty messaging before the next meet and playtime.

Chels on the other hand has huge social anxiety so gets straight into it on meets.

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By *scaMan
9 weeks ago

Herts / London / Beyond

Social first - ALWAYS.

Can't imagine how anyone does it otherwise?

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Yes had a few socials, always good to get to know people 1st

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By *exandcoffeeWoman
9 weeks ago

Stamford

Yes, I like a social first, and usually a coffee

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By *usurrusCouple
9 weeks ago

North West.

We try to sort out a social catch up first. Plenty of people visit our area, it's nice to meet over a coffee/brew - beverage of your choice!

We have done the turn up at someone's place with an agenda....then spent the whole time chatting anyway.

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By *entleman JayMan
9 weeks ago

Wakefield

Love a social. Hit me up. 😀

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By *ensman100Man
9 weeks ago

Hounslow

Yep happy to meet for a coffee first

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By *ora the explorerWoman
9 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

I don’t understand how anyone can not have a social first. How can you know you’re attracted or does it not matter? No matter how long I’ve chatted to someone for there’s no way I can know without meeting them first. I know we’re all different but I really can’t get my head around it. I couldn’t do it.

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By *moothdickMan
9 weeks ago

stoke

There as to be a connection, got to the age of not just being an hard cock to fuck…. But at my age, I don’t know if that’s a mental thing or physical lol 😂

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Always best to meet socially first ensure there is a click

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

"I don’t understand how anyone can not have a social first. How can you know you’re attracted or does it not matter? No matter how long I’ve chatted to someone for there’s no way I can know without meeting them first. I know we’re all different but I really can’t get my head around it. I couldn’t do it. "

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
9 weeks ago

Leeds

Always social 1st.

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By *abonTedCouple
9 weeks ago

Midlands & Cheltenham

How about just a drink with no expectations of anything other than social intercourse.

Radical non transactional neo-sexual liberation

Then have a shag?

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By *parkle1974Woman
9 weeks ago

Leeds

I always have a social first...yes someone may catch my eye on here and I think he's a bit of alright but then in person may be as dull as dishwater...if things go well on the first encounter only then do they progress x

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By *oiluvfunMan
9 weeks ago

Penrith

" anyone on here not straight into fucking?

I prefer to have a social meet first over a coffee. It confirms;

The person/couple matches their profile;

They meet when they say they will;

There’s a connection face to face.

Doesn’t need to be much more than 30 minutes of your time, if it doesn’t work out

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By *oyeur67Man
9 weeks ago

Nottingham

I love a social. It all helps build the excitement

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By *orphia2003Woman
9 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

I always do socials. Often doesn't lead to anything more.

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
9 weeks ago

Cambs

I never meet someone for more than a coffee and a vibe check the first time, I'd much rather a connection.

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By *errible2some2024Couple
9 weeks ago

Stockport

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
9 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Definitely!

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By *errible2some2024Couple
9 weeks ago

Stockport

Social first always

See how things go

There is always another time to play

More to fab than just sex

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By *erryGoldMan
9 weeks ago

Redditch

Yes. But saying that if the vibes good and it goes further I'm happy to but prefer a coffee to chat and get a laugh going

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By *ucka39Man
9 weeks ago

Newcastle

Me, I enjoy the teasing and pleasure of really getting deep into knowing them

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan
9 weeks ago

Andover

You bet .... although a few times it's gone Pete Tong ... road to hell paved with good intentions etc!

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By *opman121Man
9 weeks ago

stoke on trent

Why not u never know what it leads too

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By *an-in-suitMan
9 weeks ago

North Nottinghamshire

Definetely and the subsequent meets often turned into the best ones

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By *iss KinkWoman
9 weeks ago

North West

Yes deffinately

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By *sWyldWoman
9 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Yes but I don't like coffee

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By *olvespairCouple
9 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Most of our socials happen in clubs - will always have a chat and a drink (usually coffee as neither of us drink at clubs) and generally get a gauge of who we're chatting with. We don't tend to play on a first meet, even in the club as it gives us and the other person/people time to reflect on us and us on them

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By *andemanMan
9 weeks ago

Newcastle

Yes have done one or two.

Plenty of chat and flirting.

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By *ceKweenWoman
9 weeks ago

Bolton

Social and a kiss… the kiss can be the be all or the end all of an encounter

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By *quirrel!Man
9 weeks ago

Nearby

Yep xx

I like coffee and a chat!

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By *istr3ssWoman
9 weeks ago

Stockton-on-Tees

It's my number one rule - public social before I'll agree to anything else

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By *ungandMan
9 weeks ago

daveyhulme

Coffee cake chat and a kiss

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By *inkylipsWoman
9 weeks ago

Debauchery

"Massively!

Social first always / also gives time to reflect.

Coffee, drinks, dinner.

I live by the mantra - if I wouldn’t want to socialise with you, why would I want to sleep with you.

Also in the words of Q from Bond - always have an escape plan

Couldn’t of said it better myself, absolutely this

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By *leasureSeekersSayHiCouple
9 weeks ago

Livingston

Socials at a swingers club. Watch the goings on.

Always good fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Love a social with some naughty chit chat and going home with wet 💦 underwear

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By *ralextacyMan
9 weeks ago

Cardiff

Happy to social first. What happens after is something you don't fully plan for

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By *omRachCouple
9 weeks ago

Wirral

We ALWAYS insist on a social if we are meeting somebody new for the 1st time.

No Exceptions!

Even if that social goes very well we NEVER play at that 1st meet.

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By *ngelLordCouple
9 weeks ago

Newport

Yes

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By *helroyCouple
9 weeks ago

Skegness

yes we do that 1st

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By *arlequin_tearsMan
9 weeks ago

Sheffield

Very much enjoy the social side of the lifestyle and making new friends

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By *MattyMan
9 weeks ago

Naked coffee house near you - Wiltshire - Swindon

yes, love a coffee meet first...

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
9 weeks ago

Merseyside

Never into full meet first always a social for us

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By *r K and Mrs LCouple
9 weeks ago

Leicester

We love to have a social first and see if there’s a connection between us face to face and hopefully have a laugh, if it goes well then we will more than likely plan another meeting.x

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By *hesubtlegentMan
9 weeks ago

surrey

Always have a social first. Meet over a coffee or drink. Make sure there’s chemistry but mainly to make sure both of us look like our photos… lots of photoshopped and decade old pics about. All mine are recent but I still send direct pics before a social is arranged.

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By *tephanie63Woman
9 weeks ago

BRIDGWATER

I want a social meet first. Sometimes leads to a sexual meet at a later date but not always. Sometimes people are using old photos and look completely different to them now. Also I like to know that they fancy me too..x

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By *andyman4uanddiscreetMan
9 weeks ago

oxford

I have posted many social only meets for coffee and chat with like minded adults but no luck where i live

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

I can be persuaded.

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

"I can be persuaded. "

For a coffee and cake meeting?

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Had a few just social meets with couples. Some really pleasant chill ones too.

We prefer socials honestly. Builda up a nice rapport.

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By *iandti2023Couple
9 weeks ago

Wokingham

We’d love a coffee and cake

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By *heelerMan
9 weeks ago

Northants

Love a social coffee

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By *r decorator OP Man
9 weeks ago

Bournemouth

Who is free for coffee lunchtime?

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

"Who is free for coffee lunchtime?"

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By *osey WalesMan
9 weeks ago

Surrey

I've met purely for a coffee / lunch to see how things go but tend to meet at clubs now more. If we dont hit it off then we can all still enjoy ourselves and if we do hit it off, then happy days.

Alot depends on the person i'm meeting and their preferences for our first meet.

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By *heelerMan
9 weeks ago

Northants

"Love a social coffee"

Any females fancy a morning coffee

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By *heTattooedDomMan
9 weeks ago

Winnersh

I’m always up for a social coffee, love chatting to people when we go to clubs as well.

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By *eardedman7Man
9 weeks ago

Berkshire

Have done this a fair few times, great to get to know someone first

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By *rafter69Man
9 weeks ago

upminster

Im always a coffee/social 1st

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By *rincebusterMan
9 weeks ago

Wokingham

I think a social chat over a drink or whatever helps in most cases.

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
9 weeks ago

Gloucester

Us.

We will always meet for a drink and a chat first.

Kink (Mrs)

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By *imply_SensualMan
9 weeks ago

warrington

A social first is my preference, doesn't have to be coffee, but something where you can at least spend time with someone to make sure you like each other and get on, all without pressure and expectation.

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By *rincebusterMan
9 weeks ago

Wokingham

to add, it's 'on the cards' so why not meet prior just to underline.

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By *antricSeeker60Man
9 weeks ago

Durham

Totally, it’s important to see if there’s that spark that we all seek.

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By *otwife and MasterCouple
9 weeks ago

Derby

"Social first - ALWAYS.

Can't imagine how anyone does it otherwise?"

…because if your kink is anonymity and you fk wearing a blindfold, it kinda defeats the object!

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By *londe_hotwifeCouple
9 weeks ago

kent

Always at least 2 socials before going further.

If there's no connection then what's the point?

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Yes whereever possible

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By *alloSpaceboyMan
9 weeks ago

Carmarthen

It is a prerequisite..

Exceptions are club or house party environments, but you sort of talk there, don’t you?

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By *uthLessKnickersCouple
9 weeks ago

Cornwall/Devon

We enjoy both. Sometimes we like the social first, and if the chemistry is there we do like to go on to fuck straight away. So we ask our prospective playmates to leave the rest of the day clear just in case.

We also enjoy the excitement of our cum and go meets where the stranger comes straight to the house and Ruth is waiting for him in the bedroom. No small talk or preamble, just straight down to the fun in hand.

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