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By *uriousbeasts OP   Couple
18 weeks ago

Wokingham

I've read a lot on here about the thrill of "reclaiming" a hotwife after one of her encounters. But how is reclamation sex for women? Do you girls get a kick having your partner back after he's been with another woman?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
18 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I hate the term reclaiming. It feels weirdly possessive and implies some sort of ownership or right to it. Staking a claim or whatever.

I love getting back to my partners after we've been off having our own adventures elsewhere, but it's more reconnecting than reclaiming to my mind. Affirming the bond we have 💜

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By *uriousbeasts OP   Couple
18 weeks ago

Wokingham


"I hate the term reclaiming. It feels weirdly possessive and implies some sort of ownership or right to it. Staking a claim or whatever.

I love getting back to my partners after we've been off having our own adventures elsewhere, but it's more reconnecting than reclaiming to my mind. Affirming the bond we have 💜"

Yes, absolutely this! Thank you, reconnection is a much better word for what I'm thinking about.

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By *uriousbeasts OP   Couple
18 weeks ago

Wokingham

One of the hurdles we found in starting to talk about going non-monogamous was the concern that the other was going to be possessive, because society says that's the norm, right? (Another unhelpful product of the patriarchy?)

But neither of us actually felt possessive of the other. Admitting that was a revelation.

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By *esparate danMan
18 weeks ago

glasgow

Is that easier because youre not meeting single men?

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By *uriousbeasts OP   Couple
18 weeks ago

Wokingham


"Is that easier because youre not meeting single men? "

We're not meeting single men VIA THIS SITE. It's too much hassle. We may meet men at organised socials, and S gets to meet plenty of single men in her off-line life. M is happy (more than happy!) that she does.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
18 weeks ago

Leeds

I'm not a fan of the term either but to be honest I can't say we've ever had it, I'm usually shattered we've both just had a lot of sex & wanna cuddle and sleep 😂

Mrs

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By *eyond PurityCouple
18 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Yeah it’s very much about reconnecting rather than reclaiming.

Although as said above, we aren’t bothered about it - if it’s been a good session we’ve been asleep soon after the person has left. Plenty of cuddles and closeness is standard though.

K

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By *uriousbeasts OP   Couple
18 weeks ago

Wokingham

Hmm. Maybe the thrill that these guys are talking about (or a large part of the thrill) around "sharing" and "reclaiming" is due to residual possessiveness.

I'm no psychologist. Maybe I should stop pondering the science and just enjoy the feels.

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By *inx000Couple
18 weeks ago

Manchester

Do not like the word reclaiming as like most have already said its all about reconnecting with each other and for me personally I would love nothing more than to cuddle and fall asleep in their arms after coming back or them coming back from having some sexy fun.

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