FabSwingers.com forum: One half of a couple can meet?

By *endalshaggers OP Couple
6 weeks ago

Kendal

One thing we see on here is sometimes where prehaps one half of a couple can meet, but not the other.

Doesn't bother us, it is what it is, life, work and all that. Some people, like ourselves, have very different schedules and getting time off together never mind time for meets/clubs etc can be hard.

Seemingly it gets some people's backs up on here, especially when they complain it always seems to be one half of a couple that's available to meet (the male, apparently...)

Does it bother you, or if you are one that complains, would you be complaining if it was the other half available?

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Found it is the man

Want s to meet the female on there own

Not for us

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By *lym4realCouple
6 weeks ago

plymouth

Seems to happen a fair bit but doesn't bother us but does seem odd it's mostly the male half that's always free though ? and we personally never ever meet apart though !

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By *emdomCouple2024Couple
6 weeks ago

dudley

We both meet alone as well as together, so far only me(female) has met alone which is expected as so many singles guys on here it's easier to find one on those profile then a couples profile xx

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By *iandti2023Couple
6 weeks ago

Wokingham

In our experience, we have always found it is the male half of a couple that is always available to meet. Of course there are genuine couples with legitimate reasons like timings or childcare. However, men pretending to be a couple spoil the perception for the genuine folks.

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By *ineapple_turnoverCouple
6 weeks ago

London

We very rarely meet separately but it does happen because sometimes it's the only way we can manage personal lives.

It is more commonly the man, and the insinuation is that he's cheating. That makes it difficult and I also am suspicious.

But I do think there's often more to it, Mr pineapple is much more comfortable meeting alone than I am, purely because of safety. And then he can also get away with work more than I can, and he travels a lot.

So there are often many reasons why the male half can/would meet alone more than the female

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By *acavityMan
6 weeks ago

Redditch

My suspicion is that it's a fake profile, to get round filters..

It's definitely gaming the system

Unless it's a couple you already know, and he has permission to play separately

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
6 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

The main issue is that it seems to have been a common theme for some profiles where there may not ever have been a woman in the first place. So people are naturally dubious.

There are plenty of couples who play separately, but have individual solo profiles to do so, either in addition to, or instead of a couples profile.

And yes. I suspect there's few complaints when it's the woman meeting solo from a couples profile as opposed to the man. Unfair? Probably. But that's life. 🤷‍♂️

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By *herrybakewellCouple
6 weeks ago

Staffordshire

It's very very common.

We always have a rule that the initial meet everyone must be present.

After that, we totally get that people's schedules can be busy and therefore can't always meet.

We just keep it equal.....I (Mr) wouldn't keep meeting the female half if the man was never available for my partner. We take it in turns, that's what works best for us.

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By *he ExcaliburMan
6 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Usually doesn’t bother me, though I always check to see that they’ve been photo verified as a couple first. Too many single guys masquerading as couples on here

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By *ab50Man
6 weeks ago

bexhill

So we're on as a couple but only Mr plays, this as our profile says is because Mrs can't and doesn't want to play due to disability, it's an open and honest situation which is why it's still a couples profile, honesty is the key.

Been a cussed I'd being fake, cheater, liar all of the above in the past, but surely being honest is the best policy all round.

I would agree there probably are fake profiles, liars and cheat, but to tar everybody with the same brush is very narrow minded.

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By *ighland couple 99Couple
6 weeks ago

Inverness

We don’t meet separately

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By *xxLandNxxxCouple
6 weeks ago

Nuneaton

We don’t mind if it’s a couple we’ve already met as a couple and we know it’s genuine and has the consent of their partner. Always seems a strange one when it’s from an unverified account.

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By *lbtpjCouple
6 weeks ago

stoke on trent

I understand life can be busy but if we are chatting to a couple we expect to meet the couple. Make a singles profile also if only one can meet. Just seems like single guys pretending they are a couple most of the time

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By *imandherNSFWCouple
6 weeks ago

Barnstaple

For us it would depend on if we have met with you as a couple before and if we knew you. If we have never met then it's always going to be a no from us. But we don't play separately either, so you would never get one without the other.

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By *r SensualMan
6 weeks ago

London

Me and my partner BOTH play separately which we do so off our own individual profiles. We have our couples profile in which we look to make connections TOGETHER there… if one half of a couple is playing solo and the other isn’t then the one who is should be doing so off their own profile/account.

But then again we know why a male half of a couple isn’t going to do that now don’t we?…

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By *aomilatteCouple
6 weeks ago

Midlands

Some couples do indeed meet separate (we've known some that have led to drama). However it's obvious many Men on couples profiles are trying to cheat. In local updates the old "who wants to meet my husband" never seems to work! Personally we wouldn't knowingly meet one half of a couple male or female, each to their own though.

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
6 weeks ago

Bedale

To each their own, so long as they don't mind that we might only be interested in the "advertised product" so to speak.

If it's a couples profile we reserve the right to say we won't meet an individual from them without the other. Aside from anything else if it turns out there's skulduggery then the drama isn't worth it.

But, we also reserve the right to make that call on a case by case basis

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By *lirtyAndFunCouple
6 weeks ago

Rushden

Im the only one that meets in our relationship (fem), V likes to see me with other guys, I like to have lots of sex, so we both get what we want

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

We are just starting this particular journey for Aurelia.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
6 weeks ago

Easiest thing to do is say you will only meet one half of the couple if you can meet their partner either via video call/cam chat or a quick social

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By *issmorganWoman
6 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

It bothers people due to the amount of fakes who hide behind being a couple and always say only mr meeting this week.

It's often a male who is either now single or his partner isn't aware she's on fab.

I have no doubt lots of genuine couples have only one half meeting, I'm half of one. We do have a joint profile and seperate ones too & if anyone has any doubts they can speak to me to confirm it's all above board.

As usual it's a few profiles giving others a bad rep and woman meeting alone are never questioned or doubted.

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By *utterypopcornCouple
6 weeks ago

oxford

No we won’t meet people who we don’t already know under these circumstances. Just start a single profile and then we would

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By *helamontsCouple
6 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Can't see the problem here.

If you have been chatting as a couple and expecting to meet a couple, then just ask them to get back in touch when both are available to meet.

Problem solved ...

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By *inkyPair2018Couple
6 weeks ago

Wolves

We both have met separately in the past.

Agree though it doesn’t invoke a lot of interest unless it’s the female half meeting. Which is disheartening

But it’s a fact of ‘fab life’

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By *orphia2003Woman
6 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

I had a joint profile with a FWB. We only used it to meet together. We also had our own single profiles.

If I get a message from a couple, I'd expect to meet both parties.

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By *achel SmythTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Farnborough

I’m sure there are genuine couples that do meet separately…. however in my experience, it is almost always a cover for a single male. A simple discussion usually s them out.

I work on the premise of don’t trust until I have cause to!

R xx

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
6 weeks ago

chichester

I just decline and tell them try again when both available and I’ll look into considering it

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By *oiluvfunMan
6 weeks ago

Penrith

There are genuine swinger couples in here with separate profiles for their individual meets, they’re easily spotted as they reference their couples profile in their solo profiles.

The chancers who are just a guy pretending to be a couple are easily figured out. Ask for a shared phone chat, a FaceTime call, or all of you to meet for a coffee somewhere.

Lots of couples talk the talk, very few are actually genuine. Due diligence is required for everyone in Fab…..

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By *heekyCharmMan
6 weeks ago

Colne

I'm struggling to find a couple who actually want to meet together! Lol!

I'm not interested in one of the couple meeting alone. I want it ALL

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By *tanlee1512Man
6 weeks ago

Epsom

Usually the guy lol

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By *s2walesCouple
6 weeks ago

Gwent...

We only meet couples so no singles for us...

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
6 weeks ago

Leeds

People can meet as they wish, I meet alone I have my own profile for that.

Complaining about someone else's choices though - no.

Mrs

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By *andydan69Man
6 weeks ago

south west nr you mmm

Depends if it suits u or not although I had a guy turn up instead of his wife so that’s a common thing but slo met women alone too

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By *hristopherd999Man
6 weeks ago

Brentwood

It's generally a man with a couples profile, there is no wife

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
6 weeks ago

Gloucester

If both aren’t available at the same time we won’t meet. We look for couples for a reason.

Kink (Mrs)

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By *eyond PurityCouple
6 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

We are on the lookout for a hot husband or a single guy.

Some, not all, of the guys that have contacted us from a couples account, don’t have that they play seperate on their profile and it has the feeling of they are either going to do it without her being aware or there is no Mrs at all.

It’s got to be with Mrs full blessing as it’s just the same as a ‘single guy’ on FAB in a relationship.

Honesty is one of the biggest factors on FAB for us and it’s fantastic when other people feel the same.

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By *nnandElleCouple
6 weeks ago

Brackley

Can be difficult for us to meet together due to childcare, and we won't host at home when the the kids are home, obviously (even if they are tucked up in bed asleep)

But Elle is always encouraged to meet guys 1:1 with Enn's blessing anyway.

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By *iandti2023Couple
6 weeks ago

Wokingham

I (Simon) am not a huge fan of clubs and parties, just not my thing. Tina on the other hand absolutely loves them, so she plays at clubs as a single and when meeting as a couple, we always play together. No judgement whatsoever and I usually hit the gym while she gets her own workout

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By *oxy jWoman
6 weeks ago

somerset

theres a big section of fab couples who still cheat on each other even tho they swing ....ive had countless amounts of messages from one half and not wanting thier other half or mine to know ...

now to me a cheating swinger is the worse of the worse remember these relationships are suppose to be strong and heathy ... i also got approached alot in clubs from one half of couples to meet secretly ...

its the main reason i blocked couples on fab ... the alot of couples on here who have zero clue what one half is up to ...

nothing worse than a cheating swinger

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

It’s always a male, there was never any female involvement in the first place. Almost as annoying is when we ask for a fem to fem phone call with couples and you get the “she’s asleep at the moment” or “she’s at work”

Yeah? Well don’t be messaging on her behalf then, or admit the woman on your profile doesn’t even know she’s on here.

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By *aomilatteCouple
6 weeks ago

Midlands

"admit the woman on your profile doesn’t even know she’s on here."

There does seem to be many profiles like that

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By *heekyCharmMan
6 weeks ago

Colne

"theres a big section of fab couples who still cheat on each other even tho they swing ....ive had countless amounts of messages from one half and not wanting thier other half or mine to know ...

its the main reason i blocked couples on fab ... the alot of couples on here who have zero clue what one half is up to ...

nothing worse than a cheating swinger "

That's mental!

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