FabSwingers.com forum: Most frustrating thing?

By (user no longer on site) OP
6 weeks ago

What’s the most frustrating thing about this site these days?

For us, it’s the amount of massages offered, the amount of photo sessions offered, and the obsession with socials over sex.

This is a swinging site, and swinging is sex!

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By *herryEatersCouple
6 weeks ago

East Cheshire

Easy... TIMEWASTERS, wether that be pic collectors, guys pretending to be couples, no-shows or folk who claim great interest then never have the time to meet !

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By *ittleLiasonsWoman
6 weeks ago

Birmingham

I would say the opposite, people who want to jump straight into sex. Yes it's a swinging site but it's still important to know someone a little bit before taking that next step so social things are essential beforehand. Maybe there's more protection as a couple but as a single, I wouldn't be meeting someone and getting straight down to it.

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By *oiluvfunMan
6 weeks ago

Penrith

All the 'BJ Queens' who run and hide when you post you can't cum from a bj......

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By *atty CoramWoman
6 weeks ago

Wimbledon

I am obsessed with socials but purely in the interests of better sex.

Hate all the creepy massage offers though.

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By *ngelLordCouple
6 weeks ago

Newport

Swinging definitely not just pure sex

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By *r Mind CandyMan
6 weeks ago

Cheshire

"I would say the opposite, people who want to jump straight into sex. Yes it's a swinging site but it's still important to know someone a little bit before taking that next step so social things are essential beforehand. Maybe there's more protection as a couple but as a single, I wouldn't be meeting someone and getting straight down to it."

I love a good social, I consider it all part of the extended foreplay. Exciting and sexy as hell 🤤

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By (user no longer on site) OP
6 weeks ago

Socials are ruining the scene though: if you google the meaning of swinging, it certainly isn’t social. We’ve lived in Germany recently and the scene here is vibrant, and not a social to be heard of. It’s purely carnal sex

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By * and T xCouple
6 weeks ago

Cannock

"Socials are ruining the scene though: if you google the meaning of swinging, it certainly isn’t social. We’ve lived in Germany recently and the scene here is vibrant, and not a social to be heard of. It’s purely carnal sex"

In a club = sure no problem. Verified identity, CCTV, witnesses. Let's go.

From fab? Probably not. Some people on here should be medicated.

Also, a social can just as easily be code for "I want to make sure I'm not being catfished".

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Yes definitely hard for the genuine gent but can see why

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By *nlil and NinlilCouple
6 weeks ago

walsall

we would not and will not just fuck with anyone.. so for us it is chat on here to start and if all good then we have a social to be face to face with the person and if all parties agree then it can move to the next level.

if we are ruining for others by living our life as we see fit then aww diddums

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By *ornynorfolkguyMan
6 weeks ago

North Norfolk

For me it’s the sea of unsolicited vagina pictures that I get sent daily.

I spend ages wading through the messages!

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By *londe_hotwifeCouple
6 weeks ago

kent

People messaging you when they clearly haven't read your profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

People who cant handle rejecton.

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By *r Mind CandyMan
6 weeks ago

Cheshire

"People messaging you when they clearly haven't read your profile!"

Second this! What the hell is up with some people on here??

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By *urplekeysCouple
6 weeks ago

London

For us, it would be people messaging us without reading our profile and not being able to filter on unread messages!

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By *lym4realCouple
6 weeks ago

plymouth

We are very happily " Obsessed" with socials and not just let's get jiggy wiggy with it straight away ! and the endless messages asking if we fancy "Fun" ? we know what it's code for ? but the endless no shows/excuses we encounter we only promise we will show up as arranged but seems despite what most say that's not good enough ? and should be site for everyone but sadly turning out not to be and who doesn't like a good sexy session but ...xx

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By *r Mind CandyMan
6 weeks ago

Cheshire

"For us, it would be people messaging us without reading our profile and not being able to filter on unread messages! "

That’s what the block button is for 😉

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By *ympha LuxuriaWoman
6 weeks ago

La La Land

100% this

Safety first

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By *iandti2023Couple
6 weeks ago

Wokingham

For us it’s just the lack of sincerity and honesty… although every now and then someone genuine comes along and our faith in humanity in general is restored

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By *carlettxWoman
6 weeks ago

Essex

"What’s the most frustrating thing about this site these days?

For us, it’s the amount of massages offered, the amount of photo sessions offered, and the obsession with socials over sex.

This is a swinging site, and swinging is sex!"

I keep saying that fab is getting more like tinder than swinging

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By *hroatitboyMan
6 weeks ago

GLA

I find tinder easier to get a hook up. Fabs quality has deteriorated massively.

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By *izzibeth9Couple
6 weeks ago

Loughborough

Aye socials are important for us too. The guys who send one word messages, or can't spell properly tend - from our personal experience - to lead to crap meets where it's wham bam, thank you ma'am and gone. Not pleasurable, not respectful. Not for us.

Appreciate everyone's different though and that's absolutely fine, it's just something we've found out s out the bad ones (mostly).

For us, there's definitely a huge amount of fakes - blokes pretending to be couples etc., but they're easy enough to spot. Just wish we had better control over who could message us to save time deleting them.

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By *eahxocallumCouple
6 weeks ago

studley

There's a lot of chaff and unless a person or couple has an engaging profile which isn't just dick pics and the man boasting about his abilities, then we struggle to sift through potential meets.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
6 weeks ago

Norwich

"All the 'BJ Queens' who run and hide when you post you can't cum from a bj......

All the guys that think saying they can't come from a blowjob will be taken as a challenge.

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By *oiluvfunMan
6 weeks ago

Penrith

People who answer "Just go to a club" to pretty much any question posed in Fab...

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
6 weeks ago

Leeds

Those that want a quick fuck without a conversation - any holes a goal isn't my thing.

Socials are good.

Mrs

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By *oreAgainForeverCouple
6 weeks ago

doncaster

Fantasists who give the talk but when the day comes to actually meet leave the site only to then come back on 3 weeks later with a different user name and try it all again

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Not turning up to meets… dunno whether it’s a nerves thing but still very annoying

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By *j188Couple
6 weeks ago

aberdeenshire

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Really old photos... Some people send me the same pics they were sending me on my old profiles from many years back...

Plus people who don't read profiles, one liners, the usual...

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
6 weeks ago

Leeds

Couples that can't understand I don't want their man.

I mean it's only 1 sentence they have to read.

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By *ocktowerMan
6 weeks ago

north Wales and Bulgaria.

New member who say fun couple

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By *iandti2023Couple
6 weeks ago

Wokingham

“Only looking for top tier couples”. How on earth does the couples tiering work? Is there an exam of some kind?

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By *rAngryPantzMan
6 weeks ago

near you.

How rude people can be.

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By *avid 50Man
6 weeks ago

kendal

Anyone can write a thread or comment on a post But you must never criticise a woman for anything she says or anything she may do, If you do, you will be lambasted by the ladies and by the hierarchy of men, couples you can comment on as most are read and replied to buy the male of the couple and anyone with a single profile is definitely bottom of the pile

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By *avinci4Man
6 weeks ago

East Midlands

Easy and obvious.

The most frustrating thing is absolutely unbalanced ratio of F/MF to M. To few Females here in general.

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By *gstarsMan
6 weeks ago

Keighley

People who don't read things properly and ask stupid questions. Or when you make it clear you aren't able to meet due to x/y/z and they still keep asking.

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By *heonlycunnilinguyMan
6 weeks ago

Yeovil

No one wants to connect, you show interest, you mention something from their bio to show you are one of the few and still nothing. I do not expect to be everyones cup of tea, howver a little conversation costs nothing

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By *neeyedwillieMan
6 weeks ago

Darlington

Completely agree..and I am part of a couple. When I go to the club I wouldn't dream of approaching a random.woman or couple I've not spoken to and asking to join because it's a massive pet peeve when I'm there with my wife. Admittedly we don't play with single guys and it's not a common occorunce a random.woman will try to join but even so.. women or couples..have a drink and a chat first before heading off to the play area.

It's how you make freinds and repeat play mates.

But what works for us dosnt work for others.

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By *eardedguy800Man
6 weeks ago

Kidderminster

One word message!

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By *avinci4Man
6 weeks ago

East Midlands

"People who cant handle rejecton."

There are some indeed.

But I would argue that the shear number of rejections/male is driving most men towards "inpatience". Imagine writing up to 100 thoughtful, funny, engaging emails, after reading every profile beforehand. And then all of them are just deleted, or not even read. Show me a lady on fab, who was rejected like this 100 times in a row, and has not given up?

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By *ykel_and_LizzyCouple
6 weeks ago

Brecon

It's how you make freinds and repeat play mates.

But what works for us dosnt work for others.

We understand where you're coming from, but we are the opposite! When at a sex club we absolutely expect people to come and try to have sex with us and we are not shy about showing the same enthusiasm if we find someone hot. If they're not interested, or we are not, no harm done!

Perhaps it's because we are not so interested in the friends side of things at random clubs??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
6 weeks ago

Glad you agree with us! We go to have sex with others. Yes of course if we don’t like the look of anyone we won’t fuck them, but our number one intention is to fuck people. That’s what clubs should be about. There’s a club near us, Uniquez, that is now as inactive and non-swinging as you’ll find. But, thankfully real swingers are finding other places to go.

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By *eventhheaven2022Couple
6 weeks ago

accrington

"Easy... TIMEWASTERS, wether that be pic collectors, guys pretending to be couples, no-shows or folk who claim great interest then never have the time to meet !"

Couldnt agree more x

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By *e-funcoupleCouple
6 weeks ago

Middlesbrough

So called single men who are keen and then all of a sudden go quiet or cancel last minute when a meet is arranged!

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By *uzzleMan
6 weeks ago

Hastings

People's sense of entitlement and rules on profiles. I refuse to contact anyone whose profile reads like a person specification.

* No face pic no reply

* Socials first or party invite

* No facial hair

* Excess cock pics on profile = block

* No single males

* We won't host and no hotel meets

The list goes on.....

I can't take Fab seriously, I am just on here for the crack and see what happens. If someone likes the look of my cock/body then great, if not jog on.

If I were to put on my profile, my preference is women of size 10 or less, I'd get reported to admin!

Happy fabbing y'all!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
6 weeks ago

Add to all that people who don’t accom and don’t travel… what do you do, stand in the street waiting for sex?!?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
6 weeks ago

Also… fame hounds… “ooooh fab me, fab me, my profile is real, honest”

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By *herrybakewellCouple
6 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Those who aren't capable of reading a bio.

Drives me bloody mad!!!

Ps....we're swingers, we love sex!! But a social first always makes things better.

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By *ildTimes777Man
6 weeks ago

Colchester/London

The "Hi, how are you?" Messages and time wasters that have no intention of meeting want to chat swap photos and then disappear off the site 🤷🏻‍♂️

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By *ocktowerMan
6 weeks ago

north Wales and Bulgaria.

People in send a picture to the person above and you can't as they have blocked people of your sex.

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By *r_Midnight2000Man
6 weeks ago

home

Plateauing in the gym

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By *ot_spicedCouple
6 weeks ago

Queenstown

The "hi, wanna fuck?" messages.

Do people really get anywhere with those opening lines??

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By *eniandMikeCouple
6 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Single guys profiles, that only have pics of random woman!! What’s the deal with that??? And yes the lack of sex on offer!! Socials only should be for dating sites!

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By *r-Mrs BackagainCouple
6 weeks ago

scotland

That everyone is so far away

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By *ocktowerMan
6 weeks ago

north Wales and Bulgaria.

People who say no time wasters then turn out to be time wasters themselves.

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By *anonfire96Man
6 weeks ago

Rainworth

Swinging is the whole package, the lifestyle. Not just sex.

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By *anonfire96Man
6 weeks ago

Rainworth

People who say safe sex only, then post videos of them having group oral sex unprotected.

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By *ah HumbugMan
6 weeks ago

here and there

Not being on Wonko’s friends list

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By *nkedguy777Man
6 weeks ago

Manchester

Time wasters

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By *endalshaggersCouple
6 weeks ago

Kendal

Timewasters, or those who are obviously only interested in your pictures.

Those who think just because your're on a swinging site your're easy and you'll jump into bed with them after a couple of messages.

Those who do message wanting to "meet now" even though it says obviously on your profile that won't happen.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
6 weeks ago

Poole

Men changing the boundries. When we offer a meet, for example, meet at your place. They agree, we set a place snd time ect.

They then starting messaging, changing the boundries, for example, saying they prefer a car meet, so instead of his place they want a doggin meet.

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By *usybee26Woman
6 weeks ago

Londonderry

Yes it is a swinging site but being a single woman I am not going to meet strange men in strange places..

I like to meet them first in public.

In this day in age women need to feel safe and be safe.

Majority of men on here understand but there are those that think don't

Social before sex !

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By *host63Man
6 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

"What’s the most frustrating thing about this site these days?

For us, it’s the amount of massages offered, the amount of photo sessions offered, and the obsession with socials over sex.

This is a swinging site, and swinging is sex!"

Mine is people who.answer your message positively and then blank you when you reply or you don't reply straight away.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
6 weeks ago

Sheffield

Agreed!

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By *uncouple153Couple
6 weeks ago

Abergavenny

This. Even as a couple.

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By *um aliveMan
6 weeks ago

Walgrave

The terrible grammar!

I think I’ve become ok at spotting timewasters, so I just block or ignore and don’t get annoyed by them.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
6 weeks ago

Sheffield

There is more to swinging than the sex. The social part is a big part for most. Meeting others with the same interests and making friends.

My biggest bug bear is people that don’t read your profile. I only attend clubs. I don’t use fab for meeting.

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By *ourbon1Man
6 weeks ago

wales

seeing all the things put up with! knowing that it stops nice fun genuine people all round having good laughs and fun together

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By *inckguyMan
6 weeks ago

Hinckley

Receiving a wink, you message and they don't bother replying. What's the point of the wink?

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
6 weeks ago

chichester

Lack of women interested in trans currently. 2022 was good

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By *oastal_GentlemanMan
6 weeks ago

Great Yarmouth

Blokes with the inevitable question.. "Tell me what you'd do to my wife?"

Just fuck off and get your kicks somewhere else!

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By *actilenorfolkgentMan
6 weeks ago

Norwich

Getting halfway over to an arranged meet to be cancelled and ghosted!!

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By *reasyMan
6 weeks ago

Caerphilly

Absolutely agree, so many think the site is “Instafuck” attraction chemistry and manners are so much part of swinging 😃

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

The husbands claiming to have wife’s, then it turns out they have wife’s but want them to play and then start sharing pics of a wife who is totally unaware of the entire situation

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By *he Silver FuxMan
6 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

In my experience the Germans aren’t fussy and there’s two different takes on that

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By *ocktowerMan
6 weeks ago

north Wales and Bulgaria.

[Removed by poster at 10/10/24 15:46:36]

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By *ocktowerMan
6 weeks ago

north Wales and Bulgaria.

No Germany option in world wide lol

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By *ohnny DeeeepMan
6 weeks ago

durham

"we would not and will not just fuck with anyone.. so for us it is chat on here to start and if all good then we have a social to be face to face with the person and if all parties agree then it can move to the next level.

if we are ruining for others by living our life as we see fit then aww diddums

Yeh I don’t understand this take at all. In the vanilla world I’ll probably find that maybe 2-3/10 I’m actually attracted to the person I matched with online when I actually meet them in person.

And that’s not counting personality.

I’m definitely not going to make somebody think that they are getting to play with the goodies on a first meet and then find out there’s zero spark.

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By *nlil and NinlilCouple
6 weeks ago

walsall

if we are ruining for others by living our life as we see fit then aww diddums

And that’s not counting personality.

I’m definitely not going to make somebody think that they are getting to play with the goodies on a first meet and then find out there’s zero spark."

always a no expectations social,there is no promise of a play

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By *herry delightWoman
6 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

I have to agree to so many want endless messages and a social after social , lots just want to talk about anything and everything except about swinging eg sex.

I have been to clubs and seen some just sit there and talk and pass judgemental comments about oh look they are having sex in a swinging club.

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By *akequeen90Couple
6 weeks ago

Sydney

When you arrange a meet, exchange pictures and chat for sometime and then they cancel at the very last hour

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By *nlil and NinlilCouple
6 weeks ago

walsall

"I have to agree to so many want endless messages and a social after social , lots just want to talk about anything and everything except about swinging eg sex.

I have been to clubs and seen some just sit there and talk and pass judgemental comments about oh look they are having sex in a swinging club. "

so if we go to a club we "HAVE TO" fuck with someone? and is your own post not a judgemental comment on people doing it a different way to you?

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By *ocktowerMan
6 weeks ago

north Wales and Bulgaria.

People saying read my profile so you do then message them and the block you of just don't reply .

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By *as0046Man
6 weeks ago

stourbridge

People who are just stuck up their own ass. Must br great smelling your own shit all day 🤣🤣

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By *eart31Couple
6 weeks ago

Broxburn

Definitely has to be the amount of time wasters and fantasists who are just on for a wank rather than actually meeting!

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By *as0046Man
6 weeks ago

stourbridge

Couples who moan there a no men on here 🤣

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By *issmorganWoman
6 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I have to say although it's a swinging site, many like socials before jumping into sex with others. If you don't that's fine, but it's OK for others to want one.

The things that annoy me are those just nearby for a night who think I'll head over to their truck or hotel, that's still miles away cos they're horny.

Also pushy feckers annoy me.

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By *nked_coupleCouple
6 weeks ago

Durham

The amount of blatant fakes and timewasters, so obvious it's boring

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By *aby ReindeerCouple
6 weeks ago

Desford, Leicester

Meeting someone whose photos are filtered and so unrepresentative!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
6 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

The most frustrating thing? People.

People who can't accept that others do things differently.

If you don't want to do socials that's fine.

If you see it as important, also fine.

If you want sex with no connection or conversation that's your prerogative.

If you need to have more than just physical attraction and need some element of mental connection, all good.

And most of all.....people who insist their way of swinging is the only correct way and that everyone else isn't a swinger. 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

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By *ornysouthwalesMan
6 weeks ago

Merthyr Tydfil

For me, being a mature gentleman, I have to say age filters. I appreciate that people have certain preferences but when I’m only a couple of years too old it’s very frustrating not to be able to strike up a conversation

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
6 weeks ago

Gloucester

"Easy... TIMEWASTERS, wether that be pic collectors, guys pretending to be couples, no-shows or folk who claim great interest then never have the time to meet !"

This!!

Kink (Mrs)

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By *unnySaturdayMan
6 weeks ago

Bridgend

"For me, being a mature gentleman, I have to say age filters. I appreciate that people have certain preferences but when I’m only a couple of years too old it’s very frustrating not to be able to strike up a conversation "

Exactly that!

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By *ositiveVibesJBxMan
6 weeks ago

Birmingham/Wigan

Personally I’d always have a social first as there has to be that spark and mental stimulation. Plus it’s a good opportunity to ask questions and get to know more of what the other person or couple are wanting. There is much more to swinging than just sex but how you live the lifestyle is up to you and there should be no judgements.

One thing that i do hate is being ghosted. I guess it’s more of a respect thing. I’d rather people just say they are not interested after speaking for a while.

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