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By *adybee77 OP Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Is submission something you learn or that comes naturally to you?

I'm by nature quite submissive, always have been, and it usually comes out even when guys aren't being dominant.

The slight problem I have is that my current FWB doesn't like me being submissive saying we should both be equals...

Any help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong being sub but its a very special bond between a master and a sub a lot of trust placed upon both people.But I attend fetish events and have seen and played with lots of subs and must say that the feeling of playing with a sub is the best ever and also having talked to couples they seem to enjoy and thrive on a sub Dom relationship x

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By *adybee77 OP Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I'm quite happy being sub with the right person, and as you say there is a lot of trust and a lot to be gained from a sub/dom relationship - I've had a few.

The guy I am currently seeing would rather I wasn't submissive with him, and I was hoping for some tips to help stop slipping into my natural state when with a partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's going to be hard if your a natural sub I'm not sure how to advise you because I think once your a sub it's so difficult to get out of it,would he not consider using you as his sub or even letting you be sub to someone else while he observes but I suppose it depends how Sub you are.x

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By *adybee77 OP Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

He doesn't want me to be sub - he tells me I am his equal and it makes him uncomfortable.

He doesn't want me to be sub - so quite why he would want to watch me be sub to someone else passes me by (maybe I'm missing something there)

AS I said, I was hoping for tips to help stop me slipping into sub habits. I do really enjoy being with him, and have a great connection with him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say I am naturally sub but can be a bit Dom depending on how aroused I am!

I think confidence has a lot to do with it and knowing what the other person wants from u and how far to take it!

Maybe u both need to talk more about it until u feel more comfortable with the idea.

Good Luck Hun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's great I'm not sure how to stop a sub slipping into the whole sub thing I suppose you are still equal in that you allow yourself to feel comfortable in his presence to be a ale to submit to him.

It's all about trust and the couples I have met are very much together more so than people in a vanilla relationship I think.

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By *adybee77 OP Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Thanks Raven.

It would be so easy for me if he liked a sub female, but its not his thing.

I guess I'm just going to have to try and keep it in check, and be more assertive. I do think its confidence as being sub is what I am used to - and also I love to please which is very much part of the sub nature I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He doesn't want me to be sub - he tells me I am his equal and it makes him uncomfortable.

He doesn't want me to be sub - so quite why he would want to watch me be sub to someone else passes me by (maybe I'm missing something there)

AS I said, I was hoping for tips to help stop me slipping into sub habits. I do really enjoy being with him, and have a great connection with him. "

he obviously does not understand that by being submissive to him, your not suggesting your not his equal. However, you can not force him to like how you are being.

I'm not sub with everyone. In fact very few people see that side of me. However I do have sexual preferences that I guess some may seem as submissive. But really I just like a confident alpha male.

Even as a slave I always knew I was my masters equal and opposite. We completed one another.

As to is submission natural. I think so. I've spent a life time trying to bury mine. I'm assertive in many areas of my life but am always happy to let special guys take charge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Cali

I think your right I think you have to be equal to gain the trust that's needed in a sub Dom relationship.

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By *adybee77 OP Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Thanks Cali, likewise I think I like the strong alpha male type. I have explained to him that being sub does not mean I am less worthy than him - its just how my mind works.

I have to say, when we do meet, its amazing... I guess I was hoping for an easy answer about it all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no easy answer I'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big deal

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