FabSwingers.com forum: Should i have done it ??

By *oinerbill OP Man
5 weeks ago

warrington

I was seeing a couple a few years back, met 2 or 3 times and had some fantastic times, 2 very attractive people

On the last meet the guy told me he was bi which wasnt a problem, but the wife wanted him to fuck me as i fucked her. She was the one really pushing for it

I politely declined and our relationship stopped

I often think about what i should have done. Im all for trying new things and pleasing people, maybe i missed out on a great experience

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
5 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

If it's something you didn't want to do then no, you weren't wrong.

Everyone has boundaries, limits and preferences.

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By *emptme1993Man
5 weeks ago

manchester

If it’s not what you wanted to do then it absolutely was the right thing to do. Sex is only a good experience if all involved are wanting things to happen mutually

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By *issmorganWoman
5 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

It wouldn't have been great if it wasn't what you wanted though op.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
5 weeks ago

East Sussex

No you shouldn't have.

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By *ornycougaWoman
5 weeks ago

NOT IN THE UK Wherever I lay my hat

As others have said, no you shouldn't. If you are now bi curious then pursue it if you want. But don't harbour regret about the couple because it clearly wasn't right for you at the time.

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By *cott14Man
5 weeks ago

Essex & SW Exeter/Taunton

“ gut feelings “ are vastly underrated .

Trust the choice you made at the time

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By *evergiveupMan
5 weeks ago

derbyshire

I can only agree with all the other comments - if it didn't feel right then it wasn't right - don't have regrets

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By *eardedguy800Man
5 weeks ago

Kidderminster

"I can only agree with all the other comments - if it didn't feel right then it wasn't right - don't have regrets

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By *ildTimes777Man
5 weeks ago

Colchester/London

"If it's something you didn't want to do then no, you weren't wrong.

Everyone has boundaries, limits and preferences. "

This !

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By *agatoXXXMan
5 weeks ago

Mordor

Never take one for the team. If it's not your thing, it's not your thing.

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By *ellhungvweMan
5 weeks ago

Cheltenham

If it is not for you then you are right to walk away. If I was you I would have walked.

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By *evonrobMan
5 weeks ago

Kingsbridge

Never seen a thread where everyone spoke with “one voice”. I think th3 answer to your question is pretty clear and you did the right thing!

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By *tephanie63Woman
5 weeks ago

BRIDGWATER

No you definitely shouldn't have, you would have effectively been coerced into it.

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By *ee1967Man
5 weeks ago

watford

When I swung with ex wife she always wanted to see me with the guy of rhe cple we met. Me being a typical man kept saying no. But one time I tried it, loved it and wish I tried earlier

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By *ister_ee_1981Man
5 weeks ago

Sunniest Exeter...

As others have said, but I will phrase differently:

We as men have EXACTLY the same rights as women when it comes to consent. We can say no at any time, and just because we had fun with the couple doesn't mean we want to just go with the guy.

(I have turned down couples who "just want me to meet the guys)

If you didn't want to at the time then you say no.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Stockport

Wasn't what you wanted then. Seems to be something that you're at least curious about now. Sex is about experimentation, within whatever limits you set yourself. Will it make you different if you try it and decide it was the wrong thing? If you decide you like it and want more of it?

It'll just mean that you know more about who you are, what your body likes, what you enjoy. Your life, your choice, absolutely nothing to regret either way. Xx

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