FabSwingers.com forum: Would Mental Health Issues put you off?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you were interested in someone on here but you found out they had serious mental health issues and had been hospitalised for it several times would you still be interested in meeting them or would it put you off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldnt meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good question OP... I think if they were verified and met my criteria it wouldn't be an issue to me...

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

staying out of this as Im being watched

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What if they were on the road to recovery? Would that make a difference?

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By *oystaMan
over a year ago

Liverpool Tuebrook

It all depends on why he or she had been hospitalised ie sectioned for serious self harm or violence to others would be a no no to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you were interested in someone on here but you found out they had serious mental health issues and had been hospitalised for it several times would you still be interested in meeting them or would it put you off?"

Difficult to say really as i guess it would depend on the severity of the impact of the illness on the persons ability to function 'normally'. If it made me in the slightest doubt my own safety then i would have to say no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't put me off if I got on with them. Everyone has some issue's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What if they were on the road to recovery? Would that make a difference?"

I don't see a problem with it myself. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What if they were on the road to recovery? Would that make a difference?"

Its so tough to say without knowing the full story (im not asking for details) but i would say if said person was dealing with their issues and making progress then for me that would definately work in their favour x

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

We all have some form of mental health issues... However some suffer with more serious conditions. I don't judge a book by its cover...

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"What if they were on the road to recovery? Would that make a difference?"

If they were on the road to recovery, they should travel their path and make judgement on their health when wholey able to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't envisage a scenario where that would come up with a potential meet.

Would it put me off? Possibly. It's a bit of a how long is a piece of string question

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So would you want them to tell you or not?

I'm just interested in how mental health issues are viewed within the swinging lifestyle. We all know how they are viewed in the vanilla world!

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By *erbyGuy76Man
over a year ago

Derby

Suppose it depends on the issue being suffered.

There is a difference between a depression based illness and "The voices in my head tell me i need to kill someone and wear their skin as an overcoat"

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"So would you want them to tell you or not?

I'm just interested in how mental health issues are viewed within the swinging lifestyle. We all know how they are viewed in the vanilla world! "

Some have an open and positive view some may have a not so positive view the same in the nilly world... We all live in the nilly world not the swingers world...

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"So would you want them to tell you or not?

I'm just interested in how mental health issues are viewed within the swinging lifestyle. We all know how they are viewed in the vanilla world! "

yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So would you want them to tell you or not?

I'm just interested in how mental health issues are viewed within the swinging lifestyle. We all know how they are viewed in the vanilla world! "

I would treat it the same as any other medical issue.....it would up.to.the other.person if they wanted to talk about it or not x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the replied, very informative and appreciated

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

*replies!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

If the person told me about them (requires a degree of courage and honesty) it would not put me off as long as I felt they were not vulnerable at the time of meeting.

Lets face it one in four adults expect some mental health problem in their life.

What worries me more are those that have mental health issues but are undiagnosed.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Id probably say no....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think it would put me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

before i decide...

do the mental health issues have an impact on capacity?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anxiety depression ocd mental health issues come in a variety of forms,, I for one suffer from severe anxiety caused by an accident at work,, not my fault, I would hate to think someone would not meet me as they could not see past that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

really really depends, I have no answer to this that will cover everyone, I work with a few people with mental health issues and some ar4e fine, their condition is controlled with medication while some I find a little scary

would depends on their condition and how controlled it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would see how things go chatting exchanging messages etc, much same as anyone else.

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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago

Bridgwater - Somerset

Would once have said that if someone has largely recovered it's no problem.

Like a broken bone, if it's mended what's the problem.

However, through a quite bad experience some years ago I'd be more wary - if there is a history of repeated mental illness of the same kind, say Bipolar or depression, it may well happen again and would be good to know the warning signs.

Sounds negative but the experience left me in a very bad place - tried to help over an extended period, couldn't and beat myself up over it.

I've got over it but would not now treat it so lightly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally having had some experience with mental health issues at various points in my life, and known a fair few people with them, ( and currently defacto carer for my best friend who has severe depression.) i would never prejudge someone on their past.

only judge where they are at now and how they treat me,how vulnerable their behavior seems to make them etc, and mainly i have a firm belief that stigmatizing and treating people differently only exacerbates their issues. - Johny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the person told me about them (requires a degree of courage and honesty) it would not put me off as long as I felt they were not vulnerable at the time of meeting.

Lets face it one in four adults expect some mental health problem in their life.

What worries me more are those that have mental health issues but are undiagnosed."

But you would have to trust what they are saying in regards to health. I take fab with pinch of salt. Could not trust someone properly before meeting and getting to know them. So if some chick said they had serious mental health problems but were currently stable I would just think 'hmm maybe but not worth the risk'

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By *aul04Man
over a year ago

glasgow

wouldnt mind , aslong as she had her straight jacket on ,lol ,(joke)!!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"wouldnt mind , aslong as she had her straight jacket on ,lol ,(joke)!!

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By *ss2011Man
over a year ago

Leeds/Bradford

It depends what were they were hospitalized for, and what disorders they are diagnosed with. Girl with ASPD would require a second think from me, though that's partly down to the fact I seem to be a magnet for those types and have some prejudices against those with it because of that.

But really, I wouldn't tell anybody on here what mental health problems I've had, neither should anybody else. It's a pretty personal thing and I don't really share it with people I'm only going to sleep with. If it is going to go further, then reveal all! They might be surprised to find that crazies don't have two heads :p

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

its the ones that havent been diagnosed that you need to worry about

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Who is to say what's normal?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"It depends what were they were hospitalized for, and what disorders they are diagnosed with. Girl with ASPD would require a second think from me, though that's partly down to the fact I seem to be a magnet for those types and have some prejudices against those with it because of that.

But really, I wouldn't tell anybody on

here what mental health problems I've

had, neither should anybody else. It's a

pretty personal thing and I don't really

share it with people I'm only going to

sleep with. If it is going to go further,

then reveal all! They might be surprised

to find that crazies don't have two

heads :p "

What issues? I'm a bit nosey but extremely discreet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who is to say what's normal?"

this is true

One lady I work with is schizophrenic to be honest her day to day life is pretty normal as she is on medication that's working for her but she don't blink

while your talking to her she just looks at you wide eyes and don't blink at all, I have no problem with the schizophrenia but the lack of blinking just freaks me out

That would very much put me off on a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is an interesting thread. Only 1 person has really touched on the person with the MH issues vulnerability. Surely this should be the burning question you ask before you even think of meeting? If this persons capacity is impaired by the MH issue, and they do not have capacity to decide whether they should be swinging, and you then meet them and have sex, is that not a form of abuse? Think of it this way -

Mr A has a car crash and his capacity to manage his money is diminished. You then perform some act and he gives you his cheque book and says take what I owe you. You did a plumbing job worth £20. You take £200. You have preyed on his vulnerability. How do you feel morally?

Heres another - Miss x is on Fab. She places a meet ad, you message her. You ask how she is. (we get lots of hows u's...zzz) she says fine now, but explains shes been having help with a mental ill health issue. You stop messaging her and block her. You later find out through someone that met her and had a great time that she is 28, has a great figure, and was red hot in the sack. She was mugged 8 months ago and is now agrophobic. Her only contact is via meets arranged on fabs. She has a mental ill health issue. should you have blocked her so quick?

There is so much more to the op's first question!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't put me off if we met each others criteria and there was sexual chemistry. I'd admire the person for being honest about it and I wouldn't expect anyone to tell me their medical history (psychological or physiological) unless they wanted to or if they think I ought to be aware in case it affected the meet. The more awareness about mental health the better I say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally having had some experience with mental health issues at various points in my life, and known a fair few people with them, ( and currently defacto carer for my best friend who has severe depression.) i would never prejudge someone on their past.

Fair point

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Hey Naughtynympho.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its the ones that havent been diagnosed that you need to worry about"

why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depending exactly on the diagnosis and whether they were taking medication and being responsible for their health would determine whether I would or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its the ones that havent been diagnosed that you need to worry about"

Agreed as they often can display erratic and unforeseen behaviour.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is an interesting thread. Only 1 person has really touched on the person with the MH issues vulnerability. Surely this should be the burning question you ask before you even think of meeting? If this persons capacity is impaired by the MH issue, and they do not have capacity to decide whether they should be swinging, and you then meet them and have sex, is that not a form of abuse? Think of it this way -

There is so much more to the op's first question!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was almost sectioned last year with manic depression, and because i was able to function normally around my family i was allowed to stay at home. They put on medication and because it is so high i don't get the lows that i had before. when i started swinging at first i was drinking to combat the nerves, then we read that the meds were making me nervous as part of a side affect anyway. And ended up a little worse for wear.

But now although i am still taking the meds the amount of drink is lessening all the time.

So when i am out swinging i am in total control and know what i am doing. I honestly don't think the depression will ever go away but all the time i am doing something that takes me away from the norm, i am happy. Then again i have perfected putting on a front for many years.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a very good Friend who has Mental Health problems. And no it didn't put me off meeting him or sometimes spending Weekends with him either

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"Suppose it depends on the issue being suffered.

There is a difference between a depression based illness and "The voices in my head tell me i need to kill someone and wear their skin as an overcoat""

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would just like to say, and I wont stick around to debate once I have, that I have suffered depression for the majority of my life, even through childhood.

I was never put in hospital though, so lucky me, I got to slip through the system rather than get labelled from an early age.

I did have a friend that was sectioned at the age of twelve and she was the most beautiful, caring and stable person when i met her.

I will also say that I dumped several GF's because they were fucking crazy insane and coming from me that might sound rich, but it's really more of a qualified answer.

Vulnerable people should not be here. But people with history of mental illness should not be isolated when they have come so far. I speak for myself also, although my honesty will no doubt affect my future and speak for anyone else that doesnt deserve to be doubted or feared.

That is all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So here's the thing. The reason why I ask is that I have mental health issues. I keep getting asked if I work and the answer is no - then I get asked why I don't work and I don't know whether to say its because I have been on long term sick and unable to work etc....

I'm not ashamed of my mental health issues, It's been a very long hard struggle but finally (wrong diagnosis and medications previously !!!) I'm on the right medication and totally on the road to recovery.

My mental health issues don't define me. I was a swinger before I fell down the well of darkness so my sexual activities are not as a result of a manic high or any other MH condition - my friskiness is personal to me a whole!

I'm not a lier and am always honest and upfront about things but this one has been bugging me as to whether I talk about it or not. I don't want to get into massive discussion with a prospective meet about it but I want to be able to honestly answer questions where the only right answer is the truth.

Yes, I have a mental health disorder, but I'm still a sexual woman who like to explore the finer sexual thrills in life.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"So would you want them to tell you or not?

I'm just interested in how mental health issues are viewed within the swinging lifestyle. We all know how they are viewed in the vanilla world! "

Why would you think the "swinging world" would view it differently?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Suppose it depends on the issue being suffered.

There is a difference between a depression based illness and "The voices in my head tell me i need to kill someone and wear their skin as an overcoat"

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

OP.....If someone asks you why you dont work....

Tell them its none of their damn business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So here's the thing. The reason why I ask is that I have mental health issues. I keep getting asked if I work and the answer is no - then I get asked why I don't work and I don't know whether to say its because I have been on long term sick and unable to work etc....

Yes, I have a mental health disorder, but I'm still a sexual woman who like to explore the finer sexual thrills in life. "

Well said

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP.....If someone asks you why you dont work....

Tell them its none of their damn business

I suppose why I want to be honest is because in the long run I'm looking for a long term FB - who eventually will get to know me as me and all that encompasses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No chance I'd meet them, no. My safety is paramount at all times.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"OP.....If someone asks you why you dont work....

Tell them its none of their damn business

I suppose why I want to be honest is because in the long run I'm looking for a long term FB - who eventually will get to know me as me and all that encompasses. "

Thats fair enough....

Plenty of time to tell them once you have met and know you would like to take it further...

Some will be put off if you tell them beforehand, its ignorance but not always intentional....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another very good point, and a couple of excellent examples, for me their current vulnerability is the only issue that would be an issue here, who they are now and where they are going is so much more important then where they have been. Life isn't always pretty and straightforward, these are issues that could effect anybody if the circumstances or triggers are right.

P.S - I have the utmost respect for everybody who has mentioned their personal struggles here. Johny

There is so much more to the op's first question!"

P.S - I have the utmost respect for everybody who has mentioned their personal struggles here. -Johny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good thread, I think the general perception of mental health issues are controlled by the media. What we see on TV is people with mental health issues committing horrid crimes, well actually in truth a person with MH problems are actually more of a danger to themselves than others.

I have lived around people with issues from depression to OCD and spent time with people who suffer with schizophrenia and i have to say, they are far from scary.

What i would say on a meet is not to worry about what may happen if they have a bad turn while with you, chances are they will be able to see the signs long before and more than likely just cancel the meet. The thing you need to remember is that above all else people with mH issues are people with the same likes and dislikes as us and want to be treated like so.

I would happily meet someone with mental health issues and would enjoy the meet too. Good on you for asking this!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need to work on replying with quotes lol

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im passed the stage of caring who knows i have mental health problems. rather than get people not wanting to meet me i get people asking me questions and trying to get a better understanding of mental health.

There are many people with undiagnosed mental health problems, people who have been diagnosed tend to be on medication or have a better understanding of their illness can recognize key factors that make them worse. People who are not diagnosed are more of a risk to others as they dont know what is going on themselves, also people with mental health problems are NOT violent, some maybe but with medication they are more likely to be vulnerable. Personally id be more worried about meeting someone pissed or on drugs

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

we have been seeing a guy with mental health issues for over a year ..hes a firm friend

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

It would be a no from us Im afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we have been seeing a guy with mental health issues for over a year ..hes a firm friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No chance I'd meet them, no. My safety is paramount at all times. "

Why do you assume all Mental Ill Health issues are making people dangerous?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would take the person as i found them to be honest.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"No chance I'd meet them, no. My safety is paramount at all times.

Why do you assume all Mental Ill Health issues are making people dangerous?

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lack of education

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

If its not going to be a problem during a meet.....would you tell them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Abort abort xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im passed the stage of caring who knows i have mental health problems. rather than get people not wanting to meet me i get people asking me questions and trying to get a better understanding of mental health.

However a person with mental health problems and on medication and then drinking or perhaps taking recreational drugs is a more scary prospect to me.

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

It's just like not wanting to meet tall/short, hairy, bald, bearded, fat, skinny.... Personal preference. It would unsettle us and distract us from the job at hand, so, no, we wouldn't meet anyone who admitted to mental health problems. Sorry if that sounds selfish (oh, yeah, it is!) but we're here for personal gratification, not to participate in someone's health issues.

But if they never mentioned it or displayed any signs in advance, then we couldn't care less .... We'd judge them on our preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP.....If someone asks you why you dont work....

Tell them its none of their damn business

I suppose why I want to be honest is because in the long run I'm looking for a long term FB - who eventually will get to know me as me and all that encompasses. "

OP - this is such an interesting thread and I admire your guts for being open about your own issues with this.

The problem with meeting someone with MH issues is NOT that you know they have, it's if you DON'T know. Because of my work, I have to have an understanding of the Vulnerable Persons legislation. If anyone were to fall foul of this through swinging - knowingly or otherwise - the repercussions could literally be life-altering should they inadvertently meet someone on the VPL and it goes badly wrong.

I admire the fact that you are upfront with people about your particular problems and you are right - your sexual activities may well have nothing to do with that and may well predate any MH issue.

The real problem - as Diamondsmiles said - is when you meet some who is either undiagnosed or hiding the truth from you... Comes down to asking as many questions as you need to and going by gut feeling most of the time unfortunately, and it is easy to get caught out.

As for some of the questions you have been asked by people, most of them are none of their business. And always remember - if they have a problem with your health problems, be they mental or physical, it's exactly that - THEIR problem. Not yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forgot to say OP, I'd only mention it if and when you have met a possible person you would like to be your FB, after a few meets you will be able to tell if you trust them or not.

There is unfortunately still very much a social stigma re having any mental health problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No chance I'd meet them, no. My safety is paramount at all times.

Why do you assume all Mental Ill Health issues are making people dangerous?

lack of education"

Probably. Still, absolute not a risk I'm willing to take.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's just like not wanting to meet tall/short, hairy, bald, bearded, fat, skinny.... Personal preference. It would unsettle us and distract us from the job at hand, so, no, we wouldn't meet anyone who admitted to mental health problems. Sorry if that sounds selfish (oh, yeah, it is!) but we're here for personal gratification, not to participate in someone's health issues.

But if they never mentioned it or displayed any signs in advance, then we couldn't care less .... We'd judge them on our preferences. "

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By *ss2011Man
over a year ago

Leeds/Bradford

I love how some people are talking about people with MH issues as if they know just by looking at them lol Although OCD and Anorexia does tend to stick out like a sore thumb :p

I would list the couple of 'crazy labels' that I have but I don't really see what good it would entail, so I won't lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hear hear!!

Am open & honest about my MH & physical health

If people choose not to meet me because of it, so be it x

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Screamingscull. As much as sex is needed/wanted, you must be ready for anything when it comes to NSA.

Swinging, vanilla, alt meets/relationships all carry a different weight for each person in that meeting.

Take for instance: I had a meet down south, she came and came and orgasmed and orgasmed for 3-4 hours. She was divorced and had a sexless marriage prior.. I thought she was a good shag, she on the other hand was overwhelmed with 1. the sex 2. simple male attention, as shed never had it before.

I met her again, great sex again, but in resulting conversations it became aparent she had fallen for me. She wasnt looking for it she just had.

If youre going to be meeting people for sex you have to be prepared for bullshit - as much as people will be upfront.. thats it is a one off, there are others who will spin you every single line in the book to get into ya knickers. There are also other more manipulative ones who actually enjoy power over a woman (I know a couple, and the women are oblivious). Having said that, there are guys who do want LTR too, you just have to be more aware/cautious than others and be prepared to take things with a pinch of salt I'd think.

Its entirely your choice what you do as sex is one of the slim enjoyments in life but take things as they stand and meets for meets. If something comes of it, it will. That is why I said earlier that the person would have to make a judgement when they are "wholey" able. Meaning complete as a person - actualised. (My first quip was as two of my thread have been closed within 2 hours lol)

Good luck with your recovery, it sounds like you have a handle on it - where else better to confront sexual needs than here, hope it goes well

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Hear hear!!

Am open & honest about my MH & physical health

If people choose not to meet me because of it, so be it x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm overwhelmed by the responses here and totally appreciate those who would or wouldn't meet people like me with MH issues.

I've been having NSA for 4 years now and it's been a very enjoyable experience - after taking a break for 6 months to get myself back on the right mental track I'm now faced with a situation I haven't had before where I'm back swinging but with MH issues.

This whole place is such a mine field and I just wanted to canvas peoples perception on it and gain insight from those who have had previous experience of it.

Fundamentally - I want to get laid and get laid well!

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

fuck it then. Shag on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt meet someone with MH issues. I did meet someone who turned out to have them and it ended badly with me having to get the police involved to keep him away from me !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone felt comfortable enough and honest enough to tell about any issues i would take that as a big plus as it would take guts and would incline me to probably meet more.

Who am i or is anyone else to judge other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because of my work, I have to have an understanding of the Vulnerable Persons legislation. If anyone were to fall foul of this through swinging - knowingly or otherwise - the "

excuse my ignorance what legislation is this?

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over a year ago

"Because of my work, I have to have an understanding of the Vulnerable Persons legislation. If anyone were to fall foul of this through swinging - knowingly or otherwise - the

excuse my ignorance what legislation is this?

i got it i think, - you mean the Safeguarding Vulnerable Groups Act 2006?

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By *oystaMan
over a year ago

Liverpool Tuebrook

"I'm overwhelmed by the responses here and totally appreciate those who would or wouldn't meet people like me with MH issues.

This whole place is such a mine field and I just wanted to canvas peoples perception on it and gain insight from those who have had previous experience of it.

Fundamentally - I want to get laid and get laid well!

"
well you are certainly in one of the best places to get laid

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

I suffer from anxiety - pretty badly. I think the fact that you're being open and honest is the best policy.

If I were in your position, I think I'd be open with people I was in contact with. Yes, you're going to find a few people run away, but look at the excellent, considered replies you've had on here too. I suspect you'll find that plenty of people "get it" - maybe they have experience themselves, know people who do or simply understand what complex, fragile beings most humans are. You will probably forge stronger, more rewarding friendships (within the limits of NSA of course) with these kind of Fab members.

I'm sure if you explained your situation clearly and reassured someone that you understood the "terms and conditions" of your "relationship" with them, you'll find find people who are comfortable with that.

As an aside, I fell for someone I met socially a few months back. Big time. It came out of nowhere and shook me up. Sadly, she didn't feel the same and I made an arse of myself in explaining my feelings. I find life easier now I'm generally open about my struggle with anxiety and I dearly wish I had the opportunity to explain it had kicked in big time.

You posts exude fun and I'm prepared to wager you're a good, interesting person to be around. I'm sure there'll be folks who see beyond any label and see the real you.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think its funny how someone bein sectioned doesnt put people off but if someone cant spell properly its a big no-no!!

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"think its funny how someone bein sectioned doesnt put people off but if someone cant spell properly its a big no-no!!"

For heaven's sake:

"it's"

"being"

"doesn't"

can't"

Definite no-no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For heaven's sake:

"it's"

"being"

"doesn't"

can't"

Definite no-no

lol dammit guess thats me off ur list then!!

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

"No chance I'd meet them, no. My safety is paramount at all times. "

Talk about being judgemental - just because has mental health issues doesn't mean your are going to be unsafe. The ones that don't admit they have a mental health problem are the ones you need to be afraid of!

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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago

Bridgwater - Somerset

Good luck with your recovery and your honesty, I used to think I'd never suffer mental health problems but realise we're all at risk, given a particular set of circumstances I think anyone could suffer in some way. I was in a bad place some years ago and some drastic changes were needed. Fine now.

Take care and have fun, rash generalisation, but avoid too much stress and avoid situations that you know have a negative effect.

Be happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because of my work, I have to have an understanding of the Vulnerable Persons legislation. If anyone were to fall foul of this through swinging - knowingly or otherwise - the

excuse my ignorance what legislation is this?

i got it i think, - you mean the Safeguarding Vulnerable Groups Act 2006?

That's the one - couldn't remember the flippin name of it! It established the Vulnerable Persons List (VLP) which our local authority organised training on when it came in due to the implications for my staff being alone in vehicles with people who have been placed on it.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

For heaven's sake:

"it's"

"being"

"doesn't"

can't"

Definite no-no

lol dammit guess thats me off ur list then!!

Argh!!! No, no - I was only joking, honest.

No amount of bad spelling gets someone chucked off my list. I'm a middle-aged, anxious bloke - a fab member would have to kill someone before getting chucked off the list tbh!

Damn, why do I always shoot myself in the foot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can be very harsh in this community, had a meet last yr and my partner was rejected by the female half as he tripped over thin air (he has something called dyspraxia), safe to say we both walked out laughing due to certain aspects of them being far from perfect, moral of the story is nobody is perfect and it's great too be different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definite props to Screamingskull for opening this post, i think you can take away that being honest is always the best idea, deceit is never a good way to protect yourself or others, and many people here are not as judgmental as you might presume.

You might miss out on meets or put off a potential FB, but if they are scared off then maybe they aren't the best person to consider for that honor, and never forget that is what it is regardless of what others might say or think. Good Luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd consider meeting. I'd imagine that being honest about it is part of dealing with the issues. It would be more difficult to deal with if the person attempted to cover it up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So would you want them to tell you or not?

I'm just interested in how mental health issues are viewed within the swinging lifestyle. We all know how they are viewed in the vanilla world! "

to be honest with you I wouldn't even tell people, I have health problems, not mental ones, but I don't tell people my medical problems when meeting as its nothing to do with anyone else, nor is your health problems, things like this are private and should only be told if you want to, don't feel you have to because you do not

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over a year ago

"I'd consider meeting. I'd imagine that being honest about it is part of dealing with the issues. It would be more difficult to deal with if the person attempted to cover it up."

define covering it up tho, if the lady has mental health problems, she sees her Dr, take her medication, see's a psychiatrist or whatever else is offered to her to aid her recovery shes hardly covering it up just because she don't tell a stranger on the internet she wants to shag her medical background

Personally I don't feel people on here have the rights to know that, your medical background is private between you and your Dr, unless you have something that's contagious then its no one elses business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no...as long as they are sane at the time of the meeting

and to be honest...a meet is a meet..if anything after that includes a friendship/relationship then the issues might be more to think about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most people have depression at some points in their lives.the issue has to be capacity to make a decision .if bipolar or schizophrenic then that would have lots of issues with it.not saying that those don't but I think lots would stay away because of ongoing vulnerability issues.rightly or wrongly.or rightly cos they can't risk those issues in their life.its not a simple question therefore you can not afford a simple answer ever .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think most people have depression at some points in their lives.the issue has to be capacity to make a decision .if bipolar or schizophrenic then that would have lots of issues with it.not saying that those don't but I think lots would stay away because of ongoing vulnerability issues.rightly or wrongly.or rightly cos they can't risk those issues in their life.its not a simple question therefore you can not afford a simple answer ever .

Have to agree with you there, not to mention most health issues effect people differently, everybody really should be treat on an individual basis, though i certainly also agree with naughtynympho's comments about privacy too, not everybody you meet needs to know everything.

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over a year ago

"I'd consider meeting. I'd imagine that being honest about it is part of dealing with the issues. It would be more difficult to deal with if the person attempted to cover it up.

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over a year ago

"I'd consider meeting. I'd imagine that being honest about it is part of dealing with the issues. It would be more difficult to deal with if the person attempted to cover it up.

stranger on the internet she wants to shag her

medical background

I wasn't talking about medical history. I don't need to know the full extent of the issues involved but for some people, coming here is a way of dealing with certain issues. Sometimes it's good, sometimes it's bad. I meet people where the mindset that everything is fine in their world. If it's not, maybe I can help or give that person space. Just simply knowing where you stand without seeming insensitive."
I totally understand and I am the most unjudmentalperson in the world but never want to do harm to anyone else.there are lots of people on here that are on here for the wrong reasons tp. I have met some but most I haven't but thank god .have a swing phone that's all I say .some people get attatcment issues with no meet.you realise problems there.lots of totally nice people on here too that have the usual issues .wtf .i stop now before I put myself in a cornerxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very brave of you to post this up OP.

I was in a very bad place a couple of years ago, ended up being diagnosed with Bi-Polar with rapid cycling. My mood does change from day to day or even hour to hour but with medication and self learning to see when things are changing I manage it just great. I used to be embarrassed or ashamed to what people thought but now I couldn't give a toss! I'm still the friendly, loving guy I was years ago and I won't let a illness or opinions define me.

Having someone that listens and loves like my wife does helps alot too.

Stay strong, you sound like a lovely, honest woman and I'm sure you will bag your self a great FB ( lucky bugger!) or you can come move in with me and Dirty!

All the best x

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By *U1966Man
over a year ago

Devon

Not at all i spend a lot of my time caring for close friend with mental health problems

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By *eal_Dick_TurpinMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Yes, I have a mental health disorder, but I'm still a sexual woman who like to explore the finer sexual thrills in life. "

You asked for honesty.

As soon as you asked the question, I looked at the avatar, thought hmm, looked and the profile, thought yep, she's talking about herself.

So in some cases, like yours, it's easy enough to take one look and come to the conclusion you have bats in your belfry, to coin the phrase.

HOWEVER, as others have said, metal health is like saying infection, it's a big field, would I fuck someone with aids, no, would I fuck someone with a common cold, yes, but they are both infections.

DEPENDING on your mental illness, you might be safe to be around, but just freaky.

AS OTHERS HAVE SAID, it is the "undiagnosed" ones you need to watch out for, particularly the Cluster B types, BPD, NPD etc, they can and do seriously fuck with everyone else's life, and are a living nightmare to be associated with.

TO THE OP, I wouldn't be your mate / FB, bald tattooed chicks do nothing for me, and yes I will leap to conclusions and say you being bald and tattooed is an outward expression of your mental health issues, having said that, at least you are obviously a bit freaky, and so, probably not dangerous or poisonous to know, so if we drank in the same local I'd natter away to you like I would to anyone else....

It is the undiagnosed BPD / NPD ones that are poisonous and dangerous, and I would neither fuck them, nor be in the same fucking pub as them, and the bit that should worry everyone is for every bald tattooed chick there are a hundred of them running around... in the pub, in the supermarket, in the workplace, here in fab

Bottom line for the OP, given a choice between a bald tattooed chick and some girl with no tats and long hair the "normal" one wins every time... given a choice between a dangerous mental health issue and a safe mental health issue the safe one wins every time.

You win one you lose one.

At the end of the day it comes down to choices, if I prefer amazonian blondes then I am only going to date midgets when there are no amazonian blondes available... if there are amazonian blondes available and I start chasing midgets then midgets would be correct to be suspicious of MY mental health issues.

Amputees for example know all about this one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because of my work, I have to have an understanding of the Vulnerable Persons legislation. If anyone were to fall foul of this through swinging - knowingly or otherwise - the

excuse my ignorance what legislation is this?

i got it i think, - you mean the Safeguarding Vulnerable Groups Act 2006?

Vulnerable Persons List (VLP) ? Surely it would be VPL, like Visible Panty Line? Sorry, I have OCD grammar issues. I like to have sex with Jacob because I'm fucking crackers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its the ones that havent been diagnosed that you need to worry about"

Couldn't agree more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mental Health, covers a very wide spectrum indeed. I would imagine each and every one of us have a 'mental health issue' of some kind, ranging from mild anxiety to schizophrenia, so I think to answer yes or no to the OP's question is very difficult indeed without referring to a specific condition

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the meeting is for casual sex then the main issue for me is the risk assessment.

If you are a woman then you are at more risk if the issues are related to violence. Then again they may become obsessed with you and stalk you. You need to know a lot about their issues first and have some knowledge of them I would have thought.

If you are a man the physical risks are probbaly less unless perhaps they have severe learning difficulties. In that event the Law may see them as unfit to consent and all sorts of problems can ensue.

Not an easy issue.

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over a year ago

"Because of my work, I have to have an understanding of the Vulnerable Persons legislation. If anyone were to fall foul of this through swinging - knowingly or otherwise - the

excuse my ignorance what legislation is this?

i got it i think, - you mean the Safeguarding Vulnerable Groups Act 2006?

Vulnerable Persons List (VLP) ? Surely it would be VPL, like Visible Panty Line? Sorry, I have OCD grammar issues. I like to have sex with Jacob because I'm fucking crackers.

Told you it was me age!!!! Yes, VPL!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regardless of legality or possible violence, I wouldn't want to take advantage of anyone in this rather intimate way. I think it is a matter of what any condition may be and how seriously it affects lucidity etc;

As a general rule 'if in doubt-do nowt'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it depends on severity i guess ...someone with depression is in same class yet im sure we have all had sex with a person with depression and that works both ways

There are a few Bipolar people on here who are genuinly cracking people and bloody sexy to boot ....should they be denied of sex i wonder

The OP question is a really good one and should be treated serious - well raised

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By *ollie1Couple
over a year ago

murcia spain

would be very careful as it could be disturbing to them depending on the health issues

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By *owlmMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

most people have mental health issues but i assume you mean clinical mental health issues ie: the types that require clinical care.

if the person is fully recovered then fine I would go ahead with it but if the person still needs care then I wouldn't.

If you know someone to have a mental illness then you have a duty of responsibility for them. it would lead to all sorts of issues. What if the person is not able to consent fully to sex?

What if your in the middle of sex and suddenly the person with the mental illness has a panic attack and cry's rape. The mentally ill/recovering person is not in a fit condition to consent to sex.

you have to be more specific on the mental illness and how it relates as a disability. we all have a duty of care over each other and sex is a human right for all providing we consent to it.

mentally ill people deserve the same rights as anyone else to have a sex life which is fair enough but the legal side of things needs to be well understood. the mentally ill person needs to understand the illness and how it affects themself (ie: judgement) and others.

a possible solution would be at arrange the date with help of a caregiver who is around in the background (prehaps in a seperate room in the same building) should any problems arise. the caregiver can also be a witness to consent.

another solution would be to film the act in case something does crop up and can be used to solve problems.

just a few ideas im no expert on the subject

sorry about the long post its been a long night shift!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

This post has quite surprised me. Again i will say not all people with mental health are violent, "freaky". Not sure how you can judge someones mental health by the way they dress.

While ive been swinging ive heard some horror stories, women crying rape, someone woman throwing a boiling kettle of water over someone, people saying they are pregnant to "keep" someone. People turning "weird" on a meet. All the examples ive just given are about people that have not been diagnosed as having a mental illness.

I think this thread may stop some with mental illness being honest.

If someone is honest they seem to get stigmatized, so is it better not to be honest?

Ive been told all my life that i dont look like someone with a mental illness.

As i said earlier i dont really care anymore, but id much prefer someone to ask me about my illness and how it affects me, even if they dont want to meet me they may have a better understanding, Mental health is not about violence and freaks and i am surprised that people still think that in 2013, makes me think we havent come that far afterall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if someone was upfront about it then they are clearly facing up to the problems they have. There is allot to be said for honesty it goes along way. Not all cases of mental health is about violence. I used to work in mental health so while yes I may have experience, I also believe that if someone is upfront and honest about anything and they meet our criteria then why not have some kinky fun.

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By *owlmMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"This post has quite surprised me. Again i will say not all people with mental health are violent, "freaky". Not sure how you can judge someones mental health by the way they dress.

I think this thread may stop some with mental illness being honest.

If someone is honest they seem to get stigmatized, so is it better not to be honest?

Ive been told all my life that i dont look like someone with a mental illness.

mentally ill people are not freaks or violent but they have an illness that might affect their judgement or behaviour. I would definitely go with a mentally ill person if i knew that they were attractive, capable of looking after themselves and not a risk to my or their own health. mentally ill people or people with mental health conditions which are managed should forewarn people if there is any possible risk to anyones health. mentally ill people shouldnt lie or decieve. thats totally wrong.

I think they ought tovconsider legalise special prostitutes so that disabled people or ill people can access one of the most basic needs we all have and should all be entitled to... sex. A prostitute (or sexworker) could be trained in these issues and acutally provide for ill people or people on palliative care some form of 'sex therapy' which might lift their spirits on their way to recovery. but thats a different thread altogther.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think they ought to consider legalising special prostitutes so that disabled people or ill people can access one of the most basic needs we all have and should all be entitled to... sex.

A prostitute (or sex-worker) could be trained in these issues and actually provide for ill people or people on palliative care some form of 'sex therapy' which might lift their spirits on their way to recovery. but that's a different thread altogether."
[Sorry - corrected spelling and grammar to make it clearer]

Escorting, or selling their companionship by the hour, is already legal in this country and these sex-workers do visit hospices, care homes and sometimes hospitals to provide much needed relief services. They also meet the disabled who find it difficult to find their own partner. Their experience of life and people probably provides a lot of background for them to deal with those with mental problems.

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over a year ago

Yes, I have a mental health disorder, but I'm still a sexual woman who like to explore the finer sexual thrills in life.

You asked for honesty.

As soon as you asked the question, I looked at the avatar, thought hmm, looked and the profile, thought yep, she's talking about herself.

So in some cases, like yours, it's easy enough to take one look and come to the conclusion you have bats in your belfry, to coin the phrase.

HOWEVER, as others have said, metal health is like saying infection, it's a big field, would I fuck someone with aids, no, would I fuck someone with a common cold, yes, but they are both infections.

DEPENDING on your mental illness, you might be safe to be around, but just freaky.

You win one you lose one.

All I want to say to this is what utter bollocks!!!!!

Amputees for example know all about this one."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people with mental health issues, depression are people who have had to stay too strong for too long and I don't see why that would define you as a person, other than being a strong individual for getting through everything you have and continue do to so on your journey. Though its certainly not something I would expect just anyone to share with me before meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I made utter bollocks of my quoting effort but I was referring to Dick Turpins post being utter bollocks

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By *quirrelMan
over a year ago

East Manchester

I think the main problem is what people believe is the risk with meeting a guy/girl who has been diagnosed with a mental health problem.

I have worked in a school where all the students have been diagnosed with a variety of mental health problems and found then a challenge but not a problem and enjoyed working there, then i worked in a secondary school with the same age range and found it to be a highly stressed and confrontational enviromment where i was glad to leave at the end of the day.

I have no problem with those who are diagnosed with mental health problems who are being treated, its the so called "normals" i have problems with

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands

"I can't envisage a scenario where that would come up with a potential meet.

Would it put me off? Possibly. It's a bit of a how long is a piece of string question"

Agree with this, it seems a strange scenario to envisage..at what point does a potential meet reveal their medical history and would it be appropriate doing so?

I guess someone sufficiently cognitive to be revealing possible health problems to a prospect meet is sufficiently able to decide whether they're fit to take part in this lifestyle.

Personally I wouldnt want to meet an axe murderer but they have a habit of not revealing the darker side to their personality's until it's too late!

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands

"I think this thread may stop some with mental illness being honest.

If someone is honest they seem to get stigmatized, so is it better not to be honest?"

But why would someone be revealing that much detail about themselves in the first place? Not many members are seeking potential marriage partners here!

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

You asked for honesty.

As soon as you asked the question, I looked at the avatar, thought hmm, looked and the profile, thought yep, she's talking about herself.

So in some cases, like yours, it's easy enough to take one look and come to the conclusion you have bats in your belfry, to coin the phrase.

@@@ That is prejudiced and judgemental @@@

HOWEVER, as others have said, metal health is like saying infection, it's a big field, would I fuck someone with aids, no, would I fuck someone with a common cold, yes, but they are both infections.

DEPENDING on your mental illness, you might be safe to be around, but just freaky.

@@@ and diversity is fun @@@

@@@ yep, for someone who clearly understands mental health and possibly works in the industry should you be judgemental? @@@

having said that, at least you are obviously a bit freaky, and so, probably not dangerous or poisonous to know,

@@@ how can you tell? the lovely op may appear to be freaky to you but you can not tell by looking at her if she is a cluster B personality disorder patient @@@

so if we drank in the same local I'd natter away to you like I would to anyone else....

@@@ ah so kind...@@@@

@@@ On this point we agree...@@@

Bottom line for the OP, given a choice between a bald tattooed chick and some girl with no tats and long hair the "normal" one wins every time...

@@@ Normal!!, that term should never be used by a person experienced in the mental health field... And why does long hair make you normal @@@

given a choice between a dangerous mental health issue and a safe mental health issue the safe one wins every time.

You win one you lose one.

Amputees for example know all about this one."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would put me off for sure but we all have issues and baggage so it does depend on the severity really. Good luck anyway x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would put me off for sure but we all have issues and baggage so it does depend on the severity really. Good luck anyway x x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You asked for honesty.

As soon as you asked the question, I looked at the avatar, thought hmm, looked and the profile, thought yep, she's talking about herself.

So in some cases, like yours, it's easy enough to take one look and come to the conclusion you have bats in your belfry, to coin the phrase.

HOWEVER, as others have said, metal health is like saying infection, it's a big field, would I fuck someone with aids, no, would I fuck someone with a common cold, yes, but they are both infections.

DEPENDING on your mental illness, you might be safe to be around, but just freaky.

You win one you lose one.

Amputees for example know all about this one."

Jesus Christ, why don't you just pass me a razor blade and be done with it.

Honesty is great but insulting me is down right rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignore him says he wouldn't fuck someone with aids but has on his profile you must do bare back to meet him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im sure it would put most off, but you had already felt attracted to him before his mental health became an issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This topic is making me cringe at some of the narrow minded prejudiced uneducated diatribe thats being presented under the guise of informed comment.

There are only a few issues here and its really simple.

1. Does the person with the MH issue have the capacity to decide if they want NSA sex.

2. Do they have the need to tell people they have a MH issue, and should they

3. would it make the slightest bit of difference?

I can guarantee that most of you, at some point, being sexually active will have met someone who had an issue under the broad MH umbrella. Did it make any difference? Probably not, if it did was it life changing, probably not.

FFS stop labeling people as 'them' with issues.

'They' are just people like you, and me, think of this -

A while back I had a UTI,quite a bad one. Should I tell prospective meets?

I don't think so.

i've also had thrush. Should i disclose that?

Im not reading this topic anymore its annoying me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as they are taking medication and stabilised someone can be fun to be with and interesting and no harm to you.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Before I saw who wrote the long post saying you had tattoos and a bald head which made it obvious you have a mental health problem I knew who'd posted it.

Don't take it to heart.

I think the mental health spectrum is so wide that each person needs to judge what is best for them and their meets. I suffered from PND and have been diagnosed with mild depression since them. But I have got over it, no longer take meds and am not affected by it In any way so don't feel the need to divulge it to anyone.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

My best friend has been in psychiatric units at least 3 times. She is still a high-functioning individual, has a Phd in Virology and holds down a very good professional job.

Not everyone who has mental health issues is a) dangerous b) incapable of coping on a day to day basis

Mental health issues is such a broad spectrum that the question, for me, is impossible to answer. It's like saying someone has physical health issues - would you meet them? You would want to know what those issues were. Have they got a nasty cold or are they riddled with herpes? Mental health issues are as varied as physical health issues.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"My best friend has been in psychiatric units at least 3 times. She is still a high-functioning individual, has a Phd in Virology and holds down a very good professional job.

Not everyone who has mental health issues is a) dangerous b) incapable of coping on a day to day basis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You asked for honesty.

As soon as you asked the question, I looked at the avatar, thought hmm, looked and the profile, thought yep, she's talking about herself.

So in some cases, like yours, it's easy enough to take one look and come to the conclusion you have bats in your belfry, to coin the phrase.

HOWEVER, as others have said, metal health is like saying infection, it's a big field, would I fuck someone with aids, no, would I fuck someone with a common cold, yes, but they are both infections.

DEPENDING on your mental illness, you might be safe to be around, but just freaky.

You win one you lose one.

Amputees for example know all about this one.

Jesus Christ, why don't you just pass me a razor blade and be done with it.

Honesty is great but insulting me is down right rude.

I think it was SSF(serious sexual frustration)..

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

long as she didnt bite my cock off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wouldnt meet "

I was a bit quick to say I wouldn't meet someone with mental health condition. After reading thread, I would consider it but would have to get to know the person well. The condition itself will also play a part too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they felt the need to tell me about it, then probably not.

The stuff about us all having mental health issues I think is crap. We know sod all about the brain, it's mostly guess work.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

The great thing about the forums......Lets you know exactly what people you would want to avoid at all costs!

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By *ss2011Man
over a year ago

Leeds/Bradford

You asked for honesty.

As soon as you asked the question, I looked at the avatar, thought hmm, looked and the profile, thought yep, she's talking about herself.

So in some cases, like yours, it's easy enough to take one look and come to the conclusion you have bats in your belfry, to coin the phrase.

HOWEVER, as others have said, metal health is like saying infection, it's a big field, would I fuck someone with aids, no, would I fuck someone with a common cold, yes, but they are both infections.

DEPENDING on your mental illness, you might be safe to be around, but just freaky.

You win one you lose one.

Amputees for example know all about this one."

Erm, I have BPD. Pretty sure I haven't fucked up anyone's life? Minus my Mum's but she deserved it lol. What a stupid generalization that is though! Your theories are Do you actually even know people with these cluster B PD's? A few of the best people I will ever know have BPD. Very ignorant post!

As another person said, it's the 'normal' ones who are the ones to be worried about. (Evidently

) I know more 'normal' people out there with personalities that are enough to put you off the human race for good. I'll admit I already am, the 'crazies' are the only people worth knowing....just a shame so many people who aren't will always try to be.

Every great person who has ever lived has some kind of issue which is stigmatized. If people want to avoid them then it's their loss. Besides, some people just like to feel 'better' than people and by thinking of themselves as better than those with issues because their mind is in one piece, then that's the only self satisfaction they can get, and a good sign of just how many brain cells are in their 'healthy' minds.

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over a year ago

Personally I prefer non neurotypical people anyway.

As long as they have capacity to decide they want NSA fun, are a pleasure to be around and aren't a danger to me or themselves then I would rather treat people as individuals than make judgements based on some concept that anyone with a mental health issue might be wrong for me in a sexual way, or indeed vice versa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've bipolar disorder and I'm not ashamed to admit it, I'm very open about it and if someone doesn't want to meet me because of it then so be it.

Even in this day and age there's still a stigma attached to mental illness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wouldnt meet

I've bipolar and you winked at me

So what's all that about

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Ive removed posts including the ones quoting them sorry.

Closing the thread now as comments are getting personal.

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