FabSwingers.com forum: Can’t last

By *ooking4new OP Man
13 weeks ago

whitby

Am I the only man who cums too quickly when at a meet. I see men in clubs pounding away, when I had a gorgeous women desperate for me to fuck her I came as I was putting the condom on. Even with my wife I only last a few minutes. I feel like a useless fuck and feel sorry for my wife (who doesn’t play away and says I’m all the man she needs) I would live her to take a lover who could really please her with his cock not like I do with my fingers before penetrating her. I am the only man she has ever been with. Anyone got any advice ?

By *xhibitionGuy35Man
13 weeks ago

South East

get a fleshlight and start practicing masturbation with deeper controlled breathing, set the stop watch and get used to controlling and suppressing your orgasm, breathing and clenching of your lower stomach muscles can help a lot but there are lots of techniques you can google.

Think about your arousal on a scale of 1-10 where at 10 you will cum.

Keep up the stimulation until you reach 8-9 and then reduce (or stop completely if needed) until you feel you are at 3-4 then start again keep ‘edging’ like that until you reach a goal. Concentrate on extending the intervals and the overall time to orgasm. When you feel confident do the same exercise with a partner.

Sexual performance is also deeply psychological, considering exploring that with a counsellor in case there is something underlying.

Also research about tantra if you are interested it could be transformative! good luck

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
13 weeks ago

East Sussex

Believe what your wife tells you and work with her to achieve mutual goals rather than what you want and what you want for her.

By *evonrobMan
13 weeks ago

Kingsbridge

I’ve met a few people lately who haven’t been able to cum for a variety of reasons, some medical. I reckon they’d swap with you so be careful what you wish for! xx

By *weet and SpiceCouple
13 weeks ago

Around the Midlands

There could also be medical or other underlying reasons OP. Perhaps speak to professionals. Good luck