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"I have left a meet (several years ago) when I strongly sensed a 'coercion' issue. No way I was going to lay a finger on a lady who wasn't appearing to be a willing participant. Hopefully it was clear to her that I was being respectful. " THIS. It’s sad this made me so happy to read - the bar is clearly on the floor for me. Well done you. I’ve done the same and turned down couples where I sensed one was only getting involved to please the other x | |||
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"I have left a meet (several years ago) when I strongly sensed a 'coercion' issue. No way I was going to lay a finger on a lady who wasn't appearing to be a willing participant. Hopefully it was clear to her that I was being respectful. THIS. It’s sad this made me so happy to read - the bar is clearly on the floor for me. Well done you. I’ve done the same and turned down couples where I sensed one was only getting involved to please the other x" Thank you. That's really appreciated. Wasn't looking for credit in any way, but us guys aren't going to gain respect if it's not earned. Glad to say they disappeared off Fab not too long after, with him hopefully learned the right way to treat a woman. I was lucky having been led into this world BY an amazing woman who is still a great friend. Respect and integrity cost nothing, but it does mean I can look myself in the mirror. No woman will ever be less than a hundred per cent safe in my company, although almost every one I know in the swinging world is a strong woman in her own right - which is a damn sexy thing in itself! | |||
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"Yes have definitely tuned down a couple when the dynamic seemed one sided, ie. she was just doing it to please hubby, it should be fun for all three, each having their own kink for doing it 😘 Ps, Always turn up when we’ve decided to meet though !!! " 👏👏👏👏👏 | |||
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"Very good question , we have met quite a few single guys , wife hasn’t played with all of them , and never said no to the ones who made all the right moves , But have had a fair few time wasters and a couple of no shows , which makes it harder for other singles , we tend to arrange the meets for at club now , or when we are on breaks or holidays " Understandable. | |||
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"Just wondering if any single guys have ever turned down an opportunity to meet a couple? I’ve had two experiences, one couple I met socially who were sexy but had dynamics between them that worried me, sent them a message after saying didn’t want to meet. Second one was a couple on here who messaged me keen to meet, and I said no thankyou politely. They were very taken aback as had assumed I would automatically say yes… " Yeah I turn them down daily and I’m sure a lot of guys do. I think being Bi makes it more difficult for me as I feel that I need to be attracted to both sides of the couple otherwise I won’t be turned on (even if playing “straight”). And it’s rare that both are equally hot. I’ve noticed that a common dynamic seems to be that one partner is much more attractive than the other (to me) | |||
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"I’ve turned down couples before. Main reason is when I feel the wife is only doing it because it’s what her other half wants. You can just sense that the hesitance goes beyond just nerves, it’s about doing something just to make the other one happy. Going to a football match when you hate football is something you do to make your other half happy. Fucking someone else is a step too far and doesn’t feel right to me. Another time was because we got back to the hotel room and she was throwing up in the toilet because she was so d*unk … her husband turned round to me and said, if she can borrow your toothbrush she’ll be good to go in 5 minutes … he got quite offended when I refused " 👏👏👏👏👏👏 | |||
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"I have left a meet (several years ago) when I strongly sensed a 'coercion' issue. No way I was going to lay a finger on a lady who wasn't appearing to be a willing participant. Hopefully it was clear to her that I was being respectful. THIS. It’s sad this made me so happy to read - the bar is clearly on the floor for me. Well done you. I’ve done the same and turned down couples where I sensed one was only getting involved to please the other x" 100% as anyone with good morals and respect would agree and swinging is about everyone involved being happy and free to do or not do as they desire isn’t it ? Hence we should all be able to say no if we so wish and all should respect that | |||
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"I have left a meet (several years ago) when I strongly sensed a 'coercion' issue. No way I was going to lay a finger on a lady who wasn't appearing to be a willing participant. Hopefully it was clear to her that I was being respectful. THIS. It’s sad this made me so happy to read - the bar is clearly on the floor for me. Well done you. I’ve done the same and turned down couples where I sensed one was only getting involved to please the other x 100% as anyone with good morals and respect would agree and swinging is about everyone involved being happy and free to do or not do as they desire isn’t it ? Hence we should all be able to say no if we so wish and all should respect that" | |||
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"I turned down a single guy who asked Terry if he could fuck me while I was right there legs akimbo! I didn't like that he'd asked for my partner's permission and not mine. That changed me inside. Took a lot for me to get back into the swinging mindset after that. He was just rude from the off, kind of arrogant so he got sweet fanny Adams " If you ask the male partner if it's OK he often says ask her. If you ask her she often looks to him for approval. It's a confusing world out there... | |||
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"Turned a couple down today as I wouldn't pay her. Lol" Pay her for what? | |||
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"Turned a couple down today as I wouldn't pay her. Lol · Pay her for what?" • A compliment...? 😉 | |||
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"Just wondering if any single guys have ever turned down an opportunity to meet a couple? I’ve had two experiences, one couple I met socially who were sexy but had dynamics between them that worried me, sent them a message after saying didn’t want to meet. Second one was a couple on here who messaged me keen to meet, and I said no thankyou politely. They were very taken aback as had assumed I would automatically say yes… " Yes, lots when talking after having initial interest with each other because of a technicality or something along those lines which is totally expected, and yes a few messaging to outright meet usually due to age or just no attraction. Oh and wanting bi play | |||
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"We've never been turned down directly but we've had guys not turn up which I suppose is the same thing " That happens to everyone | |||
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"Yeah, several times. The main reason why I often do is because of the entitled and shitty attitudes some couples have when approaching. Some seem to think they are doing us single guys a favour as they think we are desperate and will jump through hoops. Where this attitude comes from is anyone’s guess, but bad attitude and rudeness is such a turn-off when all you want is light-hearted fun." Well said my friend | |||
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"We arranged a meet with 2 guys and they never turn up so I had k all to myself" Looks like they missed out big time. | |||
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"I walked away from a meet as I could clearly see the female was under duress, he got a little nasty with me when I said that I wasn't going to take things further." 👏👏👏👏👏 | |||
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"i would love te chance to turn don a couple why docouples think our past it at 69 plentyf good tunes played on a ol fiddle xxxxxxxxx" Age is but a number but having no pics does not get you far on this site | |||
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"You may turn down a couple of you feel the dynamic isn’t quite right. " If* | |||
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"I turned down a couple last night as they wasn’t my type. I don’t subscribe to the “most men would fuck a frog if it stopped hopping long enough” train of thought. You have to be turned on mentally as well as physically, it just makes the sex better. " Totally agree | |||
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"You may turn down a couple if you feel the dynamic isn’t quite right. " Or if you don’t fancy them. Or if it’s not the right time for you. I’m not a cock in a spring. I need to want to do it and if anything isn’t right I’ll happily walk away. | |||
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"You may turn down a couple if you feel the dynamic isn’t quite right. Or if you don’t fancy them. Or if it’s not the right time for you. I’m not a cock in a spring. I need to want to do it and if anything isn’t right I’ll happily walk away. " I turned down a couple in a swinger club one night. She was so d*unk she couldn't walk in her heels. It did nothing for me, and I felt like I was almost 'taking advantage', so I politely declined... | |||
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"I turned down a couple last night as they wasn’t my type. I don’t subscribe to the “most men would fuck a frog if it stopped hopping long enough” train of thought. You have to be turned on mentally as well as physically, it just makes the sex better. " Yep.. there has to be an attraction for me too | |||
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"Just wondering if any single guys have ever turned down an opportunity to meet a couple? I’ve had two experiences, one couple I met socially who were sexy but had dynamics between them that worried me, sent them a message after saying didn’t want to meet. Second one was a couple on here who messaged me keen to meet, and I said no thankyou politely. They were very taken aback as had assumed I would automatically say yes… " Yea I have on a few occasions. Just not for me really. | |||
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"Got messaged by an attractive HW couple today, because I didn’t reply to their message within an hour they removed the media and had my response ignored 😂 Weird ole place Fab… But yeah when members can get quite funny when rejected by a single male I’ve found 🤷♂️" Haha! Never forget Fab Rule No.1; single guys must always be grateful…. | |||
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"Turned a couple down. As they wanted me to shave my chest. It says on my profile hairy guy. Got a bit miffed that I wouldnt. " lol been told am too hairy many a time lol We are who we are | |||
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"Have turned down a good few couples in the past...usually...as I suspect...they arent really couples or the guy is setting his wife up for something she isnt fully into. The usual red flag is when its super late at night and you have good chat and then ask for a live pic to prove both are there...suddenly their wife has fallen asleep etc.... I have however, had a very early morning local invite out of the blue from a couple...had good banter and thought it was too good to be true...asked for a pic of the lady looking at my profile to prove she was aware...then nothing...they logged off! Was about to block them 20 mins later but was sudenly presented with a ladies thumbs-up pic to my profile in the background and their postcode. A quick shower and nervous drive to the postcode...and received an address and description of the driveway and cars. They wanted me to walk in on them fucking to watch and wank. Quick Google streetview check ...no not a crackden lol. It was now 0630 and as was cautious it may still be a setup of a neighbour or ex etc, I asked for the garden gate to be left wide open. And their back door as well....5 mins later I got confirmation it was. Did a driveby as still nervous to see the gargen gate was propped open!! Parked up,text to say I was 2 mins away...and walked to the gate and could honestly hear my own heartbeat! Stepped into the garden and saw the kitchen door was wide open too....walked to the kitchen door and listened in.....deathly silent....was about to call out and then heard a lady's giggle...so thought its gotta be ok. Big breath....stepped into the kitchen and pretty much tip toed to the lounge door in the direction of the giggle,only to be presented with a guy naked on the sofa looking towards the door and the cutest little bum of his wife naked and sucking him off....I seriosuly let out an audible sigh of relief and he laughed out loud and she took his cock out her mouth, looked over her shoulder and said....thank fuck its not the milkman! Huge nervous laughter from us all...Seriosuly the tension was broken and we sat about chatting for a bit and they admitted first time to do something this spontaneous and daring as well. ...one of the nicests couples I have ever met and had a good few revisits...so nearly missed out if I hadnt taken the chance!" A much better story if your family and friends had all jumped out with a "SURPRISE!!!". | |||
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"I have left a meet (several years ago) when I strongly sensed a 'coercion' issue. No way I was going to lay a finger on a lady who wasn't appearing to be a willing participant. Hopefully it was clear to her that I was being respectful. THIS. It’s sad this made me so happy to read - the bar is clearly on the floor for me. Well done you. I’ve done the same and turned down couples where I sensed one was only getting involved to please the other x" ^This! | |||
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"Funny enough, I've turned down a couple because wife was pushing her hubby into something he was not happy with. And this was when we were all naked on the bed already." Crikey!!! Men are allowed to say no!! Please say no especially if you will feel unpleasant after. You need to feel good and happy before, during and after sex. Make that a priority more than coming!! It's more satisfying!! | |||
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"The main reason I turn down couples, is the dynamics between themselves. " Now imagine being autistic and not picking up social dynamics... facepalm. | |||
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"As we both have access and respond the messenger never actually knows quite who hes /she /they are taking to. General rule is trist your gut discuss abd act according 👍" · Hence why I rarely speak to couples on here, unless they have moved over to Telegram with their own discrete accounts. The subterfuge and deceit they employ puts Mi6 to shame. | |||
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"Have turned down a good few couples in the past...usually...as I suspect...they arent really couples or the guy is setting his wife up for something she isnt fully into. The usual red flag is when its super late at night and you have good chat and then ask for a live pic to prove both are there...suddenly their wife has fallen asleep etc.... I have however, had a very early morning local invite out of the blue from a couple...had good banter and thought it was too good to be true...asked for a pic of the lady looking at my profile to prove she was aware...then nothing...they logged off! Was about to block them 20 mins later but was sudenly presented with a ladies thumbs-up pic to my profile in the background and their postcode. A quick shower and nervous drive to the postcode...and received an address and description of the driveway and cars. They wanted me to walk in on them fucking to watch and wank. Quick Google streetview check ...no not a crackden lol. It was now 0630 and as was cautious it may still be a setup of a neighbour or ex etc, I asked for the garden gate to be left wide open. And their back door as well....5 mins later I got confirmation it was. Did a driveby as still nervous to see the gargen gate was propped open!! Parked up,text to say I was 2 mins away...and walked to the gate and could honestly hear my own heartbeat! Stepped into the garden and saw the kitchen door was wide open too....walked to the kitchen door and listened in.....deathly silent....was about to call out and then heard a lady's giggle...so thought its gotta be ok. Big breath....stepped into the kitchen and pretty much tip toed to the lounge door in the direction of the giggle,only to be presented with a guy naked on the sofa looking towards the door and the cutest little bum of his wife naked and sucking him off....I seriosuly let out an audible sigh of relief and he laughed out loud and she took his cock out her mouth, looked over her shoulder and said....thank fuck its not the milkman! Huge nervous laughter from us all...Seriosuly the tension was broken and we sat about chatting for a bit and they admitted first time to do something this spontaneous and daring as well. ...one of the nicests couples I have ever met and had a good few revisits...so nearly missed out if I hadnt taken the chance!" Yes, I had a similar (05:00) experience a few years ago with a lovely couple in Leeds. | |||
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"I haven't as couples don't seem to be all to interested in me, I'll message then but no-one msgs me " you've only been on 5 weeks and you need to go to socials and clubs. If you are an introvert, it will be hard to get couples to come to you and you would have to improve your profile a lot and work 1000 times harder than people who go out and chat. your photos would need to be more "male boudoir" instead of male "trainspotting" trust me it's very early days for being on the site. | |||
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"As we both have access and respond the messenger never actually knows quite who hes /she /they are taking to. General rule is trist your gut discuss abd act according 👍 · Hence why I rarely speak to couples on here, unless they have moved over to Telegram with their own discrete accounts. The subterfuge and deceit they employ puts Mi6 to shame." My Lord Nero, I cannot imagine the improbability of persons seen or unseen utilising the folly of subterfuge and deceit against one-self as so esteemed a gentleman. As a converted libertine maîtresse-en-titre, I have to approach couples with nimble footwork and a variety of gambits lest I fall foul of their unsavoury and dramatic marital, romantic, sneaky link woes, one-upmanship/one-up-womanship, trysts, and liaisons. I must remain above it all, poised, graceful as one of my fragile intellect and disposition can be; very demure, very mindful. | |||
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"Have turned down a good few couples in the past...usually...as I suspect...they arent really couples or the guy is setting his wife up for something she isnt fully into. The usual red flag is when its super late at night and you have good chat and then ask for a live pic to prove both are there...suddenly their wife has fallen asleep etc.... I have however, had a very early morning local invite out of the blue from a couple...had good banter and thought it was too good to be true...asked for a pic of the lady looking at my profile to prove she was aware...then nothing...they logged off! Was about to block them 20 mins later but was sudenly presented with a ladies thumbs-up pic to my profile in the background and their postcode. A quick shower and nervous drive to the postcode...and received an address and description of the driveway and cars. They wanted me to walk in on them fucking to watch and wank. Quick Google streetview check ...no not a crackden lol. It was now 0630 and as was cautious it may still be a setup of a neighbour or ex etc, I asked for the garden gate to be left wide open. And their back door as well....5 mins later I got confirmation it was. Did a driveby as still nervous to see the gargen gate was propped open!! Parked up,text to say I was 2 mins away...and walked to the gate and could honestly hear my own heartbeat! Stepped into the garden and saw the kitchen door was wide open too....walked to the kitchen door and listened in.....deathly silent....was about to call out and then heard a lady's giggle...so thought its gotta be ok. Big breath....stepped into the kitchen and pretty much tip toed to the lounge door in the direction of the giggle,only to be presented with a guy naked on the sofa looking towards the door and the cutest little bum of his wife naked and sucking him off....I seriosuly let out an audible sigh of relief and he laughed out loud and she took his cock out her mouth, looked over her shoulder and said....thank fuck its not the milkman! Huge nervous laughter from us all...Seriosuly the tension was broken and we sat about chatting for a bit and they admitted first time to do something this spontaneous and daring as well. ...one of the nicests couples I have ever met and had a good few revisits...so nearly missed out if I hadnt taken the chance!" You brave brave man. I could never. Lol! Too uptight for that. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Fortune favours the Brave. | |||
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"When I was a single male, yes, I turned down a few. Some couples get very pushy. One wife wouldn’t accept that I said know and actually rang me ( we were texting) and demanded to know WHY I said no! People!!!!" Eww an actual telephone call..the audacity....um the demand of why also... The only people allowed to call me are the authorities...lol! The government, the GP or the hospital/nhs/medical professionals...um the police...... Everyone else....email or text or voice note. | |||
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"I haven't as couples don't seem to be all to interested in me, I'll message then but no-one msgs me you've only been on 5 weeks and you need to go to socials and clubs. If you are an introvert, it will be hard to get couples to come to you and you would have to improve your profile a lot and work 1000 times harder than people who go out and chat. your photos would need to be more "male boudoir" instead of male "trainspotting" trust me it's very early days for being on the site." I will Try on the pics, not really a selfie taker. Interms of the writing I'm just trying to be as truthful and upfront as I can be, trying to be myself I don't know what I could add at this time 😔 | |||
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