FabSwingers.com forum: Is there a sign that a couple are swingers

By (user no longer on site) OP
10 weeks ago

Hi all.

I need some help. Is there a sign ,or some kind of dressware that identifies you as a swinger.

The thing is, my wife and I have tried clubs and other stuff, but my wife hated the 'clinical' nature of it, and the 'i feel i am pressured to act'feeling.

She is open to playing with another couple, if it happens 'naturally' the problem is, how on earth do you meet swingers 'naturally' i cant wear a tee shirt stating 'swingers, please speak to us'.

If you read my profile, I think i have explained the situation - but I have just received abuse saying 'I am going behind my wifes back'. I don't want to, I want us to meet swi gers couples, but if I dont arrange it on here - how can I ?

So - if we are in a bar etc.. is there anything i should look out for that gives me a clue ? Or a code sentence etc..

Thanks

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By *xxLandNxxxCouple
10 weeks ago

Nuneaton

That’s pretty much what happens in clubs, you talk to a couple you like and things naturally progress into something else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
10 weeks ago

But my wife hated the club scene. She hated (whether right or wrong) that she felt that everyone there was thinking she was there to have sex. She hated the fact sex was going on around her etc...

She wants to play , but doesnt want to visit clubs or go on sites / apps.

So, if we are out and about, is there something that may give me a clue, so i could introduce us and let it grow naturally

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By *nesCouple
10 weeks ago

Milton Keynes, city of dreams

Do you not know the secret handshake?

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

My friend is a swinger and demonstrates it often by swinging in trees and wearing a necklace with a swing on it.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
10 weeks ago

Leeds

If she doesn't want to go on sites/apps why are you planning on making a couples account? I am curious, what is the "other stuff" you have tried apart from clubs ?

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By *ootyfruityCouple
10 weeks ago

andover

Lookout for social events, a lot less pressure but meeting like minded people.

But I do think the “I am a swinger, come speak to me” shirt is a great idea 😂

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By *ogetherness1Couple
10 weeks ago

eastbourne

Try going to an organised social. Great way to meet people without any pressure if you want to take things further after then you can. Either way they are always a great night out with like minded people

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
10 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"Hi all.

I need some help. Is there a sign ,or some kind of dressware that identifies you as a swinger.

The thing is, my wife and I have tried clubs and other stuff, but my wife hated the 'clinical' nature of it, and the 'i feel i am pressured to act'feeling.

She is open to playing with another couple, if it happens 'naturally' the problem is, how on earth do you meet swingers 'naturally' i cant wear a tee shirt stating 'swingers, please speak to us'.

So - if we are in a bar etc.. is there anything i should look out for that gives me a clue ? Or a code sentence etc..

Thanks"

Lots of people want to become swingers but it remains a fantasy.

Apart from swingers hotels/resorts or socials or festivals/events, most swingers, I've met have not met other swingers outside the scene.

I think true swingers don't necessarily need to advertise the fact.

Honestly, your wife doesn't seem that keen and she's probably just saying this to please you or to appear sexually confident but when faced with the reality, she is disappointed or avoidant.

I have a play partner who's wife has a similar issue. Curious sexually but not enough to override her anxiety in real life. Some people are voyeurs only and never actually use their bodies in public.

Also normal men and women do not look like porn stars and porn videos are often sanitised of all bodily fluids apart from the final cum shot. Getting squirted on at a club definitely a a good dose of reality check.

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By *ogerroger69Man
10 weeks ago

West Yorks

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By *ogerroger69Man
10 weeks ago

West Yorks

"Hi all.

I need some help. Is there a sign ,or some kind of dressware that identifies you as a swinger.

The thing is, my wife and I have tried clubs and other stuff, but my wife hated the 'clinical' nature of it, and the 'i feel i am pressured to act'feeling.

She is open to playing with another couple, if it happens 'naturally' the problem is, how on earth do you meet swingers 'naturally' i cant wear a tee shirt stating 'swingers, please speak to us'.

So - if we are in a bar etc.. is there anything i should look out for that gives me a clue ? Or a code sentence etc..

Thanks

Lots of people want to become swingers but it remains a fantasy.

Apart from swingers hotels/resorts or socials or festivals/events, most swingers, I've met have not met other swingers outside the scene.

I think true swingers don't necessarily need to advertise the fact.

Honestly, your wife doesn't seem that keen and she's probably just saying this to please you or to appear sexually confident but when faced with the reality, she is disappointed or avoidant.

I have a play partner who's wife has a similar issue. Curious sexually but not enough to override her anxiety in real life. Some people are voyeurs only and never actually use their bodies in public.

Melanin Maverick you make some very valid points here which I agree with. Most couples don’t advertise the fact that they sleep with others and my wife is very much a secret swinger and wants to keep it that way and we’ve enjoyed many MMF meets because we simply found clubs and four way attraction impossible to achieve. We have to play the cards that we are dealt and adapt OP.

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