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By *atalie.. OP   Woman
over a year ago

Bolton

So you have a couples profile and the male half just adds ANYONE and EVERYONE...people your never ever,ever going to meet..even when you ask them not too has they are your photos that are on the profile also....so who has the last say cause to be frank its getting right on my tits

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Tell him not too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only add people we have met.

Not sure what you mean..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby is forever doing it but must admit even tho he will add anyone there never from Timbuktu. But I always have the last say and constantly resort friends list out.

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By *atalie.. OP   Woman
over a year ago

Bolton


"Tell him not too x"

Falls on deaf ears and i dont know the password to joint account so i cant remove them myself

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

Put your foot down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We only add people we have met.

Not sure what you mean..?"

what she is saying is that she is part of a couple, and the male half keeps adding friends to their profile, what is obvious is that she has a single profile of her own as well, seems simple solution is that he gets a single profile of his own and then he can add who he likes as it won't affect his partner

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By *atalie.. OP   Woman
over a year ago

Bolton


"We only add people we have met.

Not sure what you mean..?

what she is saying is that she is part of a couple, and the male half keeps adding friends to their profile, what is obvious is that she has a single profile of her own as well, seems simple solution is that he gets a single profile of his own and then he can add who he likes as it won't affect his partner"

Aye this seems the best solution

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

You have a couples profile you don't have access to? How does that work then?

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Your on a couple profile with a guy but you dont know the password?????

Your joking right?

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By *atalie.. OP   Woman
over a year ago

Bolton


"Your on a couple profile with a guy but you dont know the password?????

Your joking right?"

No im not joking..he likes to hide things so i dont see...shit that aint it

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By *atalie.. OP   Woman
over a year ago

Bolton


"You have a couples profile you don't have access to? How does that work then?"

It doesnt thats the issue, why have t in the first place as i have NO use of it what so ever

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Report the profile. And him. Sounds like nice man !

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Contact admin immediately x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

is this your husband/partner or a swing friend?

for me this is both a trust and respect issue, sounds like he doesn respect you if he doesnt listen to you and how this makes you feel.

I also think there is lack of respect if he wont let you kno the password

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both have equal say...this is not a game to be in without trust, agreement and consensus...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Contact admin immediately x"

This is the best and as far as I can see only course of action.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Did you agree to put the profile up and allow access to your pictures?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your on a couple profile with a guy but you dont know the password?????

Your joking right?

No im not joking..he likes to hide things so i dont see...shit that aint it "
Im not in a couple profile but had a chat last year with a guy about us doing one together and we said we would both have equal say, so sorry it stinks and yes as has been said you should report him, regardless of whether he is your husband or not. I would. Hope it works out ok for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now me thinks there is more to this than meets the eye, do you solemnly swear to tell the truth the whole truth and nothing but the truth

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By *atalie.. OP   Woman
over a year ago

Bolton


"Did you agree to put the profile up and allow access to your pictures?"

Im ok with the photos...just not ok with who see's them..hence my issue of friends list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Contact admin immediately x

This is the best and as far as I can see only course of action."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Natalie:

If this guy is sharing your photos without your permission, report to Admin, get your joint profile closed ...

AND MAKE SURE HE KNOWS THAT HE CAN'T DO THIS AGAIN!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you agree to put the profile up and allow access to your pictures?

Im ok with the photos...just not ok with who see's them..hence my issue of friends list "

Sorry but surely swinging is about trust, if he can't trust you with a password something not right in the relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you agree to put the profile up and allow access to your pictures?

Im ok with the photos...just not ok with who see's them..hence my issue of friends list "

Why would you agree to have a couples profile that you can't access?....to me that isn't a couple.....please do as these people have advised!

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"You have a couples profile you don't have access to? How does that work then?

It doesnt thats the issue, why have t in the first place as i have NO use of it what so ever "

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I am still gobsmacked by this.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I am still gobsmacked by this."

the more i think about it the wierder it is. even when i had profiles with fuck buddies i made sure we both knew the account details and tht we were both happy when contacting other people, especially if sending pics out

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By *EXY50ishWoman
over a year ago

Anywhere and nowhere

Why does it matter who's on the friends list ?? I never understand the issue. I've got loads of people on my friends list I have no idea who they are, I won't be meeting the majority of them. They are just people in cyber space . I have real life friends !

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By *EXY50ishWoman
over a year ago

Anywhere and nowhere

Oops didn't read the whole thread, its about who sees pics. Still not entirely sure what the issue with pics is. But agree with everyone else it should be your choice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first thing to think about is are you

married or living with said person from the couple profile?

If yes then swinging clearly isn't a joint venture and perhaps time to get out as obvious lack of trust.

If he is a fb then drop him like a tonne of bricks and report that profile as quite clearly using you to gain a wider audience.

Either way sort out what relationship you have left if any then deal with swinging and this site latterly as should not be a priority imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have a couples profile you don't have access to? How does that work then?

It doesnt thats the issue, why have t in the first place as i have NO use of it what so ever "

Report it as fake. It's basically a single male pretending to be a couple if you don't have any access to the profile. If it was me I'd avoid him. He seems very controlling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oops didn't read the whole thread, its about who sees pics. Still not entirely sure what the issue with pics is. But agree with everyone else it should be your choice x"

from what I can see the issue with the pics is that they are hers, of her and maybe she would like a little control over who is seeing them and possibly what they are doing of them...we don't tend to accept friend requests until we have seen others pictures as we have face pictures in private and need to know that we don't know people through work or some personal circumstances before what we're into is broadcast to all and sundry...

But also, my impression is that it goes deeper than just the picture issue...when I first satrted swinging with my ex, he would be making all sorts of arrangements with men with me on the menu that i would not agree with or follow through on then wouldn't tell me who we were going to meet and what for...it was not a pleasant state of affairs and vastly contributed to me refusing to swing any more and the demise of our relationship such as it was...if he's just letting anyone see her pictures, the question arises, what else is he doing on the profile she has no access to and how is that going to affect her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only add people we planning to meet or have met, thats why we only have 3 friends lol, its a joint decision but Donna has final say as she is the boss and i know my place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am still gobsmacked by this."

Me too! In fact I've had to read the thread twice to make sure I wasn't seeing things. How does it work when it comes to meeting people via your couples profile???? OP good advice above and report him.

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By *EXY50ishWoman
over a year ago

Anywhere and nowhere


"I am still gobsmacked by this.

Me too! In fact I've had to read the thread twice to make sure I wasn't seeing things. How does it work when it comes to meeting people via your couples profile???? OP good advice above and report him."
See I would NEVER put a face pic on only have photos that I don't mind anyone seeing. You'd need to be close to me to recognise any of mine lol . I'm not sure everyone's aware but its possible to save and share anyone's pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We ask one another if we like someone before accepting a request after all there is no point if we really aren't interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We only add people we planning to meet or have met, thats why we only have 3 friends lol, its a joint decision but Donna has final say as she is the boss and i know my place "

Thats us too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sound like if you havnt got the password he's up too no good, maybe Talking to females pretending to be you aswell arranging meets but at last min saying you can't attend and meeting them. He's obviously got something to hide. If he's just your friend with benefits I'd get rid

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

he shares your pics with anyone and everyone he likes . wont tell you password on to your JOINT account .he doesnt listen or respect your concerns and bounderies .AND you know he hides things from you . why are you even allowing any of this???more important why swinging with a guy with such a obvious disregard for you ???? sorry op ,time for you to take resposibilty for allowing his behaviour and not play the victim . the price of poker obviously not high enough if he just ingnors you .DEMAND the password and be absolutly clear noone get added as a friend unless both of you agree . have

any pictures you wouldnt be happy for anyone and every one to see removed .any others on your own profile so you control who sees them . id also be making clear if hes any issue with this,youll get full profile deleted by admin and would be last time youd

be swinging with him at all ! or id have my nails dug in his balls and twisting very sharply till he saw the error of his ways lol! youll find it doesnt fall on deaf ears then .

really the bounderies should of been made absolutly clear before setting up profile ,but hind sight is always 20 20 .just use it as a learn for future . i do however think you have issues that run much much deeper . the alarm bells ring loud and clear when you say thigs like " he hides things from me " and " he doesnt listen it falls on deaf ears " . i would be having a serious rethink about swinging with somone a)i couldnt trust and b) had no respect for my feelings .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you have a couples profile and the male half just adds ANYONE and EVERYONE...people your never ever,ever going to meet..even when you ask them not too has they are your photos that are on the profile also....so who has the last say cause to be frank its getting right on my tits "

i got an idea for you to think about ............how about meeting prople on your friends list and let the get right on your tits

good point i have same problem so i decided now to only add freinds who wehave met all from before now are safe they still get to perv mol lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell him not too x

Falls on deaf ears and i dont know the password to joint account so i cant remove them myself "

so this is y i still here thanks chrissy mate

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

its up to you both to agree on who is on your friends list keep only the ones you want . friend should mean friend .. not license to perv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bri does that adds willy nilly ... I follow up behind and delete ... Lol sometimes he does it to b fare if they only have friends pics , ... But we generally sort out everynow and then ! And decide who's not chatted in a while !

Think men aren't so selective ! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you have a couples profile and the male half just adds ANYONE and EVERYONE...people your never ever,ever going to meet..even when you ask them not too has they are your photos that are on the profile also....so who has the last say cause to be frank its getting right on my tits "

I take it hes a fuck buddie you meet with and not your partner as a partner would surely have more respect for you than that?

I would log into couples account and remove my pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell him not too x

Falls on deaf ears and i dont know the password to joint account so i cant remove them myself "

I posted my last post before I read that, message admim and ask them to remove your pics from the couples account, to be honest I wouldn't have a profile where someone had my pics and was arranging meets with me that I had no access to

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